Fidelity and commitment

Underrated statement..Are you afraid of being hurt cause deep down you are sensitive? But really don't know how to show it because you are free spirited..

What would it take to keep you? if said I really like you and I want you to be my lover exclusively?

Mutable and fixed... How long did it last?

For me as long as you were good to me and could keep up. I wouldnt say Im sensitive but I guess like everyone I have a few insecurities if they are hit can hurt pretty bad.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Underrated statement..Are you afraid of being hurt cause deep down you are sensitive? But really don't know how to show it because you are free spirited..

What would it take to keep you? if said I really like you and I want you to be my lover exclusively?

Mutable and fixed... How long did it last?

Also if someone told me that it would depend on how long I knew them and the whole good to me and keeping up thing. If I didn't see any of that I would start to distance myself from that person.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Underrated statement..Are you afraid of being hurt cause deep down you are sensitive? But really don't know how to show it because you are free spirited..

What would it take to keep you? if said I really like you and I want you to be my lover exclusively?

Mutable and fixed... How long did it last?

Respect, honesty, feed me

Posted by DMV
Respect, honesty, feed me

^^^this.
but most of all respect. don't take me for granted. if you appreciate me in your mind, I'll notice it. Even if you don't tell it or try to show it. if you want to tailor me into your definitions, then I leave so that you can find a better one. Other pepeople's complaining is not an entertainment to which I could get addicted.

I never get these kinda of questions, even when I get confused about the men in my life.
I suddenly think about these 3 things and it puts things into perspective.

Respect
Honesty
Food

is the man in your life doing these things? Are the friends in your life doing this? If they aint, fuck em.

Posted by DwellingOnMove

Posted by DMV
Respect, honesty, feed me

^^^this.
but most of all respect. don't take me for granted. if you appreciate me in your mind, I'll notice it. Even if you don't tell it or try to show it. if you want to tailor me into your definitions, then I leave so that you can find a better one. Other pepeople's complaining is not an entertainment to which I could get addicted.

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that is so true. You can tell when someone appreciates you.

Fixed signs are terrible for a mutable sign. Fixed signs are controlling.

This was my quote of the day. Just simplified my whole life

Posted by DMV
I never get these kinda of questions, even when I get confused about the men in my life.
I suddenly think about these 3 things and it puts things into perspective.

Respect
Honesty
Food

is the man in your life doing these things? Are the friends in your life doing this? If they aint, fuck em.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What would it take to keep you?

This sentence makes me quiver. Life and love are so transient, someone keeping me sounds scary and like being caged. The lovers who have "kept me" for years in the past always kept me on my toes and at an arm's length. Keeps things interesting. I hate having to convince someone of my love. If they can provide me with mental and physical stimulation (without drama), I will stay. If I stay, I will be dedicated and completely loyal, no questioning it. Went out with a handsome taurus man once. He was an amazing conversationalist, very pleasing to talk to, but I immediately got some "I want to possess you" -vibes from him, yikes 😢

Also what DMV said about respect, honesty and food. Feed me my favorite things, show respect and genuine interest in my ideas, be very honest with me. Will make me notice and appreciate you for sure. Stay active, try new interesting things and share your experiences with me. I will want to be a part of the fun.

-mmm, no I wouldn't say that im sensitive. And I wouldn't say that's the real reason as to why id be afraid of being hurt. For me, I just don't want to look like a fool in the end about someone. I just don't want a guy thinking that he has control over me so easily, only for him to turn around and act like he can play me. Its happened before when I was very young, and from then on I try my best to not let a dude think that he knows or has me just from a week or two of just talking. When I commit its taken seriously, and I will envision getting married and all that. Ill be loyal to a fault to them; as long as I know they are. So the dude has to be something special.

-I would have to make sure they seem like they really mean it. Some guys just date girls just so theyre not lonely or just to show off. Like my best friends ex. Hes a libra. He just dates one girl right after the other. Respect, and honesty, and certain amount of attention would be something that would really keep me. Everything has to be real and genuine. It just has to flow naturally and progress naturally. That's how I see it. If it starts off kinda rocky, or inconsistent then deep down I know that it cant be good and probably wont end well. The older I get, the more I start to become aware of certain things about what it takes for a serious relationship to actually start.

-The only real and serious thing I had was with a Pisces. It lasted almost 6 years. Don't know whos going to be able to even come CLOSE to topping that. lol.

So honestly speaking. Taurus and Sagittarius are really opposite. I guess I would have to have more air than I already do in my chart. I am fixed in alot of ways. I don't mind expressing what I like from you guys. But my fault is just being honest and hoping we get along. It takes along time to open up to someone that is so free spirited and never settles down as much..

