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Contrary to popular belief

A Gemini will not touch you with a ten foot pole if there's no positive, organic mental stimulation

Gemini truly is a very ~mental sign in many ways

Idc how hot you are, if your personality is gross to me I am officially turned off

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My personality is not "gross". 😊 Maybe it is to you but not to him. I just don't want to hurt his feelings. Ever. Also he's a Gemini but he's water dominant chart wise. He's one of ours :p
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Mercury in the head meets Pluto in the genitals

Lala....i get you on this, i only met one man who truly got me sexually, much younger, Scorpio dominant and fire in his chart....

Hope it works out for you both 😘


Oh yeah those fire are nooiiiiice.

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It's ok though the problem has been solved. I actually listen to people when they give me constructive criticism and advice. Once again it worked. 🤗🤗🤗
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Mercury in the head meets Pluto in the genitals

Lala....i get you on this, i only met one man who truly got me sexually, much younger, Scorpio dominant and fire in his chart....

Hope it works out for you both 😘


Oh yeah those fire are nooiiiiice.

😉

It's ok though the problem has been solved. I actually listen to people when they give me constructive criticism and advice. Once again it worked. 🤗🤗🤗
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Contrary to popular belief

A Gemini will not touch you with a ten foot pole if there's no positive, organic mental stimulation

Gemini truly is a very ~mental sign in many ways

Idc how hot you are, if your personality is gross to me I am officially turned off

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This gemini I've known for over 10 years.

Anyway. Problem solved guys I just literally took you advice and told him.

I guess I was afraid to tell him outright and when we talked about it before I always went round about ways.

Ok so he was supposed to come over tonight. He didnt.

And he told me that basically he pretty much wants to have sex with me the whole time everytime were together but he doesn't want to bother me. Lol. Because when we were younger he thinks he always used to bother me.

Haha.

I told him no thAt I loved it and I would it now.

I asked him what he would like to change moving forward and he said that he would like me to keep going after he climaxes because every time I stop and he says it's disappointing.



So that's all good.

Oh, yah I read some of it, this wasn't aimed at your personal story, just a general statement about Geminis because people seem to think we're these out of control promiscuous people or somefin'

I also read in here something about him being on meds? That can really like mess with some people's libido so that made sense to me. Either way, stop worrying and communicate w/him! I actually think you fantasizing about your ex is like rlly bad but hey, you can't really control that, the problem I think some people have is you still being in contact with him.

Either way I wish you two the best xoxoxoxoxoxox
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Thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️



Ah I see. Well I haven't blocked him that's true. He's been muted.

I've stopped responding a looooong time ago though.

But I just read and move on with my life.

When I blocked him, he contacted me from other numbers so. Whatever plus I don't really care. I don't have feelings for him.
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Contrary to popular belief

A Gemini will not touch you with a ten foot pole if there's no positive, organic mental stimulation

Gemini truly is a very ~mental sign in many ways

Idc how hot you are, if your personality is gross to me I am officially turned off

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My personality is not "gross". 😊 Maybe it is to you but not to him. I just don't want to hurt his feelings. Ever. Also he's a Gemini but he's water dominant chart wise. He's one of ours :p

Sorry, I truly didn't mean it that way but reading back it sounded rlly bad.
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It's ok. It's all love around here. Unless it isn't haha.

Usually it's very obvious when someone comes just to hate Vs someone who is trying to help and give their opinion.



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Posted by LethalFantasia

Contrary to popular belief

A Gemini will not touch you with a ten foot pole if there's no positive, organic mental stimulation

Gemini truly is a very ~mental sign in many ways

Idc how hot you are, if your personality is gross to me I am officially turned off

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This gemini I've known for over 10 years.

Anyway. Problem solved guys I just literally took you advice and told him.

I guess I was afraid to tell him outright and when we talked about it before I always went round about ways.

Ok so he was supposed to come over tonight. He didnt.

And he told me that basically he pretty much wants to have sex with me the whole time everytime were together but he doesn't want to bother me. Lol. Because when we were younger he thinks he always used to bother me.

Haha.

I told him no thAt I loved it and I would it now.

I asked him what he would like to change moving forward and he said that he would like me to keep going after he climaxes because every time I stop and he says it's disappointing.



So that's all good.

