Old-Fashioned Romance ......

So I have been dating this guy for a month now. It has been going along swimmingly well. I have to admit he is throwing me for a loop because of his old-fashioned approach to dating. It is endearing and charming. He does not want to rush into sexual relations and really is looking for a connection. I am just floored. Never met someone like him. He gives me hope that there are hopless romantic type men out there. I honestly thought they did not exist. He is a pisces and I am a pisces. Yep falling pretty hard for this one. He is amazing when he tells me "I am looking forward to seeing you". We spend counteless hours on the phone when we are apart and when it is time to say good-bye ...it is hard to do.

I had no idea that there were guys like this. He takes my breath away. *smiley sigh*

Has anyone else ever met someone like this?

PD

Does he open the doors for you when you go places?? I know some guys go in before the women..smh.

I think there are some out there still. But i think that we women have kinda ruined this approach. I will probably catch heat for this, but women have fought hard for womens rights and equalities. But i think it was almost pushed too far in some sense. Not for us, but the consequences of years of pushing this, i think men''s number one problem is they don't really know their roles any more. I mean think about it. with all the independence of women, how are they supposed to know the degree at which that women takes their independence? I think i'm a good example. I'm not one of them women that expects a man to pay for everything. i'm my own women and i feel that a man buying things like that, makes me owe them something. and i owe no one anything.
alot of women right now are the bread winners. how does a man know his role if he no longer is the head of household?

I read a great article about this and how the roles of couples are so ever changing. There are men out there now, taking care of the home while the women rule the job. It was really interesting because it talked about how those men that are more the stay at home because it meets the needs of the family, how they make it work by the man tending more towards the woman. Ensuring all fo their emotional needs are being met and it was working out so well. it's was really interesting. wish i could remember the stats and more of it. But unfortunately my gemini restlessness caused me to skim it more then study it. 😢

have i ever met an old-fashioned, hopeless romantic man? absolutely. did they take my breath away? nope. it's not that i'm against it, it's just that i am not old-fashioned nor conventional. i can only get into this if it's just the right guy. that means he'll normally have quirks and be a little off-beat and rough around the edges but he may have some deeply rooted traditional style s of showing his love. that's ok by me!

Posted by BaBy-GrL414
I think there are some out there still. But i think that we women have kinda ruined this approach. I will probably catch heat for this, but women have fought hard for womens rights and equalities. But i think it was almost pushed too far in some sense. Not for us, but the consequences of years of pushing this, i think men''s number one problem is they don't really know their roles any more. I mean think about it. with all the independence of women, how are they supposed to know the degree at which that women takes their independence? I think i'm a good example. I'm not one of them women that expects a man to pay for everything. i'm my own women and i feel that a man buying things like that, makes me owe them something. and i owe no one anything.
alot of women right now are the bread winners. how does a man know his role if he no longer is the head of household?

I read a great article about this and how the roles of couples are so ever changing. There are men out there now, taking care of the home while the women rule the job. It was really interesting because it talked about how those men that are more the stay at home because it meets the needs of the family, how they make it work by the man tending more towards the woman. Ensuring all fo their emotional needs are being met and it was working out so well. it's was really interesting. wish i could remember the stats and more of it. But unfortunately my gemini restlessness caused me to skim it more then study it. 😢

yeah, they're called "femi-nazis". don't ball up in defense over it. i'm all for women's rights, equality, and freedom too but of course there are gonna be dumbasses who take it to a whole other level. they're the ones often demeaning their own kind for choosing to be a housewife and mother and hate men too. i don't know how but i managed to keep it flowing in this newer world. i am extremely independent, pay my own way, and kind of a ball-buster yet i retain my femininity. i play a more submissive, traditionally "woman's role" in my domestic life though. u just gotta find what works best for u and ur partner. things change and we are pushed to adapt.

"i am extremely independent, pay my own way, and kind of a ball-buster yet i retain my femininity. i play a more submissive, traditionally "woman's role" in my domestic life though."

lol i have no problems i'm just like that comment you said. 100% . i just just putting my 2 cents in on how some men prolly got issues like some women got identity issues with their roles.

I just see so much drama in relationship over who wears the pants.

I dont' know bout you ninja, but i get far better responses from my man when i'm letting him lead. and the funny thing is most of the time i let him lead, i'm still directing but in the sidelines where they don't even realize i run the show. 😉 but i like it like that. this way, your building your man up, he grows, things get done and everyone wins.

i know i found a great balance between strong independent woman and good lil wifey. i just know alot of women haven't figured that out. and if they haven't figured that out how is their man supposed to know which is up and whats down?

babygrl - I think there is a lot of truth to what you are saying. I know I offended him in a way because when he was trying to communicate to me that he wanted to take things slow, I was like WTH ....do you think I am picking wedding china out? That was not what he meant at all. He wanted to take the connection to be slow and easy to savor the moments. I am just so used to guys wanting to conquer the physical aspect of the relations. I know sad to say .....I have to admit I have been single and independent for so long, I forgot what it was like to have someone in my life and really experiencing a connection. I don't remember what it is like to have someone interested in "me" the emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physically the whole gammat ...and likewise. When I am talking about old-fashioned romance I am not talking about the tab and doors ....I am talking about an actual courtship .....'The Notebook' kinda of romance. I honestly did not think it existed. So often I have had physical relations with someone just because it seemed like the natural state of progression of relations. If any of you know me, I am pretty liberal when it comes to sexuality. Over the years I have learned to seperate the connection to sexual gratification. This is not what I was expecting with my pisces.....I have been pleasently surprised ......it feels amazing. *Feeling giddy inside*

FeistyAquarian - You said it best " It shows respect and I dunno, I just like it 🙂" Yep ....EXACTLY!!! It is a great foundation for something grand.

