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He broke up w/ his ex. Got with me. Got back w/her. They broke up and now he’s back w/ me? (Page 2)
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Posted by MaxianPosted by Dilemma99Posted by MaxianPosted by Dilemma99Posted by MaxianPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by PhoenixRising
Normalizing the idea of being a side chick is one thing, and isn't isolated to age or new.... However, she is choosing when and where to apply logic to this dynamic.
After she showed the pics I'm damn sure OP lives in Lalaland.
How am I living in Lala land? You can be brutally honest.
Girl, with all respect. Stop chasing a man who wants someone else to be his wife. This Leo wants you because you're there and probably because he can't be alone either.
All people in this thread have already been brutally honest for 5 pages long.
Close your legs cause he ain't yours!
If he wanted her to be his wife then why did he tell her he was unsure if he wanted to be her? That’s the confusing part.
Why do you want someone who is not sure about you? You've been chasing his ass all this time. Is he putting any effort into you? Travelling to come see you?
No, cause he's putting all his energy in her.
You really want to be second choice?
Just because he's unsure about her, doesn't mean he's sure about you.click to expand
He’s been taking me out. Isn’t that effort?
Posted by MaxianPosted by Dilemma99Posted by MaxianPosted by Dilemma99Posted by MaxianPosted by Dilemma99Posted by MaxianPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by PhoenixRising
Normalizing the idea of being a side chick is one thing, and isn't isolated to age or new.... However, she is choosing when and where to apply logic to this dynamic.
After she showed the pics I'm damn sure OP lives in Lalaland.
How am I living in Lala land? You can be brutally honest.
Girl, with all respect. Stop chasing a man who wants someone else to be his wife. This Leo wants you because you're there and probably because he can't be alone either.
All people in this thread have already been brutally honest for 5 pages long.
Close your legs cause he ain't yours!
If he wanted her to be his wife then why did he tell her he was unsure if he wanted to be her? That’s the confusing part.
Why do you want someone who is not sure about you? You've been chasing his ass all this time. Is he putting any effort into you? Travelling to come see you?
No, cause he's putting all his energy in her.
You really want to be second choice?
Just because he's unsure about her, doesn't mean he's sure about you.
He’s been taking me out. Isn’t that effort?
Now I'm confused if you have low standards or if you have low-self esteem...
No. That's not effort.click to expand
I don’t have a lot of dating experience....
So what would you consider to be effort?
Posted by blackphvsePosted by Fly_FivePosted by blackphvse
Why do you want him? He's juggling two women back and forth. Even if he did leave her for good and pick you, you could NEVER trust him since he's the type of guy to do this. That's the honest truth, Open your eyes and save yourself some heartache while ya still can. You'd never be happy with this man, find someone who wants you and only you.
I don’t think it’s accurate to say he’s juggling two women. Both he and the ex saw other women during their breakup. The only reason why he’s talking to OP is because his ex dumped him and he’s hurt about finding out about the other guy so he went back to OP because a) she’s a sure bet because she’s proven to be a doormat (sorry OP) b) to make his ex jealous.
If the ex didn’t dump him or he wasn’t so upset about his ex seeing another man OP wouldn’t be in the picture at all. She’s only here because he’s hurt and things didn’t work out in his favor, not because he’s trying to have his cake and it eat too.
He ran back to OP more than once. Either way, if he gonna string a girl along just to make his ex jealous or because shit went south with her, he still can't be trusted.click to expand
See I don’t think he’s strung OP along at all. He’s been brutally honest with her from his involvement with the ex to telling her his lack of interest. If anything, she’s strung herself along.
Posted by blackphvsePosted by Fly_FivePosted by blackphvsePosted by Fly_FivePosted by blackphvse
Why do you want him? He's juggling two women back and forth. Even if he did leave her for good and pick you, you could NEVER trust him since he's the type of guy to do this. That's the honest truth, Open your eyes and save yourself some heartache while ya still can. You'd never be happy with this man, find someone who wants you and only you.