Oh, yah I read some of it, this wasn't aimed at your personal story, just a general statement about Geminis because people seem to think we're these out of control promiscuous people or somefin'

I also read in here something about him being on meds? That can really like mess with some people's libido so that made sense to me. Either way, stop worrying and communicate w/him! I actually think you fantasizing about your ex is like rlly bad but hey, you can't really control that, the problem I think some people have is you still being in contact with him.

Either way I wish you two the best xoxoxoxoxoxox

Thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️



Ah I see. Well I haven't blocked him that's true. He's been muted.

I've stopped responding a looooong time ago though.

But I just read and move on with my life.

When I blocked him, he contacted me from other numbers so. Whatever plus I don't really care. I don't have feelings for him.



You know you and that's all that matters! I also lowkey think it was rlly brave for you to be so honest and bring that up when most people would exclude that part of the story lolz! x

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Haha well I can't get real advice if I don't tell the whole truth.
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Crappy situation. Can’t light his fire even with daily bj’s


It literally sucks.

I mean he'll receive the bj then say thank you. And be all happy. Erm...what about me ?
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Don’t marry him before talking it all over..if he is receiving bj - he must give it back. Or do 69 by sitting on his face...

I don’t think you’ll be married long time. Think...
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Crappy situation. Can’t light his fire even with daily bj’s


It literally sucks.

I mean he'll receive the bj then say thank you. And be all happy. Erm...what about me ?


Don’t marry him before talking it all over..if he is receiving bj - he must give it back. Or do 69 by sitting on his face...

I don’t think you’ll be married long time. Think...
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Hello old friend. It's ok. The issue has been sorted and solved. Thank you all for your help 🤗😍
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I need it once a day at LEAST.

If we haven't planned a date together ok I don't mind, he could at least come over to fuck me in the toilets or the changing room or somewhere like we used to when we were young then go about his business.

I'm constantly horny. We're not a the stage where we are playing games or where we feel like the other would judge us.

I mean I met him when I was 17 for god's sake.

We're way past all that now even though we went a long while without seeing each other.

My Scorpio ex is starting to become a sexual fantasy I can't seem to get out of my head. He's always trying to see me but my actual bf isn't and I've told him this already.

I don't always want to go out on dates. I want him to slam me against the wall, lift up my dress in the streets of Paris and leave me with no choice. Wtf is he playing at.


You got yourself one of these.

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He's the Gemini right? Just get into heated debates with him and transfer that heat onto physical heat. As @nanobot said, geminis have their minds running on 24/7 and at times seem disconnected to their physical stances.

Stimulate his mind then get him into the mood with some physical touches while MILDLY arguing and afterwards feed him as a reward. Repeat the process and you have a sex conditioned boyfriend who will process sex leads to food


He's not that fiery. Haha he's very sweet and emotional. He's firm though when I get on his nerves. He doesn't like it when I repeat stuff he already heard or when I tell him what NOT to do. Or when I raise my voice unnecessarily. I listen so. I rectify immediately.

😂 We usually end up having sex.
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Crappy situation. Can’t light his fire even with daily bj’s


It literally sucks.

I mean he'll receive the bj then say thank you. And be all happy. Erm...what about me ?


Don’t marry him before talking it all over..if he is receiving bj - he must give it back. Or do 69 by sitting on his face...

I don’t think you’ll be married long time. Think...


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She's a funny spud.
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Talking about it with your significant other or doing something about it would make more sense than putting it as a topic here. What do you expect? Someone to say give h a "molly" or viagra? Dress up? Try harder. I can't get people who post sexual details online, or talk about them. Maybe because sex is sacred to me. Energy created by two individuals. And PRIVATE.


Sacred or not sacred. In case it wasn't obvious I was looking for genuine answers and help.

My friends were giving me below satisfactory answers.

And so yes I asked for help. I got the help I needed.

I value dxp a lot because y'all are the ones who pretty much helped save my life and knocked sense into me.i also am able to say things here that I would never say to my close ones .

So forgive me if I'm not preserving the holy sex 🙄.

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Try fasting for a while. Maybe you'll appreciate your bf more. Hes not a sextoy. Jesus


Ptfff wtf? Where does this come from ?

I don't understand why you guys get so adamant about 'certain' shit.

When's the last time you've defended the guy on any sexual topic ?? All these ppl attacking the OP for no damn reason (or reasons they'll never admit )
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It's ok. I think some people like to give themselves reasons to feel superior to others.

