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It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
i agree with pinkbird
she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you
if a girl likes you back she will reciprocate immediately.
the reason why she asked for time to think about it is that
she's taking the time to come up with a way to let you down in a way that won't result in you cutting her out of your life.
same thing happened to me earlier this year.
if you think you like a girl
let her know right away..in the most respectful way of course
that way you won't get friend zoned.
she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you
if a girl likes you back she will reciprocate immediately.
the reason why she asked for time to think about it is that
she's taking the time to come up with a way to let you down in a way that won't result in you cutting her out of your life.
same thing happened to me earlier this year.
if you think you like a girl
let her know right away..in the most respectful way of course
that way you won't get friend zoned.
i feel for you though
Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.click to expand
Posted by AdreamuponwakingThank you for your honesty aswell. Like I say, I'm doubtful at this point and tempted to text her to tell her just to tell me if it's a no so I can move on.
i agree with pinkbird
she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you
if a girl likes you back she will reciprocate immediately.
the reason why she asked for time to think about it is that
she's taking the time to come up with a way to let you down in a way that won't result in you cutting her out of your life.
same thing happened to me earlier this year.
if you think you like a girl
let her know right away..in the most respectful way of course
that way you won't get friend zoned.
Posted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.click to expand
Posted by OwnardShe low key called you a coward lol
I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled."
Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah, I got that aswell.Posted by OwnardShe low key called you a coward lol
I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled."click to expand
Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.click to expand
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
Posted by Ownardyou already got your no though.Posted by AdreamuponwakingThank you for your honesty aswell. Like I say, I'm doubtful at this point and tempted to text her to tell her just to tell me if it's a no so I can move on.
i agree with pinkbird
she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you
if a girl likes you back she will reciprocate immediately.
the reason why she asked for time to think about it is that
she's taking the time to come up with a way to let you down in a way that won't result in you cutting her out of your life.
same thing happened to me earlier this year.
if you think you like a girl
let her know right away..in the most respectful way of course
that way you won't get friend zoned.click to expand
: /
i hate to say it.
but the good news is that you're an aries mooner so you'll move on fast.
Posted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
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Posted by OwnardAwful. Don’t send something negativePosted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
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Just say hey, how ya doing? I was wondering if you had a chance to think about the letter I wrote
Posted by pinkbird03I'm Scottish, positivity isn't natural to us. Any suggestions on how to say it?Posted by OwnardAwful. Don’t send something negativePosted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
click to expand
Posted by OwnardI already posted a suggestion🙂Posted by pinkbird03I'm Scottish, positivity isn't natural to us. Any suggestions on how to say it?Posted by OwnardAwful. Don’t send something negativePosted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
click to expand
Posted by pinkbird03Sorry, it didn't load for a while. I will send her it and read the response when it arrives, likely tomorrow morning.Posted by OwnardI already posted a suggestion🙂Posted by pinkbird03I'm Scottish, positivity isn't natural to us. Any suggestions on how to say it?Posted by OwnardAwful. Don’t send something negativePosted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
click to expand
Posted by OwnardKk well at least you will know exactly what she’s thinking 💭 good or badPosted by pinkbird03Sorry, it didn't load for a while. I will send her it and read the response when it arrives, likely tomorrow morning.Posted by OwnardI already posted a suggestion🙂Posted by pinkbird03I'm Scottish, positivity isn't natural to us. Any suggestions on how to say it?Posted by OwnardAwful. Don’t send something negativePosted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
click to expand
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.
Posted by LadyNeptuneShe did. That was kind of mean on her part.Posted by OwnardShe low key called you a coward lol
I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled."click to expand
Op, find someone else.
Posted by OwnardIt’s easy to scare someone off with your emotions, especially if it seems to come out of nowhere.Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah, I got that aswell.Posted by OwnardShe low key called you a coward lol
I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled."click to expand
Next time start small. Ask her on a date. Several dates. Go for the slow burn.
