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Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by Lostthoughts
Sounds like this app business was the last straw for you causing the aggravation you feel to explode, through this incident. People on this thread seem to he focused on the surface( the app) rather then the underlining issue you are having with him. Which makes you sound crazy being fixated on that even though that isn't the real issue.
TBH I would feel overwhelmed if you came at me like that over the "app" instead the main issue and nope the hell out.
Expanding on that last statement: Noping the hell out would be a good thing!
First because our communication and understanding isn't there to see thru each others words and actions EVEN THOUGH we have know each other for years, Wtf?
Him not talking to you and ghosting you with you guys relationship history should be all you need to know. Are you one of those people who needs a big blow out to sever your attachment with someone you are involved with?
Disagree. He knew that I was waiting for a conversation we were supposed to have, after me giving him a space. I didn't mind apps, even fb for that matter but what he did, trying to get a reaction out of me got me really mad.. That moment after realizing he was playing with me, I knew I wasn't going to have his nonsense any longer.. I'm not going to sit around wait for someone while lord knows what he's doing and the same time him purposefully keep me in the dark so that way he can come back anytime when he messes up with someone else.. I know that kind of BS quite well and this wasn't the first time he did this. The main difference was that I didn't mind back then because we didn't have any commitment or established connection. Now I'm not going to allow this kind of behavior.
No we are on the same page, I'm giving you my perspective as someone with heavy Virgo characteristics. Also adding to it. Most importantly the fact you have known each other for years yet having this kind of problem. If you just started getting to know each other it would be understandable. This isn't the case though.
Which leads me to question taking this relationship into a romantic one were the stakes are higher then a friendship, Because not even real friends with long histories have these kinds of conflicts. See what I'm getting at?
Yes I get that.. But This time I didn't expect this from him. Keeping in mind that when he was seeing someone else years back he politely let me know that he had something serious going on. Now I fully expected him to just communicate the same way he did, and to discuss issues. Whomever called virgos communication masters must have been seriously drunk.
I don't know what else to add really, this is toxic all around and I'm in no position to keep any drama going.
I'm disappointed more than anything, because I had set boundaries about the importance of communication, teamwork, etc and we were on the same page. You can't play by the rules that are ever changing and I suspect he got way too comfortable with me.click to expand
To be far, Sun sign doesn't mean that's the way someone thinks rather how they view things. Mercury is communication and how someone thinks. I've met a few people were that statement is true.
" I know that kind of BS quite well and this wasn't the first time he did this."
You are implying that he get romantic with you and then he moves on to someone else. Which you don't mind in the past, since he was honest about it. This time he ghosted to leave the door open.
You thought he was serious and committed this time or he would tell you otherwise.
Virgos rarely go 1 to 100 like that, unless they have personality traits and influences of fire signs. They are conscientious bunch. They don't get serious until they are sure when they are sure but not before. Something virgos get a lot of flak about. Takes time.
However, when someone with a strong Virgo qualities commits they will show it though thier actions and TRY everything they can til the wheels fall off and there is no hope.
Look safe to say expecting more from anyone then what someone is willing to invest will cause the disappointment. This applies to everyone and every relationship! Don't assume shit without a history of consistency period.
đ In fact someone with a history of being "inconsistent" with you is by definition "consistent" behavior(actions).
If this dude is not willing to or ready to then ya...go do you woman. Don't put any more time and energy you don't have extra. It's a clichĂŠ yet there are other fish in the sea if he doesn't step up.
In fact look at it this way. This situation with him is a blessing, because now you are free to look for and put your energy into people who is willing to invest into a relationship with you in a way you need and ok with.
Something everyone deserves right?
After pathetically trying to maintain a relationship in the past, I've realized that it won't be hard at all if someone was genuinely interested in being with you.
He will text you back quickly, will invite you out somewhere, will not criticize you over stupid things and will want to be around you a lot.
He sure as hell won't be blocking you on any social media.
He will text you back quickly, will invite you out somewhere, will not criticize you over stupid things and will want to be around you a lot.
He sure as hell won't be blocking you on any social media.
Posted by 7sPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by 7s
Youâre probably very pretty. I have no doubt you are. The fact that you believe and affirm your own attractiveness makes me think that you truly are attractive.
I canât help to sense that thereâs something else going on.
If Iâm right, only you know what that is. Maybe focus on that?
Also, a change in mental attitude always brings about success.
