Lizz549
@Lizz549
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A Scorpio man pulled away. Please help me understand him.
Screw him.
Give him no more energy
In fact, go back to your first thought of him flirting with other women.
Give him no more energy
In fact, go back to your first thought of him flirting with other women.
Scorpios play mind games and typically go hot and cold all the time. If you are not a completely stable person and a player yourself, I advise you to drop it because the roller coaster never stops. They can be amazing when they love you, but it comes with a cost. I think that you are giving in too much so it's best to move on.
Omgosh not everything is about you! He’s allowed to not post on fb dude. You should relax.
Posted by GenericUsername
Scorpios play mind games and typically go hot and cold all the time. If you are not a completely stable person and a player yourself, I advise you to drop it because the roller coaster never stops. They can be amazing when they love you, but it comes with a cost. I think that you are giving in too much so it's best to move on.
What cost is that?
What’s your sign
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by GenericUsername
Scorpios play mind games and typically go hot and cold all the time. If you are not a completely stable person and a player yourself, I advise you to drop it because the roller coaster never stops. They can be amazing when they love you, but it comes with a cost. I think that you are giving in too much so it's best to move on.
What cost is that?click to expand
paranoid jealousy and the need to possess.
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Posted by Lizz549
The problem is that I distanced myself from him after seeing him flirting with 2 women. I just thought he wasn’t that much into me or that he was a typical player. I lost contact with him for a long time and I regret acting so immature but I felt insecure.
I decided to reconnect with him and show him my interest.
So like I don't get it. Did you forget why you distanced yourself from him to begin with? If not, what was the point of distancing yourself to begin with?
Women 🤣
Scorpio men are weird creatures. It takes a ton of patience to understand them.
He got cold because how he perceived your actions. He doesn’t realize how you perceived his actions or lack of his actions. There is a breakdown in communication. Perhaps there was potential for something, but you both played some games. Probably out of fear of vulnerability.
I would just let him lead from now on. You already did enough pursuing and signaling. Don’t chase a man. If he is interested and a man enough, he’ll come after you.
And if he doesn’t, well, luckily, there are still tons of men in this world. It’s fun to experience that connection and passion with someone new. You should try it, instead of being stuck on this passive-aggressive Scorpio.
He got cold because how he perceived your actions. He doesn’t realize how you perceived his actions or lack of his actions. There is a breakdown in communication. Perhaps there was potential for something, but you both played some games. Probably out of fear of vulnerability.
I would just let him lead from now on. You already did enough pursuing and signaling. Don’t chase a man. If he is interested and a man enough, he’ll come after you.
And if he doesn’t, well, luckily, there are still tons of men in this world. It’s fun to experience that connection and passion with someone new. You should try it, instead of being stuck on this passive-aggressive Scorpio.
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by Lizz549
The problem is that I distanced myself from him after seeing him flirting with 2 women. I just thought he wasn’t that much into me or that he was a typical player. I lost contact with him for a long time and I regret acting so immature but I felt insecure.
I decided to reconnect with him and show him my interest.
So like I don't get it. Did you forget why you distanced yourself from him to begin with? If not, what was the point of distancing yourself to begin with?
Women 🤣click to expand
She is trying different tactics. Push and pull. Maybe some of them will work. It’s a bit pathetic, all that work for someone you just met 😬
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by Timone
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Which he never was close to her. She had gut feelings he likes her but he flirted with other women so he was just being nice to everybody but those who wanted to read into it - could. Because they wanted to. Man was simply his sexy self. Women are nuts!
If they were not in a relationship then he probably didn’t see anything wrong with flirting. Men are different from women.. of course as a Scorpio woman myself, I’m jealous as hell and don’t want a man flirting with other women 🤣 but knowing myself now, I would express this to him and let him know how it made me feel instead of running away from my feelings.
if they were on their way to building a relationship, she should have expressed that then and it may have opened a door to move onto the next chapter (either with each other or away from each other). But I agree that we can’t assume anything at all and open communication saves everyone time.
You wont really hold man accountable for your feelings if ALL you have is - your gut feelings that he is interested but he never expressed anything toward you, right?
Even if he had expressed his feelings but life turned so he doesnt react to you on social media after you outed yourself as ;intereted; - got to respect his absence of feelings toward you. Like a grown up.
She said they were close friends and he was doing the most initiating, so it sounds like he was in pursuit mode in the beginning.
