Blind dates

What's your take on it?

An Acquaintance has just rung me to ask me if I would go on a blind date with a friend of her and her husband. All she has said is that he is a gym junkie, rather like myself, and that he is tired of girls that are looking for an easy ride and his money...Now I dont know what this guy looks like at all, and yes it is important as shallow as that may sound. Typical Libran, I'm not sure...am I to trust their judgement, they are his friends and just know me through my daughter. Reason why I'm indecisive is I always get guys more interested in me than I in them and find it real hard to say...sorry you are nice but I'm not interested in anything further.

So, why make it so that they get way interested in you?

Can't you just view this as an outing with friends?

Do you attempt to draw your friends into you and want you like that?

If the answer is 'no' .... then refer to my second sentence.

Why the fuck people make things so complicated is beyond me, I guess because they need the drama ..... he's just a person, not a god, so wtf is the issue?

Eh... give it a shot! You never know!

I am not opposed to blind dates at all. Who knows what can happen. I just look at it like this - go out with your firends have a good time. Whatever happens...happens.

I don't have anything against blind dates, I just wouldn't want any friend/family member hooking me up with someone. I'll give an example: one of my cousins is UBER religious (I'm spiritual, not religious). She wanted her husband to fix me up w/one of his friends (this was a long time ago). Anyway, I said "No." The reason was multi-faceted, but at the end of the day, I didn't want her husband to be privy to certain "private" details of my life, because I KNOW that men talk too, and I don't want anything I've done, etc, to be "reported" back to her. Hell, if I'm a freak and want to do "X,Y,Z" I don't need it to be spread from here to the moon; especially since I know how judgmental she is, and she would have wanted us married in like 6 weeks after the date. So in response to OP: Blind dates - Perfectly Fine. Being fixed up by friend/family member - Not my cup'o'tea.

I just wouldnt expect so much on a blind date....just go out and have fun.

I would go especially since it's a group date. If it was a one-on-one...I probably would pass.

The problem with blind dates is I usually know within 5-10 mins if a person warrants getting to know better and if they don't, I just want to get the hell out of there. I'll admit, I'm really fucking picky about who I spend my time with so why waste precious time?

Posted by Ms.P
Im way too shy for blind dates.

Just go into one of your songs and you'll have the guy wrapped around your finger in moments 😛

Posted by VirgoHero
I usually know within 5-10 mins if a person warrants getting to know better and if they don't, I just want to get the hell out of there...why waste precious time?

So agree! LOL @ "get the hell out of there". I can see you excusing yourself to the mens room and never being seen again!

It was one to one...and I passed. Not my cup of tea either, I figured that I've looked into internet dating but never got to the point of meeting anyone..not comfortable with it and the same thing applied here.

However, Had it have been in a group I wouldn't have felt the same pressure. Can just imagine sitting there with absolutely nothing to say...

And thanks P, yes even my friends are drawn to me like that...strangely enough and the drama is always interesting, makes life fun but I like to sort it out quickly and get on with the rest of my life. Dxp helps me way up the pros & cons when I'm indecisive, horrible Libra trait.

Thanks everyone again.

Posted by Ms.P
Im way too shy for blind dates.

Naww...you, shy...I don't sense that at all about you Ms. P. I can appear to be a bit shy too, but I'm actually reserved and coy. I sit back and marinate on situations, I don't typically just start yapping and stuff. I need to get a sense of that person, because my BS radar (male or female) is highly tuned, and I don't waste ANY time nor energy on BS!

Posted by USCTaurusGal

So agree! LOL @ "get the hell out of there". I can see you excusing yourself to the mens room and never being seen again!

Ya seriously. Once you KNOW, I just want to go home and read a book or something lol. That's how apathetic I get

Posted by sweethearts
It was one to one...and I passed. Not my cup of tea either, I figured that I've looked into internet dating but never got to the point of meeting anyone..not comfortable with it and the same thing applied here.

However, Had it have been in a group I wouldn't have felt the same pressure. Can just imagine sitting there with absolutely nothing to say...

And thanks P, yes even my friends are drawn to me like that...strangely enough and the drama is always interesting, makes life fun but I like to sort it out quickly and get on with the rest of my life. Dxp helps me way up the pros & cons when I'm indecisive, horrible Libra trait.

Thanks everyone again.

Yeah, sitting there w/some stranger with nothing to say would straight up suck! You know yourself, and if it's not your thing, then it's just not your thing. I'm sure your friend will/does understand 🙂

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by VirgoHero
I usually know within 5-10 mins if a person warrants getting to know better and if they don't, I just want to get the hell out of there...why waste precious time?

So agree! LOL @ "get the hell out of there". I can see you excusing yourself to the mens room and never being seen again!

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With you, its actually easier...

*Blind date with USCTaurusGal*

USCTGAL: Hi! I'm (X). Nice to meet you. Do you like football?
Male Blind Date: Umm..why no..I don't like football. I like basket weaving and needlepoint
USCTGAL: Oh well nice to meet you. Have a nice life! *BOLTS AS FAST AS SHE CAN*

You don't EVEN need 5 minutes once the guy answers your football question lol.

