Need help deciphering...

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

How did she know where you lived? Is this someone you know it online? Were you attracted to her?

These days it seem nobody wants a serious relationship anymore. I think those days are long gone. Like boomer generation🤔? And women all they do want is one night stands and only one night to test the waters with you. And maybe have a baby to try and set you up for child support. That's why I usually go for women older than me cus I know they serious. These young bucks are all about games and I don't have time for that. I been there myself.

I still can't figure out why people on here wants advice on their personal relationships from strangers. I'd rather spend money on counselling first. But you seem like you are about the only one here who has their head on straight in comparison to the other users here so I only can wish I could help out more.

Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

Because you're trying to find it outside of yourself. In order to have your desires gravitate towards you, you have to start living like you already have such a thing. Live a life style of a high class gentleman who has no needs in life because his desires are fulfilled. The energy we project is real and scientifically proven. So you can either change the signal you're projecting or keep projecting the needy energy you are giving out. I'm not saying you're needy. I'm saying that the energy you're projecting right now is that something is missing. Which is why you keep getting one night stands or brief intimate encounters. New Energy. New Thoughts. New Outcome.

Posted by sweethearts

How did she know where you lived? Is this someone you know it online? Were you attracted to her?

She would pick her daughter up from her mom's place a few houses down pretty regularly. We ran into each other randomly and started talking. In all honesty, I probably would have been interested but she was acting a little unusual and like I said I was in the process of somewhat taxing life changes...

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

These days it seem nobody wants a serious relationship anymore. I think those days are long gone. Like boomer generation🤔? And women all they do want is one night stands and only one night to test the waters with you. And maybe have a baby to try and set you up for child support. That's why I usually go for women older than me cus I know they serious. These young bucks are all about games and I don't have time for that. I been there myself.

I still can't figure out why people on here wants advice on their personal relationships from strangers. I'd rather spend money on counselling first. But you seem like you are about the only one here who has their head on straight in comparison to the other users here so I only can wish I could help out more.

that actually seems pretty observant

I can post this topic because I'm not actually looking for advice or support on something I've done in the past, but I feel like it helps to have another set of eyes on a situation so I may be further educated to make wiser decisions in the future.

At the end of the day I'm going to do what I'm going to do. I don't have too much pride to ask for another point of view.

Posted by PeakSoy

I saw you trying to marry the cleaner of your hotel room in another thread

LOL

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

Because you're trying to find it outside of yourself. In order to have your desires gravitate towards you, you have to start living like you already have such a thing. Live a life style of a high class gentleman who has no needs in life because his desires are fulfilled. The energy we project is real and scientifically proven. So you can either change the signal you're projecting or keep projecting the needy energy you are giving out. I'm not saying you're needy. I'm saying that the energy you're projecting right now is that something is missing. Which is why you keep getting one night stands or brief intimate encounters. New Energy. New Thoughts. New Outcome.

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Thanks for the clarification on me not actually being needy, so you are saying that my post sounds needy... that's kind of a blanket statement. I see aspects of frustration, confusion, venting, and more frustration.

I think you focused on the post, which is the here and now, and I need you to focus on the content.

Hah, you're right, I'm needy.

Posted by PeakSoy

I saw you trying to marry the cleaner of your hotel room in another thread

DUDE, she was hot. and she cleaned my place. that's a win-win.

Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

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I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

Posted by Pulsy

Life comes at you And it picks you the same as the women. Like another poster said if you want something different you behave like it.mesning don’t go for one night stands

So let's fast forward to more recently, let me ask what am I supposed to do when I am currently in a situation where I am surrounded by people or mutually attracted to people that having a relationship with is just not ideal. either they are married, out of age group, etc

or, hell, their current life's events prevent them from stepping out of their shell.

because the way I see it, the problem is not me.... i'm not perfect, but i have pretty much zero hangups

I am a taurus, but I have sag rising and aries moon... there is very little I am afraid of besides not finding someone to have a happy life with.

Posted by twinkletoes

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

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If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

Posted by twinkletoes

Posted by Pulsy

Life comes at you And it picks you the same as the women. Like another poster said if you want something different you behave like it.mesning don’t go for one night stands

So let's fast forward to more recently, let me ask what am I supposed to do when I am currently in a situation where I am surrounded by people or mutually attracted to people that having a relationship with is just not ideal. either they are married, out of age group, etc

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I’m in the same boat so you’re not the only one, there’s millions of us and someone special for you given the chance. So, Bide your time, figure out what’s important to you in a partner and what you can overlook and relax. Sometimes it might be age or in my case I’ve realised they’re going to have children and probably younger than my ideal but that’s not a deal breaker. When you figure it out, then you’ll know her when you meet her.

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by twinkletoes

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Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

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so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by twinkletoes

Posted by Pulsy

Life comes at you And it picks you the same as the women. Like another poster said if you want something different you behave like it.mesning don’t go for one night stands

So let's fast forward to more recently, let me ask what am I supposed to do when I am currently in a situation where I am surrounded by people or mutually attracted to people that having a relationship with is just not ideal. either they are married, out of age group, etc

I’m in the same boat so you’re not the only one, there’s millions of us and someone special for you given the chance. So, Bide your time, figure out what’s important to you in a partner and what you can overlook and relax. Sometimes it might be age or in my case I’ve realised they’re going to have children and probably younger than my ideal but that’s not a deal breaker. When you figure it out, then you’ll know her when you meet her.

