Sagittarius and losing interest quickly

I often find that when I'm into someone, I'm all in and roaring to go. I enjoy banter and flirting.

But I tend to lose interest or get bored very quickly if they are slower paced than me. Even when they come back, I find it hard to get stimulated again.

Does anyone else have this issue?

Yes, I have a friend that's a Sag. She's been married 4 times and is only 42 years old and tell more lies and have more secrets than the FBI...lol. Aside from that, she's a great person, but I really feel bad for her. She still looking for Mr.Right, but always end up with Mr. Right Now-🙂. She seems to be destined for a life of loneliness, but craves a loving, long lasting relationship. Personally, I don't see it happening, but anything is possible. I think after a certain age the free spirit gets a little tiresome...well, for her anyway.

Sometimes

Usually its me who slows down, and they lose interest. Or I get overly focused, and frighten them off. LOL

I run through "crushes" like woah because of this...but, I'm only 7th house Venus in Sagittarius.

1. Out of sight, your out of my mind
2. No sex, ya get next'd
3. No stimulation, time for your deletion

DMV in a nutshell

Posted by cherubicpar
yes! that's a sag thing. the partner needs to be extremely innovative and intellectually stimulating to keep a sag's interest.

+1

All I attract are saggs looking back, its something about a stop sign that intrigues them. I always try to run but I've come to the conclusion it is literally inevitable not to end up bumping back into one or the one you ran from in the first place.

Posted by cherubicpar
yes! that's a sag thing. the partner needs to be extremely innovative and intellectually stimulating to keep a sag's interest.

oh hey man.. your birthdays around December 11 1991 right

I have a friend like that :o

near^

I am totally this way. I'm a sag sun/scorp moon/sag venus. Unfortanatley, the only relationships that attract my fancy or attention are complete bullbutters full of themselves or stage 5 clingers since I'm so hard to 'pin down' as they say. I'm either feel like I'm doing all the chasing or feel smothered so I tend to spend my time away from relationships altogether since I like to keep a healthy self esteem

My interests are the strongest in the beginning stages.
But I can obsess over the one I couldn't get. Until I get him.

Maybe Saggys are threshold lovers.

My interest in someone doesn't make me a fool. It takes time to gain it but you'll lose it quickly if you show you're no different. This is not to say that I'm superior. Creative ideas, intelligent conversation, etc are nice but they don't prove that we're on the same page...relationship wise. I'm looking for certain fundamental things. If they're not present...

Hmm I think it's a little bit of both for me. A lot of times I lose interest (if a guy is too clingy, too accessible, too predictable, or no chemistry with) and just run the opposite direction. I also go through crushes like new shirts. I think I like three or four different guys right now and I'm always on the lookout for more.

However, there's another side of me too. I don't think I ever really get over my crushes. And I'm still desperately dreaming about a guy I knew nothing was gonna happen with months ago. But we had great chemistry and our personalities worked together like crazy, so maybe I'm holding on to him because he's the first guy I haven't gotten tired of...

Posted by SunMoonStars
I often find that when I'm into someone, I'm all in and roaring to go. I enjoy banter and flirting.

But I tend to lose interest or get bored very quickly if they are slower paced than me. Even when they come back, I find it hard to get stimulated again.

Does anyone else have this issue?

yes.

Posted by LIb4Life
Yes, I have a friend that's a Sag. She's been married 4 times and is only 42 years old and tell more lies and have more secrets than the FBI...lol. Aside from that, she's a great person, but I really feel bad for her. She still looking for Mr.Right, but always end up with Mr. Right Now-🙂. She seems to be destined for a life of loneliness, but craves a loving, long lasting relationship. Personally, I don't see it happening, but anything is possible. I think after a certain age the free spirit gets a little tiresome...well, for her anyway.

wait...let me get this straight:
you feel sorry for HER and she's gotten four times what many chicks her age can't get twice, let alone once?
she doesn't seem to have a problem getting men at all.
i bet she's having a great time, but why let everyone know that? it'll only make you jealous and an enemy, and you are so close
to being those given your pity for her and all...lol!

Sagittarius and losing interest quickly

the title ... enough said!