I don’t think it’s accurate to say he’s juggling two women. Both he and the ex saw other women during their breakup. The only reason why he’s talking to OP is because his ex dumped him and he’s hurt about finding out about the other guy so he went back to OP because a) she’s a sure bet because she’s proven to be a doormat (sorry OP) b) to make his ex jealous.
If the ex didn’t dump him or he wasn’t so upset about his ex seeing another man OP wouldn’t be in the picture at all. She’s only here because he’s hurt and things didn’t work out in his favor, not because he’s trying to have his cake and it eat too.
He ran back to OP more than once. Either way, if he gonna string a girl along just to make his ex jealous or because shit went south with her, he still can't be trusted.
See I don’t think he’s strung OP along at all. He’s been brutally honest with her from his involvement with the ex to telling her his lack of interest. If anything, she’s strung herself along.
I must have missed all the dialog throughout the thread. OP needs to get with the program though for sure.click to expand
Yea he told her that he was working things out with his ex, they were friends, and while she was out there he told her that he didn’t want to get in the way of her meeting other men. I don’t see how he could’ve been more clear.
Someone can like you, enjoy spending time with you, and still have zero desire to have a relationship with you.
He sees you as someone who is good enough for now, not forever. He can fuck you behind the scenes, his homies can meet you as the casual fling, but thats as far as it goes.
Just because YOU would never behave like this, doesn't mean others don't operate on a different set of behavior codes for themselves.
You are likeable. After all, what's not to like?
You come when he calls, deliver the pussy to his doorstep, and pay for the transportation to come to him. You are making it easy and convenient for him.
He told you that ya'll are just friends and you should date other people cause he ain't the one. He's been up front about ultimately wanting to be with his ex, and he doesn't want you posting photos of the two of you together, keep it on the down low. He's made his expectations clear. So at this point if you get your feelers hurt that's on you because he has been clear with you about where he stands.
You are a bench warmer until he can either get back with his ex or he meets another woman who he sees long term potential in. So don't post photos of you two together on social media as it will hurt his image (aka his game in going after the girls he wants). Ouch what an insult to the ego. But hey, your life, if you want to keep flying yourself out to him for more abuse that's on you and your dime. I hope the dick is good and you are at least getting that itch scratched.
He sees you as someone who is good enough for now, not forever. He can fuck you behind the scenes, his homies can meet you as the casual fling, but thats as far as it goes.
Just because YOU would never behave like this, doesn't mean others don't operate on a different set of behavior codes for themselves.
You are likeable. After all, what's not to like?
You come when he calls, deliver the pussy to his doorstep, and pay for the transportation to come to him. You are making it easy and convenient for him.
He told you that ya'll are just friends and you should date other people cause he ain't the one. He's been up front about ultimately wanting to be with his ex, and he doesn't want you posting photos of the two of you together, keep it on the down low. He's made his expectations clear. So at this point if you get your feelers hurt that's on you because he has been clear with you about where he stands.
You are a bench warmer until he can either get back with his ex or he meets another woman who he sees long term potential in. So don't post photos of you two together on social media as it will hurt his image (aka his game in going after the girls he wants). Ouch what an insult to the ego. But hey, your life, if you want to keep flying yourself out to him for more abuse that's on you and your dime. I hope the dick is good and you are at least getting that itch scratched.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Someone can like you, enjoy spending time with you, and still have zero desire to have a relationship with you.
He sees you as someone who is good enough for now, not forever. He can fuck you behind the scenes, his homies can meet you as the casual fling, but thats as far as it goes.
Just because YOU would never behave like this, doesn't mean others don't operate on a different set of behavior codes for themselves.
You are likeable. After all, what's not to like?
You come when he calls, deliver the pussy to his doorstep, and pay for the transportation to come to him. You are making it easy and convenient for him.
