Out of the booty call zone

I'm new to the term booty call.. but since I just looked it up apparently I am one.
With a Sag.

Question: If when he asks to hang out and have sex, that I just come over to talk and leave before anything happens, would that upset the Sag into not even wanting sex orrrr I don't really know I just want something long term hahahahaha.

This is what happens when I don't question things.
"he only texts you past 10?" oh he's just busy
"you guys have sex every time?" well he is a dude I just assumed he likes sex

When we were first talking I could swear he said he wanted to come over and make dinner together and teach me how to dance.
I'm super confused.

Also super gullible.
I am honestly pretty happy having sex with him since he's one hell of a thing to look at naked.
Gotta be traditional though.

Posted by ZombieCat
Also super gullible.
I am honestly pretty happy having sex with him since he's one hell of a thing to look at naked.
Gotta be traditional though.

Oh honey, let me tell you the beautiful thing about Sagittarians??_you can get give it up on the first date and they will not look at you any different because they are free spirited people. They don't believe rules and boundaries should be set on how a person feels at any given moment. —Do what you want. Act on how you feel. Go for what you want?? are probably all common words you will hear from a Sagg.
Now if you want something more solid with him, then yes you will need to pull your dress down and actually talk to him, and show him your other sides not just your back side, you feel me?

If you??re really good at something, show the Sagittarian. He will be intrigued and eager to add something to his many talents. If you have an interest in something like sky diving, or camping and you??ve never done it before, ask the Sagg to experience it with you. This is will help him see you are not boring. For Christ sake, if you are boring or things become repetitive he will bore easily and yes my dear, he will only use you for sex, and if you don't keep things spicy and adventurous in the bedroom he won't be accompanying you in there too much longer either.

Nonetheless Saggies are eager to have fun, and learn, and meet new people. They don't like boundaries, traditional, and restrictions. Remember these things and your good to go. Also one huge plus with a sagg man is a smart woman. I mean a brainiac. There's nothing sexier to this man than an independent smart woman that can put it down on him in the bedroom and outside of it.

Posted by ZombieCat
Also super gullible.
I am honestly pretty happy having sex with him since he's one hell of a thing to look at naked.
Gotta be traditional though.

gurl! lawd jesus when sag men take off their clothes. lawd da mercy. i surrender all! 🙂

But seriously speaking, if your needs arent getting met, whats the point?

lol @ pull down your dress

Well, who knows. Time only tells these things. But Maybe just be up front and ask him?

What's the point? My life is boring. I take what I can get I guess.
I consider my standards too high, and he's not the worst guy. He's really silly. Light.

I would ask but that's like the point of no return. And I guess it's kinda obvious he doesn't really feel for me. We play around at work but nothing outside of it. No friendship. Just booty.
Tired of hearing that guy's want nothing more of me than sex.

yeah, id just blurt it out. The only thing is, do you ask b4 or after sex. some men will say whatever it takes to get your pants off.

I was looking for advice maybe to see if relationships can start off like this ahaha
I've never been able to understand 'just sex' because if I want more with you, I'd have sex with you. If you were just a hot bod then I'd stay away because I really don't neeed sex.

Blurt it out??_ maybe one day if I'm feeling impatient. For now I'll take the ignorant woman approach and just assume he likes me. ha 🙂
Thank you guys.

Posted by ZombieCat
I was looking for advice maybe to see if relationships can start off like this ahaha

my ex leo and me started off as FWB. he had a sag moon.

I dont think is unrealistic, but definitely not the norm. by the way, there is nothing wrong with being purposely ignorant until your ready to ask a question and even more ready to hear the answer. as long as your going 20/20, i dont have a problem with this approach. but this means, you can put nothing on him about leading you on.

however, as a scorpio, i strongly do not recommend this approach for you

I guess I'm not understanding the issue here. If you want more, I don't suggest you just come out of your face and say it, without at leas trying to get him to do other activities that don't include the bedroom first.
It will seem rather random if you have been having casual sex with dude for a while, and then out of nowhere you just blurt out —I want a relationship?? he will stare at you like??_huh?
Don't do that. Start trying to actually date him, and show him new things. Ask him thoughts on relationships and stuff, this will warm him up. Once you get on the subject you can start asking him how he feel about you, and THEN let him know how you feel about him.
I'm sorry I just don't believe in putting myself out there for a man before knowing how he feels about me, we either meet half way or not at all.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Girls shouldn't go into it thinking it'll be more, obviously. That said, we're more than just our girly bits, but guys don't know that if that's all we show em. Show em more and sometimes they like what they see. Sometimes you catch em at a time where they're transitioning into a different mindset.

I've had 2 fwbs with Sags turn into more, including the one above. It's the exception, but it happens. Just never know... ya know. 🙂

Guess I'll cross my fingers. I'm definitely my weird self around everyone now >>; but that just means I'm incredibly awkward in sexual situations. hahaha
Funny if he ends up saying he wants something more I don't think I'll be able to hold back a surprised response :o
Thank you for sharing your experience either way.

