The ONE that got away

If you have such a person in your life, the 1 who got away, how did you get over it?

Or did you? Is it even possible?

And no, this isn’t about me. It’s inspired by that Leo lady who wanted to wish a Cap guy a happy birthday. And then she didn’t do it anyway. Because she says deep down she knows he’ll always be the one who just got away.

So it got me thinking..

I think when you truly believe they were the one that got away, you never get over it.

Posted by BadderBunny
I've never mourned the ones who got away, because I never considered them that until retrospect. There are a few I wonder, what if I had done something differently and not effed it up? Maybe he would have been the one? Maybe I would be happily married now? But truthfully, I'm lying to myself. It was probably never going to work.

This! Yes , we may wonder sometimes but there’s a good possibility that it wouldn’t have worked with them to begin with and like Ands said, they are really not the one if they got away 😁

Nope

No. I moved on and let go from all my relationships

I had this Taurus boss who was fantastic towards me.

I woulda worked for him forever. He showed me so much respect from day one till the day I was resigned due to another Virgo manager on the team who turned out to be a con artist like I suspected.

He was the manager who got away.

You have to let go. If they were not there to work through things with you, then that’s the reality of it. It just takes time, but you have to actively work on it.

You might need to block them.. just because someone misses you doesn’t mean they deserve another chance.

I don't have one. All my exes are my friends. The only one who isn't unblocks me every 6 months to remind me how much she truly loves me, and how she needs block me again because of that. Then she does, and I wait. God she is truly crazy, and I love that. Yet could mess up her entire life so badly if I wanted, and she wants that. Good thing I'm now a simple minded man that just wants to bake lovely bread.

I have this one guy. I don't know if I'd consider him the one that got away but I did consider him my "great white buffalo" if you know what that means. It's kinda like the one who you couldn't catch. I could have catched him but I was to nieve and stupid at the time. He was kind of like a "what if". He wanted me, I wanted him but I fucked it up and he went away and I couldn't get him back. I tried. I still think about him sometimes and wonder what if. I believe he was a Libra.

Then there is this other Libra guy...we both admit we fucked it up. We were on and off for years but never official because we both thought the other person wasn't interested like that. Then I got married and he told me it was to late. Then he got married.

Looking at both, I don't consider them the ones that got away. I just think we weren't meant to be. But with both of them I harbor no ill will or heartbreak. Maybe a little heartbreak with the second one but honestly we were on and off for over 10 years so this last time it just feels like an extended off. Who knows. But he is married now and I've moved on. If we were meant to be we would be together.

Nope. It's just a term used for those with attachment issues to sabotage their chance to a better relationship.

They "got away" because something was lacking or was off putting, for at least one of them. Luckily it didn't last long enough.

What if....? Well, the shit would have hit the fan eventually, not? 😛

Posted by SeaLion
I have this one guy. I don't know if I'd consider him the one that got away but I did consider him my "great white buffalo" if you know what that means. It's kinda like the one who you couldn't catch. I could have catched him but I was to nieve and stupid at the time. He was kind of like a "what if". He wanted me, I wanted him but I fucked it up and he went away and I couldn't get him back. I tried. I still think about him sometimes and wonder what if. I believe he was a Libra.

Then there is this other Libra guy...we both admit we fucked it up. We were on and off for years but never official because we both thought the other person wasn't interested like that. Then I got married and he told me it was to late. Then he got married.

Looking at both, I don't consider them the ones that got away. I just think we weren't meant to be. But with both of them I harbor no ill will or heartbreak. Maybe a little heartbreak with the second one but honestly we were on and off for over 10 years so this last time it just feels like an extended off. Who knows. But he is married now and I've moved on. If we were meant to be we would be together.

What about Virgo? Is he one of your greatest loves?

Gosh, I don’t even know who I’d pick, if I have to pick just one guy. They alllll pretty much got away! 😄😅

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Posted by SeaLion
I have this one guy. I don't know if I'd consider him the one that got away but I did consider him my "great white buffalo" if you know what that means. It's kinda like the one who you couldn't catch. I could have catched him but I was to nieve and stupid at the time. He was kind of like a "what if". He wanted me, I wanted him but I fucked it up and he went away and I couldn't get him back. I tried. I still think about him sometimes and wonder what if. I believe he was a Libra.

Then there is this other Libra guy...we both admit we fucked it up. We were on and off for years but never official because we both thought the other person wasn't interested like that. Then I got married and he told me it was to late. Then he got married.

Looking at both, I don't consider them the ones that got away. I just think we weren't meant to be. But with both of them I harbor no ill will or heartbreak. Maybe a little heartbreak with the second one but honestly we were on and off for over 10 years so this last time it just feels like an extended off. Who knows. But he is married now and I've moved on. If we were meant to be we would be together.

What about Virgo? Is he one of your greatest loves?

Gosh, I don’t even know who I’d pick, if I have to pick just one guy. They alllll pretty much got away! 😄😅

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The Virgo? Heck no. Not even close. Plus he never got away from me he is still around. We are not together intimately anymore, and what I have learned about him the past year....well... maybe I'll tell that story one day. But he is still around. We hung out last Friday for a couple of hours.

There really isn’t such a thing as the one who got away. I used to think so, but really when you start letting go, you realize there are reasons it didn’t work.

You just have to let the process happen.

Right now with this Pisces, who is my boyfriend 😊. It’s been just about 4 months. I’m a bit bummed I ran away 3 years ago, we could’ve been together all along. He’s doing a lot better now. The she-shed for my daughter is almost done & it’s pretty amazing. It was a great project & exactly what he needed. He’s dealing with things now, just needed support. Anyway he just fits like no one I’ve met in years. I met his mom & sister on Christmas Eve. And I really couldn’t give a shit about the couple of guys I held on to in the last few years and rationalized doing that. It was going nowhere with them, once I accepted that I was in a position to find something real.

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by borednbeautiful

Posted by SeaLion
I have this one guy. I don't know if I'd consider him the one that got away but I did consider him my "great white buffalo" if you know what that means. It's kinda like the one who you couldn't catch. I could have catched him but I was to nieve and stupid at the time. He was kind of like a "what if". He wanted me, I wanted him but I fucked it up and he went away and I couldn't get him back. I tried. I still think about him sometimes and wonder what if. I believe he was a Libra.

Then there is this other Libra guy...we both admit we fucked it up. We were on and off for years but never official because we both thought the other person wasn't interested like that. Then I got married and he told me it was to late. Then he got married.

Looking at both, I don't consider them the ones that got away. I just think we weren't meant to be. But with both of them I harbor no ill will or heartbreak. Maybe a little heartbreak with the second one but honestly we were on and off for over 10 years so this last time it just feels like an extended off. Who knows. But he is married now and I've moved on. If we were meant to be we would be together.

What about Virgo? Is he one of your greatest loves?

Gosh, I don’t even know who I’d pick, if I have to pick just one guy. They alllll pretty much got away! 😄😅

The Virgo? Heck no. Not even close. Plus he never got away from me he is still around. We are not together intimately anymore, and what I have learned about him the past year....well... maybe I'll tell that story one day. But he is still around. We hung out last Friday for a couple of hours.

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Oh man, do tell when you feel like it 🤭

Are you seeing anyone? It seems like you haven’t been on dxp in forever. But then again, I lost sense of time ever since December 2019 🥴

If you cheated on them, they definitely weren’t the one 😆