He told you that ya'll are just friends and you should date other people cause he ain't the one. He's been up front about ultimately wanting to be with his ex, and he doesn't want you posting photos of the two of you together, keep it on the down low. He's made his expectations clear. So at this point if you get your feelers hurt that's on you because he has been clear with you about where he stands.
You are a bench warmer until he can either get back with his ex or he meets another woman who he sees long term potential in. So don't post images of you two together on social media as it will hurt his image. Ouch what an insult to the ego. But hey, your life, if you want to keep flying yourself out to him for more abuse that's on you and your dime. I hope the dick is good and you are at least getting that itch scratched.
What I mean by like is...does is he like me in a romantic way?
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by LadyNeptune
Someone can like you, enjoy spending time with you, and still have zero desire to have a relationship with you.
He sees you as someone who is good enough for now, not forever. He can fuck you behind the scenes, his homies can meet you as the casual fling, but thats as far as it goes.
Just because YOU would never behave like this, doesn't mean others don't operate on a different set of behavior codes for themselves.
You are likeable. After all, what's not to like?
You come when he calls, deliver the pussy to his doorstep, and pay for the transportation to come to him. You are making it easy and convenient for him.
He told you that ya'll are just friends and you should date other people cause he ain't the one. He's been up front about ultimately wanting to be with his ex, and he doesn't want you posting photos of the two of you together, keep it on the down low. He's made his expectations clear. So at this point if you get your feelers hurt that's on you because he has been clear with you about where he stands.
You are a bench warmer until he can either get back with his ex or he meets another woman who he sees long term potential in. So don't post images of you two together on social media as it will hurt his image. Ouch what an insult to the ego. But hey, your life, if you want to keep flying yourself out to him for more abuse that's on you and your dime. I hope the dick is good and you are at least getting that itch scratched.
What I mean by like is...does is he like me in a romantic way?click to expand
Imma change tactics.
If you told someone you saw them only as friends. You also go on to tell them that you don't want them posting pics of you together on sm. You also tell him that he should date other women and you have feelings for your ex and want to get back together with him.
Do you have romantic feelings for this dude? Or is he a place holder and distraction.
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Dilemma99Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwi
Lol this 22 year old chick be constantly flying out to a shitty guy to be his booty call? What is your sign? Girl you can get laid without investing a single dime to better guys but clearly that is beyond you 🤣
I’m a Virgo. He’s a Leo and his ex is a Leo too...
So you are ok with constantly flying to him as long as he is willing to have you around? Like what is your endgame here?
I just figured since he couldn’t wait to see me since I came out here only a few weeks after their breakup and we’re spending so many days together so he likes me and wants more than casual.
Why do you talk in circles? You also joined today. *Pets troll*
I’m not a troll.
Here’s a screenshot of my cousin’s text to me. My cousin and the ex are all in a group chat together and she sent me a screenshot of their group text where the ex mentions him texting her.
https://imgur.com/a/UDTLSvT
Why are you so obsessed over a guy who clearly hasn't let the other chick go. What is mentally wrong with you? Is it that hard for you to go find a less shitty guy out there?
Why are you saying he clearly hasn’t let her go? Genuinely asking, why would he be spending a whole week with me so soon if he hasn’t let her go?
Why would he not? He’s already told you that you guys are just friends. He gets to have FWB while he still has feelings for his ex.
I just didn’t think a man would spend so many days with a woman he didn’t like. I have a hard time even spending one evening with a guy that I’m not interested in.
A man doesn’t have to like you romantically to be able to spend time with you.
It just means he doesn’t dislike you, or he’s only in it for the sex.
So he doesn’t dislike me...wouldn’t that mean he likes me then?click to expand
Of course he "likes" you or he wouldn't spend an ounce of time on you or have sex with you. Guys don't usually have sex with girls they dislike. I think you mean is he developing stronger feelings for you that are leading to love. I don't see it here.
Ma'm with all due respect. LEAVE. Some men aint shit.
