Advice/explanation please....

Hi, new to this site...not sure how I ended here but was looking for something anywhere to help me get through something.

I (Pisces) met a Scorpio woman online about a month and a half ago. We had a lot in common: both are single parents, enjoy the simple things in life, yadda yadda. Her profile gave me the sense she was a serious and possibly cautious and private person but I guess I won her over.

We moved to texting after a few days and were in contact everyday. We agreed to meet and had a very nice time together. Time flew by and the conversation flowed easily. At the end of the date I told her I would like to see her again and she replied "I would love to" and we kissed. We continued keeping in touch daily. With Christmas coming and our schedules with kids, etc. we both knew that seeing each other wouldn't be easy. She said once the holidays were over it would be easier to get a sitter and we could spend time together. On Christmas Eve she surprised my by inviting me over to her house for a Christmas drink. Again we had a nice time and good conversation. The night ended with a few kisses and a very long embrace. I floated home and texted her that I was home safe and that I enjoyed spending time with her. She replied "likewise".

Around New Years her and her daughter became sick and she was quiet for a few days which was fine, but our regular communication continued. I mailed her a short letter to say that I was looking forward to getting to know her much more in the new year. When she got it she thanked me and said that was very sweet.

Last week while having our daily text chat, we started to get into more innuendo type chat...we had a joke that I now had to compete with a new foot massager she bought and she would say things like "it will never compete with the real thing (with a wink emoji") and "I will never say no to that". There were some other comments around bedroom activities so I was thinking she was starting to open up.

2 days after that conversation I didn't hear from her until the evening and she told me "I am just not feeling it and don't see this moving forward. I think you are an awesome person and someone out there will make you happy". I was taken by surprise to say the least. A few hours after that I sent a short text to say something like "yeah its hard to develop something over text". I have not contacted her since (its only been 3 days) and don't plan to immediately.

I guess the feedback I am looking for, particularly from Scorpio women, is what the hell happened? Since we met I know she was not online at all. I was not over bearing or rushing things at all and respected her time with her child and to have quiet time for herself. I didn't have any indication she was not interested.

After only a month and 2 meetings I wasn't ready to declare her the woman of my dreams or anything, but she captured my imagination like no one else has in a long time. I really wanted to get to know her as I saw so much potential for us. I don't fall easily and am usually skeptical but she made me excited.

My idea is to lay low, maybe she will miss me and after a few weeks or even a month just send her a message or letter saying I am doing well but not beg or ask her to re-consider. I would like to let her know the reason I am disappointed is that we really didn't get a chance to know each other in person...we both talked of how that is you get to know someone. It sucks but I know I'll be fine but will admit I think both of us are missing out on a great opportunity. Comments and advice are most welcome!

oyyyyveyyyy. I would either let it go OR wait a few weeks NO CONTACT and give her a CALL (let her hear your voice, be forward) and ask her to dinner. Don't be super sweet (you seem like a sweet guy) but be a gentleman and be frank, show her your spine. During the dinner, talk about yourself, don't make it all about her and then don't text her after the dinner, don't call. wait a couple of days. It will drive her CRAZZZYY.

9/10 when a guy is super sweet, especially pisces sweet, it makes me feel that I am too much for you OR I can swallow you whole. as a woman scorpio, ultimately, I want to submit to my man. I have to feel he is stronger than me and won't easily succumb to my every demand otherwise I can become a spoiled brat. dunno if that makes sense.

stop the letters

its sweet but you have to get more green light from her BEFORE being this sweet. i believe everyone needs to be a healthy balance of bitter and sweet. Candy too sweet, gross. Too bitter, gross. But a little bit of both, is magic.

Posted by jb04
2 days after that conversation I didn't hear from her until the evening and she told me "I am just not feeling it and don't see this moving forward. I think you are an awesome person and someone out there will make you happy".



My idea is to lay low, maybe she will miss me and after a few weeks or even a month just send her a message or letter saying I am doing well but not beg or ask her to re-consider.

Why? Put your energy into someone else cause she's shut the door.

Interesting....a variety of opinions

Fuck it, I will answer this.

I'd be annoyed with a man that expressed his feelings all the time. And although you as a person, I don't see a problem with, you come off as kind of a push over. And as the other Scorpios said, I will agree with, I don't like a man that I feel is more passive than I. You come off as that type.

I appreciate all the comments but some confirm why I am so frustrated. I have been pegged as a nice guy that is too sweet and open, possibly too soft and a push over. None of you have ever met me in person. I have built a very successful life and have not been a push over in my relationships. My frustration is that we never had enough time in person for her to know the man I am. Yes I treated her with respect and wanted her to know I liked her, but it wasn’t a continuous stream of syrupy sweetness from me. I maintain if we were able to spend more time together she would not feel this way.

Posted by jb04
Hi, new to this site...not sure how I ended here but was looking for something anywhere to help me get through something.

I (Pisces) met a Scorpio woman online about a month and a half ago. We had a lot in common: both are single parents, enjoy the simple things in life, yadda yadda. Her profile gave me the sense she was a serious and possibly cautious and private person but I guess I won her over.

