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As Sag, we are usually friendly & warm-hearted to people. The problem is when I just try to be nice to others as friends... then some of guys misunderstand as I "love" them...and they start to want me more and more. That really confuses me & is often very annoying...😢

I usually told guys from very beginning about what I want...because I try to avoid all mess...but they ignored what I said, just kept doing what they want, then I had to turn to "icy cold" to shut them off.

How to make guys know clearly & accept that I only want "platonic-friendship" instead of "love-relationship"——??

Is there anyone experiencing such a problem—
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Sagittarians give mixed signals, you're notorious for it. Because you pursue relationships, you're direct and lust motivated. You secretly want a long lasting bond. But you are quite fearful and would rather not be committed, if it it means failing or being hurt. You're very idealistic.

Plus you love a challenge so when your latest conquest has stopped providing you with one you go off them. Seeking the next adventure, in a sense. You're judgemental and if somebody isn't your 'ideal', no matter how you feel about them, you stick to your 'principles' and drop that person. You're clumsy, very clumsy. It's actually ridiculous. Instead of establishing boundaries, you let yourself get swept up and then run from the consequences! You convince yourself that anyone who falls for you that easily has to be suspect and probably does that with everyone.

You're a generous sign and most of all you want a person not to take advantage of your kind nature, and broad mindedness. You represnt truth and philosphy. The shadow part of your sign is lustful, tactless, driven by desire and self destructive. With you, loss of freedom and your perfect philosophy of love constantly battle it out. Two halves of the same body. The Centaur.

You're a very confused sign
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Sagittarians give mixed signals, you're notorious for it. Because you pursue relationships, you're direct and lust motivated.


The shadow part of your sign is lustful, tactless, driven by desire and self destructive. With you, loss of freedom and your perfect philosophy of love constantly battle it out.

You're a very confused sign




Above is NOT TRUE for typical Sags... we are more spiritual than you thought... 😉
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Or so you'd have yourselves believe.

Like...your libidos overrule your higher selves...it comes with age but some Sag men are the eternal Peter Pans. Commitment eludes you...yet you strive for the perfect partner to lavish your love upon...while setting yourselves up to fail by rushing intimacy.




Totally Wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Because you do NOT know deep inside of Sags.........you are so superfacial...... 😉
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There's nothing to see deep inside of a Sag...you show everything even when you think you're hiding. Sags couldn't be inconscipcuous to save their lives...you show everything



Trust you don't see everything muah ha ha.

If you've ever dealt with a Sagittarius with

Scorpio or Capricorn placements you'd know this.

We might come off as "open books" but WE decide

what chapters you get to read.
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Interesting reaction from the Sags. At your highest, you're all about truth. But you find it hard to accept the truth from others. Your natural instinct is to disagree.

As a sign you are reckless with little regard for consequence. I'm not bitter. I'm simply exploding apart some of your best kept myths. You drag yourself out of your comfort zones in love, because you seek adventure and challenge. You can be dishonest in your dealings with others because you refuse to establish boundaries (back to the thing I said about forced intimacy).

My Sag ex is currently being called out by me for giving me an sti, although he had ample opportunity and freedom to state what he wanted from our 'relationship'. He instead chose to deceive himself, and now we're wading through the bullshit. An sti. That could result in AIDS, HIV or infertlity. All because of reckless and thoughtless, confused behaviour. He hid the full truth of his character from himself, so what hope did i have. He's not ready for me. Scorp moon, say no more.

You demand perfection from your partners so you don't have to face the imperfections of yourselves. You know such liasions are doomed to fail, yet you don't care. Due to aforementioned recklessness.

Almighty Sags. The day I meet one who can readily accept the truth about themselves when confronted with it, is the day swines take to the sky.

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Thanks 🙂

I'm not bothered...because now we're dealing in truth. Whereas before we were dealing with his time honoured self deceptive bullshit. This man chose me for a reason...no one pulls him up on his shit. I'm not having it. Life is too short to lie to yourself.