You need to know your worth. Also I am convinced a proper relationship only works if the man likes the woman more. If its the other way around then the woman gets used for companionship or pussy or BOTH.
You need to know your worth. Also I am convinced a proper relationship only works if the man likes the woman more. If its the other way around then the woman gets used for companionship or pussy or BOTH.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Dilemma99Posted by xiongmaoPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by Dilemma99Posted by SassyKiwi
Lol this 22 year old chick be constantly flying out to a shitty guy to be his booty call? What is your sign? Girl you can get laid without investing a single dime to better guys but clearly that is beyond you 🤣
I’m a Virgo. He’s a Leo and his ex is a Leo too...
So you are ok with constantly flying to him as long as he is willing to have you around? Like what is your endgame here?
I just figured since he couldn’t wait to see me since I came out here only a few weeks after their breakup and we’re spending so many days together so he likes me and wants more than casual.
Why do you talk in circles? You also joined today. *Pets troll*
I’m not a troll.
Here’s a screenshot of my cousin’s text to me. My cousin and the ex are all in a group chat together and she sent me a screenshot of their group text where the ex mentions him texting her.
https://imgur.com/a/UDTLSvT
Why are you so obsessed over a guy who clearly hasn't let the other chick go. What is mentally wrong with you? Is it that hard for you to go find a less shitty guy out there?
Why are you saying he clearly hasn’t let her go? Genuinely asking, why would he be spending a whole week with me so soon if he hasn’t let her go?
Why would he not? He’s already told you that you guys are just friends. He gets to have FWB while he still has feelings for his ex.
I just didn’t think a man would spend so many days with a woman he didn’t like. I have a hard time even spending one evening with a guy that I’m not interested in.
A man doesn’t have to like you romantically to be able to spend time with you.
It just means he doesn’t dislike you, or he’s only in it for the sex.
So he doesn’t dislike me...wouldn’t that mean he likes me then?
Of course he "likes" you or he wouldn't spend an ounce of time on you or have sex with you. Guys don't usually have sex with girls they dislike. I think you mean is he developing stronger feelings for you that are leading to love. I don't see it here.click to expand
I think she’s wondering if he likes her in a romantic way.
Your naivety shows your lack of maturity which is why he chases a woman not a girl.
Pick up a dictionary to find out the meaning of that sentence.
Pick up a dictionary to find out the meaning of that sentence.
Has your dilemma been solved at last?
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
So basically he likes me for being easy? I don’t require any effort in his mind?
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
So basically he likes me for being easy? I don’t require any effort in his mind?click to expand
If you want his mind to make an effort for you, ask him all the questions you asked on this thread!
Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
he is literally using you as a hole....I hate being mean but stop being so naive. Move on from this man
Ok, keep flying out to him. Be submissive and do what he says. He will marry you eventually, but you can’t get in the way of letting him be with his ex. As soon as you start dictating rules, he’ll bounce.
Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Ok, keep flying out to him. Be submissive and do what he says. He will marry you eventually, but you can’t get in the way of letting him be with his ex. As soon as you start dictating rules, he’ll bounce.
I didn’t occur to me about the making demands part....
He has his own home and I live with my family...so wouldn’t it make sense for me to go to him...not the other way around?
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Ok, keep flying out to him. Be submissive and do what he says. He will marry you eventually, but you can’t get in the way of letting him be with his ex. As soon as you start dictating rules, he’ll bounce.
I didn’t occur to me about the making demands part....
He has his own home and I live with my family...so wouldn’t it make sense for me to go to him...not the other way around?click to expand
Yep keep going to him
Posted by Moloko_vellocetPosted by Dilemma99Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Ok, keep flying out to him. Be submissive and do what he says. He will marry you eventually, but you can’t get in the way of letting him be with his ex. As soon as you start dictating rules, he’ll bounce.
I didn’t occur to me about the making demands part....
He has his own home and I live with my family...so wouldn’t it make sense for me to go to him...not the other way around?
Yep keep going to himclick to expand
I’m seriously asking....