We moved to texting after a few days and were in contact everyday. We agreed to meet and had a very nice time together. Time flew by and the conversation flowed easily. At the end of the date I told her I would like to see her again and she replied "I would love to" and we kissed. We continued keeping in touch daily. With Christmas coming and our schedules with kids, etc. we both knew that seeing each other wouldn't be easy. She said once the holidays were over it would be easier to get a sitter and we could spend time together. On Christmas Eve she surprised my by inviting me over to her house for a Christmas drink. Again we had a nice time and good conversation. The night ended with a few kisses and a very long embrace. I floated home and texted her that I was home safe and that I enjoyed spending time with her. She replied "likewise".

Around New Years her and her daughter became sick and she was quiet for a few days which was fine, but our regular communication continued. I mailed her a short letter to say that I was looking forward to getting to know her much more in the new year. When she got it she thanked me and said that was very sweet.

Last week while having our daily text chat, we started to get into more innuendo type chat...we had a joke that I now had to compete with a new foot massager she bought and she would say things like "it will never compete with the real thing (with a wink emoji") and "I will never say no to that". There were some other comments around bedroom activities so I was thinking she was starting to open up.

2 days after that conversation I didn't hear from her until the evening and she told me "I am just not feeling it and don't see this moving forward. I think you are an awesome person and someone out there will make you happy". I was taken by surprise to say the least. A few hours after that I sent a short text to say something like "yeah its hard to develop something over text". I have not contacted her since (its only been 3 days) and don't plan to immediately.

I guess the feedback I am looking for, particularly from Scorpio women, is what the hell happened? Since we met I know she was not online at all. I was not over bearing or rushing things at all and respected her time with her child and to have quiet time for herself. I didn't have any indication she was not interested.

After only a month and 2 meetings I wasn't ready to declare her the woman of my dreams or anything, but she captured my imagination like no one else has in a long time. I really wanted to get to know her as I saw so much potential for us. I don't fall easily and am usually skeptical but she made me excited.

My idea is to lay low, maybe she will miss me and after a few weeks or even a month just send her a message or letter saying I am doing well but not beg or ask her to re-consider. I would like to let her know the reason I am disappointed is that we really didn't get a chance to know each other in person...we both talked of how that is you get to know someone. It sucks but I know I'll be fine but will admit I think both of us are missing out on a great opportunity. Comments and advice are most welcome!

Dear Pisces man,

Please stop being a dick. Your idea of ‘laying low’ in some vain hope that she will wake up one day and suddenly realise she missed what an amazing man you are is not based in reality.

You may feel you are both missing out on a great opportunity but she obviously does not feel the same way.

This is dating. It happens. You are not a match regardless of all the boxes you want to tick.

You had two dates. That is enough time to decide whether you like someone, in what way you like them, and if you want to see them again.

You could spend hours trying to guess what the problem is and the chances are it’s at her end, not yours.

One thing I will note from your later post is this, you wrote:

‘I maintain if we were able to spend more time together she would not feel this way.’

I do beg to differ. How can you possibly know how she would or would not have felt?

I’m not sure if I’d go so far as to say it’s arrogant or even delusional but it’s certainly a concerning thought.

I do not think you should contact her again. If she contacts you then play it by ear. In the meantime, try not to get so ‘attached’ to the idea of someone so quickly while dating them but do invest your time on finding someone who will think you’re amazing. This woman is not the one.

Kindest regards,

Scorpio woman

Posted by jb04
I appreciate all the comments but some confirm why I am so frustrated. I have been pegged as a nice guy that is too sweet and open, possibly too soft and a push over. None of you have ever met me in person. I have built a very successful life and have not been a push over in my relationships. My frustration is that we never had enough time in person for her to know the man I am. Yes I treated her with respect and wanted her to know I liked her, but it wasn’t a continuous stream of syrupy sweetness from me. I maintain if we were able to spend more time together she would not feel this way.

This is the post I was referring to. It’s as if you’re saying she doesn’t know her own mind or that she’s got it wrong so you’ll make up her mind for her because you’re obviously right and she’s obviously wrong.

That’s not a good attitude to have when dating.

AgentP911 - thank you, you are correct.

Sounds like a really crappy Scorpio woman and I'm a scorp sun and moon saying this. I don't play with people like this. Find a woman who will really appreciate you and not mess around with your feelings. Do not contact her again ever, you will just play into her ego. I bet she expects you to reach out so don't. Watch after you never respond how she will reach back out, out of nowhere just wanting to say hi'. There really are Scorpio women who are not like this. Yes, I like a strong man, but I really appreciate a kind man and it makes me feel blessed and want to reciprocate. That could be my virgo rising. With that said, I find Pisces pair very well with Virgo sun women. I love that pairing, very loving.

Update.....ran into her at a dinner and we had some small talk. She began to text me suggesting we go out. I said sure we probably could do that knowing it may be just a catch up kind of thing. Her texts continued and she really started to push for us to go out but it was hard to get a day when we were both free. This went on for a bit then one day she spilled her guts and said she adored me and apologized for not having her head on straight and that she wanted to pursue something with me. By this time it had been several weeks since she had told me that she didn't see us moving forward and I had resigned myself to the fact that it wouldn't happen. I did agree we could meet and when it wasn't happening quick enough she got frustrated and one day texts me to tell me she is going on a date with someone else! I just replied "have fun". Kind of a bizarre turn of events I would say. I think I may have dodged a bullet with this one!

exactly why I could never date my own kind, no thanks........

Scorpio women generally don't like men that lay low

That wouldn't work for me as I prefer a man that makes the effort

I've never been with a water sign......Scorpio women are very strong and I'm not sure this would work too well, for me anyway ? I need fire and passion for things to be good