Any Sag who overcomes that aversion to truth in love & relationships will truly soar to the idealism they hold so dear.

Someone should tell your sign...you aren't responsible for others' feelings. But you can cut alot of the bullshit if you start with self honesty.
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Posted by nimbue
Interesting reaction from the Sags. At your highest, you're all about truth. But you find it hard to accept the truth from others. Your natural instinct is to disagree.

As a sign you are reckless with little regard for consequence. I'm not bitter. I'm simply exploding apart some of your best kept myths. You drag yourself out of your comfort zones in love, because you seek adventure and challenge. You can be dishonest in your dealings with others because you refuse to establish boundaries (back to the thing I said about forced intimacy).

My Sag ex is currently being called out by me for giving me an sti, although he had ample opportunity and freedom to state what he wanted from our 'relationship'. He instead chose to deceive himself, and now we're wading through the bullshit. An sti. That could result in AIDS, HIV or infertlity. All because of reckless and thoughtless, confused behaviour. He hid the full truth of his character from himself, so what hope did i have. He's not ready for me. Scorp moon, say no more.

You demand perfection from your partners so you don't have to face the imperfections of yourselves. You know such liasions are doomed to fail, yet you don't care. Due to aforementioned recklessness.

Almighty Sags. The day I meet one who can readily accept the truth about themselves when confronted with it, is the day swines take to the sky.



😢 hugs U
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You all have the same reaction to truth...and you're actually trying to discount what I'm saying. Lol

Your sign often take the moral high ground when you're in the wrong but don't want to accept it. Actions have consequences. Sags also like to be saviours to people, but at the same time you don't want to be responsible for them. Start by being responsible for yourselves and the choices you make.

It's not about other people...it's about what you do as a sign to entertain bullshit and the energy you can attract. Cutting to the chase works wonders...taking responsibility for your choices is a good start.
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Interesting reaction from the Sags. At your highest, you're all about truth. But you find it hard to accept the truth from others. Your natural instinct is to disagree.

As a sign you are reckless with little regard for consequence. I'm not bitter. I'm simply exploding apart some of your best kept myths. You drag yourself out of your comfort zones in love, because you seek adventure and challenge. You can be dishonest in your dealings with others because you refuse to establish boundaries (back to the thing I said about forced intimacy).

My Sag ex is currently being called out by me for giving me an sti, although he had ample opportunity and freedom to state what he wanted from our 'relationship'. He instead chose to deceive himself, and now we're wading through the bullshit. An sti. That could result in AIDS, HIV or infertlity. All because of reckless and thoughtless, confused behaviour. He hid the full truth of his character from himself, so what hope did i have. He's not ready for me. Scorp moon, say no more.

You demand perfection from your partners so you don't have to face the imperfections of yourselves. You know such liasions are doomed to fail, yet you don't care. Due to aforementioned recklessness.

Almighty Sags. The day I meet one who can readily accept the truth about themselves when confronted with it, is the day swines take to the sky.



😢 hugs U


+2 that was fire.
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*brofist*
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Interesting reaction from the Sags. At your highest, you're all about truth. But you find it hard to accept the truth from others. Your natural instinct is to disagree.

As a sign you are reckless with little regard for consequence. I'm not bitter. I'm simply exploding apart some of your best kept myths. You drag yourself out of your comfort zones in love, because you seek adventure and challenge. You can be dishonest in your dealings with others because you refuse to establish boundaries (back to the thing I said about forced intimacy).

My Sag ex is currently being called out by me for giving me an sti, although he had ample opportunity and freedom to state what he wanted from our 'relationship'. He instead chose to deceive himself, and now we're wading through the bullshit. An sti. That could result in AIDS, HIV or infertlity. All because of reckless and thoughtless, confused behaviour. He hid the full truth of his character from himself, so what hope did i have. He's not ready for me. Scorp moon, say no more.