I knew I would get passive aggressive comments but this Marai is a good un. I don't think the intention came from a bad place
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You have unrealistic expectations. You aren’t teenagers anymore. People can’t just drop all of their responsibilities because you want to be fucked in an alleyway.

Have you him tried telling him that you want more spontaneous sex? Do you initiate sex? Believe it or not, men like to feel wanted too and don’t always want to be the one having to initiate it.

Does he know about your ex that keeps trying to meet up?


I initiate it 80% of the time.

He initiates it when we're both in bed and about to sleep. He wakes me up from time to time in the middle of the night for sex. Which is nice.

I wake him up with BJ's.



Which responsablities ? He doesn't have any kids. He barely works. He has what one would call family money so his work (music) he does it when he feels like it. I'm the one who works. So he has the time to come a do me like there's no tomorrow.



Like someone else mentioned, everyone has different sex drives. Get on top of him in the mornings, so you both benefit from it. Don’t keep giving him Bjs if you’re going to feel resentful afterwards.. lmao. I feel like Bjs are more of a nice gesture, and it doesn’t automatically mean they have to reciprocate. If you feel differently, then you need to communicate that.

But if you’re constantly telling him you’re unsatisfied in your sex life and your ex wants to meet up then I can see where that would lead to less sex, rather than more. That isn’t going to get anyone in the mood.

Just because he doesn’t have kids or work enough to live up to your standards, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to sex. Lol. Sounds like you need to set him free and find someone else.


But I guess what we can can all agree on is that he doesn't want me. I guess. I mean he tells me that since we've been together he's had more solo times. And that he seeks porn actresses that look like me.

So I don't understand.




Would it surprise you to know that I do not agree with this statement at all? It could be true, but nothing in your story equals to that assumption from my point of view. He may be just as attracted but have a lower sex drive. He may be feeling distanced from you because he can sense your mind is elsewhere. There are so many things it could be. I wonder why that's the first thing you assume.
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Because she's projecting her insecurities and subconsciously undervalues herself.
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I hate sex everyday. So not fun.


I don't.


Cause you are used to mechanical sex.
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Lol. Do you know like ANY Scorpios 🙄

Mechanical sex ? Might as well be celibate if it's to have mechanical sex.

MY sex is steamy. Hot.sweaty. passionate

Filled with love. The love of the other and the earth that put us here.

Like a tornado.

You must not know any Scorps :p
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@LalasReturn For what it's worth, I don't think this topic was that bad/redundant as these replies are making it seem. You could've been less aggressive in your approach bt you didn't deserve half of it imo.

edit: saw your other response. gl


Thank you so much.

I truly appreciate the positive energy.

You're not the only one being very positive.

Thank goodness for that but yes I think Dxp is a place where people first react instead of responding.

Half of the people didn't bother to click on the posts where I was celebrating my love for him and the fact that I got with the love of my life yet they are jumping on me for this 🙄.

Typical but I can't deny that the thread helped.
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I’ve been with my S/O since we were 16 too and trust me this will not be the last time you go through this. It ebbs and flows

You did the right thing by communicating for sure, but just know that’s not necessarily going to “fix” it right away. He knows how you feel now, but that’s not going to magically give him a sex drive. It might be something that has to work itself out over time. Try not to take it personal. When he tells you it’s not you, it’s really not you.
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You have unrealistic expectations. You aren’t teenagers anymore. People can’t just drop all of their responsibilities because you want to be fucked in an alleyway.

Have you him tried telling him that you want more spontaneous sex? Do you initiate sex? Believe it or not, men like to feel wanted too and don’t always want to be the one having to initiate it.

Does he know about your ex that keeps trying to meet up?


I initiate it 80% of the time.

He initiates it when we're both in bed and about to sleep. He wakes me up from time to time in the middle of the night for sex. Which is nice.

I wake him up with BJ's.



Which responsablities ? He doesn't have any kids. He barely works. He has what one would call family money so his work (music) he does it when he feels like it. I'm the one who works. So he has the time to come a do me like there's no tomorrow.



Like someone else mentioned, everyone has different sex drives. Get on top of him in the mornings, so you both benefit from it. Don’t keep giving him Bjs if you’re going to feel resentful afterwards.. lmao. I feel like Bjs are more of a nice gesture, and it doesn’t automatically mean they have to reciprocate. If you feel differently, then you need to communicate that.