Well, good, you figured it out .... not really a big deal.

And if having people into like that is such a big deal that it prevents you from being to enjoy a simple outing with friends ... then a blind date isn't even the real problem ... it's an effect of it.

Posted by VirgoHero

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by VirgoHero
I usually know within 5-10 mins if a person warrants getting to know better and if they don't, I just want to get the hell out of there...why waste precious time?

So agree! LOL @ "get the hell out of there". I can see you excusing yourself to the mens room and never being seen again!

With you, its actually easier...

*Blind date with USCTaurusGal*

USCTGAL: Hi! I'm (X). Nice to meet you. Do you like football?
Male Blind Date: Umm..why no..I don't like football. I like basket weaving and needlepoint
USCTGAL: Oh well nice to meet you. Have a nice life! *BOLTS AS FAST AS SHE CAN*

You don't EVEN need 5 minutes once the guy answers your football question lol.

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ROLMAO! OMG, that happened like a year ago. I went out with this guy that I worked on a project with...long & short of it, that's almost exactly what happened! He didn't like SPORTS at all. WTF is that—? I mean, I love a lot of things, but no sports. Dude, see ya!

@ Ms. P - oh, I'm silly as hell! I try not to take myself too seriously. The only time I'm serious is in respect to business. I'm a consummate professional; otherwise, I am a smarta@@ and very self-depracating. I make fun of myself all the time!

As I said P, if it were in a group, I'd be totally ok with it. Or if I met someone and they asked me out, cool. But this is just being thrown in with someone I have no knowledge of at all. Wasn't really a big deal, they were pushing me for an answer and had already built up his hopes...and I wasn't sure. But once people added in their opinions it became more clear that I was hesitant cos it wasnt what I wanted.

My problem is that I tend to be a people pleaser and feel an obligation to do what they want...but I'm learning 🙂 It's all about ME!!

And I like the way you throw things out there, your twisted mind has me thinking from different angles!

Well, I'm certainly not going to just say the same thing as everybody else, Sweets .... different options means what it says .. what's the point in just having one big group agreeing with each other if you are looking for other options?

I guess I mis-read the original post .... I thought it was saying that this blind date would be with your friends who set the date, and so it didn't seem so bad that they did this. If the date was suppose to be just you and him .. yeah, no, I wouldn't go either.

Glad you made your decision Sweets. I would have declined because of this

* he is tired of girls that are looking for an easy ride and his money..

It just reeks of past baggage and bitterness. Who wants someone that has that much baggage? I wouldn't be interested in meeting anyone who doesn't have an open heart.

You are such a sweet person, I think meeting a guy with that type of resentment would kill you. Knowing you, I think you would bend over backwards trying to prove yourself, when his attitude had nothing to do with you to begin with. I suspect he would be complete poison to you. Funny that your friends would even try to set him up with anyone they knew when he doesn't have an open heart.

Just my take!

I am also surprised to hear you are shy Ms P. You seem very outgoing and quite lovely actually.

🙂

Pretty much on the ball there LS on how I would feel inclined to act.

I guess some peoples take is that you never know who you are going to meet and I myself believe that you generally meet potential partners from friends and friends of friends. But the blind date just feels so desparate to me and I'm not. Had they have rung me up and invited me to dinner or a bbq or something all would've been good.

But to put forward expectations before I even meet someone is not a good thing for me.

* No one on the internet is really shy.

True enough! HA HA HA!

Yeah. I get what you are saying. I've done the blind date thing before. It usually makes me wonder about my friend's opinions of me. LOL! Best to side step it if you can. I prefer not to know I am being set up.

Compared to alot of posters here and the things that they have to say...I feel like a mouse!! And in person I'm far from it...once I know you that is!

In this day and age. There isn't any reason for a BLIND DATE.

Here let me take a picture of you with my CAMERA PHONE. I'll shoot it to my wife.

Here is a picture of the Guy we would like to HOOK you up with.

What do you think, Kind of cute, Huh? not your type?

Yes well that was another thing, even though I jokingly asked if he was hot the question never got answered!!! And I have to admit, attraction of physical looks is important...I mena who wants to carry a paperbag around with them?

Hmmm... your friend wants you to hang out with her... her husband wants his friend to hang out with him... why does this have to be a blind date. It is simply friends hanging out! You guys like each other then GREAT! That is all it is, just think of it that way and you won't feel awkward. He likely feels the same way... about it being a blind date, that is.

No lilldol,

She rung me and asked if I would go on a blind date with her friend..we are only aquaintances(her and I)...
they have filled his head up about me, so he was very keen...
I told her I'd be ok to double and he said no he just wanted to take me out to dinner

Then they wanted me to make a decision right there
That's when I said No it's not my thing, I wasnt sure if I was comfortable with it all

i been to a hook up blind dates before and only one is successful which is my ex libra gf we dated for 8 months it not a bad idea to meet more peoples in your life, if you don''t like what you see then jus be friends.