You demand perfection from your partners so you don't have to face the imperfections of yourselves. You know such liasions are doomed to fail, yet you don't care. Due to aforementioned recklessness.

Almighty Sags. The day I meet one who can readily accept the truth about themselves when confronted with it, is the day swines take to the sky.



😢 hugs U
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It's cool 🙂 I'd rather stand in truth...
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FWIW, I would never date a Sag guy. The ones I know are HUGE manwhores.

:/

I feel the same way about Scorpio guys too.

They're just a lot sneakier about the whole thing.



Finally, we're getting somewhere. Unless a person is going to be upfront about sleeping around, they cannot form the basis of a relationship and then pretend that the consequences are out of their hands.

THis is only caused by self deception, which is a defence mechanism and undefined fear. Something about a person will keep a Sag away, but they stubbornly re-enter the ring of fire and go for more. So the person they are with constantly fails to live up to their expectations because they know the union isn't 'morally' correct. The non-defining of boundaries is passive-aggressive and smacks of self dislike.

A true Sag will always be willing to see the truth about themselves.

Scorp males...love em, but the eternal dance...ain't got the staminia for it.
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Rockthenerds, what sign are you?



scorp male



Yeah, most Scorps can see through Sags which is why these two signs often have problems.



LOL, WHO'S transparent?

Scorpio modus operandi:

Sting-cry-pout
Sting-cry-pout

Rinse repeat.

😄

TOO easy.

Boring, actually. 😛
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Lol @ sting-cry-pout. It's more like a scorn-plot-sabotage
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*cough* airs signs see all sides *cough*



Oh, here comes the Libra. Never picking a side because it's just too much like hard work...


Err, 'scuse me! 🙂
When they do people go nuts, try to silence them, or can't understand how 'blunt/direct/honest/gracious' they're being and wonder where the sweetness and light, lovely little fathead went...and still, we'd be willing to here the other side out ! 🙂
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Even though your sign winds me up with your delivery of truth, I can still se when you're right...and let you have full *ahem* parial credit. Libras try to do the right thing...sometimes but you lot are prone to confusion and stagnation, even though you're a cardinal sign. I guess its that laziness 🙂
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*cough* airs signs see all sides *cough*




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Yeh, the only thing you can get from it is going off the more wordy explanations of the placements or houses and then taking from that the parts that you feel familiar with, and even then it's down to the individual and how they perceive that particular explanation/reading. Take away the signs name and you can just as easily say it's more like a personality report with zodiac names thrown in. 🙂
But even with that said it doesn't go as far as define a person, it's just what they read and go 'ooh, that's just like me!'.


*applause*

Exactly, regardless of sign, a person who hasnt transformed, (say child to adult?) is more likely to appear to have more negative traits associated with their sign in place than positive. Of course, that is still within the perspective of the observers own subjective experience. Imo what defines a person is based on the condition of their character after they become self aware, or in other words after they've have exhausted issues of the past. Which usually takes at least a lifetime to do.
So when i hear generalizations about scorps being whinny, maybe its just the scorps they know..yaknow?
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Straight up...you're meant to level up to the higher heights of your star sign and embrace the negative, instead of running away from it. Because at some point the stuff you thought you buried comes rising to the surface and starts creating some real bullshit.

Being immature is not a good look. Growing is painful...but it must be done for the past to stop holding you back
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It's all the mental juggling, otherworldly at times.🙂
We can just as easily do direct and to the point but being like that all the time would just get boring I think.



Your sign does kind of court controversy...it's mostly playful, but then you sometimes get cranky and spiteful and withhold judgement just because you can. Its a kind of bored frustration because you can usually judge what's right in a situation long before others do so you play around to spice things up

I see you, Leeb...
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you think you're hiding.