You assuming that it’s all in her head makes about as much sense as her assuming that the feeling was mutual. If you weren’t directly involved, you don’t know that he wasn’t interested anymore than she knows that he was.
If they were hanging out together consistently, he’s initiating contact and he’s smiling at her, or using body language etc to express that he was into her, that would be a valid reason to assume that he was in fact into her.
If you consider man who is flirting with other women in front of you 'into you' - I can only assume you arent in relationship or in very sorry one.
Or maybe I’m just realistic enough to recognize that not everyone is the same 🤔
some people can be very much into you but still keep other options open as long as there is no commitment established.click to expand
And sometimes even when there is commitment established
A bit of spare 😂
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by Timone
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Which he never was close to her. She had gut feelings he likes her but he flirted with other women so he was just being nice to everybody but those who wanted to read into it - could. Because they wanted to. Man was simply his sexy self. Women are nuts!
If they were not in a relationship then he probably didn’t see anything wrong with flirting. Men are different from women.. of course as a Scorpio woman myself, I’m jealous as hell and don’t want a man flirting with other women 🤣 but knowing myself now, I would express this to him and let him know how it made me feel instead of running away from my feelings.
if they were on their way to building a relationship, she should have expressed that then and it may have opened a door to move onto the next chapter (either with each other or away from each other). But I agree that we can’t assume anything at all and open communication saves everyone time.
You wont really hold man accountable for your feelings if ALL you have is - your gut feelings that he is interested but he never expressed anything toward you, right?
Even if he had expressed his feelings but life turned so he doesnt react to you on social media after you outed yourself as ;intereted; - got to respect his absence of feelings toward you. Like a grown up.
She said they were close friends and he was doing the most initiating, so it sounds like he was in pursuit mode in the beginning.
You assuming that it’s all in her head makes about as much sense as her assuming that the feeling was mutual. If you weren’t directly involved, you don’t know that he wasn’t interested anymore than she knows that he was.
If they were hanging out together consistently, he’s initiating contact and he’s smiling at her, or using body language etc to express that he was into her, that would be a valid reason to assume that he was in fact into her.
If you consider man who is flirting with other women in front of you 'into you' - I can only assume you arent in relationship or in very sorry one.
Or maybe I’m just realistic enough to recognize that not everyone is the same 🤔
some people can be very much into you but still keep other options open as long as there is no commitment established.
And sometimes even when there is commitment established
A bit of spare 😂click to expand
Especially with a hot younger man 😋 mmmm 🔥
It’s good to have a reserve…tire 😄
Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by Timone
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Which he never was close to her. She had gut feelings he likes her but he flirted with other women so he was just being nice to everybody but those who wanted to read into it - could. Because they wanted to. Man was simply his sexy self. Women are nuts!
If they were not in a relationship then he probably didn’t see anything wrong with flirting. Men are different from women.. of course as a Scorpio woman myself, I’m jealous as hell and don’t want a man flirting with other women 🤣 but knowing myself now, I would express this to him and let him know how it made me feel instead of running away from my feelings.
if they were on their way to building a relationship, she should have expressed that then and it may have opened a door to move onto the next chapter (either with each other or away from each other). But I agree that we can’t assume anything at all and open communication saves everyone time.
You wont really hold man accountable for your feelings if ALL you have is - your gut feelings that he is interested but he never expressed anything toward you, right?
Even if he had expressed his feelings but life turned so he doesnt react to you on social media after you outed yourself as ;intereted; - got to respect his absence of feelings toward you. Like a grown up.
She said they were close friends and he was doing the most initiating, so it sounds like he was in pursuit mode in the beginning.
You assuming that it’s all in her head makes about as much sense as her assuming that the feeling was mutual. If you weren’t directly involved, you don’t know that he wasn’t interested anymore than she knows that he was.
If they were hanging out together consistently, he’s initiating contact and he’s smiling at her, or using body language etc to express that he was into her, that would be a valid reason to assume that he was in fact into her.
If you consider man who is flirting with other women in front of you 'into you' - I can only assume you arent in relationship or in very sorry one.
Or maybe I’m just realistic enough to recognize that not everyone is the same 🤔
some people can be very much into you but still keep other options open as long as there is no commitment established.
And sometimes even when there is commitment established
A bit of spare 😂
Especially with a hot younger man 😋 mmmm 🔥click to expand
You’d only need one of the them at a time 🔥🔥🔥
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by Timone
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Which he never was close to her. She had gut feelings he likes her but he flirted with other women so he was just being nice to everybody but those who wanted to read into it - could. Because they wanted to. Man was simply his sexy self. Women are nuts!