The kind of relationship we had was like no other. The absolute mental connection and loyalty. He always struggled with communication, I doubt it was on purpose. There was chain of phrases that he used in a conversation at some point long time ago which could be understood in different ways. Couple times I let it slid but then I point blank told him that if he wasn't satisfied and wanted us to go on our separate ways just to let me know. He didn't respond and blocked me everywhere, that was then revealed his fear of rejection. Simple misunderstanding. Then we fought because he kept pushing me away and I held him accountable for the things he had said to me, such as, "loyalty", "communication", "dedication", willingness to work things thru etc. He got upset and shut me out again and hasn't spoken to me since then which was a few months back.
I apologized for harsh words and explained myself. Urged him to please call me and let's talk. He didn't call but read messages, but I wanted to hear him too. Which I didn't get a chance to.
Then I figured he needed space and I gave it to him, checking in every 4 weeks or so to see what had he decided. Still nothing, I know him full well, I know all of his insecurities and I made sure to ease them all. I did my best but the feeling I get it now is I may overdid it. I truly wanted to make this work but he absolutely refused a phone call.
Then his games from this morning and that's it.
Now in return I feel betrayed, my dedication and loyalty mistreated and just feeling foolish because I trusted this man 100% and believed in him.
I don't know what to make of this honestly.
Edit: Forgot to mention once when we were together he showed me some photo of him and when I held his phone he was reluctant and told me not to swipe, "You don't want to see it". From then I knew he was hiding something, I don't have all the details as I returned the phone right away and I don't want to speculate..
I hear what youâre saying. And I totally get where youâre coming from. If he doesnât see and appreciate your effortâs, I think itâs time for you to pick up whatever pride and dignity you have left and move on.
Even if he comes back to you I donât think the relationship will be a healthy one because he now knows how to manipulate your feelings.
Just like you said, youâve over did it. Trust me, I know what itâs like to fall in love with someoneâs âpotential.â But his actions speaks so loudly.
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The respect he had for you is gone, for sure.click to expand
In the last text I wanted to get everything off my chest and not to leave anything unsaid. So I called him out on everything..
I said that he owes me an apology, he does and I'll get it.
Better overdo than to not do anything at all. I wanted to make sure I did my best.
Respect will come back when he sees he's not getting any attention and from then I'll make sure to keep him at a distant.
Posted by pisceanloves
I canât help to sense that thereâs something else going on.
-Couple times I let it slid but then I point blank told him that if he wasn't satisfied and wanted us to go on our separate ways just to let me know. He didn't respond and blocked me everywhere, that was then revealed his fear of rejection.
-Then we fought because he kept pushing me away
- He got upset and shut me out again and hasn't spoken to me since then which was a few months back.
-Urged him to please call me and let's talk. He didn't call but read messages,
-Then I figured he needed space and I gave it to him, checking in every 4 weeks or so to see what had he decided. Still nothing,
-but he absolutely refused a phone call.
Then his games from this morning and that's it.
Now in return I feel betrayed, my dedication and loyalty mistreated and just feeling foolish because I trusted this man 100% and believed in him.
I don't know what to make of this honestly.
Edit: Forgot to mention once when we were together he showed me some photo of him and when I held his phone he was reluctant and told me not to swipe, "You don't want to see it". From then I knew he was hiding something, I don't have all the details as I returned the phone right away and I don't want to speculate..
I don't see how you're not getting the message that he is clearly not interested anymore if he ever was. He avoids you at every turn and more than likely involved with someone else. A man who wants and cares about you would never act this way.
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
Pisces really do have a hard time when things don't go their way lol
I'm not sure why you think he owes you an apology, when you've admitted that you were to blame just as much as he was.
Are you angry because you said you were sorry and he didn't?
Maybe he meant what he said and thinks he doesn't owe you anything.
He doesn't have to have you in his life. Friendship and relationships are not owed to anyone.
I would've blocked you again, you're too much.
People who are hurt by someone else, usually get apologies.
You just come off super angry and bitter. I don't think you can expect and apology from him.
You should move on.
I'm not sure why you think he owes you an apology, when you've admitted that you were to blame just as much as he was.
Are you angry because you said you were sorry and he didn't?
Maybe he meant what he said and thinks he doesn't owe you anything.
He doesn't have to have you in his life. Friendship and relationships are not owed to anyone.
I would've blocked you again, you're too much.
People who are hurt by someone else, usually get apologies.
You just come off super angry and bitter. I don't think you can expect and apology from him.
You should move on.
You are the only one who can give yourself closure. No one else can do that for you. I know from experience.
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
Posted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
@DonnaLibra I have closure. The single fact that the man is being disrespectful is enough.
Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Well now you understand what kind of man he is.
Open communication does not mean communicating whenever YOU want to.