Posted by ChuckcemThanks for all your help Chuck, you've been a great help through this. I'm gonna wait until she's ready to before bringing it up again. I'm not that optimistic based on her response, pretty sure I'm gonna get the just friend's version. I'm more inclined to agree with Adreamawakening on the first page. She's probably trying to figure out a way to tell me that won't result in us leaving each other's life.
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.
Posted by OwnardOh dear.. that screams desperate in capital letters! Hope u didn't send it. For the next time - be more confident 🙂 you can do it!Posted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
click to expand
You don't stand in line to get chosen, you choose who is in your team!
Posted by AquaNextDoorWas going to send it when I woke up but saw Chuck's advice. Gonna wait her out.Posted by OwnardOh dear.. that screams desperate in capital letters! Hope u didn't send it. For the next time - be more confident 🙂 you can do it!Posted by pinkbird03How does this sound? "Hey there, after today I got the impression that it's gonna be a no. I would appreciate it if you just told me. I know I didn't show the same and I apologize for that. I just don't want to be clinging to false hope."Posted by OwnardPosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Ask her. It’s fine. Be straightforward. It’s better than playing games
You don't stand in line to get chosen, you choose who is in your team!click to expand
Posted by OwnardGood man. I'll be honest, that could definitely to be the case, but for now just let her sit with it all. Get busy doing your own thing. Don't give her a reason to think that you're anxiously waiting on her. That will only add unnecessary pressure and creep her out. She should feel that if she says "No" that you won't fall apart.Posted by ChuckcemThanks for all your help Chuck, you've been a great help through this. I'm gonna wait until she's ready to before bringing it up again. I'm not that optimistic based on her response, pretty sure I'm gonna get the just friend's version. I'm more inclined to agree with Adreamawakening on the first page. She's probably trying to figure out a way to tell me that won't result in us leaving each other's life.
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.click to expand
Well done for telling her how you feel....the written word can always be kept, whereas words can be forgotten
Whatever the outcome, at least you expressed your feelings
❤️
Whatever the outcome, at least you expressed your feelings
❤️
Posted by SeleukosThanks! I am to give her the space she needs but I go to help in classes that she is in so I can get volunteering hours for an award. I'll give her the space she needs, but I won't simply avoid her which is nigh impossible in school. We've been meeting up and talking a lot over weekends for around a month now, this is going to be the first we aren't. Now to play the waiting game.
you most certainly may have lost round one. there will be insecurities for both sides of you for the near future now. if she says no and you both agree to remain friends most interactions between you will carry more and a different meaning than each of you might intend.
it may sound harsh but my advice would to just carry on and leave it to her from now.
you showed courage and made the first move and now it's up to her.
if she values you as a friend or is just a good human, she will come to you.
if she doesn't, she isn't worth it.
on top of that this course of action would show her that you respect her decisions and boundaries, even if she may say no. with enough passed time this also might ease the tension a bit and makes it easier to remain friends.
there also might be a small chance, doun't count on it though, she just never considered you before and starts to evaluate you now, even if she says no to give herself some room to navigate.
it's up to her however if she changes her mind and wants to try it.
however it may progress, i hope you can get out of it unscathed.
good luck.
Posted by ChuckcemI'm going to, I've got a lot to do over the weekend, so that won't be hard. At school, it's not so easy. I help the teacher in some classes and she's in them and I normally eat lunch with her, should I stop that? When we were in said class today, while there was a bit of tension to start with, we eventually got talking like it never happened. Like I said to another, over that past month or so, we've been talking excessively over text and Snapchat, and more recently been meeting up. It's gonna be difficult but gets should I do if she contacts me when I am not busy? and it's not to talk about the letter?Posted by OwnardGood man. I'll be honest, that could definitely to be the case, but for now just let her sit with it all. Get busy doing your own thing. Don't give her a reason to think that you're anxiously waiting on her. That will only add unnecessary pressure and creep her out. She should feel that if she says "No" that you won't fall apart.Posted by ChuckcemThanks for all your help Chuck, you've been a great help through this. I'm gonna wait until she's ready to before bringing it up again. I'm not that optimistic based on her response, pretty sure I'm gonna get the just friend's version. I'm more inclined to agree with Adreamawakening on the first page. She's probably trying to figure out a way to tell me that won't result in us leaving each other's life.
