Are Scorpios really that cold?

I was talking about my relationship history with a Leo. I told him about the incident when I cut someone off. Even when the person missed me and tried to rekindle the friendship, I refused. The Leo told me I was cold.

A Pisces acquaintance told me that she encountered a lot of Scorpio females and males. She said that two of her female friends cut her off. Even when she tried to reach out and apologize to them, they still wouldn't talk to her. She said that really frustrated her.

Do we really come across like this? I can see why are action and words can hurt people's feelings but I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

I definitely want to hear thoughts on this. Maybe my Venus in Capricorn makes me colder than a typical Scorpio lol

Yes when we have ran out of patience and the person chances are expired. People tend to over step their boundaries when they see how "kind and sensative" we can be. Honestly they dig themselves a hole. A lot of people like being treated like shit and they only seem to want to come around when we show our cold side. We are reacting to their action so it's their problem!

I have people who tried to come back in my life after I reciprocated the way they treat me. I shouldn't have to show my dark side for them to respect me but sadly that's how the world is. They take kindness for weakness and are suprised that we terminate them from our lives.

We are not to be walked on so we cut them off.

People like being fake I can't do it it's not me. I would rather have 2 close friends then be faking a friendship with a room full of people because of "popularity".

With that being said I don't like nothing that's not authentic. I'm not cheap on anything clothes, jewelry, friendships NOTHING. I prefer quantity and that's why people can't stay out of drama they don't value themselves or other people.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
People like being fake I can't do it it's not me. I would rather have 2 close friends then be faking a friendship with a room full of people because of "popularity".

With that being said I don't like nothing that's not authentic. I'm not cheap on anything clothes, jewelry, friendships NOTHING. I prefer quantity and that's why people can't stay out of drama they don't value themselves or other people.

*quality I really dislike iphone spell check -__-

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Posted by Octoberbaby91
Yes when we have ran out of patience and the person chances are expired. People tend to over step their boundaries when they see how "kind and sensative" we can be. Honestly they dig themselves a hole. A lot of people like being treated like shit and they only seem to want to come around when we show our cold side. We are reacting to their action so it's their problem!

I have people who tried to come back in my life after I reciprocated the way they treat me. I shouldn't have to show my dark side for them to respect me but sadly that's how the world is. They take kindness for weakness and are suprised that we terminate them from our lives.

We are not to be walked on so we cut them off.

Excatly!! We shouldnt have to get ur attention. Contrary to belief of Scorpios I don't want to or like to stoop low so negative this cut!

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We are so misunderstood we are really sensitive and selfless when it comes to people we care about. Once people see that they start tripping and taking advantage of our kindness and wonder why our dark side comes out. We just want to be appreciated! But what people don't realize we are aware of our dark side and it is very dark. I hate when I bring it out because I can be 10x vindictive and meaner than them and I hate losing control. So I just channel the anger and cut them off before I snap. I have a very bad temper and I instantly want to fight when someone pisses me off lol

Posted by Octoberbaby91
Yes when we have ran out of patience and the person chances are expired. People tend to over step their boundaries when they see how "kind and sensative" we can be. Honestly they dig themselves a hole. A lot of people like being treated like shit and they only seem to want to come around when we show our cold side. We are reacting to their action so it's their problem!

I have people who tried to come back in my life after I reciprocated the way they treat me. I shouldn't have to show my dark side for them to respect me but sadly that's how the world is. They take kindness for weakness and are suprised that we terminate them from our lives.

We are not to be walked on so we cut them off.

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That's the problem. People always trying to figure out why do we act so cold "all of the sudden". They never stop and think that their actions may have caused us to act differently towards them. In the past, people took me for granted. Now that I am not taking their bullshit anymore, they are acting surprised and trying to reenter my life. Nope, I'm not the same Scorpio anymore. Goodbye.

Yes I corrected myself already. I mostly reply on my iPhone and it always makes me misspell a word it drives me nuts!!

