borednbeautiful
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Love ❤️
I would die for this person
Openness and compassion. You're willing to put up with their shit and hopefully not enable it. It means independence yet longing.
1. Home.
2. Coming home.
3. When I can relax and be myself and not be judged for it.
2. Coming home.
3. When I can relax and be myself and not be judged for it.
Love is the sum of your ego/character/personality; your personality is the sum of your attachment patterns. Since there is no such thing as perfect human being, even people who form destructive bonds can and do love eachother from their own individual perception, forged in their own attachment patterns. Who am I to say they are wrong?
To say to an high-sensitive empath not to love an egoistical self-serving asshole; that her love for him is unhealthy, is kind of being too far up my own reality. Bc he is what she wants, and she is what he needs, or vice versa. These things are forged deep and surely you can through years of therapy learn to love in a more healthy way, but would it really be you? Would you really "feel it" after that, or would you have just re-wired your behaviour and not your actual feelings: you are still drawn to the same patterns, men who NEED you, your need to feel needed, but you have learned to live passionlessly:
Like when an alcoholic pulls his life together and realizes he only had drinking buddies and not many real friends, and that his entire personality goes and he becomes a shadow of his former self, but at least he is "healthy" now. We tend to underestimate how much of who we are is nothing but attachments formed early in life, sometimes even in the womb. So when you switch gears, sometimes it's like going through the Ludovico treatment like that dude in 'Clockwork Orange'.
Of course we tend to idealize how or what love should be, it should be "healthy". But I don't think that exists in the idealized form, ultimately even love in an abusive relationship is love when certain conditions are met. Bc again, what is HOW we love and how we RECEIVE love - what we want and need - anything but the sum of our individual attachment patterns.
Anyway I'm clearly coming from the Behaviorist school of thought.
To say to an high-sensitive empath not to love an egoistical self-serving asshole; that her love for him is unhealthy, is kind of being too far up my own reality. Bc he is what she wants, and she is what he needs, or vice versa. These things are forged deep and surely you can through years of therapy learn to love in a more healthy way, but would it really be you? Would you really "feel it" after that, or would you have just re-wired your behaviour and not your actual feelings: you are still drawn to the same patterns, men who NEED you, your need to feel needed, but you have learned to live passionlessly:
Like when an alcoholic pulls his life together and realizes he only had drinking buddies and not many real friends, and that his entire personality goes and he becomes a shadow of his former self, but at least he is "healthy" now. We tend to underestimate how much of who we are is nothing but attachments formed early in life, sometimes even in the womb. So when you switch gears, sometimes it's like going through the Ludovico treatment like that dude in 'Clockwork Orange'.
Of course we tend to idealize how or what love should be, it should be "healthy". But I don't think that exists in the idealized form, ultimately even love in an abusive relationship is love when certain conditions are met. Bc again, what is HOW we love and how we RECEIVE love - what we want and need - anything but the sum of our individual attachment patterns.
Anyway I'm clearly coming from the Behaviorist school of thought.
I feel like if I want, or even tolerate being around someone that is the first sign. Second is the fact I would do absolutely anything to protect them, and would 100% be ride or die with their decision. That's extremely important because it means I trust them so much I would do something risky, or even risk my own well-being just to make sure they were safe. Like I wouldn't even have to hesitate or think twice for a second. Funny enough I actually have people in my life I feel this way about. I might only be able to count them on one hand, but that's really all I need. Lastly I would even be willing to sacrifice my own profits and personal hard work just to make sure the people in my life are comfortable, if not more then I am. So I don't show love or really want to receive love in words, or even emotions. I just like it to be something that is respected, doesn't need reminded, and is truly trusted on the deepest level possible. Like imagine two people that will never be separated, and never need to say I love you. They are purely connected as spirits. Nothing can ever change that, and no words can truly describe it.
How would you describe it?
Surrendering all, Bliss, Beautiful, Sacrifice
How did you know you loved someone?
There is a yearning. Aches and pains
Love without conditions <----If you think and feel this? That is true love.
Surrendering all, Bliss, Beautiful, Sacrifice
How did you know you loved someone?
There is a yearning. Aches and pains
Love without conditions <----If you think and feel this? That is true love.
Idk 🙃
Love is a 90s slow jam
I can’t believe I agree with a Scorp, buy yes….it’s the feeling of reaching home at last, of being accepted for who I am. With a touch of deeper meaning, sacrifice, knowing, happiness and eternity because I’m a boundless Pisces after all!
One word... trust
Once that trust is gone, the love has gone
Once that trust is gone, the love has gone
When I feel loved, accepted, connection, warm & fuzzy and start acting partner like. I care about what you want, you care about what I want & we both support each other. And when I see myself vulnerable, not worrying about if I’m falling in a hole, but am willing to risk it for you. Otherwise, I run.. saggie like if I’m too scared.
Posted by borednbeautiful
How would you describe it?
The feeling and the definition. What is it? How did you know you loved someone?
It's the most important thing.
It's more than kissing or anything we do as humans, it's who we are.
It's what made the cells of our body. Everything that does not exist has no purpose but we do. because we are "here.".
I can’t compare romantic love with motherly love any longer
The former doesn’t always last
The latter does and is indestructible
And unconditional
The former doesn’t always last
The latter does and is indestructible
And unconditional
Posted by MyStarsShine
I would die for this person
Yet they wouldn’t die for you. Hypothetically not saying you yourself
Posted by TruemaraPosted by MyStarsShine
I would die for this person
Yet they wouldn’t die for you. Hypothetically not saying you yourselfclick to expand
It’s my son
I don’t want him to die for me
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