Being asked "Why are you single?"

Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Why am I single? Help me to understand that...

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Such a stupid question.

Edit: Not your question. The "why are you single" question.

I know right, hate hearing it from family. I wouldn't want friends or work to ask.

^^^ LMAO

"Because the girl I like told me to stop stalking her."

That keeps them quiet

Because freedom is precious

Posted by Weeds
Because freedom is precious

lol

you can still have your freedom and be in a loyal committed relationship people. 😛 😆

-- signed a happy aquarius sun.

heehee.

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Posted by atearth

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Such a stupid question.

Edit: Not your question. The "why are you single" question.

I know right, hate hearing it from family. I wouldn't want friends or work to ask.

I hate it the most when men ask me this.

"Why are you single? You're too beautiful to be single." As though men choose whether a woman is single or not.

Does it ever dawn on anyone that some people are single because they just don't want a relationship? 😕

UGH yes!

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but you don't fool the rest of us! 😄

if there's a certain type of man coming your way.... ba- da bing!!! you want him! 😛 😆

Posted by Cricket808
Some people don't realize being single is a "choice".

When Are you getting married.
What about kids.
Why are you single.

I just stare back at them completely straight face no expression until it gets awkward for not just them but EVERYONE around the table and somebody changes the subject.

If it's a complete stranger my answer is usually 'cos it's none of your business that's why' BIG SMILE
They can draw their own conclusions that way, the conclusion is usually that I'm a bitsh...

Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Always ALWAYS would get this question.

I'd ask them if they saw me at a bar drinking by myself if they would come over, introduce themselves and talk to me.

"Oh no! Your way too pretty and confident and out of my league. I'd feel too intimidated to approach you".

Aaand that's why I'm still single...

👆This is the response I have while still dating and encountering this annoying question.

Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Yeah why are you single?

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Some women don't realize that not all women are as desperate for love and relationships as they are.

If you are truly happy being in a relationship, you won't be trying to throw subtle shade at the women who choose to be single.

I'm just sayin'...

lol 😛

tut tut.

*looks around and sees relationships and love everywhere* heehee. ^___^

For now on I want to just look them in the eyes and with a soft voice, a slight grin, and say "Because I know me on the inside."

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Always ALWAYS would get this question.

I'd ask them if they saw me at a bar drinking by myself if they would come over, introduce themselves and talk to me.

"Oh no! Your way too pretty and confident and out of my league. I'd feel too intimidated to approach you".

Aaand that's why I'm still single...

👆This is the response I have while still dating and encountering this annoying question.

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😆

"you're too damned pretty and too intimidating to go up to!!" -- is what men say huh?

"Come on, approach me, ask me out dammit!" -- you.

lol me and my girlfriends always talk about how dumb this question is. It's not a compliment. It's just straight up annoying

Posted by lisabethur8

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Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Always ALWAYS would get this question.

I'd ask them if they saw me at a bar drinking by myself if they would come over, introduce themselves and talk to me.

"Oh no! Your way too pretty and confident and out of my league. I'd feel too intimidated to approach you".

Aaand that's why I'm still single...

👆This is the response I have while still dating and encountering this annoying question.

😆

"you're too damned pretty and too intimidating to go up to!!" -- is what men say huh?

"Come on, approach me, ask me out dammit!" -- you.

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Basically. Dudes want to act shocked that your still single, either as a misguided attempt at a compliment or a ploy to find out your faults.

When really your single cause your surrounded by men who want to be pussies. And you already have one of those, your not looking for another...

You feel me?

There's a skin tag horn growing out of my forehead. On full moons I grow hair and drool on things.

Posted by wagtail
When Are you getting married.
What about kids.
Why are you single.

I just stare back at them completely straight face no expression until it gets awkward for not just them but EVERYONE around the table and somebody changes the subject.

If it's a complete stranger my answer is usually 'cos it's none of your business that's why' BIG SMILE
They can draw their own conclusions that way, the conclusion is usually that I'm a bitsh...

We all know you're saving yourself for Norman! 😄

Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

Yeh there are a lot of upsides to being single for girls...and not just because of 'variety' if you feel me.
Travelling alone, eating alone, having the middle of the bed! Haha
Being in a long term relationship or being married is awesome too, but I get what you mean.

I was binge watching Vikings and this Aqua guy texts me and he's all aww why didn't you invite me over its my favourite show I'm like bitsh this a watch by myself fucking show I don't want your running commentary or point of view on this shiz thanks but no thanks.