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Posted by Octoberbaby91
Yes when we have ran out of patience and the person chances are expired. People tend to over step their boundaries when they see how "kind and sensative" we can be. Honestly they dig themselves a hole. A lot of people like being treated like shit and they only seem to want to come around when we show our cold side. We are reacting to their action so it's their problem!

I have people who tried to come back in my life after I reciprocated the way they treat me. I shouldn't have to show my dark side for them to respect me but sadly that's how the world is. They take kindness for weakness and are suprised that we terminate them from our lives.

We are not to be walked on so we cut them off.

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That's the problem. People always trying to figure out why do we act so cold "all of the sudden". They never stop and think that their actions may have caused us to act differently towards them. In the past, people took me for granted. Now that I am not taking their bullshit anymore, they are acting surprised and trying to reenter my life. Nope, I'm not the same Scorpio anymore. Goodbye.

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We may forgive them but we don't look back! We will remember what they did and not let them back in! When your chances expire Im done with you!

Yes I'm definitely Ice Queen.

I haven't met a person yet who didn't want to come back.

Posted by Reincarnation
The women can be a lot colder than the men.

Ice queens.

Disagree. I had a Scorpio man who stung me hard. All is forgiven since we were young and naive but I will be cautious if I ever want to talk to a Scorpio man again.

When my friends are in trouble they like to make their problems mine and I have learned to back off and let them deal with it. I handle all my problems on my own and I would never project it on someone else. I don't like co dependency.

I'm very black and white there are two things that make me cut someone off and that is DONT play with my money or my emotions!

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The women can be a lot colder than the men.

Ice queens.

Disagree. I had a Scorpio man who stung me hard. All is forgiven since we were young and naive but I will be cautious if I ever want to talk to a Scorpio man again.

n = 1.

Excellent logic.

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Thank you. It was way better than you having no examples about how Scorpio females are colder than the males.

My point is that both Scorpio males and females can have the same cold demeanor when somebody betrays them. I know plenty of Scorpio females AND males that cut people off with their actions or words.

Posted by MidnightRises
I was talking about my relationship history with a Leo. I told him about the incident when I cut someone off. Even when the person missed me and tried to rekindle the friendship, I refused. The Leo told me I was cold....


Do we really come across like this?I can see why are action and words can hurt people's feelings but I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

I definitely want to hear thoughts on this. Maybe my Venus in Capricorn makes me colder than a typical Scorpio lol

Nope.

It would be easier if you did. 🙂

But I think all fixed signs have the capacity

to cut someone off for good, if the offense

was bad enough.

I'm surprised your LEO was surprised.

But as always... the men and women differ.

Its a water thing I've been told I can be cold the scary part when a Scorpio woman says that to you my Aries friend has said that to me well so Cancer men can be cold it is our aloofness.

Nope.

It would be easier if you did. 🙂

But I think all fixed signs have the capacity

to cut someone off for good, if the offense

was bad enough.

I'm surprised your LEO was surprised.

But as always... the men and women differ.

I can see that, especially for Leos. Two Leo males cut me off. They both were attracted to me but I didn't reciprocate. They were cool but I was not attracted to them. I made it clear. They stop talking to me all of the sudden.

I'm seeing major key words like "suddenly" and "loyalty."

Unless the other individual is utterly clueless and refuses to listen to you voicing your thoughts and concerns over their bs, have you considered that it IS suddenly? I've seen Scorps just silently fume about what's pissing them off, won't say shit, and then just up and bail, crying victim and justifying their own stupid, immature behavior.

These same individuals also cry about loyalty when they are far from loyal themselves. OH BE SO LOYAL TO ME. I'M ALL ABOUT LOYALTY, blah blah. But the tiniest slight over something trivial, and some of you turn into the most disgusting human beings I've ever met. How the other person is treated over something so stupid because the response was so immature and now that loyalty you swear by just went out the window. It's expected, but not expected to give in return.

But that's the stupid ass, nutter variety I've grown to seriously dislike. THAT bs is cold and fucked up.

