Scorpio at a loss for words...

Well,I met this pisces guy cause, I sold him a truck...we had a total connection at first site!!! I used any follow up excuse I could to contact him (cause I am a scorpio)Ha! Great convo...sweet texts... this went on for months and months until..We decided we would meet!!YAH!!He wanted me to stay with him for the weekend, due to his work, Iwould have to go there.So,I decided to buy an 800.00 plane ticket and go....Well, the day I was due to leave he text me and said:"uh I don't know how, I will be able to see you!! I'm like What!!!I couldn't text fast enough... I'm like why? He was like my girlfriend might get mad!!(NOW YOU ALL HAVE TO KNOW,I ASKED HIM MORE THAN TWICE, IF HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND!!)So,I BLEW UP HIS PHONE WITH TEXTS FOR DAYS!! Then.. I recieved a message that said leave me alone, you crazy b...I was so upset!! Then it is followed by a voice mail that was from him that said I care about you, but we can no longer talk cause it upsets my girlfriend!!So after like a month,I was missing his sweetness and I had to see how he was doing so I text him and he responded later in the day!! (OK AND I REALLY WANTED AN ANSWER...Cause I am in a very unhappy relationship and he new that(I was honest)and he had no reason to lie!! Ok so... to move on to today over a month ago he text me and said I think of you all the time...and blah blah... of course I have fallen for his sweet words again!! He wanted me to get on a plane and he would pay last weekend but... I am a little reserved...I know our connection will be great...but is it worth it??

No. Unless you've broken it off with your man and he's broken it off with his girlfriend. Free as birds then.
Do you really want to go sneaking around and go through the merry-go-round crap to be with a cheater?

Well thats the case he is noo longer with her however,I just don't know if I trust him!! Yet,I was soo close to jumping on that plane!! Hes like book your flight...just do it... it will be soo much fun!! I just can not take the magic show (first you see me now you don't) ughhh!! All I can think of is him!!!

Listen to your guts. If they are all for it, then go. But if there is any inkling, any doubt, even a scintilla of "Whoaaaaa shit" going on then don't! We've all got an internal B.S. meter for a reason. I think that if he was completely on the level there wouldn't be any Houdini acts.

I mean everything I have heard about pisces pisses me off!! Its like wtf?!! Hes hot n heavy...excited about life one day then Wha-la gone!!!! Like for two days....nothing!! I texed him a sweet little text a couple a days ago and still nothing!! Now...if I wait sure as anything he will be yackin up a storm with me!!! WTF—!!! Can any pisces give me some insite here—

Thank-You and I know, I do have some red flags... thats why I did not get on the plane the second time (last weekend)!! I just can't help but wonder... what if he is the one?? Oh, and something else I forgot in my first post was this... out by where I live out on this country road, before he even came in to buy his truck,this one day I had just gotten off work was havin a bad day...at my old job... boss had yelled at me about something.. put it to you this way, everything that could go wrong did that day!! So Im driving on this old road almost home(and there is this man along the road (doing road work) wavin and smiling at me!! Im like ok... and I wave back!! And guess who it was... him!! (I put two and two together when he came in to buy a truck and told me where he was working!! And hes like ya, I remember the car you were driving that day!!! Omg...I just want to make this real... but do I believe him at his word??

Scorpio at a loss for words...





Did you mean that title to be ..... Scorpio at a loss for brains?

believe22: this is what I can only say! End it now before it's too late! Pisceans are dreamy, they are the people who dream big, some of their dreams remain a dream and they never achieve anything! but in fairness, they are in need of love, if they are in a relationship which is unhappy, they will find a way to break free and find that person that makes them complete! and that goes without saying... married men who are unhappy, will easily throw their partners out of their lives literally, but not throw them out of their house because these men found some form of happiness outside of their own homes. I will share you my own story... i met a guy online a Piscean,,, good convo... we clicked! even with our wildest fantasies, we then started having a virtual romance and i showed a lot of love online, he felt it, he loved it and he wanted to do something about it! he was ready to leave his wife for me!!! thats crazy isnt it.. yeah we planned to meet up, but somehow I was very reluctant because as a Scorpio, i want to be the only one in a man's life, so since he wasn't divorced yet, i decided not to meet up with him.. Before my decision took place, i can say that we both had a lot of love for each other, he was ready to fly to where I live, and fulfill our dreams together, he even verbally abused his wife one fine day when we were on the phone.... he helped me financially (just a little bit ok not that he is rich)! but in the end, when I said, i probably cant make it to see you, cuz i want to work it out with my hubby who though I still live with but living separate lives..... as soon as i told him that, he barraged me with messages, phone calls etc etc and wants some of the money he lent me hahahaha, well i paid him back so he can back off and leave me alone!!! Pisceans loves drama, and they are pathetic liars so watch out! !!! am glad i didn't ended up with him, i got out of my previous marriage and now has remarried to a beautiful Libran man!!!!

