@Centaur12
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You made the right decision
And I said no because you keep playing this friends games saying we are friends and acting like we are in a relationship together I.e sleeping together staying in the same bed all week seeing eachothers children having dinner around her house in the weekday and taking the kids out acting funny over other people showing interest etc you know all the stuff that comes with a relationship.
She wants to stay friends, no relationship... you've known this for months. Hell we've all known this for months.
If you continue to act like your in a relationship, sleeping together, staying at hers, bringing your kids around... thats on you.
At some point you need to stop playing a victim and own up to YOUR choices.
She going to do whatever she wants
You’re going to stick around
So just keep sticking
She’s manipulating you & then you question yourself. Stand your ground, and move on!
Block her.. I had to do that with my ex-Cap and now it’s so peaceful 😁 He pulled the same shit for years btw after we had a relationship and then it was wah wah on a commitment. Whatever 🤦♀️😡 The peace is nice!
🙄 she's not going to commit... get over it
Exactly OP is crying over spilled milk. How desperate can 1 guy be geez. Is this like a million threads and counting.
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I can't remember what post it was on but I remember some of you guys said that you must be friends with a Gemini first of all.
I am questioning my self if I done the right thing or not.
Gem rang me and said well you wasn't going to call me was you ?
And I said no because you keep playing this friends games saying we are friends and acting like we are in a relationship together I.e sleeping together staying in the same bed all week seeing eachothers children having dinner around her house in the weekday and taking the kids out acting funny over other people showing interest etc you know all the stuff that comes with a relationship.
So I told her you know what I want and thats a proper relationship with you so I said have you made your decision she said its still the same I said what friends ?? and she replied yes so she tried talking over me and I said look I'm not fucking around anymore I want a proper relationship with you or nothing cut the bullshit and she said what so your just going to cut me out of your life I said don't even dare say I'm doing that you know how I feel and I told you I want a proper relationship I'm going bye and put the phone down.
She text to say I'm not going to lie I need to delete your number because I will be to tempted to call or text you.
She said I wish you the best and be happy I hope we can meet up in the future it would be lush to.
She said I have heard what you want and I respect that but it isn't as easy for me and I questioned her why and she couldn't answer its bullshit.
There's nothing stopping us being together properly.
What I am asking is did I do the right this by giving her the ultimatum or should I have continued to be her friend hoping to secure the relationship that way.
I know most of your views on this situation and on the Gem but I'm asking if this was the right thing to do in order to have a chance on breaking the cycle and having her comitte to a relationship.