The ones who aren't such crazy assholes are the other side of the spectrum- speak up, but give far too many chances until you ARE done. In those situations, there's nothing cold about it. The other person was given more than enough chances to correct their shit. So sorry, bye bitch. Nobody can fault you for that.

I'm always amazed when people think someone is cold or mean for ditching bad people in their lives. Makes me wonder how fucked up they are to others or how much of a doormat they are to others...

Considering it was a Leo who thought it was cold, they were probably perplexed that you didn't take back someone like that because it'd boost the shit out of your ego. "lol they came crawling back. I'm so great that they have to beg to get back on my good graces."

Posted by MidnightRises

Nope.

It would be easier if you did. 🙂

But I think all fixed signs have the capacity

to cut someone off for good, if the offense

was bad enough.

I'm surprised your LEO was surprised.

But as always... the men and women differ.

I can see that, especially for Leos. Two Leo males cut me off. They both were attracted to me but I didn't reciprocate. They were cool but I was not attracted to them. I made it clear. They stop talking to me all of the sudden.

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That's more of the male mentality of "welp, not gonna get laid/pair off with this one. On to the next conquest."

I've seen that from a Libra, Cap, and Leo. Guys tend to stick around (as a "friend") if they think they have a chance. Once they have the realization that there is NO chance, they disappear off into the sunset.

Posted by partiallyimpartial

I'm calling major bullshit right here. presumably you're one of the many people on this site who thinks that people of the opposite gender can't and shouldn't be "just friends" with each other.

even if you personally don't believe that, the fact remains that a lot of women do and will testify to that. males have no corner on this mentality. and using that thinking, the only logical conclusion is to not stick around with a member of the opposite sex once you know you're not going to pair off.

You're a fucking idiot, you know that, right?

Nice try with trying to be oh so "logical" in "calling bullshit."

Take a look at my history, sweetheart. I'm the total opposite.

Now get the fuck away from me. I'm sick of seeing your retarded fuck drivel around here.

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Posted by Reincarnation
The women can be a lot colder than the men.

Ice queens.

Nope. I got iced by my Scorp friend because I forgot to attend his farewell party. We were inseparable... But that time got so busy with my family and guests coming to see me, I completely forgot. He left me a cold message on my phone and didn't take my apology when I called back.

I tried once more and he still didn't let go. I left it at that. It hurt like hell, but I didn't take it further. I knew the Scorpio way...

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This is exactly what I was talking about. Unless you had made similar mistakes in the past, reacting like this is asinine.

"HOW DARE YOU MISS MY PARTY. I WILL NEVER SPEAK TO YOU AGAIN, TRAITOR."

Wow, must not think much of you as a friend if he could ditch you so easily over that one transgression. :/

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The ones who aren't such crazy assholes are the other side of the spectrum- speak up, but give far too many chances until you ARE done. In those situations, there's nothing cold about it. The other person was given more than enough chances to correct their shit. So sorry, bye bitch. Nobody can fault you for that.

I'm always amazed when people think someone is cold or mean for ditching bad people in their lives. Makes me wonder how fucked up they are to others or how much of a doormat they are to others...

Considering it was a Leo who thought it was cold, they were probably perplexed that you didn't take back someone like that because it'd boost the shit out of your ego. "lol they came crawling back. I'm so great that they have to beg to get back on my good graces."

+10000

That's how I feel. I use to give so many people chances until I suddenly stop being ms. nice. People took me for granted. I cut people off that drain my energy. Now I'm surrounded by people that care and love me for me.

I do not care about them coming back into my life. It will never happen. They were a lesson to make me move forward in life.

Posted by MidnightRises
I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

Well I see where you're coming from, however the issue with the statement above is getting over betrayal takes time right? If the person hasn't had the opportunity and sufficient time to "prove" he/she can be trusted "since the last time you seen" them then the person can't really win in that scenario. Basically, "I am keeping my distance because you can't be trusted, but demonstrate to me you've changed".