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.click to expand
Sorry to keep asking things like this but I'm honestly not sure what to do. In the past I've just been rejected on the spot so this is new.
Posted by ChuckcemI'm going to, I've got a lot to do over the weekend, so that won't be hard. At school, it's not so easy. I help the teacher in some classes and she's in them and I normally eat lunch with her, should I stop that? When we were in said class today, while there was a bit of tension to start with, we eventually got talking like it never happened. Like I said to another, over that past month or so, we've been talking excessively over text and Snapchat, and more recently been meeting up. It's gonna be difficult but gets should I do if she contacts me when I am not busy? and it's not to talk about the letter?Posted by OwnardGood man. I'll be honest, that could definitely to be the case, but for now just let her sit with it all. Get busy doing your own thing. Don't give her a reason to think that you're anxiously waiting on her. That will only add unnecessary pressure and creep her out. She should feel that if she says "No" that you won't fall apart.Posted by ChuckcemThanks for all your help Chuck, you've been a great help through this. I'm gonna wait until she's ready to before bringing it up again. I'm not that optimistic based on her response, pretty sure I'm gonna get the just friend's version. I'm more inclined to agree with Adreamawakening on the first page. She's probably trying to figure out a way to tell me that won't result in us leaving each other's life.
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.click to expand
Sorry to keep asking things like this but I'm honestly not sure what to do. In the past I've just been rejected on the spot so this is new.
Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? We women want a "mature man".
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by RozaeonI'm hoping positive aswell, but I don't think that will be the case. There are times that it's unavoidable such as being in classes but I usually eat lunch with her because we are both are the only ones of our friends that eat at school, I'm guessing I should stop that? If you don't mind me asking, why do you find this sad?
I read all your threads and i can't help but think that they are really cute
However, this one made me a bit sad. I'm glad that you finally told her how you feel even if it's in a letter, i agree with @MyStarsShine 's post
Instead of waiting you should move on with your life, don't spend time with her as long as you have feelings because they will enventually resurfaced
Even though i'm not sure about the outcome, i still hope that it will be positive for you. And if it's not with this girl it will be with another one
Posted by EvatheDivaThanks for your brutal honesty. I needed that. Is there any way to recover in your opinion or am I screwed?Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? We women want a "mature man".
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Posted by RozaeonYou're right, I am a sensitive guy, I have no problems admitting it. I do really care about her and I wish I could go back in time to tell her it myself but alas, I didn't and I am paying the price. My close friends were disappointed with it aswell but told me not to worry about it. I'm almost certain it's negative but one can hope 🙂Posted by OwnardBecause i was expecting a better ending. And, i don't know, you seem like a " sensitive " guy, you made multiple thread about this girl, it shows how you care about her and her reaction is really disappointing in my opinionPosted by RozaeonI'm hoping positive aswell, but I don't think that will be the case. There are times that it's unavoidable such as being in classes but I usually eat lunch with her because we are both are the only ones of our friends that eat at school, I'm guessing I should stop that? If you don't mind me asking, why do you find this sad?
I read all your threads and i can't help but think that they are really cute
However, this one made me a bit sad. I'm glad that you finally told her how you feel even if it's in a letter, i agree with @MyStarsShine 's post
Instead of waiting you should move on with your life, don't spend time with her as long as you have feelings because they will enventually resurfaced
Even though i'm not sure about the outcome, i still hope that it will be positive for you. And if it's not with this girl it will be with another oneclick to expand
Posted by OwnardThe latter. I am sooooo sorry for you, but this is a life's lesson. Just think to yourself that is life is a HUGE chalkboard (visualize it -- green in color, with chalk, cloth erasers, and the five unit holder for chalk your teacher used to draw straight lines in order for her to keep her work "straight"). You use the "eraser" whenever you make a "mistake". You clasp two erasers together to get them "clean". You might as well have the windex and cloth handy to clean said "chalkboard".Posted by EvatheDivaThanks for your brutal honesty. I needed that. Is there any way to recover in your opinion or am I screwed?Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? We women want a "mature man".
