Sag guy wants me to meet his friends after 2 dates (Page 2)

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This topic has me confused.

The title says it´s about meeting his friends.

The content is about him not making plans in ahead.

And the sum of it all: topic creator has a lot of negative to say about this guy, already, but yet continues on with him.

Why doesn´t she go after someone she likes? Why are women like this?

I believe she genuinely likes him.

However she is guilty of the Virgo 'overthink', and imagines every action and non action from the men she dates as a slight to herself. Instead of just going with the flow...as we all have encouraged her to do a multitude of times.

Maybe she does. I don´t really see it frankly, but who am I to judge 🙂

Sags are go with the flow-ers, but it´s like she gets insulted by that. By his mere personality. I don´t get it.

Yeah.. I'd recommend going back and reading over the OP's posting history before offering anymore advice. It'll paint a clearer picture of what you're dealing with.

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If the OP is "bad" you are not any better. You were sore she refused to tell you her ex's birthday. You felt entitled to those info for whatever reason

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Posted by Arielle83
Omg you did all this with the cancer.

The sign doesn't matter.

You're analyzing too much.

Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...

Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...

Fire signs are spontaneous by nature. He's not going to plan things in advance.

It is neither disrespectful or pushy of him to think of you and invite you somewhere. You don't want to go? Grow a backbone and tell him that. Climb off your pedestal already.

Are you trying to make me look bad or make yourself look bad? This is not the first time that you come in and attack me before reading everything. I have already told him I have plans and not going, I don't need you to tell me to grow a backbone to tell him no. I have already done that. If you are looking for drama you can go else where

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I read every word. You don't like what I have to say so you term it as an 'attack'. Must strike some sort of nerve with you...

Your your own worst enemy when it comes to dating. You should be enjoying getting to know him. Instead you imagine a slight to yourself at every turn.

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Posted by LonerLoop
I don't see any difficulities in answering your questions, OP.

My ex Sag has his venus in Cap and mars in Virgo. It doesn't make any difference. A Sag will always be a Sag.

Never, ever reject a Sag when he ask you out. You have already bruised his ego and the best part, you did that twice. They hate rejection the most so yeah, the game is over.

That is all. 😉

He will just have to learn 🙂 I can't drop everything becuase of his big boy ego. I have made a point to him that give me some notice and we can see if we are both free.

Now he is talking about a small trip together, he asked me to know which weekend am I free. He is planning 🙂

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Sags value someone who can be spontaneous with them. You should try to meet him halfway at some point. Open yourself up to the unknown.

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Posted by notsosure
This topic has me confused.

The title says it´s about meeting his friends.

The content is about him not making plans in ahead.

And the sum of it all: topic creator has a lot of negative to say about this guy, already, but yet continues on with him.

Why doesn´t she go after someone she likes? Why are women like this?

I believe she genuinely likes him.

However she is guilty of the Virgo 'overthink', and imagines every action and non action from the men she dates as a slight to herself. Instead of just going with the flow...as we all have encouraged her to do a multitude of times.

Maybe she does. I don´t really see it frankly, but who am I to judge 🙂

Sags are go with the flow-ers, but it´s like she gets insulted by that. By his mere personality. I don´t get it.

Yeah.. I'd recommend going back and reading over the OP's posting history before offering anymore advice. It'll paint a clearer picture of what you're dealing with.

If the OP is "bad" you are not any better. You were sore she refused to tell you her ex's birthday. You felt entitled to those info for whatever reason

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I asked for his birthday to illustrate her over thinking. She was upset he wouldn't make birthday plans with her a month and a half in advance, after only dating for 2 months.

I never said she was bad. Do not put words in my mouth or in my posts that aren't there. However- and this I AM saying in no uncertain terms - I'm 90% sure you and poppy are either the same person, or closely related. You tag team each other's posts and only each other's posts with your "good cop / bad cop" routine.

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Posted by Arielle83
Are illuminati and poppyseed a friends in real life?

illuminati is everyone´s friend! Triangle!