I seriously had lost hope and faith that there was true romance out there ......I really did until he came along. The past made me a bit jaded and since meeting pisces there is a softer side of me that has surfaced and I like the way it feels. 🙂

*Sparkly smiles*

PD

Me either Ladybug162. I used to call it Cinderella Syndrome .....thinking it did not exist. My guy is really a special one, like no one I have ever met. 🙂

Thank you!!

PD

I agree that when it comes down to it it's suppose to be 50/50. I'll be hanged before I let someone take care of me finacially. I'm able bodied. I can earn just like the rest of you.

But shocking to most even in RL with me I like the old fashion types. I like having the door held for me and the little things like that *blush* I'm not gonna throw a huge fit and feel entitled to that but it's disappointing when that doesn't happen anymore.

The other day I was walking out a door and a man stepped in front of me so i was holding the door for him and he kept walking without even a thank you. I thought that was kinda rude and it irritated me. It irritated me that it irritated me though 😛 I can hold a door for crying out loud but it's just that old fashion thing isn't there alot anymore.

Aries forgets his manners sometimes but *shrug* If I have sons you better believe Mama Ginger is gonna teach them manners 😄

I'm so happy for you PD!!!! Yay!!!

Thank you all for the well wishes. I have not experienced something like this since Sagittarius a few years ago, however this connection seems more soulful than the other. It is grand. I get to spend time with him tomorrow night so looking forward to it. He sends me the most romantic text this morning. He says "Just thinking of you, I wish you were here to snuggle with." Awwwww I ran a race this morning and wished me a well race. 🙂 We are going salsa dancing this weekend. Should be fun. 🙂 *Sparkly sparkly sparkly GRAND smile* hehehehehehe

PD

"babygrl - I think there is a lot of truth to what you are saying. I know I offended him in a way because when he was trying to communicate to me that he wanted to take things slow, I was like WTH ....do you think I am picking wedding china out? That was not what he meant at all. He wanted to take the connection to be slow and easy to savor the moments. I am just so used to guys wanting to conquer the physical aspect of the relations. I know sad to say .....I have to admit I have been single and independent for so long, I forgot what it was like to have someone in my life and really experiencing a connection. I don't remember what it is like to have someone interested in "me" the emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physically the whole gammat ...and likewise. When I am talking about old-fashioned romance I am not talking about the tab and doors ....I am talking about an actual courtship .....'The Notebook' kinda of romance. I honestly did not think it existed. So often I have had physical relations with someone just because it seemed like the natural state of progression of relations. If any of you know me, I am pretty liberal when it comes to sexuality. Over the years I have learned to seperate the connection to sexual gratification. This is not what I was expecting with my pisces.....I have been pleasently surprised ......it feels amazing. *Feeling giddy inside* "

That's sooo fun isn't it? when you find that, everything is ok. especially if it continues though time. say years into it. I'm about oh 4 years into it, some bumps and bruises, but that is lif. We work through everything, talk about everything, someone always bends alittle so we agree. He does all the little things i love, still to this day i get feet amssages, back rubs, dinner made for me, help with chores and lil suprises. He still "courts" me, and i really feel its because he loves me THAT much. I can tell he has a "stake" in our relationship. There is a huge difference there. it's almost like people reserve themselves for that.. break up. and forget that in order to acheive a healthy and full filled relationship, both people have to invest themselves in it or they will forever be divided and the union can't come together. they don't stand a chance over the long term cuz it's so easy to leave. I don't know, i invest fully into all i do until i they don't deserve that.

Enjoy and manicure what you are building with him.

Posted by Gingerscorp
I agree that when it comes down to it it's suppose to be 50/50. I'll be hanged before I let someone take care of me finacially. I'm able bodied. I can earn just like the rest of you.

But shocking to most even in RL with me I like the old fashion types. I like having the door held for me and the little things like that *blush* I'm not gonna throw a huge fit and feel entitled to that but it's disappointing when that doesn't happen anymore.

The other day I was walking out a door and a man stepped in front of me so i was holding the door for him and he kept walking without even a thank you. I thought that was kinda rude and it irritated me. It irritated me that it irritated me though 😛 I can hold a door for crying out loud but it's just that old fashion thing isn't there alot anymore.

Aries forgets his manners sometimes but *shrug* If I have sons you better believe Mama Ginger is gonna teach them manners 😄

I'm so happy for you PD!!!! Yay!!!

I have had the same experience when holding the door for someone LOL

Well Pisces and I are in an official exclusive relationship!!! *Smiles big* It is grand. 🙂

PD

I believe what PD is referring to is more so being a gentlemen, that is the way ladies are supposed to be treated....not every man is a gentleman and not every one woman is a lady...

Im like this... I made my pisces wait 2 months for physical connection. But i have been out on dates with a few women who refuse to let me open the door or pay. The dates were usually over quickly with those ones. I like a feminine girl who makes me feel masculine at times. I enjoy romance and you just cant have it with those types.

But confused men is generally why less of us are getting married now. Or are waiting well into the 30s to even consider it. Every human being deserves freedom respect and equality. But many women i think now are finding that the romantic caring men are few and far between. In a lot of ways being to alpha female makes us feel un-masculine. It sucks but i think the crazy hardcore feminists crossed the bridge and then burnt it down behind themselves. Forgetting that perhaps that it may have been better to meet halfway rather than storm the castle.

old fashioned romance makes me think of a capricorn i used to date. he lived down the street from my older sister and we went on lots of walks back and forth. i could figure out the the hell he was doing but he always seemed to be scrambling around deciding what side he wanted to walk on but then after a couple dates i realized he was walking on the side closest to the curb. sometimes i miss that capricorn....HAHA JUST KIDDING! no but really, he was quite the gentleman

^^^couldn't figure out is what i meant