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Moral of the story: Next time you meet a woman, have lunch together, etc., talk to her. Don't send her a note! I am "attracted" to your MATURITY as you would have dissed the response (advise) I gave you, but you didn't. THAT'S when your "maturity" begins and you will start from "scratch" (talking to another woman instead of sending her a note to read).
Chalk this up as a lesson learned (pun intended).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by OwnardThe latter. I am sooooo sorry for you, but this is a life's lesson. Just think to yourself that life is a HUGE chalkboard (visualize it -- green in color, with chalk, cloth erasers, and the five unit holder for chalk your teacher used to draw straight lines in order for her to keep her work "straight"). You use the "eraser" whenever you make a "mistake". You clasp two erasers together to get them "clean". You might as well have the Windex and cloth handy to clean said "chalkboard".Posted by EvatheDivaThanks for your brutal honesty. I needed that. Is there any way to recover in your opinion or am I screwed?Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? We women want a "mature man".
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Moral of the story: Next time you meet a woman, have lunch together, etc., talk to her. Don't send her a note! I am "attracted" to your MATURITY as you would have dissed the response (advice) I gave you, but you didn't. THAT'S when your "maturity" begins and you will start from "scratch" (talking to another woman instead of sending her a note to read).
Chalk this up as a lesson learned (pun intended).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.click to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDivaI would appreciate it if you weren't rude to other people in the chat.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Posted by SupesSorry, I don't understand what you mean, you will need to explain.Posted by OwnardNo, don’t make her make a choicePosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.click to expand
Posted by OwnardBeginning with you when you respond to a comment that I gave to the OP; if you don't know that acronym it means Original Postee. Don't be a "Butt-in-Skie!" 😡Posted by EvatheDivaI would appreciate it if you weren't rude to other people in the chat.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDivaI am the OP - Ownard. I would appreciate it if you stopped being rude. If you cannot do this then please leave this chat. I appreciate your input but I won't put up with you being rude to the other people here.Posted by OwnardBeginning with you when you respond to a comment that I gave to the OP; if you don't know that acronym it means Original Postee. Don't be a "Butt-in-Skie!" 😡Posted by EvatheDivaI would appreciate it if you weren't rude to other people in the chat.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Posted by OwnardAhhhh apologies. I have been conversing w/"S" who thanked me.Posted by EvatheDivaI am the OP - Ownard. I would appreciate it if you stopped being rude. If you cannot do this then please leave this chat. I appreciate your input but I won't put up with you being rude to the other people here.Posted by OwnardBeginning with you when you respond to a comment that I gave to the OP; if you don't know that acronym it means Original Postee. Don't be a "Butt-in-Skie!" 😡Posted by EvatheDivaI would appreciate it if you weren't rude to other people in the chat.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
PS: If you CANNOT handle "constructive" criticism, do NOT post a question here for us "members" to comment. Take it with a "grain of salt" 😉
Posted by SeleukosYou do the same! Have a nice weekend!Posted by EvatheDivawhoah, no need to become aggressive.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
i was just pointing out, while not contradicting you or your post, that there are different approaches for different cases. his way isn't inherently wrong and doomed to fail by default. his idea might work for some cases.
there is no golden rule that always works.
every defeat also holds a lesson for itself. it is good to make mistake and learn from them.
i'm sorry if this appeared to be as an opportunity to take offence for you.
i can assure you nothing of this kind was intended but may you have a nice day anyway.
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🤗 🤗 double cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by RooSagicornI agree
I think the letter was cute. Of course, I do better writing too lol. So I get it. Sorry OP how she reacted. Just carry on with your life, and this will get figured out one way or another. Obviously, you will be seeing her around school. I wouldn’t avoid her, but don’t talk about the letter or her answer either. She will if she wants to. If not, you know the answer.
You will make some girl the sweetest boyfriend one day. Life goes on.