Sweety, whether or not either of you were honest about already having a significant other at this point doesn't matter b/c you both have shown that you don't know how to finish one thing before you start another. I'm not knocking you for being in an unhappy relationship, BUT I think it's almost selfish of you to expect a man whose willing to cheat (especially emotionally) on his own girlfriend to have morals when it comes to honesty. The 1st thing that normally gets tarnished when a person steps outside of their own relationship IS honesty/trust. And if his own girlfriend can't even get that (obviously since she didn't find out about you until the last minute), Idk why you expected to receive the best in him either.

You might be in an unhappy relationship, screaming to get out at the 1st chance you get with someone new. And he might be unhappy too, BUT that doesn't mean that he'd be willing to turn all of his sweet words into actions, which is what I'm assuming was your goal. He's a liar. He probably got caught up. His girlfriend probably discovered all the texts/calls b/w you two & of course, it was probably HER calling you out of your name on that text. Either way, for her to cling to him & disrespect you at a time that he gets caught up, it shows that this man must've made you out to be the crazy one, while probably trying to convince his girlfriend that he's the victim & the innocent one in all this.

Just leave him alone. It'd be different if his girlfriend didn't know about you & him, BUT now she does. And believe me, once a woman knows about the other, don't assume for 1 second that she won't be re-checking to make SURE that you 2 aren't still talking. Why you're STILL in a hurry to disrespect your own, his AND her relationship is beyond me. Situations like this are dead wrong, so it's no wonder why these kinds of situations normally end with 1 or both people being very disappointed. What did you expect. The moment he admitted he was taken, you should've kicked him to the curb. Ok we get it, you didn't know in the beginning, BUT you know NOW! And trust me, if his relationship was THAT bad, he would've ended it before trying to start a new fling with someone else

It sucks that you spent $ 800 & that you practically started falling for the man he was pretending to be. BUT, that was then & this is now & you've got to start living in reality. Now that his girlfriend knows about you, I really hope you didn't think that him apologizing & paying for a new ticket for you would magically change things, make his girlfriend disappear, leaving you & him to walk off into the sunset together. That's not going to happen.

The moment a man gets caught with another woman, he makes the decision right then & there who is the most important to him. And if YOU were at that moment, he would've been fair & broken up with his girlfriend, if anything just out of respect for trying to make it so that he can now give you his all. BUT he didn't do that. So he can't like you as much as he claims or else 1. He wouldn't have let his own girlfriend disrespect you 2. He wouldn't have started out lying to you (b/c how you start is normally how you'll finish) & 3. Let's not forget that words are just words. An insincere man are the BEST at faking the funk & making their words & promises sound good. That's why all those relationship books tell us to pay more attention to ACTIONS & to what they're NOT saying/doing.

You both need to leave eachother alone. I know you can't help how you feel about him, BUT you CAN control how you react/respond to the situation. 2 people can never establish something wonderful if the only reason they met/got to know eachother was by means of FOOLING the very people they were actually commited to on the side. Like I said, if he can't even be honest with the person he's committed to then you shouldn't dare expect him to be any different with any others that are less important. It'll be hard, I'm sure BUT try to get him out of your system. Stop talking to him. Do yourself a favor & go enertain someone who will start off being honest with you OR better yet, break up with your boyfriend before you start expecting other men to respect & be honest with you.

Posted by libra-scorpcusp68


.... if they are in a relationship which is unhappy, they will find a way to break free and find that person that makes them complete! and that goes without saying... married men who are unhappy, will easily throw their partners out of their lives literally, but not throw them out of their house because these men found some form of happiness outside of their own homes.

I will share you my own story... i met a guy online a Piscean,,, good convo... we clicked! even with our wildest fantasies, we then started having a virtual romance .....

.... he was ready to leave his wife for me!!!

