Creepy Neighbor

I have this Sag neighbor who I've hung out with once with my current bf... Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Anyway, the other night he knocked on my door and I answered (because plenty of times in the past he'll knock b/c he's locked out his house and need help getting back in it)... As soon as I answered I realized HE'S DRUNK and he tried to force himself on me....

Now, yesterday and today, every time I come out of my house he's around.. I'm just a little scared like what if he tries to rape me or something.. & I don't know if I should call the cops.....

Have anyone dealt with this before?

I don't know why he's trying to come after something he CAN NOT have...

Ok. These are serious allegations. You need to report this.

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Posted by DeeLovesRed
I have this Sag neighbor who I've hung out with once with my current bf... Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Anyway, the other night he knocked on my door and I answered (because plenty of times in the past he'll knock b/c he's locked out his house and need help getting back in it)... As soon as I answered I realized HE'S DRUNK and he tried to force himself on me....

Now, yesterday and today, every time I come out of my house he's around.. I'm just a little scared like what if he tries to rape me or something.. & I don't know if I should call the cops.....

Have anyone dealt with this before?

I don't know why he's trying to come after something he CAN NOT have...

Tell your boyfriend and buy a $ 10 can of pepper spray from Amazon.

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You can buy a taser/flashlight combo on amazon. Pepper spray is just going to make your assailant more vindictive.

Shotguns are more intimidating.

Thats really creepy.

Keep your doors locked and tell your boyfriend how big of a creep he is. By the sounds of it he thinks he's got a convenient little set up in his delusional head.

Posted by DeeLovesRed
Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Are you playing coy with him - or worse - or do you have a problem being direct? Let's break this down

"Sorry...."

Wrong choice of words

"I can't chill"

Surely you mean I don't want to chill (with you)

"I'm busy"

So if you weren't "busy" you'd pick up on his offer?

Thanks everyone for the advice... I think I'll get a can of pepper spray... and I told my BF this morning.... so hopefully things don't have to escalate BUT if it does "oh well" Bc he's a creep...

& I've definitely learned my lesson.. he's a young guy so maybe he thought I was indirectly flirting/leading him on..

But in actuality I really was helping him...

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by DeeLovesRed
Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Are you playing coy with him - or worse - or do you have a problem being direct? Let's break this down

"Sorry...."

Wrong choice of words

"I can't chill"

Surely you mean I don't want to chill (with you)

"I'm busy"

So if you weren't "busy" you'd pick up on his offer?

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Agreed. Give him a chance to respond to a direct no before you pepper spray or shoot him. Maybe he's misinterpreted your friendliness for flirting?

Posted by Librasaurusrex

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by DeeLovesRed
Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Are you playing coy with him - or worse - or do you have a problem being direct? Let's break this down

"Sorry...."

Wrong choice of words

"I can't chill"

Surely you mean I don't want to chill (with you)

"I'm busy"

So if you weren't "busy" you'd pick up on his offer?

Agreed. Give him a chance to respond to a direct no before you pepper spray or shoot him. Maybe he's misinterpreted your friendliness for flirting?

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I would also confront him when your bf is with you (or not might even be better but you need to be firm). I would tell him you did not appreciate what happened that night and if it happens again - this is what you are going to do (pepper spray him/taser him and call the police). Has he texted you again since then? You can't live in your house there without being frightened so get this straight - no ice! And I would report it. If it's on the record, then if something else happens they already have that.

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Posted by Librasaurusrex

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by DeeLovesRed
Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Are you playing coy with him - or worse - or do you have a problem being direct? Let's break this down

"Sorry...."

Wrong choice of words

"I can't chill"

Surely you mean I don't want to chill (with you)

"I'm busy"

So if you weren't "busy" you'd pick up on his offer?

Agreed. Give him a chance to respond to a direct no before you pepper spray or shoot him. Maybe he's misinterpreted your friendliness for flirting?

I would also confront him when your bf is with you (or not might even be better but you need to be firm). I would tell him you did not appreciate what happened that night and if it happens again - this is what you are going to do (pepper spray him/taser him and call the police). Has he texted you again since then? You can't live in your house there without being frightened so get this straight - no ice! And I would report it. If it's on the record, then if something else happens they already have that.