OP seems like a lovely guy
🙂
Posted by RooSagicornThanks 🙂 I wasn't planning on bringing it up. I'm giving her space to think about it. Today she seemed to space out a lot when I was near and get agitated so I'm guessing that it's going to be a negative and has accepted that.
I think the letter was cute. Of course, I do better writing too lol. So I get it. Sorry OP how she reacted. Just carry on with your life, and this will get figured out one way or another. Obviously, you will be seeing her around school. I wouldn’t avoid her, but don’t talk about the letter or her answer either. She will if she wants to. If not, you know the answer.
You will make some girl the sweetest boyfriend one day. Life goes on.
i think it's cute, maybe she was only playfully calling you a coward and is indeed thinking it through
i agree with what Supes said, ask her out. I'm thinking she should at least give it 1 try.
fingers crossed
i agree with what Supes said, ask her out. I'm thinking she should at least give it 1 try.
fingers crossed
Posted by SeleukosYou're the BETTER person (and Moi) when one apologies.Posted by EvatheDivano, i apologizedPosted by SeleukosYou do the same! Have a nice weekend!Posted by EvatheDivawhoah, no need to become aggressive.Posted by SeleukosSorry, I WASN'T speaking to you. Was I? Nope! Besides, OP responded back to me. Thank you for playing on DXP..."Go directly to jail ...do not pass go, do not collect $ 200.00"Posted by EvatheDivaWell, one could argue that writing a letter might be more courageous because of the reasons you stated.Posted by OwnardDude are you 8 years old? Oh, I get it! When you want to kiss a woman, you will send her a note. When you want to have sex with her, you will send her a note. When you want to COMMUNICATE with her, well, we know what you're going to do (send her a note). Don't you understand that when one writes things down "It's set in stone?"
Hey there,
Some of you may recognise me from a post a while ago regarding a girl I like, well I've finally did the deed. I told her I have feelings for her. I was having lunch with her at school and asked her to read a letter telling her it while I went for something to drink. I came back and her reply was: "I'm not sure what to think. I'm going to have to think about it and take the cowards way and write it down, my thoughts are so jumbled." I told her to take her time and we continued talking for a bit before class began again and I reminded her to think on it.
I get the feeling that was a bad thing. Any views? I'll keep you guys posted about this if anything happens.
A woman wants to hear from a man (not be handed a note). We women love to have men look us in the eyes and communicate with us. EVEN if a guy is SHY (NO excuse to give a woman a "note") as it's soooooooooo cute when the guy stumbles w/his words, but STILL communicates his feelings to her. Questions: Do you stutter? Do you have a lisp? A woman wants a mature man.
She will share your note with her family/friends...don't ya think that's embarrassing on your part? If you used your own words she could not pick them up from the air and take them to "show" her family/friends, BUT she would go back to family and friends and told them, "Guess what so and so told me?" They would ask, "What?" And she would have responded to them just what she heard from her own ears as your spoke your own words to her.
Is this a McDonald's playground or a Peter Piper's FORUM I logged into—? (Eva looks left, right, up, and down, and reads "DXPNET").
Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
she might share it but what does that tell you? it only tells you that he stands by what he stated and is not afraid or ashamed to comit himself accordingly.
reaching a goal by any means necessary doesn't always the way you intended it to be.
it also matters how you got there and that you did according your principles.
that way you might end up being victorious in defeat and have a base to work with for the future.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
i was just pointing out, while not contradicting you or your post, that there are different approaches for different cases. his way isn't inherently wrong and doomed to fail by default. his idea might work for some cases.
there is no golden rule that always works.
every defeat also holds a lesson for itself. it is good to make mistake and learn from them.
i'm sorry if this appeared to be as an opportunity to take offence for you.
i can assure you nothing of this kind was intended but may you have a nice day anyway.