If they were not in a relationship then he probably didn’t see anything wrong with flirting. Men are different from women.. of course as a Scorpio woman myself, I’m jealous as hell and don’t want a man flirting with other women 🤣 but knowing myself now, I would express this to him and let him know how it made me feel instead of running away from my feelings.
if they were on their way to building a relationship, she should have expressed that then and it may have opened a door to move onto the next chapter (either with each other or away from each other). But I agree that we can’t assume anything at all and open communication saves everyone time.
You wont really hold man accountable for your feelings if ALL you have is - your gut feelings that he is interested but he never expressed anything toward you, right?
Even if he had expressed his feelings but life turned so he doesnt react to you on social media after you outed yourself as ;intereted; - got to respect his absence of feelings toward you. Like a grown up.
She said they were close friends and he was doing the most initiating, so it sounds like he was in pursuit mode in the beginning.
You assuming that it’s all in her head makes about as much sense as her assuming that the feeling was mutual. If you weren’t directly involved, you don’t know that he wasn’t interested anymore than she knows that he was.
If they were hanging out together consistently, he’s initiating contact and he’s smiling at her, or using body language etc to express that he was into her, that would be a valid reason to assume that he was in fact into her.
If you consider man who is flirting with other women in front of you 'into you' - I can only assume you arent in relationship or in very sorry one.
Or maybe I’m just realistic enough to recognize that not everyone is the same 🤔
some people can be very much into you but still keep other options open as long as there is no commitment established.
And sometimes even when there is commitment established
A bit of spare 😂
Especially with a hot younger man 😋 mmmm 🔥
You’d only need one of the them at a time 🔥🔥🔥click to expand
Go through as many as possible. Life is short and they keep me young! 😛
It’s a great excuse never to mature myself, haha.
I almost read this title as : Scorpio man pulled out ☺️
Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by MonaLisa26Posted by Timone
I agree with @imperfectstorm. You expect too much from someone you wrote off from your life without any explanations. Maybe he met someone and doesn't want to be that close to you like he was in the past.
Which he never was close to her. She had gut feelings he likes her but he flirted with other women so he was just being nice to everybody but those who wanted to read into it - could. Because they wanted to. Man was simply his sexy self. Women are nuts!
If they were not in a relationship then he probably didn’t see anything wrong with flirting. Men are different from women.. of course as a Scorpio woman myself, I’m jealous as hell and don’t want a man flirting with other women 🤣 but knowing myself now, I would express this to him and let him know how it made me feel instead of running away from my feelings.
if they were on their way to building a relationship, she should have expressed that then and it may have opened a door to move onto the next chapter (either with each other or away from each other). But I agree that we can’t assume anything at all and open communication saves everyone time.
You wont really hold man accountable for your feelings if ALL you have is - your gut feelings that he is interested but he never expressed anything toward you, right?
Even if he had expressed his feelings but life turned so he doesnt react to you on social media after you outed yourself as ;intereted; - got to respect his absence of feelings toward you. Like a grown up.
She said they were close friends and he was doing the most initiating, so it sounds like he was in pursuit mode in the beginning.
You assuming that it’s all in her head makes about as much sense as her assuming that the feeling was mutual. If you weren’t directly involved, you don’t know that he wasn’t interested anymore than she knows that he was.
If they were hanging out together consistently, he’s initiating contact and he’s smiling at her, or using body language etc to express that he was into her, that would be a valid reason to assume that he was in fact into her.
If you consider man who is flirting with other women in front of you 'into you' - I can only assume you arent in relationship or in very sorry one.
Or maybe I’m just realistic enough to recognize that not everyone is the same 🤔
some people can be very much into you but still keep other options open as long as there is no commitment established.
And sometimes even when there is commitment established
A bit of spare 😂
Especially with a hot younger man 😋 mmmm 🔥
You’d only need one of the them at a time 🔥🔥🔥
Go through as many as possible. Life is short and they keep me young! 😛
It’s a great excuse never to mature myself, haha.click to expand
Hot stuff 😀🔥
Hi. It makes sense that he’s not all that excited anymore as I distanced myself from him without an explanation. I feel like it’s too late to fix things but at least I tried and if he was really that into me, don’t you think he would at least try??