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by Moloko_vellocetPosted by Dilemma99Posted by Moloko_vellocet
Ok, keep flying out to him. Be submissive and do what he says. He will marry you eventually, but you can’t get in the way of letting him be with his ex. As soon as you start dictating rules, he’ll bounce.
I didn’t occur to me about the making demands part....
He has his own home and I live with my family...so wouldn’t it make sense for me to go to him...not the other way around?
Yep keep going to him
I’m seriously asking....click to expand
It's fine if you go to visit him if he's paying for you to come there. That is what a guy who really cares about you would do - fly you out, not make you spend your own dime and make the trip.
This whole thread is annoying af. You want brutal honesty, so I am going to give it to you.
You are straight up acting like a pathetic ass idiot with this dude. You only want to hear the rhetoric of whatever fucked up dialogue in your head that gets you the end goal you want, to be with this dude. He's shown you repeatedly that if his ex comes calling, he will run straight back to her, and leave you in the wind. He also doesn't even have to give you any flowery bullshit to get in your pants either. He straight up is telling you this, and you spin some fantasy Notebook movie style scenario in your head.
Does he like you? He likes you JUST enough to fuck you. You think him taking you out while you are there means something. That he must like you? Do you think he is suppose to treat you like utter trash to prove he doesn't give a fuck about you? News flash, he's being cordial to you. Dudes don't have to treat you like dicks, even if they only want to use you as a place holder. Actually most won't straight up be a fucking douche lord to you, even if they really don't give a shit about your feelings long term.
Why did he threaten to break up with his ex for seeing another dude? It's an empty threat, that's why. He only did it as a power move with his ex, thinking it would make her feel scared he would leave. But his ex won't put up with his games and bullshit, and called him on his bluff. She has all the power, and everyone in this thread can see it, but you. You go spending your hard earned money at the drop of a dime, to come flying out to him when he beckons you. The dude, straight up, has zero respect for you at this point, and never will because you allow him to treat you with the bare minimum of cordiality, and think it means something. Men, won't be with women, they cannot and will never respect.
If a man wants to be with you, he wouldn't make you a rebound chick in the first place. And any person still talking about, and to an ex, is not emotionally available to pursue anything healthy with anyone else. Get some god damn self confidence, already. You are annoying me because you are acting so damn pathetic with this dude. You should never accept the bare minimum from a partner, or want to be with someone that only gives the bare minimum.
You are straight up acting like a pathetic ass idiot with this dude. You only want to hear the rhetoric of whatever fucked up dialogue in your head that gets you the end goal you want, to be with this dude. He's shown you repeatedly that if his ex comes calling, he will run straight back to her, and leave you in the wind. He also doesn't even have to give you any flowery bullshit to get in your pants either. He straight up is telling you this, and you spin some fantasy Notebook movie style scenario in your head.
Does he like you? He likes you JUST enough to fuck you. You think him taking you out while you are there means something. That he must like you? Do you think he is suppose to treat you like utter trash to prove he doesn't give a fuck about you? News flash, he's being cordial to you. Dudes don't have to treat you like dicks, even if they only want to use you as a place holder. Actually most won't straight up be a fucking douche lord to you, even if they really don't give a shit about your feelings long term.
Why did he threaten to break up with his ex for seeing another dude? It's an empty threat, that's why. He only did it as a power move with his ex, thinking it would make her feel scared he would leave. But his ex won't put up with his games and bullshit, and called him on his bluff. She has all the power, and everyone in this thread can see it, but you. You go spending your hard earned money at the drop of a dime, to come flying out to him when he beckons you. The dude, straight up, has zero respect for you at this point, and never will because you allow him to treat you with the bare minimum of cordiality, and think it means something. Men, won't be with women, they cannot and will never respect.