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Hahahahaha

Sounds like they had a good date people. No match is 100% you guys kept saying poppy should leave him as she is "undeserving" on your own book.

You don't have to directly call her bad or not good enough. Your are indirectly saying that. At the end of the day the Sag guy is the judge, he keeps pursuing means she is The prize n his eyes.

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Are illuminati and poppyseed a friends in real life?

Yes and that person who pointed it out is our mother.

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Sag is awesome at being spontaneous.

If you think it means he doesn't respect you then bounce.

Spontaneous men are the best. Let a deserving woman have her fun with him.

You want him to behave in your way.

He's him. You couldn't love him without ridiculing him for being himself anyways.

Don't waste his and your time.

Date a Capricorn.

Agree. That´s what is so weird about this and some women: why insist on dating him and "make him learn"?

They want to take the mom role.

Men need to be "taught".

This is not what real love amounts to.

This is obedience training.

It's emasculating.

Then you have bitter women, and men who run because she's "crazy".

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Plus relationships are hard enough as it is. Even if your perfectly insynch with someone EVENTUALLY there's going to be conflict and compromise.

Starting off things by trying to change or control the other persons core personality spells doom.

It's obvious that we all have different perception to the word "flexibility"

For those who care or simply commenting for drama this is just an update, we talked today and he wants to see me again.

Since I have no other plans I accepted the date invite.

He is keen and consistence, feel free to label us with anything negative with your own jugdement.

Posted by notsosure
"Since I have no other plans" there it is again. A sort of condescending attitude.

We are very different women and want very different things from a relationship. If I ever say "he will just have to learn" about a guy, that is my cue to knowing that I am not into him but the attention and control, and that is not what I want out of a relationship. I want to feel good about my partner and who and how he is.

Hopefully you guys can learn something from each other or from the experience.

Sounds like you are the type of woman who would cancel plans to acomodate to a guy's last minute request? some might say you are flexible, some might say you are a doormat. Do as you please. as I say we are different. the other difference between us is I don't feel the need to label you.It's obvious to see who is having the condescending attitude here.

@Poppyseeds

If you want a person to respect you for who you are, you need to learn to respect them as well...

My bf is a sag sun, gemini moon, and yes he is pretty spontaneous.. I on the other hand like to plan ahead... But.. We agreed to meet half the way.. In a relationship its all about compromise..

I believe that this guy has come into your life to teach you how to embrace spontaneity. You'll learn to get out of your own head and start to enjoy the experience of where it may lead.

Maybe...

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Posted by LonerLoop
I don't see any difficulities in answering your questions, OP.

My ex Sag has his venus in Cap and mars in Virgo. It doesn't make any difference. A Sag will always be a Sag.

Never, ever reject a Sag when he ask you out. You have already bruised his ego and the best part, you did that twice. They hate rejection the most so yeah, the game is over.

That is all. 😉

He will just have to learn 🙂 I can't drop everything becuase of his big boy ego. I have made a point to him that give me some notice and we can see if we are both free.

Now he is talking about a small trip together, he asked me to know which weekend am I free. He is planning 🙂

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "his big boy ego". You are not a nice person. Who talks about someone they want to date like this—?? You are supposed to like him. You just like him for the attention he gives you, and even that is not good enough.

Are you mad cos their date went well? Or you are one of those doormat who believes that a woman should be available whenever her man wants her to be?

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OP is the one who was complaining "i sent him text its been 30mins he didnt reply" so its the other way around...OP wants the guy to learn her way!!! She wants him to be available according to her convenience

he loves routine when its during the week. he is just keen to see me everyday and wnts to have dinner with me after work, but he has a strict bedtime and doens't want to pass that.

We are getting to know each other better, it's about finding the middle ground, no men or women should flake on their friends or family just because their new date wants to see them everyday.

it's brave of you to admit you are moody, most on DXP simply like to argue and act like they are perfect. I respect you for that.