Could use some insight...

Earlier this summer I had a couple of threads about a “(F) Virgo - (M) Scorpio” and “Confused as hell”.

He broke with me and I thought I had put that situation to bed. However, there have been new developments.

This guy still randomly texts me asking me, “how I’ve been”. I actually saw him on my birthday for the first time after I had confronted him in early August, which was a bit unsettling.

I haven’t been able to move through the emotions to completely close that chapter. I still think of him often. I’ve blocked him from my profile online after noticing that he still checks it out about once a week.

Yesterday, he was on my mind more than usual and of course he ended up texting me last night, then asked me if I would call him, it was after midnight. (I felt like I had conjured him up or willed him to contact me.)

I have not responded. I’m tempted to, though. I just don’t understand why he isn’t letting me go. Can you guys give me some insight here?

How do you know he wants to be with you after the hiatus he took or just be friendly and asking, catching up with no reason but to say hi, see what you are up to?

Why did you break up anyways?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
How do you know he wants to be with you after the hiatus he took or just be friendly and asking, catching up with no reason but to say hi, see what you are up to?

Why did you break up anyways?

Turned out that he was seeing someone while seeing me. Results from the confrontation I had with him. I was very hurt over the whole thing. Pieced things together later on which made sense, like him telling me he was spending the day with his son and couldn't spend his day off with me only to find out after he had posted his relationship on FB he had also posted pictures of her with him on that very same day.

Posted by PeanutButterandElly
Cause if you read one thread down you'll see how hard of a time we have letting go lol.

Holding on loosely isn't confirmation of a desire to rebuild a relationships though. Sometimes it's nostalgia. Sometimes it's loneliness. Sometimes it's regret. It's not uncommon to be all three at different times.

But if a Scorpio wants you, really wants you, they'll do everything in their power to make it happen and you won't have any doubt. If they don't, then they don't feel strongly enough to warrant it or they are too wounded to deal with.

That's been my experience anyhow, as a Scorpio and having loved two very much in my life.

We had some pretty serious chemistry while we were together. I suppose that's why I couldn't understand why he was actively pursuing someone else.

I can't imagine he's doing it to suggest that we re-establish anything. I doubt I could trust him now anyway. It's confusing, how he keeps ripping the band-aid off the wound. He asked me to call him last night, it was 12:47am. I didn't see the message until this morning. Doubt I would have called him anyway.

Posted by EnochtheWise
I don't think you need any insight. I think you just need to be strong. It really doesn't matter what his angle is. He's shady and if you respect your self, then you will do everything you can to cut ties and ignore. If you don't and you respond, he'll continue to use you for whatever it is he needs at the moment.

Thank you. I feel that he's pretty shady as well. Not to mention, it hurts every time I hear from him. I know I won't get the truth from him, but there's this part of me that is very curious about what's going on in his head and would love to know 'WHY' he keeps contacting me.

We run in the same social circles. Hard to avoid him completely. Like running into him on my birthday.... *sigh*