@Sag89
14 Years1,000+ PostsSagittarius
Should Significant Other = Best Friend?
I would only consider marrying my best friend. He wouldn't be my only bestie, though. There are a couple of other people in my life that also fill that role. Kind of like the concept of a soul family.
No. A wise comedian stated regarding your better half being your best friend.
His words, your best, your real best friend says something moronic, stupid, you can turn to your best friend and say, what are your retard?
Try this with your better half. See how this goes over. Your better half should be there always to help and support you. To know what you are going through, but there things that your better half will not be your ultimate best friend.
I guess it defeats the "best friend". Do not get me wrong, my future better half would be ultimately very close to me and I should have no fear to talk to her about anything, but there are things that must be said to a best friend. Right?
I agree with having limited best friend(s). But what you write on being cagey or paranoid, this is a scorpio thing. You are intense people but never show it to the people who are trying to get to know you.
Best friend is a person who you can say anything to withour having you spend the next few nights on the sofa. (LOL).
I think it really depends on what you want out of your SO!
i want my mate to be my friend, but not my best friend. i dont want us to hang out in the same social circle. i want us to have semi separate lives.
Posted by Rockthenerds
+1 @ virgo.I'm going no with bf/g/f. yes with spouse.
and about your spouse knowing everything about you, not only should they, they should know more about you then you do.
1+1=2
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coming from 2 scorpios this is wierd. being that you all barely open up 100% to your own selves.
Obviously, there's the Scorpio opinion, and then everyone elses .... interesting in that ONLY the Scorpio has one view, while everyone else has the other.
Smells like insecurity
Friends are best when, and so long as, they haven't pissed you off yet ....
Friends are best when they are new, and there's something to learn ....
Seems to me that people turn to different people for different things ... so, this would mean that you aren't a best friend to them, since you aren't loyal.
Isn't loyalty key factor here?
You have people who you consider friends ... are you a good friend? Are you loyal?
Don't you turn to your mother for some things, your sister for something things, each girlfriend individually for differet things, your boyfriend for some things, your counselor for some things, etc?
If all of them are there for you (when you need them for yourself) .. then aren't they all besties for the moment?
Some things shouldn't be discussed wth your SO for the simple fact that they don't really want to hear you when you're being an emotional wreck for no apparent reason. It's ok if they want to hear you pour out your emotional bullshit, but, that doesn't constitute that you SHOULD share it with them.
Sometimes, people just need to vent off and they don't want to be fixed .. if you vent bullshit off to a SO, they are going to feel like you are asking them to do something in which they don't know what to do.
That's pretty unfair considering you only need to expell unwanted feelings into environment because you can't handle them anylonger ..... and now you ask for a person you are suppose to love to be standing there to absorb the bullshit you didn't want?
I think that two people have to be In Like with each other to make it in a relationship ... but, that like doesn't have to equal each partner handing over everything. Every person has their own personal being inside of them, and even your SO doesn't need to know these things.
Obviously, the Scorpios are insecure ... proof being that they believe that a SO should reveal every little detail.
That's pretty unrealistic .. but, then so are Scorpios
@RTN
how does my post on the sag board even compare to this one? the OP asked about sag MEN. you gave what the female perspective. i think the OP couldnt care less about what female saggis are into.
you read it here all day everyday. scorpio's wet dream is for their SO to know them better than they know themselves. when does that ever happen..seriously? with the relationship speed of turtles or the disappearing acts, or the back and forth 2 step, or simply the fact that you all dont like to answer questions but love dishing them out.
your called "mysterious" for a reason...
im not faulting scorpios for wanting that "wet" dream. as a sag i want no job, but still the paycheck. BUT how often do you give your potential SO the opportunity to know 100% about you?
the majority of your family members and closests (sp?) friends dont even know that much about you.
Posted by DMV
im not faulting scorpios for wanting that "wet" dream. as a sag i want no job, but still the paycheck. BUT how often do you give your potential SO the opportunity to know 100% about you?the majority of your family members and closests (sp?) friends dont even know that much about you.
believe me. i suffer from doing the same 2 step dance. feel ur pain.
My ideal relationship would be defined as "the whole world against us". You can call it best friends or whatever, but she should confide in me before going to her friends and the same goes for me. Otherwise I'd feel lonely in that relationship. I'm an extremely independent person, but when it comes to marriage I definitely want to become one with "the chosen one".
Posted by DMV
im not faulting scorpios for wanting that "wet" dream. as a sag i want no job, but still the paycheck.BUT how often do you give your potential SO the opportunity to know 100% about you?
At the very beginning. Think back with your scorp and you will remember.
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ha! yeah right
Posted by DMV
@RTNhow does my post on the sag board even compare to this one? the OP asked about sag MEN. you gave what the female perspective. i think the OP couldnt care less about what female saggis are into.
you read it here all day everyday. scorpio's wet dream is for their SO to know them better than they know themselves. when does that ever happen..seriously? with the relationship speed of turtles or the disappearing acts, or the back and forth 2 step, or simply the fact that you all dont like to answer questions but love dishing them out.
your called "mysterious" for a reason...
click to expandBy sarcastic, I meant everything I posted there was irrelevant. There was no perspective and I couldn't care less what the op was about as long as I got to see someone (just happen to be you at the right time) disagree with a generalization... you already said you do this and you know I dont like it. So it was good that I got to see that side of you in my shoes. Though I don't even waste time trying to correct anyone anymore really...
I could also care less about what any other sign wants. I know what I want and what I have. It's nothing like anything on these boards. Sure I can relate to a few scorps here and there doesn't mean I'm basing any aspect of my life or relationships by what I read here though bc it's mostly based on who did or didnt do this or that.. or why they all are or aren't like this or that. Highly entertaining sure am I caught up in any of that whatsoever? Fuck no. Thank buddah..
but to answer your question I cant speak for all scorps. Idc how astrologically intuitive someone may be, they should speak for themselves. I dont study astrology( used lots of dry humor when I said I did btw) bc understanding the concept is enough for me. I'm not going to use it to try to act better than someone or as some how to guide for relationships (sexual or not).
For me it just comes down to communication. I dont have to be shady, I dont have to avoid questions, sure I can lie if I want but why be with someone you have to lie to? True, my family has no idea who I am, but I'm not banging them so that's not an issue for me really.. Just saying' you dont have to be a detective to understand scorps, you just have to wait really, develop actual intuition(with them, for them,
^ what?
Posted by DMV
^ what?Just take what you want from it. It's not really really supposed to make sense.
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yeah i gathered that.
Posted by enfant_terrible
My ideal relationship would be defined as "the whole world against us". You can call it best friends or whatever, but she should confide in me before going to her friends and the same goes for me. Otherwise I'd feel lonely in that relationship. I'm an extremely independent person, but when it comes to marriage I definitely want to become one with "the chosen one".You're such a lil sweetie!
I mean, a manly sweetie. 😛 Men always advise me to stop saying lil. Ha.click to expand
Haha it really depends on the context, doesen't it 😛
But I don't mind being a lil sweetie, every man needs a break sometimes.
And you're the second Scorpio this week to call me that!
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I notice alot of couples seem to be that way. But than it seems as they become defined as that. People say " you guys " " you two " as if you become one and are no longer have individuality.
Now of course there is the healthy amount of attachment yes they are a very important person in your life and should be your " partner " and a good friend at that.
But best friend? It's a sweet idea and I know for some true but also it seems maybe more marriage appropriate at times.
I'm not sure, I was kind of just throwing it out there.