🤗 🤗 double cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
but i agree with you that no one should turn this thread into a battlefield for his ego.
may the sun always shine upon your sunny side.click to expand
🤗 🤗 🤗 triple cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by SupesPosted by OwnardDon’t pressure her. Don’t give her any ultimatums. Relax and let her think about it.Posted by SupesSorry, I don't understand what you mean, you will need to explain.Posted by OwnardNo, don’t make her make a choicePosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Most women aren’t impulsive. They think about EVERYTHING. Keep being her friend but why don’t you ask her out to dinner in the meantime?click to expand
I may just do that, I think I should at least make some sort of effort since my mistake by telling through letter. I'm gonna wait and see what @Chuckcem says about this though. He's been helping throughout.
Posted by OwnardJust act normally. Don't ignore her, just don't go out of your way to contact her either. That's how you give someone space.Posted by ChuckcemI'm going to, I've got a lot to do over the weekend, so that won't be hard. At school, it's not so easy. I help the teacher in some classes and she's in them and I normally eat lunch with her, should I stop that? When we were in said class today, while there was a bit of tension to start with, we eventually got talking like it never happened. Like I said to another, over that past month or so, we've been talking excessively over text and Snapchat, and more recently been meeting up. It's gonna be difficult but gets should I do if she contacts me when I am not busy? and it's not to talk about the letter?Posted by OwnardGood man. I'll be honest, that could definitely to be the case, but for now just let her sit with it all. Get busy doing your own thing. Don't give her a reason to think that you're anxiously waiting on her. That will only add unnecessary pressure and creep her out. She should feel that if she says "No" that you won't fall apart.Posted by ChuckcemThanks for all your help Chuck, you've been a great help through this. I'm gonna wait until she's ready to before bringing it up again. I'm not that optimistic based on her response, pretty sure I'm gonna get the just friend's version. I'm more inclined to agree with Adreamawakening on the first page. She's probably trying to figure out a way to tell me that won't result in us leaving each other's life.
Well...at least it's out now. First know that you'll have plenty of these experiences in your lfietime, so don't fret about this one. Since you wrote a letter, you'll have to go with the flow. If you told her your feelings in person, you would have inspired her to do the same. However writing a letter means she can respond back the same way. This could take some time, so you'll just have to wait.
This isn't a bad thing necessarily if she's into you, but she probably would've told you that already. If she needs to sort through her feelings then let her do that. Stop reminding her. You'll only look pushy and needy if you do that.
The reason why I said to tell her in person was so that you could potentially circumvent all of this. The direct approach will always make a mark with a woman, even if she says, "No". Also realize that 9 times out of 10 she already knows how she feels about you. She's either A. figuring out how to respond, B. seeing how you react to her delayed response, or C. both. That's why it's important to NOT remind her. She already KNOWS that you're waiting. She's now watching to see how you react.
Sorry to keep asking things like this but I'm honestly not sure what to do. In the past I've just been rejected on the spot so this is new.click to expand
Posted by SupesI'm going to give her until either Monday or Wednesday to see what happens. If nothing then I will re-affirm verbally, if rejected then move on.Posted by OwnardNow you’re getting the hint. A letter isn’t brave or Bold. Women want a MAN. A strong and decisive one at that. A letter tells her that you don’t even have the courage to look her in the eyes. She’s prob thinking........Posted by SupesPosted by OwnardDon’t pressure her. Don’t give her any ultimatums. Relax and let her think about it.Posted by SupesSorry, I don't understand what you mean, you will need to explain.Posted by OwnardNo, don’t make her make a choicePosted by pinkbird03At this point, by the way she just went back into a conversation as if it never happened, I don't think I'm getting anywhere, tempted to text her to ask her if it's a no then just to tell me so I can move on. I hate hanging in the balance here.Posted by OwnardI’m sorry 😕 still have my fingers crossed for good luck! I mean you never know!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks for the honesty mate. I'm doubtful at this point.
It doesn’t sound like she feels the same way or else she probably would have said so.
Most women aren’t impulsive. They think about EVERYTHING. Keep being her friend but why don’t you ask her out to dinner in the meantime?
I may just do that, I think I should at least make some sort of effort since my mistake by telling through letter. I'm gonna wait and see what @Chuckcem says about this though. He's been helping throughout.
If he can’t even man up to something as easy as this.......how is he gonna be a rock in the face of adversityclick to expand
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