@kissmygrits he's ruined me for other men 😛

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Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

At least you're being honest about that and not putting up a front.

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hey ladies, get a man that gives you FREEDOM too.

if you all need freedom in your relationship. you feel single YET you know you have your man with you everyday by your side and you can sleep cuddly and warm next to him.

::: puuurrrrrs::::

cuddling saves LIVES. 😛 😆

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Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

At least you're being honest about that and not putting up a front.

Men can be annoying to live with tbh.

Plus I like alone time A LOT.

I'm the same way about my alone time and I'm a VERY private person.

I did the whole "living with a man" thing many years ago as well so I get that too.

It does get annoying at times. Very annoying....

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ooohhh ladies...

tsk tsk...

but this—

how could you NOT want to live with that??

(look closely at the bulge)

(for the gosling fans) lol

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Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

At least you're being honest about that and not putting up a front.

Men can be annoying to live with tbh.

Plus I like alone time A LOT.

I'm the same way about my alone time and I'm a VERY private person.

I did the whole "living with a man" thing many years ago as well so I get that too.

It does get annoying at times. Very annoying....

ooohhh ladies...

tsk tsk...

but this—

how could you NOT want to live with that??

(look closely at the bulge)

(for the gosling fans) lol

Girl...you aint gotta live with that to get that! Silly goose.... 😆

I get it on a regular basis honey and the best part is there is no obligation whatsoever.

I know it's like..."super duper" hard for you to understand this, but not everyone wants a relationship.

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😆 check you out.

I usually say because I just got dumped. Always true.

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Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

At least you're being honest about that and not putting up a front.

Men can be annoying to live with tbh.

Plus I like alone time A LOT.

I'm the same way about my alone time and I'm a VERY private person.

I did the whole "living with a man" thing many years ago as well so I get that too.

It does get annoying at times. Very annoying....

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Quit lying

You know you never lived with a man other than your brother.

And besides you were probably in your single digit many years ago anyway.

There's time for everything ✌

^^ I say that to everyone who asks me..

And if they prolong...saying well, you're old and blah blah.. I just don't answer and smile :p

Posted by BullShit

Posted by RumiL
And if they prolong...saying well, you're old and blah blah.. I just don't answer and smile :p

If it's aunts and uncles you should ask them when their funeral is. The topic will change sooooo quickly

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Hahaha
Oh my God...aunties and uncles are notorious! They tease a lot 😄

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And if they prolong...saying well, you're old and blah blah.. I just don't answer and smile :p

If it's aunts and uncles you should ask them when their funeral is. The topic will change sooooo quickly

Hahaha
Oh my God...aunties and uncles are notorious! They tease a lot 😄

Seriously first your showered with compliments then BOOM why aren't you married yet.

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Lol..yes.. And then they say "okay then, we're going to look for a handsome boy for you" xD

"Are you single?"
"No, I'm plural"

"Like why the hell are you single? You look cute"
"That's precisely why"
"What"
"Cause I'm cute"

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And if they prolong...saying well, you're old and blah blah.. I just don't answer and smile :p

If it's aunts and uncles you should ask them when their funeral is. The topic will change sooooo quickly

Hahaha
Oh my God...aunties and uncles are notorious! They tease a lot 😄

Seriously first your showered with compliments then BOOM why aren't you married yet.

Lol..yes.. And then they say "okay then, we're going to look for a handsome boy for you" xD

That's why i don't go to family weddings anymore. It's always matchmaking time LOL

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Yes lol! I dont like weddings because it's a pool for aunty/uncles to *look* at you 😐

..its worse for girls! From the time we're born, every scolding includes "your in-laws" and once you hit puberty they keep talking about shaadi 😛

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And if they prolong...saying well, you're old and blah blah.. I just don't answer and smile :p

If it's aunts and uncles you should ask them when their funeral is. The topic will change sooooo quickly

Hahaha
Oh my God...aunties and uncles are notorious! They tease a lot 😄

Seriously first your showered with compliments then BOOM why aren't you married yet.

Lol..yes.. And then they say "okay then, we're going to look for a handsome boy for you" xD

That's why i don't go to family weddings anymore. It's always matchmaking time LOL

Yes lol! I dont like weddings because it's a pool for aunty/uncles to *look* at you 😐

..its worse for girls! From the time we're born, every scolding includes "your in-laws" and once you hit puberty they keep talking about shaadi 😛

Once y'all hit puberty LOL it's so bad! Like the whole premise of happiness if predicated around marriage.