.... I was very reluctant because as a Scorpio, i want to be the only one in a man's life, so since he wasn't divorced yet, i decided not to meet up with him..

.... in the end, when I said, i probably cant make it to see you, cuz i want to work it out with my hubby who though I still live with but living separate lives.....


... Pisceans loves drama, and they are pathetic liars so watch out! !!!

I hate fucking douchebags.

90 % of them seem to be Scorpios.

Any person/man WASTE your money like he did and lie to you about his availability is not worth it...Stop behaving so desperately with this man, if your unhappy well fix that first before you fall into la la land with a man because desperation can make people do some really desperate stupid embarrassing things and you should feel stupid and humiliated that you spent money to see some stranger that you hardly know that bailed out at the last second....he's lame

Stop chasing emotional feelings, they are not real, he's not real, not only is he not single, he's manipulating your feelings, block his text messages and move on with your life, next time if you go see someone make sure he's invested in you coming like him paying for half of your flight or paying for your hotel....What a waste of time and energy

" ..... in the end, when I said, i probably cant make it to see you, cuz i want to work it out with my hubby who though I still live with but living separate livesv...."




Of course, it's all him. He's lame, he's not worth anything .... because it's perfectly ok for a married woman to do it, just not a man.

update....well you won't believe now what has happened...I have lost my mind... p-angel!!!
ok so...we have ben trying to hook it up for almost a year...as I last posted he was like a rat on acid sent me 10 texts in one day... like come see me, jump on a plane... you won't regret...it will be fun... just do it!!! I will pay,spontanous...what time should I pick you up at the airport?? on an on?? Then I did not go... hes like would next week be better for you?? lets do this thing?? So I say ok....so meanwhile... throughout the week he starts to retreat... one word answers to my texts... hours without responding ughhhh here we go... so last week I get this a deal thrown in my lap at work.. so I text him and I'm like hey I gatta surprise for you?? your gonna be soooo excited... hes like well, tell me?? so im like I get to fly out pick-up a truck and drive home...so I can swing through and see you... His response was yah? yah!! that was it!! then a day later... when will you be here?? where are you now?? hours go by when will you be in dallas?? ok... so I TELL HIM TRUCK HAS TO BE INSPECTED FIRST... THEN....I will be on way!!! ok so the only thing he keeps asking is when will you be in Dallas?? So belive me... I am feeling the red flags but... im ignoring...so the truck does not pass inspection so... I text him this..I guess this is just not meant to happen but take care...His response in all honesty, I am relieved!! IM LIKE WHY?? then again— hes like I AM relieved of time to think, and thank-you for being a friend... but i have been thinkin.. im not gonna be able to make things right with ex gf if I meet you....so I can not meet you, or talk to you, if I ever hope to get back what I lost!! He also said she knew I was textn you last summer and she still holds that against me!! and I asked you to stop then and then she found out we were textn again another time and you would text some until I text back....but Im not blaming you...and sorry....IM LIKE YES YOU ARE BLAMING ME AND HES LIKE IVE GATTA AN ISSUE WITH YOU BEIN MARRIED...and i'm like ya but ive never lied you knew iwas, i never lied to save face... and If you sh....t was rock solid with her not any ole person could come between... he was like oh it was solid till I was textn... but im not blaming you....IM LIKE THERE IS NOOO WAY YOU CAN TELL ME YOU LOVE HER AND IT IS SOLID WHEN... you would have met me... if my relationship is good there is no need to ever step out!! that person is my heart and soul!!!

To make matters worse... he said look I am sorry I can not meet you...If it was meant to happen it would have by now... So I say im soory too!! He replies with besides you never sent me any p...y pics!! ok so now I know,hes tryn to be mean... so I say ya cause I knew I would have to fight you of with a stick!! He replies like this what a stick ?? I askes yoiu three times not to text!! Three time?? I mean seriously... how good could old shoe be anyway?? Omg!!! So me bein a crazy scorpio... im like You are a jerk!!!! He says back.. look im sorry its not gonna happen and sorry if ive lead you on... so i say thats fine!! why do you continue to pour salt on the wound??Its ok... im done!! you did your job of pissn me off.. so I wont text... and you wont be in trouble...I dont trust you... or anything truely..you win im outta your life for good.

