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I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
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Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.

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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.


Its true though. That was a troll. They edited their OP after a while, with a quote that revealed it.
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Well then I have nothing further to say, as someone who would troll something like this.....renews my disgust at the human race and what we are capable of. There are woman even men for that matter who are stuck in these sorts of relationships. #Reality.

Sad. Just Sad.

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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.


Its true though. That was a troll. They edited their OP after a while, with a quote that revealed it.
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Who revealed it or what?
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.


Its true though. That was a troll. They edited their OP after a while, with a quote that revealed it.
Well then I have nothing further to say, as someone who would troll something like this.....renews my disgust at the human race and what we are capable of. There are woman even men for that matter who are stuck in these sorts of relationships. #Reality.

Sad. Just Sad.


a parody of the type of posts you get on the Scorp board, and of how people use astrology in general...."my husband beats me. is this a Scorpio trait?" etc.
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I try not pay attention to the "Scorpio's are the devil" threads anymore. I love Scorpios.

Let's just put all our eggs in one basket. All of the time. For everything.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.


Its true though. That was a troll. They edited their OP after a while, with a quote that revealed it.
Well then I have nothing further to say, as someone who would troll something like this.....renews my disgust at the human race and what we are capable of. There are woman even men for that matter who are stuck in these sorts of relationships. #Reality.

Sad. Just Sad.


I know that's why when someone posts something like that it's rare it's actually true, which sucks. But why come here for that serious matter.
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
Such good advice. Why spoil it with your closing line. FFS.


Its true though. That was a troll. They edited their OP after a while, with a quote that revealed it.
Well then I have nothing further to say, as someone who would troll something like this.....renews my disgust at the human race and what we are capable of. There are woman even men for that matter who are stuck in these sorts of relationships. #Reality.

Sad. Just Sad.


I know that's why when someone posts something like that it's rare it's actually truth which sucks. But why come here for that serious matter.
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Why come here? Onto DXP you mean? Sometimes when you are desperate for help you will try the path of least resistance. Who knows. Why do we do any of the stuff we do. Different strokes for different folks. But they should never be made to feel they can't come here for it.

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Posted by P-Angel
I didn't get to read your thread before you closed it, so I really have no clue what responders said to you, or what your story is beyond what I can see under title.

But .......



When women have this problem (dependent on a wife beater) .... they often ask for help, such as you did. However, what they are asking for is how to stop the man from hitting them, because they love the man want to stay with him.

If this is the reality for you .... then there's nothing anyone can do for you. Nothing can be said, no services are available to you ... until the time comes that you realize that you actually do want to help yourself out of the situation.

He's not going to change. Trust me, I know ... my first husband was a wife beater (35 years ago) and to this day, he has gone through many wives and is still beating them.

Because people don't change their core values ... no matter how much you love him, he will always be that same person who expresses his aggressions through physically striking out at a woman.

Maybe people told you that, already, idk .... but, I do know that when you're ready to realize that you're not going to change him, regardless of how you feel about him ... then doors will open up all around you to help you and your child.

BUT, so long as you continue to defend him by saying you love him (if that's the case) ..... then those doors will remain closed to you, and you will be all alone in this with nowhere to turn.



.... because what you allow in your life is up to you.



Or maybe you're just a troll ... and a complete asshole to everyone who responded, idk
If only more people grasped this concept. Abusers act and respond with abuse. Non-abusers act and respond to the exact same stimuli in non-abusive ways.