@Chuckcem
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Biggest Turn Offs?
Major Turn Offs in Dating and Relationships
A common turn off in dating is poor communication or dishonesty. Other significant turn offs include lack of respect, arrogance, and poor hygiene. Recognizing these traits can help you understand relationship dynamics and improve compatibility. Being aware of these turn offs can guide healthier relationship choices and better communication.
Baby talk! Urghhhhh
Him being unmindful and oblivious
Physically:
Him being weaker than me (Srs)
I love being playful and wrestling with my guy but if I can beat him...
There's a problem lol
Not in any way saying I need a Mr.Macho man but has to have some masculinity to a degree.
Mentally:
Too selfish
Someone selfish - get your ass outta your head and realize there's other people around you...lol
Wait idk if I said that right lol, I just woke up - whatevs, u know what I mean I hope 🙂
A wide friend circle. I only consider a few people my friend, and rather a woman who is the same.
Needs too much attention. Won't go into detail just the type of female who needs lots of attention from lots of different people to feel important/wanted.
For the most part I'm pretty old school. My image of a great relationship is two people who are not only lovers but best friends. They work as a team to tend the house and pay bills, and don't need much outside themselves. Keep it simple.
I can take most of anything...but men losing their cool over little things.. no please! Also irresponsibility n bad hygiene!
Posted by Gemitati
Baby talk! UrghhhhhGemitati goo goo gaga
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You are too dumb even for baby talk'
Posted by Rabiosa
i dont focus on peoples personality nowadaysif they are ugly and or broke means theyr out
So you are gorgeous and rich?
Posted by CuddleBug88
Someone selfish - get your ass outta your head and realize there's other people around you...lolYou mean like Leo's
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I'm not naming signs lol...if YOU wanna say Leo's then cool beans. I don't like selfish people and I've met selfish people of a few different signs.
Posted by Teena
I can take most of anything...but men losing their cool over little things.. no please! Also irresponsibility n bad hygiene!
This too ?
Cheap
Timid
Lazy and or debbie downer mentality. I need my man to build me up not tear me down with that 'woe is me' bitch attitude.
Bad hygiene especially bad breath ugh!i dont want to talk to you ever again if i cant even inhale the same air your breathing and you smell like someone just died in your armpit ?,irresponsible get your shit together!,men or women who cant even do chores its like your marrying me just to have a free maid i want it to be 50-50 coz your not the only one with a job and who gets tired all day
Cheap-when i like someone im willing to spend money to them but i want that person to meet me halfway
Posted by Chuckcem
What's a major turn off for you when you are dating someone or in a relationship?
Poor hygiene, gossipy, laziness, bad manners (which pretty much are the last 3), bad judgment (makes bad choices), dumb.
Small girl hands.
Manipulative, controlling, easy to anger.
Bad hygiene in all areas.
Player, womanizer.
Takes more than he's willing to give, whether it's emotional, financial, or their time.
Arguing over stupid shit , asking me 100 questions everyday
Posted by CuddleBug88
Someone selfish - get your ass outta your head and realize there's other people around you...lolYou mean like Leo's
I'm not naming signs lol...if YOU wanna say Leo's then cool beans. I don't like selfish people and I've met selfish people of a few different signs.
Virgos too
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Personally I've known Libras, Leos, Taurus, Geminis, Sags, Aries to be on the selfish end. BUT to me it's not an astrology thing. That's a human thing...some people are just more selfish and self centered than others - it's a balance.
Do you mean like initially or once dating/in a relationship?
Poor hygiene, bad manners, arrogance, self obsessed, drug users, liars, attention seekers, need I go on ?
*Serious Secret On*
- Smoker
- Drugs
- Compulsive drinker
- Bad higiene
- Bad manners
- Not responsible
- Not punctual
- Stupidity
- Loud
- Poor financial management
- Losing temper very easily
- No humor detector
- Smothering
- Helplessness
- Elementary mentality
*Serious Secret Off*
- Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Lazy and or debbie downer mentality. I need my man to build me up not tear me down with that 'woe is me' bitch attitude.So no water sign men lol
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Water moons need not apply either
Lying for any reason. Cheapness.
Posted by Chuckcem
What's a major turn off for you when you are dating someone or in a relationship?What's yours? I need to ask this on leo forum
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I completely abhor the "princess" mentality. If a woman says "I'm a princess," I'm usually already halfway out of the door. It usually just means the woman is emotionally immature, selfish, inconsiderate, etc. It's the type of personality that encourages that the person be irresponsible. Literally the opposite of the type of women I like. I'm looking for a queen, not a snot-nosed brat.
As a Leo I like women with a lioness mentality, which usually means passionate and confident. I think most Leos also like women who can be a little sassy too, it keeps us on our toes.