Anyway to answer the OP, there are three things at play here. First, I find it's rarely as simple as people make it sound whenever they discuss the end of a friendship/relationship. It's usually "I did this and bam the Scorp cut me off". When you dig deeper you find out there is a lot more going on, but the person was and still is oblivious to how they hurt the other. There was a thread last week discussing holding a grudge. Basically, the Scorp was being accused of holding a grudge, because he or she was smart enough to not get burned again by the person that f*cked up. If you are the type of person that touches a hot stove twice, have at it. I personally don't. I think most Scorps use the same approach in situations.

The second issue is Scorps take certain things quite seriously. A little too serious for others, so when that line is crossed it's a done deal, while the other person is "it really wasn't that serious". Meh, maybe not, but you are dealing with a Scorp. Could we learn to mellow the hell out at times, yes. It's not going to happen overnight and it's definitely not going to happen with a lesson of betrayal. I believe that is why for the most part Scorps struggle with Air signs. Air: "life's a party filled with mistakes and experiences! Why so serious?" Scorp: "Everything is serious, serious business, gurrrrrr"

I am exaggerating with the quotes, but you get what I mean. Just read the board.....especially older threads.

Finally, we are fixed. Period. Often see things as black and white, "right" and "wrong", you're a friend or foe. Not easily moved, but open. To be open, we need to be able to trust. Trust the person telling you "it will be better this time" and trust that if you do get burned again, it won't be a lot worst than the first time.

^^^Most people don't change unless they have to. Some do because they want to, but most don't. If a person shows you who they are, believe them. I think most Scorps have learned very early in life.

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Nope.

It would be easier if you did. 🙂

But I think all fixed signs have the capacity

to cut someone off for good, if the offense

was bad enough.

I'm surprised your LEO was surprised.

But as always... the men and women differ.

I can see that, especially for Leos. Two Leo males cut me off. They both were attracted to me but I didn't reciprocate. They were cool but I was not attracted to them. I made it clear. They stop talking to me all of the sudden.

That's more of the male mentality of "welp, not gonna get laid/pair off with this one. On to the next conquest."

I've seen that from a Libra, Cap, and Leo. Guys tend to stick around (as a "friend") if they think they have a chance. Once they have the realization that there is NO chance, they disappear off into the sunset.

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This is one of the reasons why I do not have guy friends. All of my closest friends are girls.

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Posted by Reincarnation
The women can be a lot colder than the men.

Ice queens.

Disagree. I had a Scorpio man who stung me hard. All is forgiven since we were young and naive but I will be cautious if I ever want to talk to a Scorpio man again.

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Based on one experience, which you acknowledge happened years ago? Hmph...

Posted by Unwording
What I want to know is whether all of you Gemini women are in a relationship with the same Scorpio man? Something's up. lol

Lol. Right.

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Posted by MidnightRises
I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

Well I see where you're coming from, however the issue with the statement above is getting over betrayal takes time right? If the person hasn't had the opportunity and sufficient time to "prove" he/she can be trusted "since the last time you seen" them then the person can't really win in that scenario. Basically, "I am keeping my distance because you can't be trusted, but demonstrate to me you've changed".

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I see your point but I gave those certain people so many chances. A person can only take so much until the final tipping point. That''s when I cut you off. Talking about this now, I realize I do not miss them that much at all. My relationship with them in past help me grow as a person that I am now. I wish them the best but we were definitely not meant to be friends.

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Posted by Reincarnation
The women can be a lot colder than the men.

Ice queens.

Disagree. I had a Scorpio man who stung me hard. All is forgiven since we were young and naive but I will be cautious if I ever want to talk to a Scorpio man again.

Based on one experience, which you acknowledge happened years ago? Hmph...

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Read the whole page. That was not the point I was trying to make. Scorpio males are cool. I just know how they can be sometimes.

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I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

Well I see where you're coming from, however the issue with the statement above is getting over betrayal takes time right? If the person hasn't had the opportunity and sufficient time to "prove" he/she can be trusted "since the last time you seen" them then the person can't really win in that scenario. Basically, "I am keeping my distance because you can't be trusted, but demonstrate to me you've changed".