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No he hasn't texted since then... Ever since I said I'm busy, he'll always be there when I come out my house.... and after he forced himself on me he hasn't texted me after that either...

Posted by DeeLovesRed

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Posted by Librasaurusrex

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by DeeLovesRed
Anyway long story short, he's gotten cool with my bf, but every night when I'm home alone he'll shoot me a little text saying "Hey, What's up... Want to chill?"

And usually I'll reply "Sorry can't chill, I'm busy" or I'll simply ignore his text...

Are you playing coy with him - or worse - or do you have a problem being direct? Let's break this down

"Sorry...."

Wrong choice of words

"I can't chill"

Surely you mean I don't want to chill (with you)

"I'm busy"

So if you weren't "busy" you'd pick up on his offer?

Agreed. Give him a chance to respond to a direct no before you pepper spray or shoot him. Maybe he's misinterpreted your friendliness for flirting?

I would also confront him when your bf is with you (or not might even be better but you need to be firm). I would tell him you did not appreciate what happened that night and if it happens again - this is what you are going to do (pepper spray him/taser him and call the police). Has he texted you again since then? You can't live in your house there without being frightened so get this straight - no ice! And I would report it. If it's on the record, then if something else happens they already have that.

No he hasn't texted since then... Ever since I said I'm busy, he'll always be there when I come out my house.... and after he forced himself on me he hasn't texted me after that either...

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see he probably knows better - might be a bit embarrassed - so make sure he got the point and that this does NOT happen again - a 180 degree turnaround is possible along with a sincere apology and a never bother you again approach!

Posted by Gob_Shite
Okay, enough with the over-dramatics. A few important questions before everyone continues being neurotic.

1) What EXACTLY happened when he tried to force himself on you?

2) How did you stop him and how did he react? Did you use words, physical force or a combination of the two?

3) Did he apologise there and then, or even the following day?

4) Have you ever made it clear that you're not interested?

People do stupid things when they're drunk, and Sags usually love to 'try their luck' because they often lack moral scruples. Unless he went way too far, branding him a potential rapist is going OTT.

Also, stop entertaining him via text and by being a 'good neighbour'. From now on, ignore him.

What exactly happened? I opened the door and he tried to grab me (like pull me to him) and kiss me...

How did I stop him? I pushed and told him get the F off me... and I asked him "Wth are you doing—" with that facial expression...

Apology? HELL no, not even an apology text... and when I do come out my house (which he always happen to be there) not once did he say "sorry for the other night"

Made it clear? No I haven't told him directly that I'm not interested.. like I'll say I'm busy or simply ignore him.... Plus he knows my BF, so I figured he knows I'm not interested.... But earlier someone replied and said don't be indirect with him.. tell him directly...



& no ppl I didn't get raped... I feel as if he might rape me since he did try to force himself on me and he always outside of my house.... so I wouldn't put NOTHING pass him...

Posted by Vulcansfire
Shotguns are more intimidating.

ROFLMAO!! 😆 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by Gob_Shite
Okay, enough with the over-dramatics. A few important questions before everyone continues being neurotic.

1) What EXACTLY happened when he tried to force himself on you?

2) How did you stop him and how did he react? Did you use words, physical force or a combination of the two?

3) Did he apologise there and then, or even the following day?

4) Have you ever made it clear that you're not interested?

People do stupid things when they're drunk, and Sags usually love to 'try their luck' because they often lack moral scruples. Unless he went way too far, branding him a potential rapist is going OTT.

Also, stop entertaining him via text and by being a 'good neighbour'. From now on, ignore him.

^5 (high five!) Also, doesn't "hook up" mean he wants to have sex?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your response was, "I can't chill, I'm busy". You opened that door for him. No WONDER he's creeping around you and doesn't respect you AND your boyfriend. I'd have your boyfriend talk to the rude, crude, dude! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Also get a big dog like a Great Dane or something. If a perp see a horse like dog in your house. It will give them a second guess before breaking into it.