My gut is telling me not to trust her, but I really love her.

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Posted by vanballmoos
I don't think she cheated or would ever cheat.

I know she lied about one small thing when we were arguing to keep the peace according to him. After a fight she mentioned how she wanted to buy me a card (to say sorry). A few days later I asked if her got the card and she said yes but lost it. I knew she was lying so I confronted her and she admitted to it. She said I had just been getting so upset lately that she didn’t want to argue anymore and wanted to keep the peace. That’s the only thing I know for certain she lied about.

Also, I swear she told me that her ex had an issue with her being honest about things, but she said he cheated on her and that she never told me that. Before I mentioned that to her I talked to her best friend and said, “I know her ex said he had an issue with him lying?”. She responded by saying, “I don’t know what relationship you’re speaking of because that didn’t happen. He was the liar and he cheated on her”. Now she did say when we were getting to know each othe that her ex did cheat on her.

I'm a taurus she's a leo

Lol a card!!



This is because she didn't buy the card!



Yeah you need to stay single. Don't bring anyone into that kind of mess.

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Posted by UnicornSag
I expected something real. But this is just paranoia talking. You can't accuse someone to be a liar based on some irrelevant thing or things you don't really know about is all I can say...

Posted by EtherealTraveler
... your reasoning of a lie sounds horribly petty but ok, do what you want

Posted by vanballmoos
I've never loved any woman the way that I love her. She's the first person I could truly see myself marrying. The thing is my gut is telling me not to trust her. My gut tells me she's never cheated-just that she lies. I even told her that I never believed that she would cheat. I told her if she would just admit to lying to me we could move forward with the relationship. She said that she wouldn't confess to something that she didn't do. So then I broke up with her. She then said it's because I'm damaged and I just can't see it. My last two serious relationships both women cheated on me and multiple times. The thing is my gut has never gone off about a woman like this before. It just sucks. I love her and wanted to stay but felt like I couldn't with me feeling there weren't things she wasn't being honest about. I just don't know if I made the right choice.

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Posted by EtherealTraveler
... your reasoning of a lie sounds horribly petty but ok, do what you want

how so?

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Posted by RooSagicorn

Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

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Posted by vanballmoos

Posted by RooSagicorn

Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

Yea we had been arguing a lot. As far as the car I was just asking because I was genuinely curious what happened with it.

The thing is I gave my ex who cheated on me more of a pass becuase she would eventually tell the truth. I'd rather be cheated on than lied to. I really don't think I'm paranoid. Even if I didn't think she was lying her actions looked dishonest I interpreted them as such.

Well I don’t know what all is going on here, but it sounds like there is a bigger underlying issue. She does not feel safe to be honest with you or it’s just the tip of the iceberg with lying. Does lying happen often to you?

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

Yea we had been arguing a lot. As far as the car I was just asking because I was genuinely curious what happened with it.

The thing is I gave my ex who cheated on me more of a pass becuase she would eventually tell the truth. I'd rather be cheated on than lied to. I really don't think I'm paranoid. Even if I didn't think she was lying her actions looked dishonest I interpreted them as such.

Well I don’t know what all is going on here, but it sounds like there is a bigger underlying issue. She does not feel safe to be honest with you or it’s just the tip of the iceberg with lying. Does lying happen often to you?

My two last relationships they both cheated. My last ex cheated on me multiple times even though she knew my ex before her had cheated on me as well.

I would be surprised if you weren’t insecure & worried it would happen again. The problem with that is it can create problems when the other person isn’t being trusted when they feel they should be. So you focus on the lie, but actually maybe you should look at what was happening between you two previous to the lie. The lie may have happened because of what was happening between the two of you. Not because she’s a liar. That’s all I’m saying.

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

Yea we had been arguing a lot. As far as the car I was just asking because I was genuinely curious what happened with it.

The thing is I gave my ex who cheated on me more of a pass becuase she would eventually tell the truth. I'd rather be cheated on than lied to. I really don't think I'm paranoid. Even if I didn't think she was lying her actions looked dishonest I interpreted them as such.