Posted by pinklibra
I guess I'm not understanding the issue here. If you want more, I don't suggest you just come out of your face and say it, without at leas trying to get him to do other activities that don't include the bedroom first.
It will seem rather random if you have been having casual sex with dude for a while, and then out of nowhere you just blurt out —I want a relationship?? he will stare at you like??_huh?
Don't do that. Start trying to actually date him, and show him new things. Ask him thoughts on relationships and stuff, this will warm him up. Once you get on the subject you can start asking him how he feel about you, and THEN let him know how you feel about him.
I'm sorry I just don't believe in putting myself out there for a man before knowing how he feels about me, we either meet half way or not at all.

Riiight right! I don't really think things through before I do them most of the time. It makes more sense to be straight forward, avoid the bs. But dating is such a game.
And I only dated one guy like 5 years ago. For a few months. One guy.
I know nothing. This really helps.

Posted by DMV
however, as a scorpio, i strongly do not recommend this approach for you

I don't have a choice..
I have tried pisces and cancers but I can't stand how seriously these people take life and when they say they like me then disappear I go nutzo and never talk to them again.
Sags make me feel more comfortable about things. Even sex though it's meaningless and I hate saying that.
Ahhhhh.

Can someone play the 'me' role in my life til a guy likes me then I'll take over again and not have to mess anything up?
I'm really bad with people.

Posted by ZombieCat

Posted by DMV
however, as a scorpio, i strongly do not recommend this approach for you

I don't have a choice..
I have tried pisces and cancers but I can't stand how seriously these people take life and when they say they like me then disappear I go nutzo and never talk to them again.
Sags make me feel more comfortable about things. Even sex though it's meaningless and I hate saying that.
Ahhhhh.

Can someone play the 'me' role in my life til a guy likes me then I'll take over again and not have to mess anything up?
I'm really bad with people.

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I can relate. Whats your venus?

Venus in libra, ma'am. 🙂

Posted by ZombieCat
What's the point? My life is boring. I take what I can get I guess.
I consider my standards too high, and he's not the worst guy. He's really silly. Light.

I would ask but that's like the point of no return. And I guess it's kinda obvious he doesn't really feel for me. We play around at work but nothing outside of it. No friendship. Just booty.
Tired of hearing that guy's want nothing more of me than sex.

Throw some of that scorpio chick magic on him? 😛

Posted by Sag89

Posted by ZombieCat
What's the point? My life is boring. I take what I can get I guess.
I consider my standards too high, and he's not the worst guy. He's really silly. Light.

I would ask but that's like the point of no return. And I guess it's kinda obvious he doesn't really feel for me. We play around at work but nothing outside of it. No friendship. Just booty.
Tired of hearing that guy's want nothing more of me than sex.

Throw some of that scorpio chick magic on him? 😛

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Oh god I wish. Poof.
hahaha not exactly a sexy badass
I mean I've got the independence part down but I'm pretty sure it's the feminist 'idontneedaman'. It's not attractive.

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by ZombieCat

Posted by DMV
however, as a scorpio, i strongly do not recommend this approach for you

I don't have a choice..
I have tried pisces and cancers but I can't stand how seriously these people take life and when they say they like me then disappear I go nutzo and never talk to them again.
Sags make me feel more comfortable about things. Even sex though it's meaningless and I hate saying that.
Ahhhhh.

Can someone play the 'me' role in my life til a guy likes me then I'll take over again and not have to mess anything up?
I'm really bad with people.

I know it's stupid, but i've had the best luck when i wasn't even trying.

My best guy friend's an Aquarius and he says it's endearing how awkward I can be. While I respect pinklibra's opinions very much (she seems like a smart lady), I'm Scorp heavy myself and find that my unassuming brand of honesty is usually the best policy. To each their own. Find yours.

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I suppose!..
I mean I guess I have the 'best' of both worlds.. awkward and honest. Not sure how well that mixes with a sag.
But even if it doesn't, guess I gotta find someone who can handle it.
Also, that's an aquarius! Of course they'd be cool with awkward. They could win awards for awkward situations.

Aggh.
So I practically screamed when he peaked at me getting undressed to get into the shower with him.
You read it right.
I'm that retarded.

hahahahaha
If I were watching me do things from a movie point of view I would've fast forwarded through all of the awkward parts- aka the whole movie.

I'm gonna flip a coin. Heads, I'll ask him where this is going. Tails, I'll buy myself a pizza and eat til I fall asleep.

I bought the pizza anyway.
Tails is just a placeholders now I guess.

I threw a canadian coin.
So it was.. heads or moose?

Landed on head 2/3.

Or maybe the coin is backwards. I really don't want to ask.
ugh

It's hard to do it when the kid won't give me the time of day.
uuugh
maybe next week will work

hahah i flip coins too to make decisions 🙂 Definitely ask him face to face if possible.

Posted by DMV
hahah i flip coins too to make decisions :

Lol!

Okay so finally the big night. I asked.
Booty call it is.
He felt bad though. He said it was merely because he wasn't in a good place in his life right now to date.

Of course I'm upset. And he knew that.
But I'll keep it going.
I feel like this is as good as it's going to get anyway.

