Why Men Wont Commit... ;)

"The stereotype about the sex-starved man and the disinterested woman may be more than just a cliche. As it turns out, the instant a woman enters a secure relationship, her sex drive begins to plummet. Four years in, a German study found, fewer than half of women wanted regular sex. And after 20 years, only 20 percent did.

Among men, libido held steady no matter how long they'd been in the relationship. Researchers provide an evolutionary explanation—women's sex drive is initially high to facilitate pair bonding. Meanwhile, desire for tenderness showed the opposite trend. Ninety percent of women craved tenderness, but of men who'd been in relationships for ten years, only 25 percent said they hoped for the same from their partner."


Ha, no wonder I'm a commitment phobe 😉

Why I won't commit— Simply put, im not ready yet.

Oh yea, I hate it when people say that my age is the reason for how I feel. I committed myself to a woman for years...im just lovin me rite now 😄

I know this is going to come as a shock, but my reasons for being a commitphobe have nothing to do with sex. But that is a story for another time.

I have seen this type of thing happen with friends of mine. Its pretty much like a bait and switch. They'll date these girls and have a pretty healthy sex life. But bam! as soon as they become exclusive or married, the sex is gone.

My whole thing is why the false advertising? If you're not a sexual person in general, then why lead someone to think otherwise? I'm not saying it's right but how dumb can these kinds of women be when they're shocked by their partner's cheating?

I basically agree w/you Burrito in that it can appear as a bait & switch, and with some people it is; however, in human nature (during the initial stages) -a typically low sex drive person will "come up" because they are attracted to that person and it's still the beginning/fresh stages, and the person who has a high sex drive will "come down" a little" as not to scare the person, so at one point they are about equal. But, as time goes on, the newness goes away; the low sex drive person starts to slowly go back to where they naturally are, and the high sex drive person is even more amped up, because they have somewhat "repressed" their intensity, and now that it's even less sex than at the beginning they become even more frustrated. I've had discussions w/friends about this, because we've always agreed that it's very hard for a low and a high to work - not impossible, but for the long run very hard. Sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it's very important for a lot of people. Also, a lot of women (typically) equate sex=love; whereas for, they are not mututally inclusive. Men can (typically) have sex (lots of it 😉) w/women they don't love or sometimes even like, but they need that release, so they will do it. Women, aren't usually hardwired that way. Sex & Money, the two biggest problems in a lot of relationships....sigh.

Posted by BigD56
Why I won't commit— Simply put, im not ready yet.

Oh yea, I hate it when people say that my age is the reason for how I feel. I committed myself to a woman for years...im just lovin me rite now 😄

AGREED! You should be enjoying your life and doing what makes YOU happy. When the time is right, it will come to you - and you will then be ready to receive it. Plus, you were in a relationship for a long time (at a young age), now it's time to figure out your life, and what you want to do with it. The world is your oyster! LOL!