I just noticed they tend to keep quite the play on words, hence why i think theyre very intelligent. which is fine if they know when to be blunt and when to play on words.
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OMG, I done this ALL DAY long to my Scorp yesterday. Ouch that 'play' on 'words' much have hurt like a motherfucker. He deserved it (I think?) HA! Damage is done now unfortunately.
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It's all the mental juggling, otherworldly at times.🙂
We can just as easily do direct and to the point but being like that all the time would just get boring I think.



Your sign does kind of court controversy...it's mostly playful, but then you sometimes get cranky and spiteful and withhold judgement just because you can. Its a kind of bored frustration because you can usually judge what's right in a situation long before others do so you play around to spice things up

I see you, Leeb...



That's far from the case sometimes, you wouldn't believe the mental juggling act and things that race around the ol' noggin while trying to come to some sort of judgement (if that's the right word) or course of action, other times it's as you stated. Seriously, it's going to and fro between those possibilities sometimes that makes it look like we're dilly-dallying or spcing things up, but then again we do try to spice things up (without being malicious though)...I don't think spite is used that much tbh but everyone has off days every now and then.
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Ah. I'm only just starting to see that, it's really hard for me to understand people who aren't straightforward with their words. Any other way leaves open too many possibilities, so cold hard truth clears the air. I struggled with my ex because he's so backwards in coming forwards. He has a Libra Moon, Mars and Venus. It contradicts his Sag directness bigtime
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Ah. I'm only just starting to see that, it's really hard for me to understand people who aren't straightforward with their words. Any other way leaves open too many possibilities, so cold hard truth clears the air. I struggled with my ex because he's so backwards in coming forwards. He has a Libra Moon, Mars and Venus. It contradicts his Sag directness bigtime


I think there's benefits to both approaches but it's more a case of applying the right one to suit the situation, I don't think most people are blunt 24 hours a day or beat around the bush all the time, but again familiarity with a person over time helps the other notice these things and counter or work with them in the hopes that a happy medium can be found at some point I'd like to think.
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Ok, I had to read that 3 times before I got it. I agree. Takes some getting used to, though...a very unique type of energy
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So back to the original post...you create misunderstandings in relationships because at some hidden level you can only deal with superficial connections, whilst masking yourselves as somebody bigger and deeper than a causal fuck.



I think you are too "superficial" to understand my original post!!!!!!!!!!

I am looking for a "spiritual friendship" rather than any "causal sex" as you thinking about......🙂

Sags can be more spiritual than physical!!!!!!!!!!!! You don't really know Sag at all...

I see, why you hate Sags so much......because of your ex is Sag...😉 Sorry, you was dumped by a Sag...but that does NOT mean Sag is bad 😉

You should read all the responses from Sags here...we are telling you the TRUTH, no matter what, you accept it or not... Sags know Sags deep inside very well, so if you want to learn about Sags, you need to throw away your "bias" on Sags & start to listen to what Sags tell you...

By the way, what's your sun sign? Scorpio—
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lucky is talking about guys taking her kindness and friendship for something more. When I said mixed signals This is not what Im referring to, especially when she said she clearly told them she was not interested in more than friendship. That has nothing to do with understanding when a point is already made clear, after that it is called denial. Thankfully I dont have a problem with that.



Thank you, Rock 🙂 you seem like understanding my situation......I made very clearly about what I want---"platonic friendship" from the beginning......so I got upset when I realized it didn't work after a while...guys always became greedy... I am thinking about...maybe, I should make friends with GAY-guys... 😉
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So back to the original post...you create misunderstandings in relationships because at some hidden level you can only deal with superficial connections, whilst masking yourselves as somebody bigger and deeper than a causal fuck.



I think you are too "superficial" to understand my original post!!!!!!!!!!

I am looking for a "spiritual friendship" rather than any "causal sex" as you thinking about......🙂

Sags can be more spiritual than physical!!!!!!!!!!!! You don't really know Sag at all...