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Exactly *sighs*

I go with i don't need just anyone in my life, i'd rather be alone than with someone i don't feel being with.There was a time when i didn't date for 3 years and that was rly good time for me,the thing is many people date just because they need to fill gap in their lifes,thats wrong,when i was single for 3years i learned to live alone and be happy alone,and after that i feel i'm better in relationships because before i was rly possesive and greedy while now i can just enjoy ,tho need magic spark, now dating aries ,so far so good 😉 i think its harder after long time of lonely living not because you're scared but because you learned to be happy alone and it's harder to convince yourself that you need someone in your life

Posted by Gem20Redux
Take it as a compliment. Some might find it perplexing on the basis that someone with your credentials, taste, pleasant temperament, etc... Are what people your age would find as an eligible suitor. If you really don't feel like giving a specified response, (I wouldn't imagine you actually wanting to haha) just give a cordial smile or head shake that'd be applicable in the scenario. Words aren't always demonstrative as to how one feels. Just my thoughts and opinions for you!

Here is why it's not a compliment. When you ask someone, especially a woman why she is single--based on her credentials, social and economic stature-- you are suggesting that there is a "BUT" in there, a potential underlying issue or problem with her. It's not a compliment and can never be received as such because in essence the man is fishing for a reason to understand why you are without a partner. The man fails to take into account the fact that perhaps the woman was uninterested in a relationship, or simply had not found someone who inspired her enough to leap into a romantic relationship with, INSTEAD the man assumes there is something wrong with her and this is why she is not received.

Men really need to get a revelation. It is the most OVERUSED, unoriginal pick up line and the most unflattering at that.

Posted by exxtasyx
Yeah, relationship jumpers who always need to be in a relationship or dating someone ask me that.

Don't have a clever response but secretly wish to be like, "because I'm not desperate enough to always want to be in a relationship."

THIS. THIS.^^^^

Posted by Cricket808
"Why, do you want to date me"?

Seriously it's the most annoying questions. I feel like people are judging me. There's nothing wrong with being single.

I never respond and instead I ask them why they're still single? They usually take a hint and laugh and we carry on with our conversation. I'm always sweet but there's a little sass hidden beneath.

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Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Always ALWAYS would get this question.

I'd ask them if they saw me at a bar drinking by myself if they would come over, introduce themselves and talk to me.

"Oh no! Your way too pretty and confident and out of my league. I'd feel too intimidated to approach you".

Aaand that's why I'm still single...

👆This is the response I have while still dating and encountering this annoying question.

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I hate that. It's such bullshit to me. So you rather settled for scrapple than a filet mignon? I just dont buy it that men see a pretty lady, a lady who may seem to have a nice and warm disposition and its clear she's single...not taken...and allow her to slip by. To me that tells me thats a weak, immature man that likes things easy. He rather settle with a sure thing, its no wonder so many go out and cheat and that's a damn shame. I feel bad for the women that get stuck with these men, they have no clue that their man does not DESIRE them, he just finds comfort in a sure thing.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo27
What glitters ain't always gold

Ain't that the truth!

Posted by BullShit

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Posted by atearth
Being asked "Why are you single?"

Any of you guys ever replied back with something amusing?

Always ALWAYS would get this question.

I'd ask them if they saw me at a bar drinking by myself if they would come over, introduce themselves and talk to me.

"Oh no! Your way too pretty and confident and out of my league. I'd feel too intimidated to approach you".

Aaand that's why I'm still single...

👆This is the response I have while still dating and encountering this annoying question.

I hate that. It's such bullshit to me. So you rather settled for scrapple than a filet mignon? I just dont buy it that men see a pretty lady, a lady who may seem to have a nice and warm disposition and its clear she's single...not taken...and allow her to slip by. To me that tells me thats a weak, immature man that likes things easy. He rather settle with a sure thing, its no wonder so many go out and cheat and that's a damn shame. I feel bad for the women that get stuck with these men, they have no clue that their man does not DESIRE them, he just finds comfort in a sure thing.

http://beta.vidup.me/ieow8zsekn0e

It's an episode of workaholics that shows how most men automatically assume a beautiful woman is out of their league. Believe it or not for most men a beautiful woman is intimidating.

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Hahaha by bullshit, I just mean it's a shit excuse. I believe men are easily intimidated but damnit where are the MEN!? Too many boys masquerading as men. I'll check out the episode though, I can use a laugh.

It's most likely to be a compliment if said by a man, in the sense of "how can a hot person like you be single?".