I agree. at 200%

you can flirt with them , do everything , schedule a date .

but unfortunately in 2-3 days. it's the end.

forget these people ! like they do

Even if you have serious venus signs like Taurus/Scorpio/or Pisces? That's a shame !!

what is "quickly"? because my time reference is always different from others'.

Wow, thanks for all the replies guys. Sorry for the late response!

Suntaurvengem: Unfortunately I do not have any of those...

Venus Libra
Rising Aqua
Mars Libra
Moon Leo

MsX: quickly could be if I spend time with someone I like, and afterwards I don't hear from them for 3 days, my interest level will dial way down even if they contact me again. I'm far to restless to sit still and wait by the phone, so I'll be going out or meeting new people.

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The ONLY signs that have been able to hold me down for relationships are Earth signs, especially Taurus and Capricorn. Virgos make fast and comfortable friends. I like their stability and patience 🙂

My ex-boyfriend who is a Sag (don't know his other details) told me that he had gotten bored of the relationship in the 3rd month of our relationship. We remained in touch online in a long distance relationship which was ended 6 months ago.

We have agreed to try some sort of re-connecting and are in touch thru viber or whats apps. To my surprise, He has told me that he can't have sex or be intimate with me. He said no to even cuddling. I am kind of shocked to hear that since if X is my type and I have dumped X but few months down the road I will be attractd to him again and be sexual with him.


My question to you is what can i do to make him want me again.

I'm a sagg moon I lose interest very quick especially if there is no entertainment involved. I'm currently in cahoots with a Taurus he's so cool and keeps me nice and confrotables he keeps me nice and fed makes the best dishes I love his enchilada cheese dip plus the face that my moon in sagg keeps us all valence and fun sorry my ingles is bad! But me and him enjoy times together all se times loves mybtauren babahs him got lil booty but it's ok

How can I keep my ex sag when he has grown bored of me? How can I make it more interesting that he comes back to me.

Posted by SunMoonStars
I often find that when I'm into someone, I'm all in and roaring to go. I enjoy banter and flirting.

But I tend to lose interest or get bored very quickly if they are slower paced than me. Even when they come back, I find it hard to get stimulated again.

Does anyone else have this issue?

oh yes. all da time. you have to keep up with my intensity or i feel like im playing myself and i disconnect and find a better shiner red ball.

which is why i have trouble dating fixed and cardinal signs; different pace!

Vow that is exactly my ex-boyfriend. I wish I knew more about Sags back then. In the beginning, he was all over me showering me with lots of attention but then couple of months into it, he got bored of me. Then he dumped me and now I am in his friend zone. He told me that now he can't be even intimate with me let alone having sex.

My question is do you guys ever return to the same person later. What does that person have to do to get you back in their life?

Can the same person become your object of affection that you chase them like before?

How long can the chase should go before you feel that it is not worth pursuing? Can it continue for ever?

My question is do you guys ever return to the same person later. What does that person have to do to get you back in their life?

no, ive been burned by my ex boyfriend and flings so many times by giving multiple chances that i finally learned my lesson. dammit, the stove is indeed hot. I dont live in the pass, moving forward not backwards, and always twirling twirling twirling.

Can the same person become your object of affection that you chase them like before? no. i realize that the fantasy is better than the reality.

How long can the chase should go before you feel that it is not worth pursuing? Can it continue for ever?

depends on a number of factors. As a venus in cap, i will make sure ive exhausted all my moves on you b4 i call it quits. If none of my advances work, another red ball will grab my attention and i will let it. then, you become an afterthought.

In your case it seems to be a full-fledged relationship. Mine is a different situation. In person lasted for 3 months, then long distance for 4 months. He dumped me online and ever since our it has been down the drain with him moving away from me so much that He doesn't desire me at all. I was working on our goals to bring him to me but He just ended so abruptly. Now he wants to come back but won't be intimate. This will end right here but being the persistent me, I want to try one last option which is to get his attention back.


I don't know how to do it.

- End this relationship on him?
- Stop chasing him? He doesn't chase back when I do that.
- Have a make over?
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never chase a sag man. were Hunters.

