Is Sadness a turn off

Should it be hidden?

Posted by elllle

Never hide anything, Aju. You are beautiful! ❤

thank youu u

I never show sadneto people in my life. Idk why. I can easily feel sadness, but find it almost impossible to show. I’ve helped so many people in my life feeling sadness, but can’t help thinking how great it would be to find a person I could be 100% open with about how I feel. To just feel safe with them, and not feel like I’m being judged or annoying.

Posted by Aju

Should it be hidden?

I find most people are uncomfortable with it! I also posit this is primarily due to their own inability to handle “negative” emotion. Either that or greater than recommend degree of self-involvement.



That being said, chronic sadness is not just inconvenience for all parties involved but also detrimental to subject’s overall health.

Posted by Soul

I never show sadneto people in my life. Idk why. I can easily feel sadness, but find it almost impossible to show. I’ve helped so many people in my life feeling sadness, but can’t help thinking how great it would be to find a person I could be 100% open with about how I feel. To just feel safe with them, and not feel like I’m being judged or annoying.

right.



just laying thinking about it for a while.



.. Is being all me wise to attract another who craves the authentic

or just hope that when I'm all there .. she doesn't go?

Posted by Schawq

Sadness is a turn on

really? how so?

It can be a turn off if you are always sad, but regardless, be you and don’t hide it.

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Sadness is a turn on

really? how so?

Because for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.

For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.

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yes. and be human together.

and not get caught up in this "pretend" or "guess who"

to see how close one can get only to not like what is revealed when the game is over

Posted by Impulsv

I’m

Attracted to brooding men

Papi and happy all the time seems fake for me

yeah definitely.

I've just been thinking lately a lot about it. that maybe in this world of dating

and attracting that it's wrong to show, well not wrong but not accepted by most (male/female)

Posted by rmactavish

No I don't think so. If a person shows that they're vulnerable, it's not a weakness tbh but a strength, a strength of keeping in touch with your emotions which alot of us in the modern times, lack!

I agree. do you feel most think this way though?

I can't relate the emotion to arousal. I don't see a connection. I don't run from or avoid people feeling sad. I'm a mother, wife, etc. So, I deal. I'm married to a brooding Cancer Moon. His emotions are extraordinary.

To me, sadness is not weakness, vulnerability, or turn-off. It's just sadness.

Cause, I've seen sad people do some amazing things.

(((Huggles)))

Now that I think about it. Hubby seemed seemed sad when I met him. I thought it mysterious. It made me care for him. We all acted sad back then whether sad or not. We were all sad, angry, or nothing. And, then came grunge, alt rock, and gangsta rap. We were all cool with sadness. If we remember our youths... As an artist, I saw my emptiness as muse and his sadness was something-ness.

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Posted by Aju

Posted by Schawq

Sadness is a turn on

really? how so?

Because for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.

For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.

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If he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?

Everything negative is a turn off and may be judged by others from their own lens of perspective.

But fuck that anyway, you do you. Be the real you. ❤️

Yes it’s a turnoff. I’m not a nurturer. Anyone who finds it attractive is probably also in a dependent/toxic relationship where they are relied heavily on for emotional support or vice versa.

Humans and their fake captain save-a-sad-hoe rhetoric will start to exhibit resentment, at some point. Why? They get caught in a cycle of trying to save someone and build someone up and forget about their own emotions and self.

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Posted by Aju

Posted by Schawq

Sadness is a turn on

really? how so?

Because for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.

For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.

If he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?

For me yes, it wears on me, and I want to be happy. Good vibes. But there are a lot of people who like to be miserable in relationships I've noticed. I cant do it for long. I need something that brings me up not down.

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Like being miserable? I don't know about that, but I understand what you said.

Thank you for being honest and practical.

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Sadness is a turn on

really? how so?

Because for a male I have an urge to comfort and make him feel better, care for him because he’s sensitive and cares a lot.

For a female I like when they’re sad because we can relate.

If he is constantly sad, even a bit depressed, does it become a turn off in the long run?

Maybe. If he’s becoming abusive toward me and/or the depression is becoming unreasonable, then yes.

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I think that will be the case for every woman.