I mean, I did tell him I liked talking to him. What else am I suppose to do? I wasn’t stalking him by the way. I just liked one picture, not everything and then he stopped posting. I know he’s not obligated to post but if I see him online here and there I don’t know what’s stopping him from doing what he always did.
Do you think I should just move on and assume he doesn’t give a shit anymore?
Another option would be to tell him the truth but that will make me vulnerable because it’s like confessing him my feelings and telling him I was jealous. Hey, I did disappear for a reason. It’s also his fault for being too flirty. But I feel that he will not like that I disappeared because of that. Men think it’s innocent to flirt with others and think we should just suck it up.
I mean, I did tell him I liked talking to him. What else am I suppose to do? I wasn’t stalking him by the way. I just liked one picture, not everything and then he stopped posting. I know he’s not obligated to post but if I see him online here and there I don’t know what’s stopping him from doing what he always did.
Do you think I should just move on and assume he doesn’t give a shit anymore?
Another option would be to tell him the truth but that will make me vulnerable because it’s like confessing him my feelings and telling him I was jealous. Hey, I did disappear for a reason. It’s also his fault for being too flirty. But I feel that he will not like that I disappeared because of that. Men think it’s innocent to flirt with others and think we should just suck it up.
Posted by Lizz549
Hi. It makes sense that he’s not all that excited anymore as I distanced myself from him without an explanation. I feel like it’s too late to fix things but at least I tried and if he was really that into me, don’t you think he would at least try??
I mean, I did tell him I liked talking to him. What else am I suppose to do? I wasn’t stalking him by the way. I just liked one picture, not everything and then he stopped posting. I know he’s not obligated to post but if I see him online here and there I don’t know what’s stopping him from doing what he always did.
Do you think I should just move on and assume he doesn’t give a shit anymore?
Another option would be to tell him the truth but that will make me vulnerable because it’s like confessing him my feelings and telling him I was jealous. Hey, I did disappear for a reason. It’s also his fault for being too flirty. But I feel that he will not like that I disappeared because of that. Men think it’s innocent to flirt with others and think we should just suck it up.
You didn't really try tho. You friended him on fb and told him you'd give an explanation for your ghosting later. But didn't actually follow through with said explanation.
Follow thru with what you said you would. Cause this half ass effort and then whining when he doesn't reach out to start a convo is crazy entitled. Complaining that he doesn't start up a convo with you after a like and basic comment on his post is crazy entitled.
Based on your analysis of this sm situation, overreacting and thinking him not posting is about you, I start to doubt if he was even flirting with these other women. He was probably just engaging in a friendly manner and your overthinking ass got butt hurt because he's not making you the center of his universe at every available moment. So you ghost him. No communication, no closure, just toss him to the side.
If you were never intending to explain what happened don't tell him you would. So far you are showing yourself to be a liar, flakey and not invested by ghosting. Also irrationally jealous. Why would your behavior illicit effort from him?
Saying its his fault for flirting is such a cop out. Take accountability for your part.
Listen if someone ghosted I’d expect a little more effort than a like
Posted by Lizz549
Hi. It makes sense that he’s not all that excited anymore as I distanced myself from him without an explanation. I feel like it’s too late to fix things but at least I tried and if he was really that into me, don’t you think he would at least try??
I mean, I did tell him I liked talking to him. What else am I suppose to do? I wasn’t stalking him by the way. I just liked one picture, not everything and then he stopped posting. I know he’s not obligated to post but if I see him online here and there I don’t know what’s stopping him from doing what he always did.
Do you think I should just move on and assume he doesn’t give a shit anymore?
Another option would be to tell him the truth but that will make me vulnerable because it’s like confessing him my feelings and telling him I was jealous. Hey, I did disappear for a reason. It’s also his fault for being too flirty. But I feel that he will not like that I disappeared because of that. Men think it’s innocent to flirt with others and think we should just suck it up.
You were great up to the point you said
"Men think it’s innocent to flirt with others and think we should just suck it up."
Drop the defensiveness. You were not in a relationship dating or even talking. You hide you feelings. That's on you. That's coming from someone who acted just like you did. But I exploded in a jealous rage. I hate feeling jealous especially when I have no right to be.
So own your shit. Be honest with him without assuming he knew or is actively dodging you. Leave that unsaid and let that go. Just be honest with him about your feelings and why you ghosted if you carry guilt about it. Hell tell it like a joke. " so remember when....actually I was crushing on you and got super jealous😏. It caught be by surprise my bad."
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