You Sags are fun loving too. I also think that A Sagittarian that had more fixed element in their chart would be swell. I love the spur of the moment acts. Just kinda nervous on what to expect from you. If I give in you would think I was easy. And I am not. I would be willing to adapt abit if you do things to show your interested in me too.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What would it take to keep you?

This sentence makes me quiver. Life and love are so transient, someone keeping me sounds scary and like being caged. The lovers who have "kept me" for years in the past always kept me on my toes and at an arm's length. Keeps things interesting. I hate having to convince someone of my love. If they can provide me with mental and physical stimulation (without drama), I will stay. If I stay, I will be dedicated and completely loyal, no questioning it. Went out with a handsome taurus man once. He was an amazing conversationalist, very pleasing to talk to, but I immediately got some "I want to possess you" -vibes from him, yikes 😢

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Tell us how to keep you at an arm's length as a friend and lover. Don't be chummy with you (and consider you the best friend)? Don't hangout with you that often?

How to keep you at toes? Tell us which activities could do that. Besides these I am not clear about this mental stimulation thing. Could it be attained through having a debate with you?


These are great insights into a Sag mind.

Posted by safire
Also what DMV said about respect, honesty and food. Feed me my favorite things, show respect and genuine interest in my ideas, be very honest with me. Will make me notice and appreciate you for sure. Stay active, try new interesting things and share your experiences with me. I will want to be a part of the fun.

What if we don't like your ideas? Can we be honest about them without you feeling that you need to dump us. What is interesting things to you? I enjoy learning new languages, acting, some hiking and any other activity that I haven't tried before.

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Posted by DMV
Fixed signs are terrible for a mutable sign. Fixed signs are controlling.

I actually LIKE when my man tries to control me!! *fans face* HOT!

Tell me what to do! It will turn me on! 😉

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I wish I find a Sag man who likes to be controlled 🙂 I think women of any star is probably the one more willing to give control. It is also very sexy to have him control me a bit.

Well aquasagi, since you asked me directly and I love feeling helpful, here's my take on this. I can't give you direct answers, but I can talk to you about aqua-sag compatibility based on my personal experiences. I know multiple aquas, one is my closest friend and I was in a committed relationship with one for years.

In my opinion the relationship of a sag and an aqua is a bit like that of a student and a teacher, and it works both ways. Both are attracted to the other's curious and knowledge seeking mind. Both feel like they can learn a lot from the other. Aquas tend to be very open minded and accepting, they don't usually judge a sag for their shortcomings. This makes us feel quite at home with you folks, and there's usually a lot of laughs and interesting conversations to be shared. An aqua can end up feeling we know them better than they know themselves. We will love to get to know you completely, but you will have to grow a thick skin. A sag can be brutally blunt and hurt an aqua easily. You need to understand we don't do it with an intention of hurting, we just tend to be extremely honest and also want to understand the motives behind your decisions and actions. We often have an image of an ideal person or a partner in our heads, so we can come off as rather critical of you. Don't give in to our bullshit demands, just be yourself.

An aqua who's got their personal shit together is always cheerleading a sag in their endeavors. Sags are ambitious and visionary, so we are used to people doubting our grand plans. It's refreshing to be around an aqua because they always believe in us and help us develop our plans. You can truly help us improve as individuals and we admire you for it. When we are in our darkest and deepest place, confused and messed up, something we try really hard to hide from others, you are the one who can reason us out of that state of mind. When we get delusional, you are good at mentally slapping us with reality. You can always be honest with us, you *should* always be honest with us. If you don't agree with a sag, you can tell them that, they can take it but they might debate you for it.

A sag is similar to a leo in a sense that no matter how they act around you, you can never truly be "one" with a sag or tame them. Sags stay committed and loyal when they feel great mutual respect in a relationship and personal freedom. This does not mean you should agree with their every opinion, not at all. It does not mean you should let them cheat or treat you with disrespect, not at all. It means you should have your own friends, your own hobbies, take your personal time to do whatever *you* are into, have your own opinions and interests. A sag can get pretty obsessed with a person when they are serious about them. What they don't realize is that with this obsession they can kill the spark for themselves, especially when an aqua tends to get obsessed as well. This is just disastrous, so from the very beginning of the relationship, stick to doing what you enjoyed doing before meeting the sag, by any means do not give up your personal life and identity. You need to be the one controlling the pace because a sag will come at you at full force.