If a man wants to be with you, he wouldn't make you a rebound chick in the first place. And any person still talking about, and to an ex, is not emotionally available to pursue anything healthy with anyone else. Get some god damn self confidence, already. You are annoying me because you are acting so damn pathetic with this dude. You should never accept the bare minimum from a partner, or want to be with someone that only gives the bare minimum.
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?click to expand
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.click to expand
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.click to expand
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.click to expand
OMG! Can't you see that this is even worse for you? He wants to engage, marry, have a wedding, have a honeymoon, and have children with HER! Has he asked you to be the mother of his children? No. He isn't going to give up on her because Leo men are very persistent when they want you. In the meantime he will still need sex and that is where you come in. I'll say this for Virgo women they never give up on a guy they want. Plus, you are competing against a Leo woman for a Leo. You are probably out of your league.
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
OMG! Can't you see that this is even worse for you? He wants to engage, marry, have a wedding, have a honeymoon, and have children with HER! Has he asked you to be the mother of his children? No. He isn't going to give up on her because Leo men are very persistent when they want you. In the meantime he will still need sex and that is where you come in. I'll say this for Virgo women they never give up on a guy they want. Plus, you are competing against a Leo woman for a Leo. You are probably out of your league.click to expand
What does this mean? Are they special or something? I don’t know much about Leo women...
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.click to expand
Ok so your logic clearly tells you to keep flying to see him?
Gotcha.
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
OMG! Can't you see that this is even worse for you? He wants to engage, marry, have a wedding, have a honeymoon, and have children with HER! Has he asked you to be the mother of his children? No. He isn't going to give up on her because Leo men are very persistent when they want you. In the meantime he will still need sex and that is where you come in. I'll say this for Virgo women they never give up on a guy they want. Plus, you are competing against a Leo woman for a Leo. You are probably out of your league.
What does this mean? Are they special or something? I don’t know much about Leo women...click to expand
Do you never consider that you’re actually a pathetic and selfish piece of shit?
You cut down the woman’s looks and act in competition with her. You know this guy has something going on and continue to act a fool for him thinking you’re better than her.
You’re arrogant and stupid. Typical drama whore.
I’m glad I can spot you dumb skanks quick now. You’ll try to bleed a man dry with all your cringe needs.
The guy don’t want you
Posted by Moloko_vellocetPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
OMG! Can't you see that this is even worse for you? He wants to engage, marry, have a wedding, have a honeymoon, and have children with HER! Has he asked you to be the mother of his children? No. He isn't going to give up on her because Leo men are very persistent when they want you. In the meantime he will still need sex and that is where you come in. I'll say this for Virgo women they never give up on a guy they want. Plus, you are competing against a Leo woman for a Leo. You are probably out of your league.
What does this mean? Are they special or something? I don’t know much about Leo women...
Do you never consider that you’re actually a pathetic and selfish piece of shit?
You cut down the woman’s looks and act in competition with her. You know this guy has something going on and continue to act a fool for him thinking you’re better than her.
You’re arrogant and stupid. Typical drama whore.
I’m glad I can spot you dumb skanks quick now. You’ll try to bleed a man dry with all your cringe needs.
The guy don’t want youclick to expand
That escalated quickly, lol! Aries much? 😛
Posted by UndinePosted by Moloko_vellocetPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?
Without rereading this thread, I remember you saying a baby is on the way with his ex. I can assure you Leo men are CRAZY about their kids and once he looks into that little face it will rekindle whatever love he has left for the baby's momma and they will more than likely reconcile.
There’s no baby. He wants to marry her and be the mother of his children.
OMG! Can't you see that this is even worse for you? He wants to engage, marry, have a wedding, have a honeymoon, and have children with HER! Has he asked you to be the mother of his children? No. He isn't going to give up on her because Leo men are very persistent when they want you. In the meantime he will still need sex and that is where you come in. I'll say this for Virgo women they never give up on a guy they want. Plus, you are competing against a Leo woman for a Leo. You are probably out of your league.
What does this mean? Are they special or something? I don’t know much about Leo women...
Do you never consider that you’re actually a pathetic and selfish piece of shit?