If he comes back on his own time, when he thinks you've got a more level head about things, maybe he will be open to talk then. - if you are willing.
Just because he's not on your timeline doesn't mean he broke his word.
He seems to be ignoring the dramatics for now.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Well now you understand what kind of man he is.
Open communication does not mean communicating whenever YOU want to.
If he comes back on his own time, when he thinks you've got a more level head about things, maybe he will be open to talk then. - if you are willing.
Just because he's not on your timeline doesn't mean he broke his word.
He seems to be ignoring the dramatics for now.click to expand
Fine. I shouldn't care it seems. But it's difficult when you actually do care.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.click to expand
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
All Pisces do is cry- You guys are born naturals at crying đ
You should've come to him with from the hurt, victim mentality that Pisces are so good at. Probably would've gotten you farther with a Virgo
Instead you are coming from the revengeful, insulting tactic- which is the bad side of Pisces, and they are unfortunately good at this as well.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
All Pisces do is cry- You guys are born naturals at crying đ
You should've come to him with from the hurt, victim mentality that Pisces are so good at. Probably would've gotten you farther with a Virgo
Instead you are coming from the revengeful, insulting tactic- which is the bad side of Pisces, and they are unfortunately good at this as well.click to expand
Totally have seen it with Pisces mother getting dramatic
As if you guys are not suckers for dxpnet drama, and call it boring when there is none.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.click to expand
Yes exactly, you know him well. And he knows you well and how to push your buttons. He will come back. And the rollercoaster ride will continue.
You can't control him, but you can choose to step off this ride at any time and reclaim your energy.
The best revenge is moving forward and living a happy life.
Posted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??click to expand
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.click to expand
You sure you don't have a Leo Moon?
You sound as if you're scolding a child.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
All Pisces do is cry- You guys are born naturals at crying đ
You should've come to him with from the hurt, victim mentality that Pisces are so good at. Probably would've gotten you farther with a Virgo
Instead you are coming from the revengeful, insulting tactic- which is the bad side of Pisces, and they are unfortunately good at this as well.click to expand
I did tell him he was hurting me but it didn't get me anywhere and I don't repeat myself.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanloves
@saggurl88 He does owe me an apology for not keeping his word about open communication. I don't know about you but I hold people accountable for their words, the ones that are close to me. Again you don't know what we had and I wasn't expecting him to disappear, instead be a man and communicate.
Oh who told you I'm not hurt? Just because I don't cry endlessly here? Great assumption
All Pisces do is cry- You guys are born naturals at crying đ
You should've come to him with from the hurt, victim mentality that Pisces are so good at. Probably would've gotten you farther with a Virgo
Instead you are coming from the revengeful, insulting tactic- which is the bad side of Pisces, and they are unfortunately good at this as well.
I did tell him he was hurting me but it didn't get me anywhere and I don't repeat myself.click to expand
Then all you can do is wait and see.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Yes exactly, you know him well. And he knows you well and how to push your buttons. He will come back. And the rollercoaster ride will continue.
You can't control him, but you can choose to step off this ride at any time and reclaim your energy.
The best revenge is moving forward and living a happy life.click to expand
No. I don't trust him anymore and once the trust is gone everything else follows.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Yes exactly, you know him well. And he knows you well and how to push your buttons. He will come back. And the rollercoaster ride will continue.
You can't control him, but you can choose to step off this ride at any time and reclaim your energy.
The best revenge is moving forward and living a happy life.
No. I don't trust him anymore and once the trust is gone everything else follows.click to expand
You donât trust him and he doesnât respect you. The body has began to rot, time to give it up for decomposition đ
Ufff. Best way to get over a Virgo is starting to date another Virgo. Joking! But seeing other people helps. Some journeys must be completed on one´s own. I feel like a lot of Virgos men want a partnership/relationship, yet have too many boundaries (real and imaginary ones). Unfortunately, they must overcome these boundaries themselves.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.
You sure you don't have a Leo Moon?
You sound as if you're scolding a child.click to expand
Lol, yeah for cereals - she's butthurt and it shows.
Posted by 7sPosted by Undine
As if you guys are not suckers for dxpnet drama, and call it boring when there is none.
These threads make me appreciate my selection process.click to expand
Selection process for a new partner or a new friend....? Or just for a dxp read, lol?
This thread is a good example of the effects of a form of mental abuse (ghosting, refusing to answer, ignoring) on the emotional wellbeing of someone who was very close to them, over a long period of time, and still cares about them.