Weird.
He seems upset that I asked.
Our charts are pretty much the same but I can't figure out why.. maybe because I kept rolling my eyes?
Didn't even text me last night to say he got home safe.

I almost regret asking.

Use protection!

Posted by Sag89
Use protection!

this. and remember your going into a situation that you dont want to be in with 20/20 vision.

Posted by ZombieCat
Weird.
He seems upset that I asked.
Our charts are pretty much the same but I can't figure out why.. maybe because I kept rolling my eyes?
Didn't even text me last night to say he got home safe.

I almost regret asking.

he just hesitant because he's probably worried he hurt your feelings and he's just making some space to help you in coming to terms with his answer.

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Posted by ZombieCat
Weird.
He seems upset that I asked.
Our charts are pretty much the same but I can't figure out why.. maybe because I kept rolling my eyes?
Didn't even text me last night to say he got home safe.

I almost regret asking.

he just hesitant because he's probably worried he hurt your feelings and he's just making some space to help you in coming to terms with his answer.

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Gayballs.
Men stink.

Posted by Sag89
Use protection!

He stated it was just me and him. I'm not too worried.
Always have birth control though.

Interesting convo

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Interesting convo

This is my life.

Like I'm over the answer now, but he's not.
I think he feels awkward around me now. Totally should never ask. Never again.
It's a dude's dream right? To never talk about that kinda stuff.
Argh.

He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Posted by DMV
He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

Posted by ZombieCat

Posted by DMV
He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

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Than don't say you're ok with just sleeping with people if it's not what you want.

Posted by Sag89

Posted by ZombieCat

Posted by DMV
He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

Than don't say you're ok with just sleeping with people if it's not what you want.

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I can settle. I may not agree with it at first but I get over it.
I'm not gonna throw a fit or anything.
You don't get that feeling that when you meet a (seemingly) perfect guy, you're never going to meet another one again?

ummm, i think your doing a disservice to yourself but im not one to tell someone how to run their life.

No, it's cool.
I was never taught how to do it right, so I'll just do it the way it comes naturally.

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Posted by DMV
He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

Than don't say you're ok with just sleeping with people if it's not what you want.

I can settle. I may not agree with it at first but I get over it.
I'm not gonna throw a fit or anything.
You don't get that feeling that when you meet a (seemingly) perfect guy, you're never going to meet another one again?

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No. I don't think anyone is perfect.

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Posted by DMV
He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

Than don't say you're ok with just sleeping with people if it's not what you want.

I can settle. I may not agree with it at first but I get over it.
I'm not gonna throw a fit or anything.
You don't get that feeling that when you meet a (seemingly) perfect guy, you're never going to meet another one again?

No. I don't think anyone is perfect.

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I mean that there are only so many people in the world (personally) I can actually get along with AND be attracted to.
It's so hard.
I hate so many people. Finding someone attractive that I don't hate AND that likes me back (at least sexually)?? THAT'S a miracle.

how is it that you are afraid of asking a dude what you want?
you are grown as shit...what are you scared of?
losing him?
lol!
he should be afraid of losing YOU.
i just can't understand why women get so desperate like that.
and this is coming from someone who's been there. i didn't truly understand how i got like that.
all i know is:
never fucking again will i let a man make me feel unsettled about what i feel and say and do and love.

Finding someone attractive that I don't hate AND that likes me back (at least sexually)

the above sounds like your list of standards when seeking companionship - in order.
that's kinda screwed up.
how about you reverse the order and scratch off "at least sexually"?
that way, you require a man likes you FIRST rather than you feeling like you'll need to fish for that info later.

Posted by msX

Finding someone attractive that I don't hate AND that likes me back (at least sexually)

the above sounds like your list of standards when seeking companionship - in order.
that's kinda screwed up.
how about you reverse the order and scratch off "at least sexually"?
that way, you require a man likes you FIRST rather than you feeling like you'll need to fish for that info later.

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I'm pretty shallow. I blame the leo moon. I actually wish I could like someone who I don't find attractive.
I mean I could. If I didn't have to be physical with them..
My mind works in the way that I need to like you first.. otherwise I won't. And it's not like he didn't express interest that didn't lead me to believe he 'didn't' like me. It was never clear. For the first like 3 weeks it was non-stop texting and goodnights and unlimited hi's at work. It wasn't sexual. It was cute.
Even our first night hanging out was lots of talking and him trying to lay his head in my lap.. then a little kissing.
But after it became sexual everything.. declined. A sag without chase is a sag who isn't interested...

Desperate.. because the way it should be never is the way it should be.
I have a strong feeling that the world is running out of good guys, so if I should find one that is stuck in this generations belief that sex is better than a relationship, then I'll stick around long enough to see if I agree.
Maybe I'm convincing myself I want a relationship. Because that's sure as hell not something anyone else wants. Peer pressure man.
I want to be happy. And I can be happy alone. I am happy alone.
But for once I want to be happy with someone.

you have a fatalist attitude.
so do i...but my sag sun saves me from displaying it as severly as you seem to.
there are plenty good men. you are in a rush.
at 20, you should be thinking about perfecting your "feminine wiles crafts".
you won't be getting anything happily long term until you do that, trust.