Passive-aggressive
Poor judge of character
Lying
Violent (aside from in self defense, or protecting others from physical harm) -- this includes breaking things when angry, either their own possessions or other people's. I understand the urge, but a person needs to learn how to channel that in a way that isn't destructive -- like get a punching bag, for example.
A lot of great comments, I'll try not to repeat anything:
Not wanting to explore my passions
Animal abuse or apathy towards animals
When a guy sends his dick pics
What turns me off in a man:
Lack of motivation- I'm not always motivated myself but don't be like this all the time
Lack of ambition
More sexual than sensual. I'm a Taurus woman ffs, mix both please.
Complains too much about anything and everything.
Too Needy- I like affection & attention, but I also like my space. I expect you to be the same too.
Liars, even white lies.
BS artist- Impress me by being yourself, not something you're not. Don't be full of sh*t
Lack of initiative.
Infidelity
Damn. Looks to me that you guys covered it all....
I have nothing to add. 🙂
Men who sleep over and dont wanna have sex.
Really men who dont wanna have sex at all.
lies, rude, cheap, non-communicative (I am no mind-reader, mind you)
*Ghosting
Posted by Scruffles
Flirting with other women in front of my face and not being one of his top priorities.Leo Venus doesn't stand for that shit. I'm either #1 or I'm gone.
Yeah
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Double yeah.
That's like being trolled, publicly.
No way, Josie.
Cowards......guys that ghost women....so weak
No sense of humour
Overly feminine....I don't want him to give me makeup tips, what to wear etc and I don't want him to overly groom and hog the mirror, be manly please
Stoner or boozer
Unkind and selfishness
But most of all, don't (as VS suggested) vote conservative...a fate worth than death
Lol
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!
Posted by Whatthehell
lack of reciprocationcheating
lying
not taking responsibility for one's actions
not taking responsibility for one's own happiness
taking me for granted
breaking up with me (do it once...it's done)
Yeah! Totally! Especially the lack of responsibility for ones own actions and happiness!
Taking me for Granted
Lying plus BS!
Posted by pooface222
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!Haha! Really? I fart at my husband if he pisses me off.
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Haha..what sign is your man?
Posted by pooface222
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!
I just choked. Lmaooooo
Posted by pooface222
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!Haha! Really? I fart at my husband if he pisses me off.
Haha..what sign is your man?
Pisces, but he's Cancer rising and moon, so he does get butthurt about it. 😆
Then he dutch-ovens me hours later when I've forgotten.
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Oh God, that is a whole lot of water....
Hands you a medal
🙂
Lying.
When someone doesn't show an interest in what I love.
Can't fuck with my teasing/banter.
Points out in a humiliating way when I mispronounce a word. Hate that shit.
Posted by Soul
A wide friend circle. I only consider a few people my friend, and rather a woman who is the same.Needs too much attention. Won't go into detail just the type of female who needs lots of attention from lots of different people to feel important/wanted.
For the most part I'm pretty old school. My image of a great relationship is two people who are not only lovers but best friends. They work as a team to tend the house and pay bills, and don't need much outside themselves. Keep it simple.
This sums up mine.
Character wise
-disloyalty
Temperament wise
-nervous, restless energy
-talking too much
-soft and sweet mannerism
Posted by pooface222
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!
So you rather he blow up?
Posted by pooface222
Farting - outwardly and loudly! Like it's okay to do so! It's not! It's gross!So you rather he blow up?
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Not at all. I just don't like it when a man farts like it's a sport or favourite past-time.
I'm talking about my husband! I used to ignore it but as time went by I pointed out how gross it is ..SO he did it more!
GROSS! ;-(
-too physically clingy, like wanting to lay against me all the time ugh (i have a 5 year old who is allowed to do that, you on the other hand can grow the hell up)
-I don't like talking all that much, so when I speak its important to me. If you don't respond to that or take note of that I will take note of you and eventually will stop talking.
-bad breath...I'm sorry I can't
Posted by Chuckcem
What's a major turn off for you when you are dating someone or in a relationship?
When they start off on FIRE and then they fizzle off. No sex, mind you, and since I don't hear from them, then I KNOW it was due to the fact that I didn't give them any "booty". He can find it else where; not from me! 😡
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
A dick.
I hate flakiness, when someone can't stand up to whatever value we hold as a couple (ex: the majority thinks it's shameful for people to live together before marriage, we live together, person jokes willingly to fit in and appease others) (I know, very specific), a wandering eye, a big mouth.
Men who use illness to get attention..... oh I've caught a cold..... I've hurt my back...... wimps!!
Abuse of my kindness...... mistaking me for a weak woman, then there will be trouble ahead for you
Insincerity...... because you think I won't suss that one out?!
Posted by Chuckcem
What's a major turn off for you when you are dating someone or in a relationship?
Liars and Bull_S_itters!
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