Of course he will retreat again...and he will feel bad cause...I played into the how could you do this to me card!! I was soo nice... thats over... I will wait him out and he will not get away with the la la victum role that pisces men play!!! This scorpio will get even!!!! lol

I am...I just wanted to believe that there was one sweet, loving...real person in this world....I guess not... obviously.... ya know....most people would have fallen for these words... when they were good... it was like poetry... I just needed to vent... put yourself in my place.... I feel so alone and sad... im at work... no one knows... it hurts...but I am preety and good on the inside so... I will move on... life is way to short... to let this guy in my head!!!

I know he feels bad today!! He has too!!! My dad is a pisces man and he will go with whoever gets to him first!! Everyone...is right... with him... he loves everyone... does not like to be mean or say mean things...he will always say sorry or feel bad!!! This guy will feel bad... and I hope he does... after this whole year.. i

Wow.. ok I do have self worth...but this is fresh... its like a bad addiction...I know I have to stop... and have nothing to do with him..and end one thing first....and you do not have to share in my pain...I am sure it sounds crazzy to you all but thats why it is mine and I need to let go of it and move on... this is just my way of walkn it out ... by talking and killing the subject...your right...I do not wish any bad on anyone...I just enjoyed escaping into good convo (when it was) and not feeling alone... oh well

SCORPIO_CHICK... YOU ARE SOOO RIGHT....and thank-you for your words...as for your mom and your story as a teen... your mom is one smart cookie!!! See at least you learned...I feel like such a D ..A cause if I were to be honest...I have the same habits...in every relationship...thinking I should except unexceptable behavior... then finding a new drama to wisk me away... then in the end...treated like crap...wondering why...and then they always want me back....when im done and wont go back... then on to the next...What is wrong with me?? I HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THIS FOR YEARS!!!

Believe22 your in a really rough spot emotionally but the time you spend on douchebags could be time you spend on yourself, fixing your life, fixing what isn't working in your life, finding solace and peace about your life is much more rewarding than chasing some guy that admitted he lead you on and wants nothing to do with you, he will only help you beat yourself up, he's not going to help HOLD YOU UP, that's too much work for one man especially a man that already has a girlfriend. If your so miserable in your relationship with your husband try finding a way out, once you see you are strong enough to move on and take care of yourself you will be more protective of yourself and not let some random guy tear you down through your own desperation to feel better and you succumbing to begging and being coerced into sending him p**sy pictures.

Every woman at one point in her life has been down the same desperate unhappy road but no one will save you, you have to save yourself, you have to love yourself even when you don't want to, don't feel like it or men will take you for granted and take advantage of your desperate need for attention and love, you have to decide for yourself that your worth the trouble it takes to mend your life and make it right...A man will never take away the growing pains that you must go through to evolve and grow as a woman. Running from yourself through something pleasurable like a man or food or drugs or overspending or whatever you do to get your fix for the day is the hardest habit to break, you would be much better off, digging deep, finding some self respect and some pride about yourself and ditching the guy....He doesn't want to be mean to you, he just doesn't know hot to get you to go away for good, even if he comes back around he doesn't mean for you to latch on to his every word and stalk him....Change your number or block his number and move on with your life....This is not a healthy situation for you.

Great advice SC, I was cussing at her too, I just didn't post it LOL

Well one, it seems like you both were trying to argue with the cards that were dealt to the both of you. You both were in the wrong on many things & the problem is that instead of letting things be as they should, one or both of you would always try to mess up that balance or that flow by allowing your emotions to take full control of the situation. This guy might've generally admired you, & I'm not doubting that he prob. doesn't love his ex girlfriend as much as he claims, BUT all that matters is that compared to YOU, he feels that SHE is more worth the chase. And to an extent, you have to give him the credit for that. He has more history with his ex, & not to mention, his ex isn't married nor does she lives tons of miles away for him. Even if for all the WRONG reasons, it makes more sense for him to try & work things out with the woman (his ex) that he'd invested in. He messed up & hit a bump in the road & allowed himself to stray, BUT that doesn't mean that he's not entitled to try to finally do right by himself & his ex.

He probably WAS playing the victim role with you, BUT does that really matter? You both were spending time keeping score of who took personal accountability for their actions & that's when you both got sidetracked. Sure, you were honest with him about being married, & it's possible that maybe he changed his mind midway & realized that he didn't want to enter into such a territory no matter HOW much he liked you. It's possible to be in a commited relationship & yet still be attracted to others visually & personality-wise; BUT the true test is in who a person picks in the end to pursue. It's not about how you start a race, it's about how you finish one. At this point, you trying to tell him how he feels about his own relationship with his ex was pointless b/c that is something that only HE would know.