Well I don’t know what all is going on here, but it sounds like there is a bigger underlying issue. She does not feel safe to be honest with you or it’s just the tip of the iceberg with lying. Does lying happen often to you?

My two last relationships they both cheated. My last ex cheated on me multiple times even though she knew my ex before her had cheated on me as well.

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

Yea we had been arguing a lot. As far as the car I was just asking because I was genuinely curious what happened with it.

The thing is I gave my ex who cheated on me more of a pass becuase she would eventually tell the truth. I'd rather be cheated on than lied to. I really don't think I'm paranoid. Even if I didn't think she was lying her actions looked dishonest I interpreted them as such.

Well I don’t know what all is going on here, but it sounds like there is a bigger underlying issue. She does not feel safe to be honest with you or it’s just the tip of the iceberg with lying. Does lying happen often to you?

My two last relationships they both cheated. My last ex cheated on me multiple times even though she knew my ex before her had cheated on me as well.

I would be surprised if you weren’t insecure & worried it would happen again. The problem with that is it can create problems when the other person isn’t being trusted when they feel they should be. So you focus on the lie, but actually maybe you should look at what was happening between you two previous to the lie. The lie may have happened because of what was happening between the two of you. Not because she’s a liar. That’s all I’m saying.

I’m not sure if you’ll agree but I think it’s a self fulfilling prophecy for OP. This is an actually decent guy and she’s waiting for the other shoe to drop. If she finds even the smallest thing she uses that to say, “aha, I knew it!”. Deep down I think OP knows that he isn’t untrustworthy but she’s scared that she’ll ultimately be cheated on again.

Do you think OP will regret leaving her boyfriend?

Isn’t OP a guy & he’s talking about his girlfriend? Well anyway, I think yes it’s possible that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy situation.

It is also possible he’s right & he has a pattern going on here. Only more time would tell for sure.

But I’ve been the other side with my bf who is scared he’ll be hurt after a cheating ex & I had to withstand a lot of insecurity. Luckily we are past that but it took a long time..

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Posted by nikkistar
Wait, you are pissed about her lying about buying a card? WUT?

No, I’m upset that she lied about it.

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Wait, you are pissed about her lying about buying a card? WUT?

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

"The truth often takes the stairs while lies take the elevator, but both find their way to the top floor all the same."

@nikkistar

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Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

"The truth often takes the stairs while lies take the elevator, but both find their way to the top floor all the same."

@nikkistar

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Posted by RooSagicorn

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Posted by RooSagicorn

Posted by tctao
I agree with @RooSagicorn - you are overly sensitive to this - also, seems like you may be twisting some things without realizing it since the friend told you you had it backwards.

I would give it more time if I was you. Because it's not over something that isn't fixable. And believe me, I do not like to be lied to either but I'm not as sensitive - if one lies, it will eventually iron itself out - the real truth cream always rises to the top.

I agree with this, but also I have a bigger question. Why did she not feel like she could tell you the truth? She knew you would make a big deal out of nothing, so she lied to keep the peace. That is a far bigger issue. I think you should address the source not the small lie.

I know my son lies sometimes, and it is not done in a harmful way but because he doesn’t want someone to be disappointed with him. Sounds like you two have been arguing a lot. Are you expecting something bad to happen? I mean why even question whether she actually bought the card?

Yea we had been arguing a lot. As far as the car I was just asking because I was genuinely curious what happened with it.

The thing is I gave my ex who cheated on me more of a pass becuase she would eventually tell the truth. I'd rather be cheated on than lied to. I really don't think I'm paranoid. Even if I didn't think she was lying her actions looked dishonest I interpreted them as such.

Well I don’t know what all is going on here, but it sounds like there is a bigger underlying issue. She does not feel safe to be honest with you or it’s just the tip of the iceberg with lying. Does lying happen often to you?

My two last relationships they both cheated. My last ex cheated on me multiple times even though she knew my ex before her had cheated on me as well.

I would be surprised if you weren’t insecure & worried it would happen again. The problem with that is it can create problems when the other person isn’t being trusted when they feel they should be. So you focus on the lie, but actually maybe you should look at what was happening between you two previous to the lie. The lie may have happened because of what was happening between the two of you. Not because she’s a liar. That’s all I’m saying.