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I see your point but I gave those certain people so many chances. A person can only take so much until the final tipping point. That''s when I cut you off. Talking about this now, I realize I do not miss them that much at all. My relationship with them in past help me grow as a person that I am now. I wish them the best but we were definitely not meant to be friends.

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Understood. It was the way I read it.

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I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

Well I see where you're coming from, however the issue with the statement above is getting over betrayal takes time right? If the person hasn't had the opportunity and sufficient time to "prove" he/she can be trusted "since the last time you seen" them then the person can't really win in that scenario. Basically, "I am keeping my distance because you can't be trusted, but demonstrate to me you've changed".

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I see your point but I gave those certain people so many chances. A person can only take so much until the final tipping point. That''s when I cut you off. Talking about this now, I realize I do not miss them that much at all. My relationship with them in past help me grow as a person that I am now. I wish them the best but we were definitely not meant to be friends.

Understood. It was the way I read it.

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Understandable. I needed this anyway. It makes me reflect and learn new life lessons.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream


The ones who aren't such crazy assholes are the other side of the spectrum- speak up, but give far too many chances until you ARE done. In those situations, there's nothing cold about it. The other person was given more than enough chances to correct their shit. So sorry, bye bitch. Nobody can fault you for that.

I'm always amazed when people think someone is cold or mean for ditching bad people in their lives. Makes me wonder how fucked up they are to others or how much of a doormat they are to others...

Considering it was a Leo who thought it was cold, they were probably perplexed that you didn't take back someone like that because it'd boost the shit out of your ego. "lol they came crawling back. I'm so great that they have to beg to get back on my good graces."

+10000

That's how I feel. I use to give so many people chances until I suddenly stop being ms. nice. People took me for granted. I cut people off that drain my energy. Now I'm surrounded by people that care and love me for me.

I do not care about them coming back into my life. It will never happen. They were a lesson to make me move forward in life.

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Yeah, I know. Aries ice, here. Plus I have a fixed Venus. When I'm done, I'm DONE.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
@rocky. I know it seems like an immediate thing but I can guarantee you that at one point the scorp came out and told you the deal. It was probably a year before and in the middle of other shit but they said something like, "I really can't be the person who carries all the emotional baggage here" or "I don't feel appreciated and it makes me sad" or "I give this relationship one more year tops" or something very blunt and to the point.

And I can guarantee you that the type I described DOES exist. There is no "seems." Let's refer back to classic Scorp paranoia who looks for something wrong when they're in relationships. That bs seeps into every day life, too. "I don't trust anyone!!" Something off kilter happens with someone and suddenly it's the end of the world. Why? That stupid ass, unfounded paranoia. "Everyone is out to get meee!!" No.

Some are just stupidly fickle and hold higher standards for others than themselves. "I can, but you can't." But we're talking seriously self involved narcissists here. It's fucked up that someone can erase years of good over one small instance of bad.

I've also known of some who were clearly in the wrong with their retarded ass behavior and when called out on it, they got defensive immediately and YOU were the bad guy. While I know not all are like this, you cannot justify such shitty behavior to "that's just the Scorp way." Grow the fuck up, people. Sometimes someone's bullshit is just bullshit.

All of it is stupid and immature. The justification is usually unfounded and overkill behavior.

That said, your point applies to both sides, not just the Scorp side.

Posted by MidnightRises
I was talking about my relationship history with a Leo. I told him about the incident when I cut someone off. Even when the person missed me and tried to rekindle the friendship, I refused. The Leo told me I was cold.

A Pisces acquaintance told me that she encountered a lot of Scorpio females and males. She said that two of her female friends cut her off. Even when she tried to reach out and apologize to them, they still wouldn't talk to her. She said that really frustrated her.

Do we really come across like this? I can see why are action and words can hurt people's feelings but I take loyalty really seriously. If you betray me and have not change since the last time I have seen you, there's no way you ever be in my life again.