I see, why you hate Sags so much......because of your ex is Sag...😉 Sorry, you was dumped by a Sag...but that does NOT mean Sag is bad 😉

You should read all the responses from Sags here...we are telling you the TRUTH, no matter what, you accept it or not... Sags know Sags deep inside very well, so if you want to learn about Sags, you need to throw away your "bias" on Sags & start to listen to what Sags tell you...

By the way, what's your sun sign? Scorpio—
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That actually made me laugh. Most of your sign think mistake me for a Scorpio. I'm a Pisces-Aries cusp, Scorp Moon. When I'm not busy ignoring peoples flaws...I keep digging till I get to the heart of a matter. Thats why all my life I have been close to Sags but we always clash. You will never admit when you're wrong. On a good way you may admit it to yourselves.

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You all have the same reaction to truth...and you're actually trying to discount what I'm saying. Lol

Your sign often take the moral high ground when you're in the wrong but don't want to accept it. Actions have consequences. Sags also like to be saviours to people, but at the same time you don't want to be responsible for them. Start by being responsible for yourselves and the choices you make.

It's not about other people...it's about what you do as a sign to entertain bullshit and the energy you can attract. Cutting to the chase works wonders...taking responsibility for your choices is a good start.



Pahahahahahhaahahhahahaha!

Comedy gold at it's best. As you you were. 😛
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You all have the same reaction to truth...and you're actually trying to discount what I'm saying. Lol

Your sign often take the moral high ground when you're in the wrong but don't want to accept it. Actions have consequences. Sags also like to be saviours to people, but at the same time you don't want to be responsible for them. Start by being responsible for yourselves and the choices you make.

It's not about other people...it's about what you do as a sign to entertain bullshit and the energy you can attract. Cutting to the chase works wonders...taking responsibility for your choices is a good start.



ONE SAG

who got in your meat curtains and made you

damaged goods smh. It's a cold world out

there fish don't forget your blanket and

your coat for the next time.
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ROLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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FWIW, I would never date a Sag guy. The ones I know are HUGE manwhores.

:/

I feel the same way about Scorpio guys too.

They're just a lot sneakier about the whole thing.



YES. ALL the Sag MEN (I personally know cheat.


Scorp males...love em, but the eternal dance...ain't got the staminia for it.
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Say it ain't so. Say it ain't so. 😭
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It's Another Sag trait: not taking things seriously. You're meant to be humourous, not clowns. The best joke of all is that you kid yourselves.

When a person does you a favour and sets you free, your lust for danger brings you running back. You're like people you can take the high moral ground with and lecture. You're hypocritical and judge others by standards you can never hope to achieve. But people love you anyway because we can feel the truth in your emotions and it's very admirable.

You make a huge mess of relationships. You like someone you have to 'drag up' to your level, complex, unavailable, difficult people...you like damsels in distress, sob stories...it's your generosity but you misdirect it into people who have the ability to hurt you and make you feel insecure.
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*cough* airs signs see all sides *cough*



when they start making you in sag female form holler @ homie 😉


Lol, I'll let you know if that happens, you can be first on the list 🙂
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I'm 2nd though......RIGHT>?

Sorry, silly question. OF COURSE I AM 😉 😛
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So back to the original post...you create misunderstandings in relationships because at some hidden level you can only deal with superficial connections, whilst masking yourselves as somebody bigger and deeper than a causal fuck.





By the way, what's your sun sign? Scorpio—



That actually made me laugh. Most of your sign think mistake me for a Scorpio. I'm a Pisces-Aries cusp, Scorp Moon. When I'm not busy ignoring peoples flaws...I keep digging till I get to the heart of a matter. Thats why all my life I have been close to Sags but we always clash. You will never admit when you're wrong. On a good way you may admit it to yourselves.

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At least, your moon is Scorpio.........close enough.....😉

Moon can affect people very much......on their behavior & emotion.......you act just like a Scorpio...🙂

Sags only admit when we think we are "wrong", not someone else thinks we are "wrong"......😉
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