You cut down the woman’s looks and act in competition with her. You know this guy has something going on and continue to act a fool for him thinking you’re better than her.
You’re arrogant and stupid. Typical drama whore.
I’m glad I can spot you dumb skanks quick now. You’ll try to bleed a man dry with all your cringe needs.
The guy don’t want you
That escalated quickly, lol! Aries much? 😛click to expand
Virgo.
But I have an aries Mars.
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by DonnaLibra
Leo men are sweet talkers and love to fuck. They will say anything you need to hear to get laid. He's still in love with his ex but likes that you could care less and still travel to see him at your expense and give him sex. No he doesn't like you in a romantic way. He likes you in a sexual way.
Serious question though- I’ve seen rebounds workout and they’ve gone on to date, sometimes even get married. So my question is, why are you so sure this won’t develop into something more like some of the other rebound relationships?click to expand
Because he specifically told you it wouldn't develop into anything more than a down low fuck. FFS he asked you to take down images you posted of the 2 of you on sm because he doesn't want anyone in his life knowing about you because you are temporary.
And he’s back to looking at her stories again 🤣 lol.
I called him on FT and I saw his laptop behind him with her Instagram story on the screen. They don’t even follow each other!
I called him on FT and I saw his laptop behind him with her Instagram story on the screen. They don’t even follow each other!
Posted by Dilemma99Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again
....So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Did you even read what you just wrote before hitting "post message"?
To summarize, because the rest is really just filler to make this scenario sound nicer than it actually is:
This man, who is in love with another woman...
- picks you up, just to put you back on the shelf where he thinks you belong, picks you up again---all on your dime (because you're the one flying out to see him, not the other way around)
- tells you to take down a photo of the two of you spending time together (basically saying "I don't want there to be any evidence I spent time with you")
- suggest you stay friends and promotes the idea that you meet other men...
And you think because he let you tag along with the homies one day, that this means more?
He is sending you a very clear message that you're not quite following. Both through his actions and his words. All that stuff your cousin told you/sent in screenshots, is just noise to cloud the very simple fact that if he wanted to be with you, there wouldn't be much confusion on your part. I am not sure how someone (especially a fixed sign at that) that is hoping, begging and pleading with another woman to stay with him can genuinely have feelings for anyone else within weeks of his relationship ending.
No, I don't think this is just about sex. It's about the fact that he thinks you're disposable and convenient.
So if it’s not just about sex that means it’s more than that? He likes me?click to expand
^^ This question after reading EVERYTHING people wrote...is why he’s playing you.
Like find your dignity sis, cuz it’s embarrassing. What woman flies herself out to see a man that isn’t even her man!? Gets dumped. Told to disappear because he doesn’t want to be known to have been “with you,” just to fly out AGAIN, on your own dime...just to be played THE SAME way all over again!?
Like sis...SISSSSS
Girl I just wanna know where you make this kinda money to just fly out and about for a man who isn't your man.
I know what its like to crave someone. But self-respect and dignity are worth so much more than any man out there. You really have to know when to cut someone off.
I have 1 rule when it comes to romance/dating/men in general: if I have to chase you then you do not want me, if a man is interested in me and wants to be with me he WILL put pressure. I recommend adding that rule to your book. I love being adored as much as the next person but this is plain desperation. The one who has his heart is the Leo woman who clearly knows her value. He is explicitly treating you like an option.
I know what its like to crave someone. But self-respect and dignity are worth so much more than any man out there. You really have to know when to cut someone off.
I have 1 rule when it comes to romance/dating/men in general: if I have to chase you then you do not want me, if a man is interested in me and wants to be with me he WILL put pressure. I recommend adding that rule to your book. I love being adored as much as the next person but this is plain desperation. The one who has his heart is the Leo woman who clearly knows her value. He is explicitly treating you like an option.