But if you’re constantly telling him you’re unsatisfied in your sex life and your ex wants to meet up then I can see where that would lead to less sex, rather than more. That isn’t going to get anyone in the mood.

Just because he doesn’t have kids or work enough to live up to your standards, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to sex. Lol. Sounds like you need to set him free and find someone else.


But I guess what we can can all agree on is that he doesn't want me. I guess. I mean he tells me that since we've been together he's had more solo times. And that he seeks porn actresses that look like me.

So I don't understand.




Would it surprise you to know that I do not agree with this statement at all? It could be true, but nothing in your story equals to that assumption from my point of view. He may be just as attracted but have a lower sex drive. He may be feeling distanced from you because he can sense your mind is elsewhere. There are so many things it could be. I wonder why that's the first thing you assume.


Because she's projecting her insecurities and subconsciously undervalues herself.
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Did you not see my edit at all ? Because your response is totally besides the point here and at this moment and time. The issue has been resolved. It is partly due to this thread because some of talk helped me in my approach to communicate on the issue with him. But no.

Turns out he was just worried about "bothering me" he said " je ne veux pas te déranger comme je faisais quand on était jeune. Quand on se voit et même quand t'es pas là j'ai toujours envie de toi. Sans cesse. Même quand on fait des trucs qui n'ont rien à voir. Je ne veux juste pas te déranger."

If you translate it it's cute af.

We said other stuff but that's in the edit.



In regards to your "insecurities" comment.

It's a bit awkward. It's also one of those typical responses you say to women when they express problems in their relationships. "She's projecting her insecurities."

Yet when men would want more sex from their partners you wouldn't ever dare say that.

It wouldn't even come to your attention.
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I’ve been with my S/O since we were 16 too and trust me this will not be the last time you go through this. It ebbs and flows

You did the right thing by communicating for sure, but just know that’s not necessarily going to “fix” it right away. He knows how you feel now, but that’s not going to magically give him a sex drive. It might be something that has to work itself out over time. Try not to take it personal. When he tells you it’s not you, it’s really not you.


Hello. Thank you for your input ♥️🤗

Wow that's so cute.

Bravo to you lovebirds !



I agree. But it seems that we were both scared to say how we truly felt or act on our desires. It seems the issue on his side is not desire at all.



It's initiative. He's scared he'll appear badly or offend me by trying to have sex all the time like he used to because he associates that with one of the reasons why our relationship ended in the past.

Lol that's not even close to why.
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I'm assuming the medication is for a health issue, in all honesty that's more important than sexual drive. I can think of a few that are specific for folks dealing with mental health issues and the last thing you would want is for them to fuck with the dosages.

You need to understand that is most likely harder on him than you. Y'all need to talk about it. Not about how you need more sex, but about his need for the meds and you need to decide if you can truly accept that is part of what he has to do for his health and well being.

Edit to add: I see y'all already talked, glad you sorted it out.
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I'm assuming the medication is for a health issue, in all honesty that's more important than sexual drive. I can think of a few that are specific for folks dealing with mental health issues and the last thing you would want is for them to fuck with the dosages.

You need to understand that is most likely harder on him than you. Y'all need to talk about it. Not about how you need more sex, but about his need for the meds and you need to decide if you can truly accept that is part of what he has to do for his health and well being.

Edit to add: I see y'all already talked, glad you sorted it out.


He's told me the other day that he spoke to his psychiatrist about the effects of the meds on his sex life AND his sleep.

It surprised me. We'd been talking about it but I didn't think he'd talk about it so soon. So that's progress.

Baby steps I guess but I'm not so sure anymore that he doesn't desire me or that he can't get it up after what he said earlier. It's just that he really didn't want to seem like a sex freak. I love his freakiness. Hehe.



But yes I agree we need to talk about his meds.

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You have unrealistic expectations. You aren’t teenagers anymore. People can’t just drop all of their responsibilities because you want to be fucked in an alleyway.

Have you him tried telling him that you want more spontaneous sex? Do you initiate sex? Believe it or not, men like to feel wanted too and don’t always want to be the one having to initiate it.

Does he know about your ex that keeps trying to meet up?


I initiate it 80% of the time.

He initiates it when we're both in bed and about to sleep. He wakes me up from time to time in the middle of the night for sex. Which is nice.

I wake him up with BJ's.