I definitely want to hear thoughts on this. Maybe my Venus in Capricorn makes me colder than a typical Scorpio lol

Yes, as a non-scorpio/outsider, we see it as being really cold. EVERYONE makes mistakes in relationships of any kind simply because no one is perfect. Everyone will get hurt feelings. I have found (from my ex and my sister) that scorpios tend to be very sensitive. As a cancer, I am too, but scorpios tend to be moreso in the sense that they can take something small as a stab in their heart. I think grace is needed in every relationship in life. Now, there are exceptions. I don't tolerate abuse or cheating. Or, if someone did something extremely heinous to you as a friend, that's different. Aside from the extremes, everyone you get close to in life will hurt your feelings at some point--be it your best friend, your co-worker, your mom, etc. That doesn't mean they meant it. They may not have even realized how they came off to you or how it hurt you. If someone apologizes and is trying to heal things, I don't understand why you wouldn't let them. Again, aside from extreme instances.

Almost all problems in relationships stem from miscommunication. That miscommunication will continue until you talk.

I'm not saying you are prideful, because I don't know you. The scorpios I know do it because of pride and self-protection. They would actually save themselves from a lot of hurt if they swallowed their pride and broke down their walls, though.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
I'm seeing major key words like "suddenly" and "loyalty."

Unless the other individual is utterly clueless and refuses to listen to you voicing your thoughts and concerns over their bs, have you considered that it IS suddenly? I've seen Scorps just silently fume about what's pissing them off, won't say shit, and then just up and bail, crying victim and justifying their own stupid, immature behavior.

These same individuals also cry about loyalty when they are far from loyal themselves. OH BE SO LOYAL TO ME. I'M ALL ABOUT LOYALTY, blah blah. But the tiniest slight over something trivial, and some of you turn into the most disgusting human beings I've ever met. How the other person is treated over something so stupid because the response was so immature and now that loyalty you swear by just went out the window. It's expected, but not expected to give in return."

Some people on this board like to dish it out, but are not going to like this response. However, I have to say that I agree with the message in this. People aren't mind readers. If you have a problem or your feelings were hurt, communicate that. If the person ignores it and continues to be mean, and it's on purpose, then move on without them in your life. To just cut someone off because your feelings got hurt, but the person didn't even realize how you were feeling...yes, that comes off as being very cold.

The Scorpio I dealt with is very pessimistic and malcontent. She Would sooner cut you off then risk being hurt by the invisible monster she created and gave life to in her own mind. I am sure not all Scorpios are like this but I feel they are the exception and not the rule. Most Scorpios will cut you off cold whether the slight is perceived or real. Some Scorps wear the ability to cut someone completely off as if it's a badge of honor, when it only shows an inability to be flexible, objective, and forgiving.

Posted by Impulsv
Im a cold

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Frozen, it seems.

Posted by Unwording
What I want to know is whether all of you Gemini women are in a relationship with the same Scorpio man? Something's up. lol

Hahahaha _??

I have only read the OP .....


I have quite a few Scorpio men in my family (father, brother & son), and from where I observe ... it's not really coldness, per se

The Scorpio (male) appears to be so passionate, that it is nearly impossible for them to turn it off. They can turn people off, or situations off .. but, not how they deeply it felt.

So, naturally, when the times come in where you have to break away from someone ... this is going to be with such intensity, that indifference is going to look frozen.


Nature of the beast ......

The Scorpio has to be the breaker upper, though, so if someone leaves them ... they are the opposite of cold.

They will chase indefinitely to get that person back .... to turn around and break up with them.

Posted by P-Angel

The Scorpio has to be the breaker upper, though, so if someone leaves them ... they are the opposite of cold.

They will chase indefinitely to get that person back .... to turn around and break up with them.

Yes this is true Scorpio's don't like being dumped or rejected.

Posted by P-Angel

I have only read the OP .....