Posted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Yeah you can date older (as long as both parties are legal). But the issue here isn't that he is older or the age gap. Its her desperation and her being an absolute doormat. She needs to block him. Where is your self respect at this point.
Posted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣click to expand
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”
Posted by bmoon8Posted by Dilemma99
And he’s back to looking at her stories again 🤣 lol.
I called him on FT and I saw his laptop behind him with her Instagram story on the screen. They don’t even follow each other!
You seriously find that funny?
Can you post your full chart?click to expand
She doesn’t. That’s why she’s disappeared. She’ll be back though when something happens to give her hope. Sigh.
Posted by malloryorPosted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”click to expand
Tbh I'm a mix of both types of women you listed (I'm 22 tho). I can be a bit childish and all my air placements don't help. But my boundaries are set in stone. If I am ever in a position where what I'm giving is greater than what I'm receiving I walk out. Reciprocation is everything. I believe in love and want a forever love but self-respect and dignity matter far more than my emotions. When it comes to men the way they treat you is usually how they feel about you. They are simple creatures.
OP is being treated like a doormat/rag. How can he like her when he doesn't even respect her?
Posted by Gem03Posted by malloryorPosted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”
Tbh I'm a mix of both types of women you listed (I'm 22 tho). I can be a bit childish and all my air placements don't help. But my boundaries are set in stone. If I am ever in a position where what I'm giving is greater than what I'm receiving I walk out. Reciprocation is everything. I believe in love and want a forever love but self-respect and dignity matter far more than my emotions. When it comes to men the way they treat you is usually how they feel about you. They are simple creatures.
OP is being treated like a doormat/rag. How can he like her when he doesn't even respect her?click to expand
The fact that you can admit you’re both, says a lot about your maturity. Give yourself more credit, you’re light years ahead than most women. I wish I knew half this stuff at 22 🙏🏽
Posted by malloryorPosted by Gem03Posted by malloryorPosted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”
Tbh I'm a mix of both types of women you listed (I'm 22 tho). I can be a bit childish and all my air placements don't help. But my boundaries are set in stone. If I am ever in a position where what I'm giving is greater than what I'm receiving I walk out. Reciprocation is everything. I believe in love and want a forever love but self-respect and dignity matter far more than my emotions. When it comes to men the way they treat you is usually how they feel about you. They are simple creatures.
OP is being treated like a doormat/rag. How can he like her when he doesn't even respect her?
The fact that you can admit you’re both, says a lot about your maturity. Give yourself more credit, you’re light years ahead than most women. I wish I knew half this stuff at 22 🙏🏽click to expand
Thank you 🙂
I just refuse to lower my standards.
Men will always let you know how they feel about you. You just gotta pay attention.
What the hell is this lol. This has to be a troll. It's the most annoying thread I have ever read on DXP.
How can you ignore all the logic and reason?
"He likes using you."
So he likes me?
"He likes that you are a free prostitute that delivers."
So he likes me??
I'm about to throw my computer out the window lol.
How can you ignore all the logic and reason?
"He likes using you."
So he likes me?
"He likes that you are a free prostitute that delivers."
So he likes me??
I'm about to throw my computer out the window lol.
No sadly women like this exist. They base their value on how much a man wants em. Letting themselves drown.
Posted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.click to expand
🙌
Posted by Electricboogaloo
What the hell is this lol. This has to be a troll. It's the most annoying thread I have ever read on DXP.
How can you ignore all the logic and reason?
"He likes using you."
So he likes me?
"He likes that you are a free prostitute that delivers."
So he likes me??
I'm about to throw my computer out the window lol.
Awhile back, there was an OP that posted about her ex "stalking" her. The gist of the thread was, her ex blocked her on all social media and phone. I believe he filed police reports, and a restraining order on her too. But she was getting random phone calls from random numbers, and it just had to be him. If he posted anything on social media, it was "about her". Pictures with girls? He was trying to make her jealous.
That thread made me want to throw out my PC as well.
I have found that logic and reason, for some, are an option on this site. lol
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