Which responsablities ? He doesn't have any kids. He barely works. He has what one would call family money so his work (music) he does it when he feels like it. I'm the one who works. So he has the time to come a do me like there's no tomorrow.



Like someone else mentioned, everyone has different sex drives. Get on top of him in the mornings, so you both benefit from it. Don’t keep giving him Bjs if you’re going to feel resentful afterwards.. lmao. I feel like Bjs are more of a nice gesture, and it doesn’t automatically mean they have to reciprocate. If you feel differently, then you need to communicate that.

But if you’re constantly telling him you’re unsatisfied in your sex life and your ex wants to meet up then I can see where that would lead to less sex, rather than more. That isn’t going to get anyone in the mood.

Just because he doesn’t have kids or work enough to live up to your standards, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to sex. Lol. Sounds like you need to set him free and find someone else.


But I guess what we can can all agree on is that he doesn't want me. I guess. I mean he tells me that since we've been together he's had more solo times. And that he seeks porn actresses that look like me.

So I don't understand.




Would it surprise you to know that I do not agree with this statement at all? It could be true, but nothing in your story equals to that assumption from my point of view. He may be just as attracted but have a lower sex drive. He may be feeling distanced from you because he can sense your mind is elsewhere. There are so many things it could be. I wonder why that's the first thing you assume.


Because she's projecting her insecurities and subconsciously undervalues herself.


Did you not see my edit at all ? Because your response is totally besides the point here and at this moment and time. The issue has been resolved. It is partly due to this thread because some of talk helped me in my approach to communicate on the issue with him. But no.

Turns out he was just worried about "bothering me" he said " je ne veux pas te déranger comme je faisais quand on était jeune. Quand on se voit et même quand t'es pas là j'ai toujours envie de toi. Sans cesse. Même quand on fait des trucs qui n'ont rien à voir. Je ne veux juste pas te déranger."

If you translate it it's cute af.

We said other stuff but that's in the edit.



In regards to your "insecurities" comment.

It's a bit awkward. It's also one of those typical responses you say to women when they express problems in their relationships. "She's projecting her insecurities."

Yet when men would want more sex from their partners you wouldn't ever dare say that.

It wouldn't even come to your attention.





I have no issue saying the same about men, because really, 90% of us, regardless of gender, project our insecurities - the difference is in whether or not we know we are doing it and if we're taking any proactive stance to avoid doing it.

So you're denying that you undervalued yourself by assuming he was not as attracted to you? This was what I meant when I said you subconsciously undervalued yourself:

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It might be something that has to work itself out over time. Try not to take it personal. When he tells you it’s not you, it’s really not you.
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I'm 7 hours ahead of you, so I didn't get a chance (more like I didn't have much patience left) to read the rest of the posts on this thread. But if it's been resolved then good for you.
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Anyway. Problem solved guys I just literally took your advice and told him.

So, you needed to start a thread to realise that you had to COMMUNICATE with your partner?!

jfc




It's the need for validation. A lot of people here are starving for it.
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Wtf.

I was asking for advice.

I got it. It worked.

Now I'm happy.

What kind of validation do I need 🧐 ? Staaap
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I understand what your saying.

I would worry about this all the time in my relationships because it would be a problem sometimes.

And one time it turned out the other person wasn't even interested in my vagina completely lol. So worst case scenarios do happen. Don't ever let people discourage you from that.

But also when you get emotionally closer in a relationship the need for sex will take a dive down a bit. Thats normal.

I think everyday or at least every other day or a few times a week is acceptable. If it goes weeks or months without your in huge trouble and I'd talk about it or end the relationship.

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Aaahhh Lala you may need to look at why you need so much sex. I was way over the top in my last rship. He was a younger ram and even so he used to say ‘I’m not a machine’. I was so happy to have met someone who got me that way. Looking back it was too excessive and like any addiction I had to heal it!

Just a suggestion...it may go on for years and you may find yourself unsatisfied long term like I did?

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Posted by Sag898

Why is he on medication? If it's for mental issues do not date him


That's pretty harsh advice. jeeeez


You wanna a date a bi polar person? Have fun
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Haha it's not easy.

Especially when you don't know the person but like I said I've known him for ages and his family is a long term family friend long before both of us were even born.

So we've got this. I can handle him.

Tbh I preferred him when he was off his meds.

But whatever.