That one special person in your life

Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

to the one I love with all my heart ?



signed, the boogie man

If that special person is someone from her past, I don't see how this is emotional cheating.

Think about widows and widowers.....surely they don't emotionally cheat for putting flowers on their late spouse grave, do they 🙂?

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

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So I got it! As long as you dont exchange info - it's ok to love someone else?

Well...what about you love one who moved on but you still want to have life and family and you are getting married but still wishing for that ex...like have you ever heard ' I wished you came and rescude me on my wedding day from HIM (monster I marrying who has no fault nor idea I want YOU) and took me away to a happy life!!! So you didn't come and I am still unhappily thinking of WHY—

Isn't life &@@ UP—

Posted by Undine
If that special person is someone from her past, I don't see how this is emotional cheating.

Think about widows and widowers.....surely they don't emotionally cheat for putting flowers on their late spouse grave, do they 🙂?

Good point!

I have to process that thought...

Reminiscing is not the same thing as emotional cheating. Or physically cheating for that matter.

Your comparing apples to oranges.

I don't really consider this as emotional cheating unless you still love the person from your past instead of the person you're with now. Missing someone does not mean you want them back its just reminiscing the good times.

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

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why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

It would only be emotional cheating, if they replace their SO with someone from their past.

If they do resume contact, it would only be emotional cheating, if the party in question seeks for more with the intent to do so, whilst having inappropriate conversations without boundaries.

This would be the case, if they also happen to neglect their SO as well, during the process.

Most of all, it would only be emotional cheating, if the individual does not have their priorities straight.

There is a difference between, the past, fantasy in ones mind, and the present.

Posted by BuffaloBills28
The person I thought was the "most special" at one point, really turned into giving me the most hell. lol. And now when ever she crosses my mind, I just think "how pathetic". So, guess I haven't met the special person just yet.

You've learned something! That's life the way it goes. Just don't dwell if you can.

Best of luck!

Posted by scorpYo
I don't really consider this as emotional cheating unless you still love the person from your past instead of the person you're with now. Missing someone does not mean you want them back its just reminiscing the good times.

How can you miss someone you are done with? It means you aren't done!

So let's say you meet them in a supermarket by accident and your heart stopped!

Do you go tell your current one about it?

Posted by P6X58DE
I'm technically widowed, so because i have memories, you would deliberately crush what i have left of someone i truly loved? yet i'm willing to give you the same?

Jealous and never happy with what you have? self entitled and just a fucking cunt?

Just saying.

Technically widowed? Never heard that before. How?

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

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I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

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Posted by scorpYo
I don't really consider this as emotional cheating unless you still love the person from your past instead of the person you're with now. Missing someone does not mean you want them back its just reminiscing the good times.

How can you miss someone you are done with? It means you aren't done!

So let's say you meet them in a supermarket by accident and your heart stopped!

Do you go tell your current one about it?

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it's not that I want to be with them it's just I miss the old days, and the way I felt with them. As I said its just reminisce

No, I would not tell my current lover cause there's nothing to be told. I saw an old lover in the supermarket so what?

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

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that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

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Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

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Yes. He was seeing a doctor and on medication that seems to make him worse. The doctor was his primary care and referred him to someone else. Last I heard was that he was trying to get in with that doctor. I don't know if he ever got in. That was November when he told me that. Since first week of December I got Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and 3 "sorry I haven't contacted you. I'm not doing good. Things have to get better. I love you" messages. One actually said "I'm trying not to lose my mind but I think I already have"

If I reply back, he doesn't answer. It's hard but I just am letting it be and hoping that it all works out. Sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling that he needs me and I worry that he is hurting but there is nothing I can do anymore.

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

Yes. He was seeing a doctor and on medication that seems to make him worse. The doctor was his primary care and referred him to someone else. Last I heard was that he was trying to get in with that doctor. I don't know if he ever got in. That was November when he told me that. Since first week of December I got Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and 3 "sorry I haven't contacted you. I'm not doing good. Things have to get better. I love you" messages. One actually said "I'm trying not to lose my mind but I think I already have"

If I reply back, he doesn't answer. It's hard but I just am letting it be and hoping that it all works out. Sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling that he needs me and I worry that he is hurting but there is nothing I can do anymore.

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I really do hope he gets better and things work out the way you wish for. Do you know the reason of his depression?

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Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

So I got it! As long as you dont exchange info - it's ok to love someone else?

Well...what about you love one who moved on but you still want to have life and family and you are getting married but still wishing for that ex...like have you ever heard ' I wished you came and rescude me on my wedding day from HIM (monster I marrying who has no fault nor idea I want YOU) and took me away to a happy life!!! So you didn't come and I am still unhappily thinking of WHY—

Isn't life &@@ UP—

Why get married if that's not who you want to be with?

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Don't be silly!

It's old as a world itself!

Person is lonely. No one comes to life they love so they settle for the one who propose and seams ok to spend old age with.! Just because!!!

Are you saying I had opened your eyes and you had NO idea it's happening?

Get real!

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I'm technically widowed, so because i have memories, you would deliberately crush what i have left of someone i truly loved? yet i'm willing to give you the same?