I have quite a few Scorpio men in my family (father, brother & son), and from where I observe ... it's not really coldness, per se

The Scorpio (male) appears to be so passionate, that it is nearly impossible for them to turn it off. They can turn people off, or situations off .. but, not how they deeply it felt.

So, naturally, when the times come in where you have to break away from someone ... this is going to be with such intensity, that indifference is going to look frozen.

+10000

As a water sign, I do feel bad when I have to cut people off. It sucks but I know deep down inside, you were not meant to be in my life. Thats why there is not a lot of hatred towards them. I seriously wish them the best but I have to move forward with my life.

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Posted by P-Angel

The Scorpio has to be the breaker upper, though, so if someone leaves them ... they are the opposite of cold.

They will chase indefinitely to get that person back .... to turn around and break up with them.

Yes this is true Scorpio's don't like being dumped or rejected.

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Thank goodness I have venus in Capricorn. You can't please everybody.

I have three things in Scorpio (Sun, Venus, Jupiter). I'll only ice out someone who has crossed significant lines so they don't deserve another chance because what they've done is likely to repeat in some way.

For example I ended a friendship with someone when I saw that she had a tendency to lie about many things. I told her I was ending the friendship and why calmly. She got snitty but she didn't try to contact me after that. I didn't miss her much after I ended it. I had lost respect for her. If I lose respect for someone that kills any good feelings I had about them. It doesn't happen often that I lose respect for people in my life in that way. I'm careful about who I get close to, and always have been.

That was close to 20 years ago. If I ran into that person now, I wouldn't be against talking to her. I wouldn't trust her immediately if she recalled lying in the past and apologized for it and said that she's very honest now. I'd be wary, but my point is that I have not frozen her out so much that I wouldn't talk to her in a polite way.

-- I should add that I never ran into her after I ended the friendship, so I never was in a position of icing her out with her right in front of me. What I would have done back then if I had seen her would likely be to avoid her by not interacting with her, unless she came up to me in which case I'd speak calmly and likely would come across as cold, but not cruel, to anyone observing. I say that based on what I know about myself.

Posted by Infinite8
@RR: no, I am much more verbal. When something bothers me, I say it right away. If it becomes repetitive I cut person out of my life.
My job is not to force people to be something they are not. If they don't respect my wishes, best thing to do is leave.
It could be for stupid stuff with aquaintences... I have nothing to lose. I am much more tolerant of my friends and best friends though. For that, it would have to be something really big. I don't give up easily.

Well you aren't the type I'm talking about, then. My whole point was that there are Scorps who do this. I've met them, I know they're here on this very same forum, and they're all around. You have the ones who aren't immature asshats who know how to behave maturely, and then you have the awful examples of human beings that are an embarrassment to their sign. I'm referring to the latter.

"LOL I'M SUCH A BITCH/BAD ASS. I CUT PEOPLE OFF ASAP FOR FUCKING ME OVER!! I'M SO AMAZING."

No, you're a retarded coward. You hear one side, painting them as the victim, and then you hear the other side which explains EVERYTHING and you find that the Scorp wasn't exactly being honest in the victim role and is as much to blame as the second party. But they're oh so strong and don't deal with bs because they can "cut off" people who do this to them.

Nevermind all the small holes they conveniently overlooked where they didn't communicate, behaved like a child, and did nothing to help remedy the situation. More or less, they just ran away without resolving anything. How freaking self involved are you that you go around behaving like this?

That said, I pointed this out because this is why people who aren't Scorps can see it as "cold."

Ok, I get the whole going cold if someone oversteps, but can anyone explain to me why Scorps go cold when they have overstepped and got confronted about it?

Hell, I for one don't like being treated like crap, lied to or used either. Why then go cold when the other person is committed to you and confronts you on your actions?

I guess that others don't always see you as cold (depends on the situation) but might actually see you as cold in a childish kind of why. Like it only matters when it is important to you. In some instances your selflessness is more like selfishness.

