FWBs

Have you ever had one? What's the appeal? What signs do best in this type of arrangement?

I can't see water signs tolerating non committed sex for very long.

This board seems to be filled with stories of FWBs gone wrong.

It's my Taurus Venus that makes it a no go for me. I crave stability and security.

I feel that air placements are the best at dealing with FWB arrangements, followed by earth, then fire, and then water last.

I hear more and more about these type of casual sex relationships and I was curious. For me personally, I equate feelings with sex. I don't know how to separate the two and doubt that I could handle it.

There is a girl and work that sleeps with multiple people a week without thinking twice. She could care less if the guy (or girl) shows up in love with someone else the next day. If she is jealous, she hides it very well. I know that she is an Aries.

Posted by SweetLily89
It works for a time, but I know that there will come a time where the " mock" intimacy won't be enough anymore and I will want to look for something deeper with someone. Its works, but communication is a must and both people have to be on the same page.

I agree.

Posted by Ram416

Posted by SweetLily89
It works for a time, but I know that there will come a time where the " mock" intimacy won't be enough anymore and I will want to look for something deeper with someone. Its works, but communication is a must and both people have to be on the same page.

I agree.

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I don't even think I could do it for a short time. Maybe I could kid myself for a few minutes but it wouldn't take long for the jealous scorp in me to come out.

I have never even desired to have a threesome for the same reason. The thought of the man I love touching another woman makes me want to die. I would get zero pleasure out of it.

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Posted by SweetLily89
It works for a time, but I know that there will come a time where the " mock" intimacy won't be enough anymore and I will want to look for something deeper with someone. Its works, but communication is a must and both people have to be on the same page.

I agree.

I don't even think I could do it for a short time. Maybe I could kid myself for a few minutes but it wouldn't take long for the jealous scorp in me to come out.

I have never even desired to have a threesome for the same reason. The thought of the man I love touching another woman makes me want to die. I would get zero pleasure out of it.

Oddly enough, he is a Scorpio lol. To me sex is sex, what makes it meaningful is the individuals emotions and intent behind the act. Now, if I felt a strong connection to the person before anything else, it would be a no go for sure. I know readily if there's the potential to catch feelings with someone.

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I wish I could separate the two. It would have saved me a lot of heartache over the years.

I have once. A guy 4 years younger- And the contract was clearly stated from initiation. There were a couple things that made this successful for me to completely detach:

1. He was younger which allowed me to view him as immature.

2. The less I knew about him, the less I was emotionally invested.

3. Limited Foreplay. Because any form of sensuality would lead me to become emotionally attached, but I need enough to get the ball rolling

4. Our sexual encounters were always a Servant/master aggressive sexual experience with a bit of degradation-name calling, telling me what to do and punishment if I didn't listen to him.

I was able to detach because the fact that he was immediately on board with #3 and #4 reinforced that he would always view me in a different light, which left no surprises as I was aware of the final outcome.

I've unfortunately had several lol. I like the intimacy without the commitment I guess. My Venus in Gemini and Aqua dominant makes this ok for me. I would say air signs would deal well with this since they're a little more on the detached side.

I've done it, it's not for me.. It ended up me hurting the other person unintentionally or the other person hurting me unintentionally. Someone usual catches feelings whether it's one or both ppl. I know what it feels like on the receiving end (not good) which makes it easier for me not to put another person in that position (again) knowing that feelings might get involved.

Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
I've unfortunately had several lol. I like the intimacy without the commitment I guess. My Venus in Gemini and Aqua dominant makes this ok for me. I would say air signs would deal well with this since they're a little more on the detached side.

Yea I agree with air signs being able to deal & detach with a FWB. I have Venus in Aqua so I was able to detach but my Pisces moon would feel bad when the person caught feelings lol

Posted by Aurora8Luna
Sex is part of a relationship for me, otherwise it's not worth it. With my gemini mars it leads into role playing fun, very mentally stimulating, and I can't have fun with someone I'm not mentally stimulated by. My virgo venus wont allow me to invest time to get to know a fwb, because it's a waste of time, so they dnt get a chance to mentally stimulate me in the first place.

So, it's either porn or a relationship haha! Fwb just seems empty. ?

Yes empty, vacuous, just how I feel about this

I've actually never met any women that would settle for this arrangement, and I've met a lot of women in my life

When I was younger I could do this and move on, they would call me & I wouldn't reply once I was done with them. They were more like 1 night stands. FWB didn't last long either, I moved quickly.

Now, I can't do this. Time has changed me. I only have sexual relationships if I see something more there... I tend to catch feelings ...

I had a Taurus man suggest FWB, and tried it. Our connection was beautiful and sensual. I can't have sex without falling in love that is part of the enjoyment for me. I know nothing about this arrangement is it exclusive without emotional commitment how do they work?

Inevitably I backed away.,,without an explanation. I just disappeared..he is still liking my posts on Facebook I think he is trying to get my attention but I'm just ignoring it right now. I just can't have sex with someone with out the intent of falling madly in love. Meaningless sex is pointless to me, that's why there are sex toys out there.

He told me in the beginning he wanted me to become addicted to him. That was his plan..then he told me it was sex nothing more. Which I just gracefully backed away after that, it was a huge turn off for me. I'm too busy to waste my time on such confusion. He is a Taurus and from past experiences they are confusing..

No FWB for me..., just sex toys.

It's tough.

Been there once, it turned out well.

Tried to go there again recently....nothing happened (thank god!) 'cos this time I would get hurt badly (liked the guy too much).

Another one is trying to get that from me and I actually think that with him it would work perfectly for me. Why? He's an asshole, no way I would ever fall for him and at the same time he's brutally honest (hence the asshole part) which makes me trust him completely.

At the end will I go there? No. I want to fall in love, that's my priority. No love, no sex from now on till I die.

Scorpio sun&venus&pluto.

I have had this with a Sag man and I ended up having feelings so decided not to see him again that was after we had been sleeping together like once a month for 9 months or so. I think as an aqua moon I'm always attracted to people i know i can't have....