Jealous and never happy with what you have? self entitled and just a fucking cunt?

Just saying.

Technically widowed? Never heard that before. How?

Well a widow is someone who was married, we were not married.

Lost my GF to death.

I will always hold memories of her, i never left her, she never left me, that love was never broken.

It won't get in the way of a new relationship, but ever using that against me and wow you will meet the devil incarnate, don't fuck with my emotions.

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I never would! When I posted I did not have anything in my mind about people who aren't here anymore.

I am really sorry I stroke wrong cord!

Hope you will find best of one after your mourning ends. If ever. Hope it will.

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Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

So I got it! As long as you dont exchange info - it's ok to love someone else?

Well...what about you love one who moved on but you still want to have life and family and you are getting married but still wishing for that ex...like have you ever heard ' I wished you came and rescude me on my wedding day from HIM (monster I marrying who has no fault nor idea I want YOU) and took me away to a happy life!!! So you didn't come and I am still unhappily thinking of WHY—

Isn't life &@@ UP—

Why get married if that's not who you want to be with?

Don't be silly!

It's old as a world itself!

Person is lonely. No one comes to life they love so they settle for the one who propose and seams ok to spend old age with.! Just because!!!

Are you saying I had opened your eyes and you had NO idea it's happening?

Get real!

I didn't say I had no idea it's happening. I said why

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Loneliness and looking for someone to take care of. Simple.

Some people are very happy alone.

Some can't stand it. So there you go.

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Posted by Gemitati
Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

Yes. He was seeing a doctor and on medication that seems to make him worse. The doctor was his primary care and referred him to someone else. Last I heard was that he was trying to get in with that doctor. I don't know if he ever got in. That was November when he told me that. Since first week of December I got Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and 3 "sorry I haven't contacted you. I'm not doing good. Things have to get better. I love you" messages. One actually said "I'm trying not to lose my mind but I think I already have"

If I reply back, he doesn't answer. It's hard but I just am letting it be and hoping that it all works out. Sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling that he needs me and I worry that he is hurting but there is nothing I can do anymore.

I really do hope he gets better and things work out the way you wish for. Do you know the reason of his depression?

He has severe PTSD. He was in the war in Bosnia, went home and stepped on a land mine and lost part of his leg. He was in a lot of pain and years of surgeries but fought his way back.

The first time he went back since that incident was 2012 and that was a big trigger for him. He did the same thing and cut me and everyone else off and fell into a deep depression. He came back after not being in contact for months and didn't even think we were broken up. We had several really good years and then his father passed away and he had some pressures from his daughter's mother who was using the kid as a pawn. I started getting angry and pushed him as well. I broke up with him because of it. We went back and forth for awhile and we're trying to make it work and then he just had a breakdown. It was scary. The things he was saying didn't make sense. He thought people were out to get him because he heard them screaming at night.

He thought someone put a curse on him. He was so adamant. I actually started questioning myself and wondered if I inadvertently sent negative energy his way because I was so hurt.

Then he disappeared for a couple months. Then he came back and now he's gone again. I ran into his nosey neighbor recently and she was going on about how he awful and sick he looks and how she barely sees him leave the house.

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I am so sorry and thanks for your revelation but intros not the story for this site unless you are strong enough to hear all the things you will.

It's something no one will wish on worse enemy! I am honestly feeling for you and hope you are strong enough to make best out of it or whatever you can'

Posted by Capri-sun
So my next suggestion is stop settling

It's not so bad when two lonely souls find partnership and living to just to be together!

Bitter is when one finds someone all of a sudden they get hits for and another left in cold and alone.

But! Honestly you guys knew both about settlement. So his/her time came and yours not yet...

So be cool and hug and let them live love!

I don't know where I get this crap! I had just met so many people in my life with different stories - it seems like I lived it all!

Since I was 6? I was curious about relationship!

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Just read post I think by Deedee86

that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

Yes. He was seeing a doctor and on medication that seems to make him worse. The doctor was his primary care and referred him to someone else. Last I heard was that he was trying to get in with that doctor. I don't know if he ever got in. That was November when he told me that. Since first week of December I got Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and 3 "sorry I haven't contacted you. I'm not doing good. Things have to get better. I love you" messages. One actually said "I'm trying not to lose my mind but I think I already have"

If I reply back, he doesn't answer. It's hard but I just am letting it be and hoping that it all works out. Sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling that he needs me and I worry that he is hurting but there is nothing I can do anymore.

I really do hope he gets better and things work out the way you wish for. Do you know the reason of his depression?

He has severe PTSD. He was in the war in Bosnia, went home and stepped on a land mine and lost part of his leg. He was in a lot of pain and years of surgeries but fought his way back.

The first time he went back since that incident was 2012 and that was a big trigger for him. He did the same thing and cut me and everyone else off and fell into a deep depression. He came back after not being in contact for months and didn't even think we were broken up. We had several really good years and then his father passed away and he had some pressures from his daughter's mother who was using the kid as a pawn. I started getting angry and pushed him as well. I broke up with him because of it. We went back and forth for awhile and we're trying to make it work and then he just had a breakdown. It was scary. The things he was saying didn't make sense. He thought people were out to get him because he heard them screaming at night.