The real problem is that it's hard for some women to accept compliments, which is ridiculous.

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Posted by Arielle83
Sometimes I wish I was still single.

At least you're being honest about that and not putting up a front.

Men can be annoying to live with tbh.

Plus I like alone time A LOT.

I'm the same way about my alone time and I'm a VERY private person.

I did the whole "living with a man" thing many years ago as well so I get that too.

It does get annoying at times. Very annoying....

ooohhh ladies...

tsk tsk...

but this—

how could you NOT want to live with that??

(look closely at the bulge)

(for the gosling fans) lol

I've been married twice. I know how it is single and in relationships.

I don't want imitations, I need the real thing.

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well good luck out there in finding the REAL thing.

Posted by Nevermore
My reaction: "Why you care?"

If he's confident enough he will reply "because you're hot".

Straightforward a simple.

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Nevermore
My reaction: "Why you care?"

If he's confident enough he will reply "because you're hot".

Straightforward a simple.

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I never had a man tell me that though.

even if I have my wedding ring on, which has happened a lot, men don't give a shit.

they are dogs sometimes. *smh* (these are just the random men out there if you're walking down the street or going to the store kind of thing, or shopping)

they see the ring and I even show it to them, or tell them to get lost.

they just don't care. some men have no respect.

it's more like a challenge to them or something.

but honestly why would a man want a woman long term if she's a hussy and goes outside her relationship? it's just a challenge for them and they see something they want, and they still go for it?

dressing down and keeping a low profile does help a lot to not get noticed and not be bothered.

Posted by Palerio
It's most likely to be a compliment if said by a man, in the sense of "how can a hot person like you be single?".

The real problem is that it's hard for some women to accept compliments, which is ridiculous.

I mean, no man has said, why you single? lol

they don't give a fuck.

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Posted by Nevermore
My reaction: "Why you care?"

If he's confident enough he will reply "because you're hot".

Straightforward a simple.

I do admire that though for someone telling me straightforward. But still, don't understand why does anyone need to care if I'm single.. I mean is my life so much important than themselves?

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They care when they find you interesting, men don't bother asking if they're not, unless they're good friend of yours and just really care about knowing what's going on in your life to support you. They basically want to know if they're wasting their time with someone unavailable.

Blurred lines are too convenient for women.

I take the question at face value...because it could be both a compliment or ...snarkyness or people being inquisitive for no reason. Depends on the person asking but my reply is usually: "Well..it just happens I am 🙂."

But if they insist...then it gets funny. I can go on a rant in any direction...without being defensive because I can tell they are asking to "uncover truth" so I'm laughing at them from there on out:

"So you know how every living being dies alone in the end? I decided I will cut through the hipocrisy of it all and be pre-emptive on this. Life of loneliness, dude"

"I can't find my chastity belt's key"

"I'm not single actually but my boyfriend has a restraining order against me"

...etc. I reply with the first line a lot.

My mind when I consider astro:

"I'm a mutable, we don't do commitment"
"I have Moon square Venus doe 😭"

...lol

When friends ask...actually friends know me so they don't ask.

When my dad asks:

"We've been over this, I got a cat"
"Ok then..how's kek?"
"Good"

When my mother asks:

"lmao, you out of all people ask that?"

When anyone on either side of my family asks:

*points at my parents*

"They made me lose hope in loveeeeeee"

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Posted by Nevermore
My reaction: "Why you care?"

If he's confident enough he will reply "because you're hot".

Straightforward a simple.

I never had a man tell me that though.

even if I have my wedding ring on, which has happened a lot, men don't give a shit.

they are dogs sometimes. *smh* (these are just the random men out there if you're walking down the street or going to the store kind of thing, or shopping)

they see the ring and I even show it to them, or tell them to get lost.

they just don't care. some men have no respect.

it's more like a challenge to them or something.

but honestly why would a man want a woman long term if she's a hussy and goes outside her relationship? it's just a challenge for them and they see something they want, and they still go for it?

dressing down and keeping a low profile does help a lot to not get noticed and not be bothered.

Same goes with women too. They also don't care if they're married or even they have a relationship.

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YES!! you are right.

homewreckers.

for men, they are just called "dogs" or assholes.

Posted by Arielle83
A guy told me once, "you're too hot to be married."

So I guess I should get a divorce and get a job at the brothel down the road.

Wtf eh?

Oh ya and that was my actual rebuttal.

😆

that's the strangest pick up line ever.