Scorpios think they are sneaky especially the one I got to know and got close to, she hates being confronted. She is good at lying not really to me but to others I've caught her doing it and I've come up to her why did you say that. She won't admit failure she will fight tooth and nail that she was right. Is she selfish you better believe she is, are they people users from what I've seen of her yes. She's told me she uses people for her own gain? her BF is well used she has/had an agenda dating him he too stupid to realize she is using him. She gives him attention he gives her what she wants ie money, can you pay for my car repairs, she get him to pay for things when her own money is tight. She knows exactly how much she makes when money gets tight she's nice to her BF. Scorpio's like control she does she likes weak men ones she can manipulate she likes the fact she can control men. She snaps her finger her BF dances he is such a door mat.

I'm too dominant for her from what I read Scorpio's like being the dominant one that explains her liking for weak men. I had the upper hand on her it caused our latest fight she got scared she hates losing control especially when it comes to her making money. She started claiming things that were not true there was no way I could fight it claiming I was being a bully she knows that is a huge lie. She won't face me I don't think she will she's too chicken **** she knows she lied what comes around goes around.

If you are weak its wise not to get involved with a Scorpio, maybe its my Taurus moon but I'm a Cancer that doesn't put up with s***. I can see a Taurus man having troubles with a Scorpio girl.

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Posted by FrostAndBite
Some scorps are just dbags. I mean, they're dbags because they're afraid of or can't understand their own emotions. Those are the type that blame others and normally vanish with no notice. So there is an explanation, but it doesn't really excuse them from treating others carelessly.

Cutting someone out with no notice isn't really anything to be proud of or feel justified in doing so. The only exceptions I'd imagine is where abuse or an unhealthy fixation is involved on some party's part. Personally I've never done it and neither have the other scorps that I respect in my life. It isn't that hard to treat others with decency lol.

I was told more than once in this forum that no one owes an explanations to no one about cutting them off. So...no?

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These are just different points of view. It doesnt mean that only one of them is valid 🙂

I, myself, have been cut off from a scorpio and am now patiently waiting for her to return or at least give me some sort of a sign. I have some partial idea why she did this and i find the reasons inadequately insane, but i am not judging her - neither her motives, nor her actions.

I've been so disappointed and hurt with this cut off that sometimes i catch myself switching between all kinds of emotional extremes in a matter of seconds. Personally, i would never do this to another person. No matter how hard it would be for me, i would sit with the person and at least try to have a normal conversation, as open as i can be. Even if it hurts.

At the same time, yes, i know that people dont owe eachother explanations. I understand it and accept it, but i dont act on it... simply because it doesn't fit my beliefs and values.

Btw... i may be going insane from this close to 80-day cut-off that i am experiencing, but i am more and more getting to the idea that these cut-offs might turn out to have a positive side for both persons involved. If meanwhile the person who is cut off decides to move on or if the person who did the cut-off decides to revive the relationship, but cant, it wouldnt have been worth the trouble anyways, would it 🙂 ?

What i learned from my cut-off is that.. it is extremely hard and torturing to wait for something that may or may not happen. But it is much harder to give up on t

Yeah.. the rest which got cut off (wickedly ironic, hahah):

But it is much harder to give up on this thing.. which is All you have ever wanted. So.. i am not giving up, i would wait for forever if i have to, patiently and in silence.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
Yes when we have ran out of patience and the person chances are expired. People tend to over step their boundaries when they see how "kind and sensative" we can be. Honestly they dig themselves a hole. A lot of people like being treated like shit and they only seem to want to come around when we show our cold side. We are reacting to their action so it's their problem!

I have people who tried to come back in my life after I reciprocated the way they treat me. I shouldn't have to show my dark side for them to respect me but sadly that's how the world is. They take kindness for weakness and are suprised that we terminate them from our lives.

We are not to be walked on so we cut them off.

100% .. well said

"Are Scorpios really that cold?"

yes. and then some. just stay away from them during these phases. there is a reason behind it and if you go around poking, don't be surprised if you are then stung. hard.