The abuser knows very well what they are doing. They are not acting to protect themselves, since it will require a rare and minimal effort from their side to deescalate the situation. For example, he could have texted "my FB, my choice, that's it". A few seconds of "effort" once in a blue moon, that could have spared hours of turmoil for someone they promised to care about.
Instead, they used silence as a form of punishment and abuse. More disturbingly, plenty of dxpers on this thread seemed to justify his abuse and blamed the Pisceanloves for feeling what she was feeling, as if he wasn't equally responsible for her feelings!
Feelings are not something that could be chosen and switched on and off at the press of a button. We are human, not robots! Unfortunately, it takes a decent person to de-escalate a situation they took actively part in creating it, and the world if full of entitled morons, unable to take responsibility for their past actions.
Posted by 7sPosted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.
You sure you don't have a Leo Moon?
You sound as if you're scolding a child.
Stop it! Leo moon donât do that. She must be a cancer moon, for sure.click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.
Aka revengeclick to expand
Why do you keep saying it's a revenge? Why would you take this as one??
When someone stands up for themselves it's because they are hurt.
So why do you disagree my efforts to let him understand how much he hurt me??
Anyone should be held accountable when they hurt someone intentionally.
What makes you think that you have a free pass to hurt people left and right? Why??
Thank you @Undine.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by 7sPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by TruemaraPosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptune
Of course what you share here is only a drop in the bucket of what actually went down.
But... I'm struggling to see his loyalty you talked about. Someone who stops communicating for months isn't a good friend let alone a romantic interest.
While that behavior may be excusable in a new acquaintance you've been involved with each other for years.
Its a good thing you sent that last message for your own sanity and closure. Just don't hold your breath waiting on him to respond. He's not respectful of your time or loyalty, he's probably not gonna gaf about your feels.
I felt refreshed after I sent it. That was another thing too, time wasted can not be replaced. He will come back I guarantee you that, I know him well and I know exactly what to do with him.
I see him on snapchat, he hasn't blocked me there and I don't care to have him in snap contacts.
Your going to engage with him after all this?!! For revenge??
No. I'll make him think about what he's done, will make him acknowledge his wrongdoings and will see if he feels any remorse at all. I want to see if he understands what he's doing.
Aka revenge
Why do you keep saying it's a revenge? Why would you take this as one??
When someone stands up for themselves it's because they are hurt.
So why do you disagree my efforts to let him understand how much he hurt me??
Anyone should be held accountable when they hurt someone intentionally.
What makes you think that you have a free pass to hurt people left and right? Why??click to expand
Its an effort in futility when that someone has already shown you such disregard for your feelings. Berating them and spending effort to hold them accountable is a pointless endeavor.
Giving them a free pass would be excusing this behavior and keeping the communication and door open for them to re enter your life.
Unfortunately nothing you can say or express will cause him to be remorseful. He's already proven to you that he doesn't value you or the relationship (by ignoring you and ghosting you) so by default he won't value you trying to get him to acknowledge his wrongdoings and have him feel remorse.
If anything, his ego will get a boost because you will be continuing to show him that his actions have had an impact.
Imo best to just move swiftly on and if he circles back around ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine by not gaf or engaging.
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Posted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
He said he got in an accident a while ago and now he's just trying to rebuild his life..
Umm yeah.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
He said he got in an accident a while ago and now he's just trying to rebuild his life..
Umm yeah.click to expand
If "rebuilding his life" requires radio silence from you, then you know where you stand...
Posted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!click to expand
Yeah. The nerves. I'll check bumble, I've been waiting for too long only to get this.
Posted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Hopefully you can move on now and cut all contact, including the random monthly check ins.
This level of toxicity and game playing is annoying. He knows he has you and doesn't value you at all.
Just expects you to wait for him to casually come strolling back when he feels like it.
The ego on his guy lol
Posted by saggurl88Posted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Hopefully you can move on now and cut all contact, including the random monthly check ins.
This level of toxicity and game playing is annoying. He knows he has you and doesn't value you at all.
Just expects you to wait for him to casually come strolling back when he feels like it.
The ego on his guy lol
https://c.tenor.com/bnUNo2RgqusAAAAM/dude-the-level-of-ego.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
2-5 years đ
Yeah okay that was really too much..
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying thatclick to expand
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.
Posted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Did you get your closure and tell him what you think of him?
Posted by PlowSeason
He has a girlfriend. He cheated on her with you. He's trying to stop doing that.
Virgos. Lol. They never disappoint with the waiting game bullshit. đ¤Łđ¤Łđ¤Ł
And some idiots do!
Canât make this shit up!
