@TxOgal
12 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus
Would you keep a low profile for your love interest?
Posted by SurprisinglyBoredGemini
Not a woman but will answer anyway
This is the way
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?What is a love interest? Someone you desire or in a relationship with?
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In a relationship with or in dating stage
If in committed relationship especially when you live together, work within the budget. Now if there is a difference in personalities, one frugal one not, I’m going to do as I want as long as I’m not going to cause a problem in the finances. I work hard for my money, and should be able to buy things or live a certain life style as I did before the relationship. If they choose simpler things & don’t work as hard, haven’t saved as much, then they can buy simple. Or better yet have a discussion & decide together what the rules/budget is. You must have a say though. It’s not just what they want. If they want you to do with less, you must buy into it too or else it just isn’t a match.
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?I wouldn't. I am pretty frugal, but I also believe in treating myself. I dont want to be with someone who makes me feel guilty about wanting to occasionally buy nice things.
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yeah I did not mean out of guilt... but to have like a similarity in the way of living maybe
I only do inconsequential things to please my partner. Consequential, no way.
Small thing, he wanted me to cook something for him and I did. That was a small request in my view.
For example, one of my partners asked me to ditch my guys friends who were in my life way before him and I had a genuine platonic friendships with them (never interested in them or will be or mutually agreed that we weren’t for each other), I didn’t concede to that. That’s a big thing for me.
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?
Is the partners simpler choices a result of necessity or a conscious decision?
I know many wealthy people who don’t dress the part and many who are broke who do.
Is he conscious of that paradigm, and perhaps wants to remain authentic to himself and his legacy. He/she could have been raised in a single income home and never given things so they don’t hold value the same way it would to a person who was rewarded this way in their life.
Is he/she perhaps more interested in travelling and experiences forgoing the need to fill up with material objects. That shit is expensive and to me that’s a reasonable compromise.
This is a great question and I’m faced daily by its implications personally because I like quality items but I prefer intimacy and consideration. Time if you will. If I can get a balance of both I’m very happy.
I'm glad I read through this... the topic title alone sent my Leo Venus into a spiral...
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?
I actually did this for my Virgo husband. It was more of an alternative life style that we found "cool" in our youth.
Now, he's totally, totally different.
If there's an imbalance, I'd hope we can meet halfway. If it's a completely incompatibility or just not something either one is going to put up with, it'll be a lot harder. I have a friend, granted it's an internet friend, who lives the most frugal ever and lives within his means.. actually, he is below the poverty line, but I will never mention my finances just out of respect or whatever. Friendship is free anyway. And sex is not 😛
Haha. But hm. In the long run, you can't hide who you are, so if you're prone to spending money on fancy steaks everyday, do you.
fire moons hiding their wealth
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?I actually did this for my Virgo husband. It was more of an alternative life style that we found "cool" in our youth.
Now, he's totally, totally different.
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By totally different, you mean he adopted your life style more later on?
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?Is the partners simpler choices a result of necessity or a conscious decision?
I know many wealthy people who don’t dress the part and many who are broke who do.
Is he conscious of that paradigm, and perhaps wants to remain authentic to himself and his legacy. He/she could have been raised in a single income home and never given things so they don’t hold value the same way it would to a person who was rewarded this way in their life.
Is he/she perhaps more interested in travelling and experiences forgoing the need to fill up with material objects. That shit is expensive and to me that’s a reasonable compromise.
This is a great question and I’m faced daily by its implications personally because I like quality items but I prefer intimacy and consideration. Time if you will. If I can get a balance of both I’m very happy.
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This is exactly what I meant .. He would choose simpler things because he manages his finances differently, so it could be that he thinks he cant afford a certain life style or that the necessities to him are different than mine. I'm just wondering if it's possible to meet halfway or people find this as an obstacle in a relationship. Given that there are no shared bills or any of this at this stage
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?Is the partners simpler choices a result of necessity or a conscious decision?
I know many wealthy people who don’t dress the part and many who are broke who do.
Is he conscious of that paradigm, and perhaps wants to remain authentic to himself and his legacy. He/she could have been raised in a single income home and never given things so they don’t hold value the same way it would to a person who was rewarded this way in their life.
Is he/she perhaps more interested in travelling and experiences forgoing the need to fill up with material objects. That shit is expensive and to me that’s a reasonable compromise.
This is a great question and I’m faced daily by its implications personally because I like quality items but I prefer intimacy and consideration. Time if you will. If I can get a balance of both I’m very happy.
This is exactly what I meant .. He would choose simpler things because he manages his finances differently, so it could be that he thinks he cant afford a certain life style or that the necessities to him are different than mine. I'm just wondering if it's possible to meet halfway or people find this as an obstacle in a relationship. Given that there are no shared bills or any of this at this stage
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Sometimes people need a gentle nudging. We get caught in cycles of being too careful with money or careless.
I can’t cope around frugal people. It’s a trigger.
Posted by TxOgal
Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?I actually did this for my Virgo husband. It was more of an alternative life style that we found "cool" in our youth.
Now, he's totally, totally different.
By totally different, you mean he adopted your life style more later on?
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I don't think it's "packaged" as my life style but it is. He wants to "my life style " x's 10 now. I'm continually surprised and constantly asking "what's up?" His answer is you only live once...
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Need to be honest here. This question is for women only. It could be the most materialistic question in this forum.
Could be a silly question, but does it make sense that you keep a low profile for your love interest?
For example you choose to live a simpler life with simple things, not expensive stuff considering that your love interest is this way. Like you getting an economic car and not the expensive one you would have normally gotten, cause your love interest would never think of getting such expensive car anyway?
What's your take on this?