Just one suggestion when you Sags answer this question, could you list the reasons that you lost interest in that person. This will help us non-Sags glean some insights into Sag minds

i actually love when my flame is clingy. cant cling hard enough. it just has to be a mutual thing.

i have a scorp moon and venus in cap sq pluto.

i definitely believe it has to be mutual. people who i find clingy, i am not interested in. people who i am interested in, i wouldnt call them clingy, id call them affectionate and attentive.

sounds blunt but, flings ex lovers become clingy in my mind when ive walked away and they havent.

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Posted by aquasagi
Just one suggestion when you Sags answer this question, could you list the reasons that you lost interest in that person. This will help us non-Sags glean some insights into Sag minds

I'm not a Sag, but being clingy is a major turn-off to them.

I guess I should clarify - by clingy I meant dependent. They want an independent person - someone who has the ability to have fun and live life even when the Sag isn't around.

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id agree with that 100%

Posted by aquasagi
Just one suggestion when you Sags answer this question, could you list the reasons that you lost interest in that person. This will help us non-Sags glean some insights into Sag minds

For me personally, these are major turn offs:

- Mind games
- Moodiness
- Too whiney and negative

In a relationship, I like consistency, stability, but above all, intelligence. If a man can inspire me in some way, he has a very good chance of keeping my attention!

Posted by YellowSubmarine


I don't know.. my Sag is rather moody (his moon and venus is in water) so sometimes he likes it, sometimes he doesn't - definitely keeps things interesting so bring on the unpredictability!! Haha.. I'm the same way so sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, but we're both always there at the end of it 🙂

So unpredictability gets the attention of the Sag, right? Mine often says he doesn't understand me so I guess I am unpredictable for him. Although I am consistent about my feelings for him ( and want to have him in my life ) but I have shown from time to time that I am not seeking him and have accepted the breakup but as soon as he shows some interest (that he wants to be closer), I melt right away and tell him "how happy he makes me and would be wonderful to have him in my life". There was a time I was really being clingy, pursuing him relentlessly, showing my love and dedication through emoticoms and voice messages and he would constantly ignore them and leave them unanswered even for three days. Now I have become emotionally strong that I don't send him messages at all and only reply when he sends. He has been coming back to me. Sends me messages in the morning and then in the evening. Lately, I have been challenging him and winning it. He has admitted that he can't win with me. I can tell he likes that challenge.

How else could I be unpredictable?

Posted by DMV
i have a scorp moon and venus in cap sq pluto.

i definitely believe it has to be mutual. people who i find clingy, i am not interested in. people who i am interested in, i wouldnt call them clingy, id call them affectionate and attentive.

sounds blunt but, flings ex lovers become clingy in my mind when ive walked away and they havent.

Okay so looks like that I am being clingy since he desires me no more and am still hoping he comes back. Since he was the one who played with my feelings (I had made it clear in the beginning not to do so in very strong words) but he did it anyways for his own personal motives leaving me in deeper love for him. A lot has happened between us that made even me realize that how much I actually loved him. I could walk away and look for other opportunities but he has a lot of qualities that I wanted in my boyfriend. Besides his physical characteristics, it is his adventurism, fairness, love of exotic and hatred for mundane life. You can never have a man with all these qualities. So why look for new? Why not try to work it out with him?

Posted by YellowSubmarine

Posted by DMV
i have a scorp moon and venus in cap sq pluto.

i definitely believe it has to be mutual. people who i find clingy, i am not interested in. people who i am interested in, i wouldnt call them clingy, id call them affectionate and attentive.

sounds blunt but, flings ex lovers become clingy in my mind when ive walked away and they havent.

well said! he calls me affectionate, which he likes, but never clingy so I guess that's a good thing! Hopefully I can continue to pique his interest and he won't get bored of me :S

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Are you a Sag yourself Yellow Submarine? You are already in a relationship with him. I am sure you have your own life and you let him have his own. What "clingy" did you do that he thought it was affectionate? I am not clear. Being affectionate and independent are two different things. And you are providing him both not over doing either. Do you change your way of affection from time to time?

Mine doesn't want any intimacy with me (fondling, caressing, cuddling etc) but all of this will come with sexual attraction (or love). If I become unattainable, will that get him chasing me? If yes then how do I become unattainable for him?