I think this guy did lead you on BUT I think you allowed him to, even when all the red flags were in your face. He was sending you mixed signals back THEN, so technically, was he wrong for sending you those mixed signals? Yes. BUT, you are just as responsible for your own heartbreak & disappoint now b/c when you saw those signals, you made the CHOICE to still stick around & not be a "priority" to him. You treat other people how to treat you & if him or any man ever continues to lead you on for months & months, the woman allowing herself to be used or toyed with is just as wrong & self-deceitful as the person playing the games.

You chose to continue pursuing this man even after your own intuition told you a long time ago that you shouldn't have & there's a REASON behind why you allowed yourself to be held prisoner to his games. So now that this is finally all over, the LAST thing you should be focused on is pointing out to him or trying to analyze how he feels about another woman b/c you doing that means you're STILL not focusing on what it is INSIDE of YOU that made you stick by this man through all of this. How he feels about his ex & whether or not he truly loves her & their relationship is HIS battle & something that him & his ex should be discussing. B/c there's always the argument he could give to you about how you can't really love yourself if you continually allow yourself to be subject to always being his "option" instead of priority.

I believe you should just move on. I understand that it's hard; I think we've all been there & done that. But at this point, arguing about this (and especially with him) IS the salt that keeps getting thrown on the wound. It takes 2. Some men actually do FINALLY acknowledge what they've done wrong, recognize what they need to do differently from here on out & attempt to make the necessary changes. Sure, it sucks that it usually takes a man losing a good thing or waiting until it's too late before he finally has that revelation, BUT all that matters is that for his & his ex girlfriend's sake, the revelation happend period. If he's making steps to do right by himself & by his ex that's not a BAD thing. It sucks for you since him doing right means leaving you alone for good, & if that bothers you then you are loving/admiring him in selfishness.

We can't crucify someone for being a dog, & yet try to hold them prisoner forever to their past mistakes the minute they try to do right & change those very same ways. You got yourself into a situation with someone that unfortunately meant, you seeing the BEST in him probably meaning you & him NOT ever being together. That's why they say be careful what you wish for. If you want a good & committed man, make sure he's single 1st..that way YOU will be to end up with him. VS. you being left behind b/c he finally chose to do right by the one he'd originally invested in

So let's say this guy is an Ahole, a dog & emotionally confused? Let's say he's more in the wrong about everything than you are? Then what? What more proof do you need that this guy is more of a disadvantage in/to your life than he is a good thing? You have to take responsibility for your own happiness. If you allow the possibility of happiness to lie in the hands of someone OTHER than you, don't be so surprised when that very person doesn't necessarily do what you would've done with your heart.

This guy might've been good for you. Hell he might've even been the one for you, BUT that was then & this is now. At this point, he's TOXIC to you. You 2 would probably never be the same like you used to, thus there's no point in trying to hold on to something that SHOWED YOU better than it could TELL you that it wasn't meant to work out. This guy has been causing you nothing but mixed emotions, disappointment, heartbreak, & other things that I'm pretty sure you didn't sign up for. And not to mention, all of these days & months you've spent pursuing the wrong person are days & months that you will NEVER get back. So at this point, all you CAN do is admit you've made some wrong turns..don't beat up on yourself about it but then again don't completely ignore the fact that you need to take some personal accountability for all of this..and just move on.

I'm sure you didn't sign up for this & hey none of us ever do. BUT, the reality is that things are over. Even if this guy texts you 100 more times in the future, so what? If you're really done with him, then technically what he did/said to OR for you wouldn't matter or change a thing. This guy's actions shouldn't be the remote control OR measure of your self-esteem. Good luck girlie

Ya thanks I will need all the good luck I can get... cause today, my chest feels so heavy...it seriously hurts.I guess I need to stop creating things in my head... that are in la..la land... ya know... I can't really "blame" the pisces man when I let them take me to la la land!!! We all want to believe in something that is soo good... so funny... so strong that...nothing can stop it!!! right?? I disagree about one thing you said he doesn't make or break me... I raised to girls...by self...into beautiful people and dated some awesome people...
I guess what it boils down for me is... I liked the way I felt when talking to him... made me smile everyday...my husband is very critical person, drinks alot and is verbally not nice...most days... so for me this guy was just a breath of fresh air...Now both of these guys are younger than me...AND THAT IS PART OF IT...I know.. what I want and do not want after traveling these roads....and I will be ok and thank-you all...and much happiness!!!