He thought someone put a curse on him. He was so adamant. I actually started questioning myself and wondered if I inadvertently sent negative energy his way because I was so hurt.

Then he disappeared for a couple months. Then he came back and now he's gone again. I ran into his nosey neighbor recently and she was going on about how he awful and sick he looks and how she barely sees him leave the house.

I am so sorry and thanks for your revelation but intros not the story for this site unless you are strong enough to hear all the things you will.

It's something no one will wish on worse enemy! I am honestly feeling for you and hope you are strong enough to make best out of it or whatever you can'

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Thank you.

I have talked about him many times on this site and I have had amazing support but also a few very negative comments. I have a thick skin and can handle it. I guess nobody can truly understand unless they have been in a similar situation. It's torture on both of us.

I'm not trying to get back together with him but I do love him and I do worry about him.

Maybe the future will lead us back to each other or maybe we will never see each other again. Who knows?

Articles like this give me some peace and help me understand. http://www.twinflamesoulmates.com/twinflame-soulmate-relationship-signs-symptoms.html

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that says there is one special person in her/his life who is always going to have a special place in her heart no matter what during to some circumstances.

So I am wondering how is it different from emotional cheating?

Let's say you are married and raising a family but every time daily or once a month you go outside or sit by fireplace and remember that special person relieving moments of your past and not wishing your life was different than now with your spouse long time partner?

But it sounded so pure! And no one sees is as an in fact emotional cheating on the person who is in another room knowing nothing about uour overwhelming emotions? But you think...and sad or happy wondering what if...

Please discuss

In my case, I haven't been able to date anyone else yet. I tried but it just didn't feel right. Maybe that day will come, maybe he and I will end up together or maybe I will just remain single and living in a memory forever....only time will tell.

But to answer your question, if I were to end up with someone else I wouldn't consider it emotional cheating as long as I had no contact with my ex. If we were communicating it would be a different story.

Would it be fair to be with someone but secretly in love with another?

why did you end tho? you seem like you're still in love with that someone

I am. I have bored DXP with my whining for along time now. He's depressed. He's pushed everyone away, especially me. We are not in contact but every week or two I get an "I love you" message and he reassures me that it will get better.

We were emailing back and forth for about 6 weeks but then he stopped in the first week of December and I only get cryptic messages on occasion now. It's been like this for many months now.

I know that he loves me. I know that there is no one else but he just doesn't want me right now.

that's odd. Has he seen someone? I mean he should do something about the depression! Hope everything get back to normal and you get back together again.

Yes. He was seeing a doctor and on medication that seems to make him worse. The doctor was his primary care and referred him to someone else. Last I heard was that he was trying to get in with that doctor. I don't know if he ever got in. That was November when he told me that. Since first week of December I got Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and 3 "sorry I haven't contacted you. I'm not doing good. Things have to get better. I love you" messages. One actually said "I'm trying not to lose my mind but I think I already have"

If I reply back, he doesn't answer. It's hard but I just am letting it be and hoping that it all works out. Sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling that he needs me and I worry that he is hurting but there is nothing I can do anymore.

I really do hope he gets better and things work out the way you wish for. Do you know the reason of his depression?

He has severe PTSD. He was in the war in Bosnia, went home and stepped on a land mine and lost part of his leg. He was in a lot of pain and years of surgeries but fought his way back.

The first time he went back since that incident was 2012 and that was a big trigger for him. He did the same thing and cut me and everyone else off and fell into a deep depression. He came back after not being in contact for months and didn't even think we were broken up. We had several really good years and then his father passed away and he had some pressures from his daughter's mother who was using the kid as a pawn. I started getting angry and pushed him as well. I broke up with him because of it. We went back and forth for awhile and we're trying to make it work and then he just had a breakdown. It was scary. The things he was saying didn't make sense. He thought people were out to get him because he heard them screaming at night.

He thought someone put a curse on him. He was so adamant. I actually started questioning myself and wondered if I inadvertently sent negative energy his way because I was so hurt.

Then he disappeared for a couple months. Then he came back and now he's gone again. I ran into his nosey neighbor recently and she was going on about how he awful and sick he looks and how she barely sees him leave the house.

I am so sorry and thanks for your revelation but intros not the story for this site unless you are strong enough to hear all the things you will.

It's something no one will wish on worse enemy! I am honestly feeling for you and hope you are strong enough to make best out of it or whatever you can'

Thank you.

I have talked about him many times on this site and I have had amazing support but also a few very negative comments. I have a thick skin and can handle it. I guess nobody can truly understand unless they have been in a similar situation. It's torture on both of us.

I'm not trying to get back together with him but I do love him and I do worry about him.

Maybe the future will lead us back to each other or maybe we will never see each other again. Who knows?

Articles like this give me some peace and help me understand. http://www.twinflamesoulmates.com/twinflame-soulmate-relationship-signs-symptoms.html

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So twin flames and soul mates are fact or just a mistery? Is it reality or wishful thinking? And why this beautiful thing is most hurtful like you must pay for being chosen to find one!