How long should you know a person before getting married?

Have seen few couples married and with a kid in a year or two of knowing each other. And they seem happy together. I can understand feeling instant connection and jumping right into marriage. But can it be too good to be true, or some people just get lucky in finding their soulmate?

I think some people just get lucky. I don't believe there's a definitive time frame for which is better or worse.

It's something that's completely dependent upon the people involved, their relationship, individual priorities and preferences, and any number of other variables.

I know a couple who has been married for 40+ years, and they dated a grand total of 6 months. I've also known couples who dated for 8-10 years whose marriages lasted no more than a couple of years.

Posted by puhleeze
Have seen few couples married and with a kid in a year or two of knowing each other. And they seem happy together. I can understand feeling instant connection and jumping right into marriage. But can it be too good to be true, or some people just get lucky in finding their soulmate?

Happened to me...

I pray for everything though.

I have seen ppl date 3 months then get married and stay married.

Over thinking tends to complicate the simplest of matters.

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Live with him/her first then you'll know.

living together is the way to go.

then you'll know his/her habits. if he snores, if he steals your blankets,

and what foods he /she likes in the morning..

what will annoy the hell out of you...or what you find adorable, that you can't live without.

although i find if you love them a lot to begin with, to passionately want to be with them you'll ENDURE a lot....smelly armpits, socks, whatever...bring it!!! it's all love.

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Posted by puhleeze
Have seen few couples married and with a kid in a year or two of knowing each other. And they seem happy together. I can understand feeling instant connection and jumping right into marriage. But can it be too good to be true, or some people just get lucky in finding their soulmate?

Happened to me...

I pray for everything though.

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Sounds like it is still going good for you. That is great.

Posted by Ellygant
The better you know yourself the easier it is to make the decision to get married. That's why older couples jump into it more I think. I'm sure fertility has something to do that, but as a whole most older couples I meet that get together in their 40's, 50's or 60's either get married quickly or not at all, and fertility isn't really a factor in those relationships.

When you are still trying to understand yourself, trying to understand someone else feels like a monumental task. Commuting to understanding them forever feels near impossible lol.

I guess 40 could mean quick marriage lol.

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Live with him/her first then you'll know.

living together is the way to go.

then you'll know his/her habits. if he snores, if he steals your blankets,

and what foods he /she likes in the morning..

what will annoy the hell out of you...or what you find adorable, that you can't live without.

although i find if you love them a lot to begin with, to passionately want to be with them you'll ENDURE a lot....smelly armpits, socks, whatever...bring it!!! it's all love.

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But is it possible people are trying to be at their best behavior even during live-in and then let go after getting married?

Posted by MrEmptyBackpack
Depends on you and them

I show real self after 6 months so it is all downhill from that point off

So then you need to marry within the first 6 months if you want to trap her haha

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Posted by puhleeze
Have seen few couples married and with a kid in a year or two of knowing each other. And they seem happy together. I can understand feeling instant connection and jumping right into marriage. But can it be too good to be true, or some people just get lucky in finding their soulmate?

Happened to me...

I pray for everything though.

Sounds like it is still going good for you. That is great.

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He's been obsessed with politics lately. So much so, he got a Twitter account. The children, blocked him...LOL! But, my son shared a picture of he and his dad on Snapchat. He said all the girls were saying. Dayum, your dad fine as hell!

Posted by MissDiamond
I met my husband in September 2013 and we got married in January 2015. Some say it was too fast but our marriage couldn't be happier. We are truly soulmates, so why would we have waited? 🙂

Personally I don't think that there is a 'right' amount of time to wait before getting married. Some couples get married after a few months and have a fulfilling life long marriage, some wait for years and file for divorce months after getting married.

I heard sags take their time. What is your husband's sign? Yes, if both feel the same way no point in waiting.

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Posted by MrEmptyBackpack
Depends on you and them

I show real self after 6 months so it is all downhill from that point off

So then you need to marry within the first 6 months if you want to trap her haha

Lol awww poor girl

Wow I've known you for years. What does that make us now huh lol?

I know ALL of you Ands. So maybe stop running away. —

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Is that Chris Kodak in your avi? For a sec I thought he was posting lol.

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I love the tv show 'Married at First Sight'

I think most couples in that show have not stayed married right?

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I love the tv show 'Married at First Sight'

Remember the girl that ran off crying when she saw her "husband? Steve and... Still married today. The most tragic response and most successful marriage. I stopped after the third season.

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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I love the tv show 'Married at First Sight'

Remember the girl that ran off crying when she saw her "husband? Steve and... Still married today. The most tragic response and most successful marriage. I stopped after the third season.

Are you talking about the American one?

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Yes. I didn't know of the others. Wow.

My advice is don't get married. Marriage is for people with insecurities and trust issues who want to involve authorities in their bedroom. NO

I know many couples that lived together a year and are very happy after being married!

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Posted by pisceanloves
My advice is don't get married. Marriage is for people with insecurities and trust issues who want to involve authorities in their bedroom. NO

It's for people who want to build a life with a partner and have someone to share the sweet little things of life with and grow old with. A lot of people don't make it there, but that's why people do it, not because they're insecure and want the authorities in their bedrooms.

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You are too sentimental

Posted by puhleeze
Have seen few couples married and with a kid in a year or two of knowing each other. And they seem happy together. I can understand feeling instant connection and jumping right into marriage. But can it be too good to be true, or some people just get lucky in finding their soulmate?

2 years minimum.

I see alot of "live together" comments. Interesting that I read in article not too long ago that couples who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate (50% )

do not spend 10 yrs getting to know each other and wasting time breaking up after that.

1-2 yrs is enough 🙂

Length of time required getting to know someone before marrying them?

I feel that quality is over quantity.

Some couples can do things in a short time that other couples may never achieve in a lifetime

1 week. @lostundersea pick up the pace

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Live with him/her first then you'll know.

living together is the way to go.

then you'll know his/her habits. if he snores, if he steals your blankets,

and what foods he /she likes in the morning..

what will annoy the hell out of you...or what you find adorable, that you can't live without.

although i find if you love them a lot to begin with, to passionately want to be with them you'll ENDURE a lot....smelly armpits, socks, whatever...bring it!!! it's all love.

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Yup.