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Did you get your closure and tell him what you think of him?click to expand
He knows what I want. He pretty much told me to just wait. I mean no. Waiting for 6 months best case scenario? That's not fair. I wanted to help him with all of this and he just told me to stay away. Can't do anything except to take care of myself and my life.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying that
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.click to expand
Well it's alright. This is what happens when you give someone too much importance.
I have a date night tomorrow.
As a virgo male, you just seem like a big pile of flaming hot mess.
Good luck with singledom for life
Toddler.
Good luck with singledom for life
Toddler.
Posted by PlowSeasonPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying that
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.
Imagine yourself in his shoes. You tell someone to move on, you block them, they still manage to find you to spam you then you literally have your girlfriend answer the phone to tell her to leave you guys alone. Nothing works, so you tell her to wait. Maybe it will make her go away for a few years.click to expand
Op said he called. Emphasis on the he. Or did I miss something?
Posted by Moloko_vellocet
As a virgo male, you just seem like a big pile of flaming hot mess.
Good luck with singledom for life
Toddler.
Correction - I put out fire and not everyone can get close enough without burning lol
As a virgo?? don't make me laugh, give me your chart and I'll tell you how much of a virgo are you.
If I'm toddler you are a newborn. Grow up.
If you as a virgo think that you can disappear and reappear in peoples lives without any consequences then you are horribly wrong, someone has to teach you a lesson and if that's me I'll do just that..
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by PlowSeasonPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying that
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.
Imagine yourself in his shoes. You tell someone to move on, you block them, they still manage to find you to spam you then you literally have your girlfriend answer the phone to tell her to leave you guys alone. Nothing works, so you tell her to wait. Maybe it will make her go away for a few years.
Op said he called. Emphasis on the he. Or did I miss something?click to expand
Listen this Virgo was unstable in every way. I'm not going to count how many times he blocked and unblocked me and one time months ago tried to pretend he was a woman. Probably was playing one of his sick game to see if I'd trip in case he had someone over. People dig up old threads and many things happened after that anyway.
As a Virgo stellium, if you call me from different numbers and I don't respond to one of them to at least randomly borrow some cash then that means I don't like you even a little teeny weeny bit.
Virgos are usually somewhat passive-aggressively friendly to their stalkers.
Virgos are usually somewhat passive-aggressively friendly to their stalkers.
Posted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by PlowSeasonPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying that
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.
Imagine yourself in his shoes. You tell someone to move on, you block them, they still manage to find you to spam you then you literally have your girlfriend answer the phone to tell her to leave you guys alone. Nothing works, so you tell her to wait. Maybe it will make her go away for a few years.
Op said he called. Emphasis on the he. Or did I miss something?
tried to pretend he was a womanclick to expand
it's over
Posted by PlowSeasonPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by PlowSeasonPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanlovesPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by pisceanloves
You guys.. He called.
He said I should leave him alone for now and wait for him to come around on his own. It may be in 6 months, 2 or 5 years..
Umm yeah.
Translation: only his needs matter not yours. This is not a symbiotic relationship. He is a leech who takes and takes and takes and has nothing of value to give.
Umm yeah is right. Thank you, next!
Yeah. The nerves him even saying that
Nerve is right! Now I am furious for you.
Does he really think your gonna be sitting on your hands waiting around for him for literal years? TF?!
Truly wild the amount of self importance he has. I can't image any combination of looks, wealth, charm, you name it that would have someone wait years.
I mean, you may as well date someone in prison. You'd wait around the same time if not sooner to touch them in person and at least they are desperate enough for human contact to eagerly eat up all calls, letters, and visits.
2 to 5 years, imagine.
Imagine yourself in his shoes. You tell someone to move on, you block them, they still manage to find you to spam you then you literally have your girlfriend answer the phone to tell her to leave you guys alone. Nothing works, so you tell her to wait. Maybe it will make her go away for a few years.
Op said he called. Emphasis on the he. Or did I miss something?
I think you missed her last thread about this virgo. It was a few months ago. The last time he called her, he straight up said "stop calling me" according to her lol come on. I imagine she's calling him from a bunch of different numbers because she's blocked. He's not even willing to keep her as a side piece because she wont stop calling him when his girlfriend is around.click to expand
I can't even remember the last time talking to him on the phone up until today. I do not call unless I have permission and It's the same with me, because we were both busy. He has never said to stop calling him and it was over texting by the way, do not mix up details.
Huh?? A side piece? not at any point that has been the case with us and he hasn't voiced anything that sort ever. He is single and I know it. And if he wants to be left alone so be it, He called and I got what I wanted. Not sure why you so frustrated.
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