Did anyone knowingly marry a wrong person ?

Just because you loved em alot and were too much loyal and faithful or just because you were a stable person in general and you had already made your mind or because you didn't like change or simply because you thought that they wil change after marriage or that everything will work out on its own ?

Any of these statements seems relatable ? please share your experiences

Further to what @cheesecake said, people do it all the time for the reasons he mentioned already.

I know this because I attract married men in heaps like we all do. The common complaint I find, even if it’s bullshit, is that they settled out of comfort or not finding a better/more compatible partner at the time.

My response is always the same: you should’ve stayed single but that’s the root of the problem. Nobody knows how to be single. They rather be with the wrong person than being alone. If that’s the case, they should also learn to make peace with the decision they’ve made and stick to it.

Posted by Cheesecake
You don't sound like an Aries.

Yes, I am 21st march aries-pisces cusper n I relate more with pisces sun and capricorn (second dominant sign in my chart).

Posted by JadeAlexander
I married the safe guy...

I wasn’t crazy over him, it seemed simple and easy. He loved me and I felt in control over the relationship. I didn’t want a head over heels in love romance. i was worried once the infatuation wore off I’d be stuck with a loser.

To his credit he was hard working, he loved me and tried.

But he was self centered, controlling, critical, abusive and had problems with depression and anxiety. It took a few years for these things to come forward...

I personally think its better to knowingly marry a wrong guy rather unknowingly marry a safe guy and then get shocked. Lol RIP my logic 😛

Posted by aquarius09
Further to what @cheesecake said, people do it all the time for the reasons he mentioned already.

I know this because I attract married men in heaps like we all do. The common complaint I find, even if it’s bullshit, is that they settled out of comfort or not finding a better/more compatible partner at the time.

My response is always the same: you should’ve stayed single but that’s the root of the problem. Nobody knows how to be single. They rather be with the wrong person than being alone. If that’s the case, they should also learn to make peace with the decision they’ve made and stick to it.

Yes sticking to the decision seems more safe.

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Posted by aquarius09
Further to what @cheesecake said, people do it all the time for the reasons he mentioned already.

I know this because I attract married men in heaps like we all do. The common complaint I find, even if it’s bullshit, is that they settled out of comfort or not finding a better/more compatible partner at the time.

My response is always the same: you should’ve stayed single but that’s the root of the problem. Nobody knows how to be single. They rather be with the wrong person than being alone. If that’s the case, they should also learn to make peace with the decision they’ve made and stick to it.

Yes sticking to the decision seems more safe.

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No, sticking to the decision is to quit shopping 🛒 and not straying while in a marriage.

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Posted by anna1

Posted by aquarius09
Further to what @cheesecake said, people do it all the time for the reasons he mentioned already.

I know this because I attract married men in heaps like we all do. The common complaint I find, even if it’s bullshit, is that they settled out of comfort or not finding a better/more compatible partner at the time.

My response is always the same: you should’ve stayed single but that’s the root of the problem. Nobody knows how to be single. They rather be with the wrong person than being alone. If that’s the case, they should also learn to make peace with the decision they’ve made and stick to it.

Yes sticking to the decision seems more safe.

No, sticking to the decision is to quit shopping 🛒 and not straying while in a marriage.

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Don't know about others but once committed (married or not), I am not the one to stray an inch no matter what.

Posted by sierra_
never been married

but i read that 37% of now divorced women knew it was wrong from the start

personally, i'm a little iffy about getting married

Read something similar today. It said 49% of divorcees knew they were marrying a wrong person and were worried on the wedding day

Posted by JadeAlexander
I married the safe guy...

I wasn’t crazy over him, it seemed simple and easy. He loved me and I felt in control over the relationship. I didn’t want a head over heels in love romance. i was worried once the infatuation wore off I’d be stuck with a loser.

To his credit he was hard working, he loved me and tried.

But he was self centered, controlling, critical, abusive and had problems with depression and anxiety. It took a few years for these things to come forward...

What happened after that? Did his love for you win or other things took over? How long you've been married. Sorry I'm asking too many questions , i just got curious 😊

Posted by sierra_
never been married

but i read that 37% of now divorced women knew it was wrong from the start

personally, i'm a little iffy about marriage

That it’s why you should always marry for love. If you know from the beginning, what hope is there?

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Posted by sierra_
you know if i were a dude with this moon

i can totally see that happening with me too

since i am much closer to my mom than my dad

Point is, most women don't want a man who has emotions.

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Untrue. Me and many women I talked to like emotional men. I personally can’t imagine being with a man who doesn’t express their feelings because it just seems so foreign to me. I am immediately put off by it and don’t want anything to do with guys who hide their emotions or try so hard to appear as if they don’t feel anything.

Man with no emotions? Like how?

He sticks a box with a ring into your hand and says ‘wedding is October,25. Be there...’?

What?

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Posted by Biboroon
Untrue. Me and many women I talked to like emotional men. I personally can’t imagine being with a man who doesn’t express their feelings because it just seems so foreign to me. I am immediately put off by it and don’t want anything to do with guys who hide their emotions or try so hard to appear as if they don’t feel anything.

I'm gonna call BS.

I highly doubt you'll react much differently if specifically his emotions make him lose his job, or keep him from getting a new one. Then he'll go from "man in touch with his emotions" to "loser who can't get his shit together".

So miss me with it. Kthnx.

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There is a time and place for everything. You can’t lose your temper at work and start screaming at your boss if he makes you work overtime. If you do that you are a loser who can’t get yout shit together, and it doesn’t matter if you’re male or female. That’s just no way to behave. But there should be a healthy dose of being able to talk about your emotions, especially in a relationship, because people are emotional beings and not being able to deal with your emotions leads to all sorts of personal demons.

I can’t wrap my head around people who think emotions are something you should be afraid of and people trying so hard to appear emotionless.

My parents cause they were both immature and traditional xD.

I think you missed the obvious one? Money? People get married to the wrong person for money. And I know people that married for a visa too, and actually I know people that got married because they have kids together and they did it for the kids. Almost completely logical reasons to get married to the wrong person? Or maybe boring people get married for tax reasons. And I know a women who married a guy, for business, she had a dance club and she wanted him to teach there, he needed a visa so she married him and let him sleep with other women, cos she had no interest in love, terrible I know.

The reasons mentioned so far seem understandable but totally illogical, more emotional reasons.

I don't understand some answers here. Marrying the safe guy is a reason to marry if you want it, that is the right guy. And the question said knowingly, so obviously after it doesn't work out, then you know, but the question implies at the time of marriage, did you "know"

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Posted by sierra_
you know if i were a dude with this moon

i can totally see that happening with me too

since i am much closer to my mom than my dad

Point is, most women don't want a man who has emotions.

Untrue. Me and many women I talked to like emotional men. I personally can’t imagine being with a man who doesn’t express their feelings because it just seems so foreign to me. I am immediately put off by it and don’t want anything to do with guys who hide their emotions or try so hard to appear as if they don’t feel anything.

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.......like living with a robot

Posted by halalbae
Why do people play themselves like that?

Cant relate

Insecure

Needy

Afraid of being alone

Nobody SHOULD be single. We have evolved to live in couples.

Sorry to burst your bubbles.

We are spoilt of choice in out 20ies and early 30ies.

However, when we reach our mid 30ies, most suitable partners are coupled and looking after the products of their loins....for the next 20-25 yrs.

The leftovers and the kicked-outs are all you get to choose from!

Good luck with that!

The leftovers and the kickedouts 🙂!