I’m not sure if you’ll agree but I think it’s a self fulfilling prophecy for OP. This is an actually decent guy and she’s waiting for the other shoe to drop. If she finds even the smallest thing she uses that to say, “aha, I knew it!”. Deep down I think OP knows that he isn’t untrustworthy but she’s scared that she’ll ultimately be cheated on again.

Do you think OP will regret leaving her boyfriend?

Isn’t OP a guy & he’s talking about his girlfriend? Well anyway, I think yes it’s possible that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy situation.

It is also possible he’s right & he has a pattern going on here. Only more time would tell for sure.

But I’ve been the other side with my bf who is scared he’ll be hurt after a cheating ex & I had to withstand a lot of insecurity. Luckily we are past that but it took a long time..

Oh yea whoops yea you're right.

So you're saying that you don't think he'll regret his decision to break up with her?

Maybe he will. But if he can’t get past the lie, then no. That is what is important to him & protecting himself. Who knows maybe he will after she’s gone for awhile & realize he needs to heal and it wasn’t about her after all. I hope he does & decides to heal. It can be pretty miserable having those types of insecurities.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

I already went through it lol smh

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

I already went through it lol smh

What did you find?

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

I already went through it lol smh

What did you find?

Nothing.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

I already went through it lol smh

What did you find?

Nothing.

So what kinda proof do you have not to trust her? Feelings and unfounded suspicion aren't proof.

If you don't have reason to not trust her is it possible your working out other issues through your relationship?

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Posted by sagaciouscorp
Ur way extreme

Taurus and issue making up stories

I had a

Telephone call it was my mom so I didn’t answer

Wtf

Over react for sure

How untrustworthy is that

No you ex not calling her freind back right away means nothing

You fucked up big time!!

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ask for the phone password 😂😂😂

I already went through it lol smh

What did you find?

Nothing.

So what kinda proof do you have not to trust her? Feelings and unfounded suspicion aren't proof.

If you don't have reason to not trust her is it possible your working out other issues through your relationship?

Well besides my gut when her best friend call when we're together she'll say I'm going to call you back, but wont, or will say I'm getting ready to go to the gym I'll call you back and she won't go until hours later. When we argue she says way too often that she didn't say something that I swear she said. She claims I bring up stuff so much later that I can't expect her to remember something she said word for word that long ago. I just don't believe her.

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Posted by sagaciouscorp
No because u are stuck on making her bad and a liar

But you’ll never see it, because u see it one way.



There are many reason that people might behave a certain way and your set at seeing it negatively.

What if is she is being considerate

I would not call my freind back until I got home because frankly I cherish my time with my partner and I’d be thinking I’m being considerate .

Taurus broke up because he suspect something up when I didn’t want to talk to my mom while with him while dating. Because that week I had a bruise on my inner thigh due to motocross. And I was innocent

That hurt the most. But I’ll never put urself on her shoes with what if I’m wrong!

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Posted by vanballmoos
I don't think she cheated or would ever cheat.

I know she lied about one small thing when we were arguing to keep the peace according to him. After a fight she mentioned how she wanted to buy me a card (to say sorry). A few days later I asked if her got the card and she said yes but lost it. I knew she was lying so I confronted her and she admitted to it. She said I had just been getting so upset lately that she didn’t want to argue anymore and wanted to keep the peace. That’s the only thing I know for certain she lied about.

Also, I swear she told me that her ex had an issue with her being honest about things, but she said he cheated on her and that she never told me that. Before I mentioned that to her I talked to her best friend and said, “I know her ex said he had an issue with him lying?”. She responded by saying, “I don’t know what relationship you’re speaking of because that didn’t happen. He was the liar and he cheated on her”. Now she did say when we were getting to know each othe that her ex did cheat on her.

I'm a taurus she's a leo

Lol a card!!



This is because she didn't buy the card!



Yeah you need to stay single. Don't bring anyone into that kind of mess.

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