And honey, hey I understand why you were attracted to him. I mean even if your husband wasn't the way he was, there's nothing wrong with admiring someone else b/c they are admirable. It is what it is. I completely understand what you mean. We've ALL been there, done that. Most of us "never would've thought" we'd end up where we are or that the person we once loved, would end up being the very person we probably can barely look at now. We all love to enjoy the moment when it's blissful & hey, it's okay to do that. That's what those "moments" are for..you're supposed to feel happy & allow yourself to be surrounded by good company.

The problem though is that sometimes (and men do this too) we can get so caught up in & so drowned out by how good something feels that all logic can go out of the window. We might see the "red flags" or feel our intuition sounding off warning bells, BUT b/c everything feels just oh so good, we can literally convince/force ourselves to overlook/put up with/suppress things, all out of respect for still trying to enjoy the moment. None of us ever want things to go bad or for the honeymoon stages to end. BUT the reality of things though is that they DO end sometimes! And it's not even necessarily b/c you did something wrong, nor should you feel bad for enjoying something that you literally felt was worth enjoying!

BUT, like you said, you just wanted to enjoy the happiness while it was in your face & in the heat of the moment. You needed that "fresh air" b/c compared to what your husband is like at home, this other Pisces guy was probably looking like your savior! BUT, just like the goal is to FIND happiness, you also have to make it your personal goal to AVOID anything that could potentially cause discomfort/unhappiness in your life. So when we as women sometimes ignore those red flags or allow ourselves to become blinded by the truth/reality, we are technically becoming our own worst enemies & making it MORE likely to end up feeling that SAME hurt/disappointment that we were trying to AVOID the whole time! As the saying goes, "You CAN avoid reality, BUT you CANNOT avoid the consequences of avoiding reality!" Good ish!

At this point, how this Pisces men ends up changing OR not changing should no longer be of your concern. It's about TIME that you start putting YOURSELF & the issues YOU need to work on/change your 1st priority. You already gave this guy a chance to put you 1st & he SHOWED you better than he could tell you that he wouldn't. Yes it sucks & of course, it's always easier said than done, BUT then again the best gift and piece of happiness & "fresh air" you can give to yourself is to try to find a way to find contenment within yourself no matter HOW bad things are at home. I'm not advising you to pretend like your life at home is peaches & cream..denial is NOT good. BUT, at the same time, you've got to find a way to find contenment & that "Fresh air" within YOURSELF without necessarily having to get it from someone else (male or female) , & ESPECIALLY NOT from another man that's already taken. That's the 1st step.

You can do this. Matter of fact, you can do whatever you TELL yourself you can do. If you tell yourself that you want to keep enjoying the moment & keep purusing him, you literally will. And if you literally keep reminding yourself that you can move on, forgive him & try to find peace (whether he calls/contacts you again or NOT), you LITERALLY WILL. Give yourself some credit. Sometimes you have to come down hard on yourself in order to make yourself really get the point. As the saying goes, "You've got to know where you've been in order to know where you're going!" So what, this guy played a few games with you. Like you said, he can't make/break you & I'm SURE you've been through FAR WORSE with others in your life before, SO I AM advising you to keep your own strength in mind in times like these.

How many times have we ALL felt that the world was over, just to look back a couple years later & be surprised that "wow, it really wasn't over." This guy & his bull shouldn't be the exception. If there were ever a time to show yourself your OWN strength, the time is now ESPECIALLY since it's going to be needed so that you can 1. Keep sane while things are insane in your marriage & 2. Find yourself establishing healthy & worthy friendships/relationships with others just in case there were ever a time when another guy sweeped you off your feet unexpectedly. I mean, it's only your happiness! And YES, that's a BIG deal! That Pisces changing or becoming a better man is HIS battle & something only his girlfriend/ex should make a priority. U just be happy

Posted by eden 3
hold up! p did u just call me a douchebag? ;P

ARe you the other person?

If so, then ... yes.

I hate it when women tell other women in here about how the man they are trying to see are not worthy of them, while these same women have husbands to whom they are emotionally cheating on.



I hate the double-standards of women .... absolutely detest it.