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So, yah... i'm pretty set on believing i can tell right away... like the above example, she started acting bizarre after a few few drinks, and then she started looking up all this arabic shit on youtube and blasting it. when she started belly dancing I was like "ummmm..... ok" and then I got all paranoid thinking "oh shit... what if she's a terrorist or something. why's she obsessed over this shit. she's puerto rican. maybe if I sleep with her this paranoia will go away." and it did, but then i was already gone when i got over it.

I think my problem is i'm just overthinking all of this shit.

Posted by twinkletoes

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Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

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How has that worked out for you so far??

You’re putting sex ahead of actually getting to know and like someone. And yes I believe I know straight away face to face or within a few conversations online if I’m really interested in a person, so obviously a connection can be there quickly... but is it a lasting connection?

No harm in holding off on the sex, in fact I think it can make it all the more meaningful. Sex for men and sex for woman can change the whole dynamics of a situation and if I’m correct the lady you’re looking for won’t give it up that easily.

Months apart, I meant a connection that’s worth exploring. I’ve had times over a year and no ones tweak my interest.

Maybe it’s different with men, not as fussy **shrugs**

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Posted by twinkletoes

what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

How has that worked out for you so far??

You’re putting sex ahead of actually getting to know and like someone. And yes I believe I know straight away face to face or within a few conversations online if I’m really interested in a person, so obviously a connection can be there quickly... but is it a lasting connection?

No harm in holding off on the sex, in fact I think it can make it all the more meaningful. Sex for men and sex for woman can change the whole dynamics of a situation and if I’m correct the lady you’re looking for won’t give it up that easily.

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so if sex is that impactful, wouldn't that make it something you would want to explore right away? i'm not saying holding off on sex is harmful, but i'm wondering if it is really harmful if you do have sex right away?

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Months apart, I meant a connection that’s worth exploring. I’ve had times over a year and no ones tweak my interest.

Maybe it’s different with men, not as fussy **shrugs**

times of what....

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what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

How has that worked out for you so far??

You’re putting sex ahead of actually getting to know and like someone. And yes I believe I know straight away face to face or within a few conversations online if I’m really interested in a person, so obviously a connection can be there quickly... but is it a lasting connection?

No harm in holding off on the sex, in fact I think it can make it all the more meaningful. Sex for men and sex for woman can change the whole dynamics of a situation and if I’m correct the lady you’re looking for won’t give it up that easily.

so if sex is that impactful, wouldn't that make it something you would want to explore right away? i'm not saying holding off on sex is harmful, but i'm wondering if it is really harmful if you do have sex right away?

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It comes back down to how men and woman differ when it comes to sex, how it changes the thinking. Someone here posted this in another thread and while it’s not gospel to all woman and men, it sums Up a good majority of the differences. Just recently went through it something similar myself and no sex but completely different wave lengths when I thought we were on the same page 🤔

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/the-brutally-honest-phases-of-a-man-falling-in-love

Oh and to spell it out,(your last question) I’ve gone a whole year or more and not met anyone that I wanted to explore a relationship with. Just didn’t feel it

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what the freak is going on with my romantic life.

So i'm pretty much confused as hell.

a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.

it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.

i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"

I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”

1. She was either game playing or

2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.

Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?

maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

How has that worked out for you so far??

You’re putting sex ahead of actually getting to know and like someone. And yes I believe I know straight away face to face or within a few conversations online if I’m really interested in a person, so obviously a connection can be there quickly... but is it a lasting connection?

No harm in holding off on the sex, in fact I think it can make it all the more meaningful. Sex for men and sex for woman can change the whole dynamics of a situation and if I’m correct the lady you’re looking for won’t give it up that easily.

so if sex is that impactful, wouldn't that make it something you would want to explore right away? i'm not saying holding off on sex is harmful, but i'm wondering if it is really harmful if you do have sex right away?

It comes back down to how men and woman differ when it comes to sex, how it changes the thinking. Someone here posted this in another thread and while it’s not gospel to all woman and men, it sums Up a good majority of the differences. Just recently went through it something similar myself and no sex but completely different wave lengths when I thought we were on the same page 🤔

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/the-brutally-honest-phases-of-a-man-falling-in-love

Oh and to spell it out,(your last question) I’ve gone a whole year or more and not met anyone that I wanted to explore a relationship with. Just didn’t feel it

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that's a somewhat decent overall picture I think.... is there something like that from a female perspective?

It’s pretty much telling what the women’s thinking through the stages... can you not see it.

And yes it was accurate for the last guy I was exploring a relationship with... well that’s what I thought anyway, sadly 😢

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It’s pretty much telling what the women’s thinking through the stages... can you not see it.

And yes it was accurate for the last guy I was exploring a relationship with... well that’s what I thought anyway, sadly 😢

Oh... Is it on the same page? If it is, I can't see it

I'm still kind of deciding how accurate I feel it is, I can kind of relate to some of it but I'm not sure I agree with the order or the breakdown... I wish I could explain it better, but there are somethings I can't deny about having fiery placements

As I said it isn’t gospel, just a assessment of the different way men and women think and act.

I see some truth in it and judging by some of the threads around here... it applies to a fair amount of relationships that the women are relaying on here