Now you should definitely let a sag man confess their feelings to you first. Sags see everyone as a potential friend so if you just talk and flirt with us, we are unlikely to see anything special in it, we do it with everyone. You're gonna have to give a sag some pretty clear hints to make them realize. In my opinion, you should not give into wanting to confess to a sag, because it's a bit of a turn off for us. We get a lot of attention already and we want to be the one making the pick. Let us think we are the one choosing you. I also know you aquas are one of those people who feel very flattered if someone confesses their love to you. You get all giddy and feel special, and you tend to give everyone nice at least a consideration. What I like about aquas is that you are never scared of us or freaked out by us. We might say some rather sexual and inappropriate things though, which might come to you as a bit of a shock. We love to see your reaction and if you're game 😉 You said you wanted to find a sag man who likes to be controlled - well, sags are always up for an adventure in the bedroom, so I'm pretty sure they can help you out with your fantasies 🙂

Now you should definitely let a sag man confess their feelings to you first. We see everyone as a potential friend so if you just talk and flirt with us, we are unlikely to see anything special in it, we do it with everyone. You're gonna have to give a sag some pretty clear hints to make them realize. In my opinion, you should not give into wanting to confess to a sag, because it's a bit of a turn off for us. We get a lot of attention already and we want to be the one making the pick. Let us think we are the one choosing you. I also know you aquas are one of those people who feel very flattered if someone confesses their love to you. You get all giddy and feel special, and you tend to give everyone nice at least a consideration. What I like about aquas is that you are never scared of us or freaked out by us. We might say some rather sexual and inappropriate things though, which might come to you as a bit of a shock. We love to see your reaction and if you're game 😉 You said you wanted to find a sag man who likes to be controlled - well, sags are always up for an adventure in the bedroom, so I'm pretty sure they can help you out with your fantasies 🙂

The biggest issue with aquas are the questions they ask, seriously. We like giving out advice, but it is especially those defining questions you aquas ask that drive us nuts. You know, those ones asked with your best intentions: "could you be a little more specific?", "I am not sure I'm following, could you redefine that please?". ARGGGHH no I cannot 😄 This can really piss off a sag so be mindful of it, all of my aqua friends do it a lot. I have told them I hate it but they are slow to learn.. Sags can be quite dominating and in my experience it often happens that an aqua sort of starts to cling on to a sag. Not really on purpose, but because we excite you and our ideas seem novel and radical (this usually makes life feel more exciting to you and kinda turns you on). It is easy for an aqua to stop thinking for themselves and just ask a sag because it's easier and we have the answers. Try to avoid it.. I don't know how, but if you feel the questions coming, just try to think for yourself for a few moments first. It's really simple with us, we always say what we mean, only that and exactly that. There is no hidden message, unless we purposefully want to manipulate you.. We are capable of that too, but I have yet to meet a sag so evil they'd rely on manipulation.

Another issue aquas have, is that they tend to be very self focused. It's not on purpose, but it just happens. They talk about themselves and their issues endlessly, and some are like this in the bedroom too. It is all about them. Sags like to please, but don't abuse it. Show us that you care about how we feel and what we are thinking about and you'll gain a lot of respect. Like leos, we love compliments but require them to be more genuine and honest, as we are seekers of authenticity. A sag can smell a faker a mile away, but we might not bust you for it in order not to embarrass you.

About giving us our personal space - we are a bit like libras in a sense that sometimes we dissappear. Let us come to you when we are ready, don't keep messaging us and pestering us. I know it is very hard for an aqua who just wants to know the sag is OK and that they did nothing wrong. It is most likely nothing personal and only temporary. We will love and appreciate you more if you let us do this dissappearing act. Sometimes we just get really tired of people, because we always want to give them our very best and only show our best side. It's pretty exhausting to carry the role of an enthusiast, an entertainer and always be in the spotlight. Sags are so much more than that, there is a lot of depth to us which is often just covered up with humour and jokes.

Oh, one more really important thing, related to questions as well. This is true especially in the bedroom. Never ask a sag if something is okay, if they're cool with it. It is a major turn off, just go for it! Do whatever you please with us! You can't shock a sag in the bedroom. Have your way with us 🙂 If we for some reason don't like it, we will let you know and there's no hard feelings. Only appreciation for your boldness.


So to summarize:

1) Be yourself, remain yourself
2) Have hobbies and interests - passionate and ambitious people are interesting
3) Don't ask so many questions

-- everything else should come naturally to you, don't stress about it! I am confident in your ability to figure out the rest for yourself 🙂


Oh.. and please don't ask me any questions regarding this post, please! 😄

Sorry, looks like my text overlaps a bit, wrote it on notepad because of the silly text length limitation

I can do the honesty, respect, the feed me bit...I can hold a conversation...I am versatile. I can show by calling ..

So what is it ...because astrology says people who are six months away are compatible..since I am an april Taurus...November and December could be compatible ...but you are so different from fixed.

Where could I find you? What are common places?

Oh Thank you so so much Safire!! I really appreciate the time you took giving us your detailed perspective. I logged in just to see if there was any response. I am glad there were more than one 🙂 I have read the first one quickly and i 100% agree about that. This is my relationship with my ex during and post relationship. It would have kept its character if our relationship continued.

I will be back to read all the response in detail for right now just a quick response to say how much obliged I am. Thanks aquasagi