And this is what is happening right here, right now ...... this woman is being counselled as if he's the one in the wrong .. when in reality, she is the one fucking over a husband.



The whole reason, I am guessing, is for a support system to be in place, so the woman thinks she is valuable .... when in reality, she is NOT valuable, or worthy of decentcy if she's a cheater.


Seriously ..... wtf is the matter with you women in here? If you condone this, then you all must be cheating bitches also.

The Universe picks up on your energy ... if this guy is an asshole, then it's what you deserve, its the bed you made while cheating on a husband.

ok THIS gives LDRs a bad name. i am ashamed for you 😢

Yeah most def. & it also gives local relationships a bad name too. I mean, yes it sucks for the lady (married) who put all of her trust in this guy who lives hundreds of miles away. It proves that it's not always the best move when the only technical way you can verify something about a person is based only by what they tell you/don't tell you. However, it sucks just as much for the woman back home that has NO idea her man was creeping emotionally with another woman online. Hearing these kinds of stories will sometimes make anyone think twice about trusting someone else PERIOD, whether it's trusting someone living 5 miles away or 500 miles away. Yikes!

You're getting what you deserve.


How does your bed feel?

Ok... ok I deserve some of that however, I choose to look for the "good stuff"... (good people, laughter,good times...fresh spring air)!!! Does that make me soo bad— I am old enough to know, that I only want good... however this guy was good in the end... we never met, I am working on myself and my own issues and he is working on getting back withhis gf!!!I am happy!! I needed a change within self!! Sometimes... the only way to do that is through others... And in answer to your question... my bed is fine... thank-you

And...P-angel I am valuable... to myself through my own learning and others!! To be honest...if In the first place you all men... were as good to us as you should be....rock solid in your selves and "us as woman"... there would be none of this....We as a whole(for the most part are loving and strong and put up with alot)!!! However, when your your beat up enough, you too (right or wrong) would look for comfort and happiness!!! (never said it was right) it just was!!(obvious someone made sure it did not happen...all for the best)!!!

oops... I guess you are a woman (p-angel)well whatever...sorry... no double standard here...thats why I shared my story...thats why I worked it out wth help... sometimes, you need people, that do not know you,to vent to and if you would READ... you would know, the ladies on here have givin me both sides.. all ways to see this situation...they have said some harsh things, and I will be the first to admit (that.. and time away from deal) has helped me, to see how wrong I was...(tryn to make this man that was not there or anything save me)...so stop judgin me and give strong advise that helps!! people that get on here are surching for answers within selves... just need a little love.. hey.. we all do!!

@Believe..hey I completely understand where you're coming from. None of us should have the nerve to judge anyone & especially on DXP, considering most of us are geniunely just looking for honest & sincere advice. Sure, some people ask for advice, only to then reject it due to lack of wanting to change, look at things from different perspectives and/or admitting wrongdoing, BUT there are some people that generally ARE under the impression that they've messed up somewhere & just need help looking at things in a different light to possibly save them from going crazy. And I respect people like you who had the courage to come to this site & share your personal business & thoughts with us. After all, there's always going to be the few people who mess it up for everybody by being extremely rude & standoffish as if they've never needed help before, BUT there is always too the few people that can actually identify with your situation & help.

My advice towards you was more centered on you not assuming that you'd learn anything from this experience with him by blaiming everything on him. You needed to know what you possibly did wrong so that the liklihood of you ending up in this type of situation again would be slim to none. The only person we can change and/or work on is SELF. And even though it feels good to sometimes rightfully so place the blaim on others, we can't necessarily learn from a situation if all the blaim was placed on the other person. My goal was to yes, point out what he clearly did wrong, BUT to also point out to you (since we don't have the privelege of hearing his side) your mistakes..but not to judge you or make you feel like crap or regret coming to us for advice..Sometimes when you allow yourself to get so deep in a situation to the point where you've hit rock bottom, that shows you just HOW hard-headed you really were. And depending on the person & their esteem & eagerness to learn & become wise, some people will take any criticism & use it towards further resenting themselves & decreasing their self-esteem while others don't mind a few harsh realities, if that's what it'll take for healing, forgiveness & progress to occur. I was hoping that in your case, all of those things would occur; not over night or just b/w we recommended they did, BUT b/c happiness if a CHOICE & something that we all deserve & CAN have, regardless of how many people there are out there that try to steal that from us.