Devotion a turnoff to a Scorpio? (Page 2)

do you believe in repeating statements?

yawn.

"GA thinks I like mean looking or calculating looking men, and that's probably true."

LOL - No I branded him only as a farmer.

No disrespect though - I will become one..one day.

Where did Ann go? I'm worried about her... 😢

Getting a camera?

Hmmm...are Taureans vindictive ?

LOL! I hope so! Would serve him right. 😛

I have a feeling that this scorp is in trouble...

""yawn" my fine aries ass. scat "verne troyer", and yes, that is a direct reference to the size of your penis s_r. you=under equipped, over compensating, and completely lacking any shred of self-esteem. how attractive.."

If that's the best you can do.

please, continue to show classless act for the rest of us to enjoy 🙂

"Let him be."

Wow, that's amazing to come from a defeated ram. Usually anything is enough to spark 7 replies to my one. Mentally fatigued?

why can't you ramb1tches just accept the fact that I have to relentlessly pound someone on DXP just because that's my nature? Rather than targeting the rest of the good people here, it's three people at the moment. Subject to change without notice of course.

You can snip at me all you want, but I will just hammer whenever I feel like it both now and in the future. Nothing is off limits, least of all your egos. Suck it up.

just think. without either of you here, the cavern would be an echoing shrill of one.

"you can't even maintain an erection long enough"

the art of repetition. are on a vibrator by chance?

"shrill"

the art of imitation... for dummies.

He called a little while ago. I calmly said "Nice picture. Your pecs look particularly good. Hope you find what you are looking for." And hung up. He called back 8 times before i turned the phone off. Thanks for the support and advice. I am going to take a long, cleansing walk.

and some just cum back for more ^

What a picky little prick.

Dump him.

Love is not a game.

he must have picky Virgo in his chart or something.

"He called back 8 times before i turned the phone off. Thanks for the support and advice. I am going to take a long, cleansing walk."

WTG ANN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes, take a walk and then a nice long bubble bath with some candles and foo-foo music. It puts the soul to rights.

Seaslut olololo

what happened in here? yikes.
Scorpiorising woke up with a stinger hard-on yesterday.
funny little guy.

I agree with Cusp of Power & this is coming from experience, I'm a Taurus with a Scorp B/F who also posted semi-nude photos on MySpace LOL 🙂

LOL ^^^^ mine has a few hideous chicks on his page & they always seem to feel the need to leave pic comments like......"MMM Sexy eyes" or "MMMMMMM I love the smile soooo sexy" LMAO whatever, it clearly states he's in a relationship & although I sometimes find it hard to not fall into the game of leaving pic comment responses to the hideous beasts, I don't because I know he'd like that tooo much 🙂 BTW he took the semi-nude pics off

Oh I'm sure Ferdy, he's probably left her leading comments to either (1) keep his fan base alive & active.....These guys love their attention or (2) left her leading comments to receive a comment in return, knowing that you would see it, to get a reaction out of you because he's insecure & you giving a negative reaction/letting it bother you, for him shows you care. These guys & their insecurity! It reminds me of kids & how they'll act up because "negative attention is better than no attention at all" & unfortunately even with all the positive attention you can give them, it just never seems to be enough.

Oh I know ferdy but like i said, you could give them all the attention in the world all day & night & they'd find the smallest thing you haven't done to question your devotion to them.......Like Elenas story LOL that's a funny one & I can totally see that happening 🙂 Mine has asked why I don't leave pic comments in response to the trolls who leave them to begin with. LMAO yeahhhhh right! I'm not playing into that game, just mentioning the comments is a ego stroke for him, I'd imagine if i did leave nasty comments in response his already BIG head might burst right off his body! haha but it's so funny the way he says "Nahhh I'm not sexy.....*looks around* Who me? Noooo" as if he doesn't already know 🙂

As far as Ann, unbeknownst to her, she gave him exactly what he was looking for, she got pissed. That created his drama/excitement high. Then she ignored his calls, that put him in panic/I love the chase mode. Then she answered his call & made reference to his pics he posted, He got a negative reaction he was looking for, this showed it affected her...meaning she cares. Now she's ignoring calls again, he's gonna chase even more. When & if she finally takes his calls he's gonna be that charming irresistible man he was at the beginning & everything will be wonderfull again until he gets bored or feels like he's not getting enough attention again. Then we're back to square one LOL How Fun!!!!!

LMAO Oh he does Ferdy, hence the reason he posted semi-nude pics on MS LOL & he does the silent treatment/sulking thing too just not for long, I think the longest so far has lasted a day 1/2. I think I just picked up rather quickly on how to deal with him, I just somehow know the right things to say at the right times to bring him out of his funk & I know when I have to leave him alone too. I think it's been a combo of reading things on here, reading about Scorp guys in general, watching what he does very carefully & trial & error that have made our "bad times" not so bad 🙂

"I guess there is no sense
in me trying to win when it's just a one-sided relationship anyway"

Nahhh Ferdy, you just hafta let him sulk sometimes & not take it personally, let it roll off your back. Whenever mine gets mad at me I just think to myself... "OK fine, he wants to sulk & be mad...go for it, enjoy that hissy fit your having, get back to me when your done" He ALWAYS does & then he'll explain why he got mad & I'll say "Oh OK I understand" THE END It's just that simple, he wants to be in control, I let him think he is 🙂but in reality I get what its all about, it has nothing to do with me so I don't take it personally, it has everything to do with him & his insecurities

"At senior prom when some moron jock decided to stick his tongue down my throat in front of my boyfriend, what did my boyfriend do? Get pissed off, once again...AT ME !!!"

LOL sooo true, Mine got pissed at me cuz the pizza delivery dude was checkin out my boobs. He says "well why did you answer the door wearing a tank top?" LMAO Ummm maybe cuz it's 90 degrees outside & its not my fault I have big ones.....get used to it! 🙂

He says....."well maybe in the future you should put on a T-Shirt when you answer the door for the pizza man" LMAO yeah OK whatever!

"At senior prom when some moron jock decided to stick his tongue down my throat in front of my boyfriend, what did my boyfriend do? Get pissed off, once again...AT ME !!!"

Why wouldn't he? It's your fault for not kicking the other dude in the gnads.

... unless you liked it.

hmmm......

"He sticks his tongue down my throat...I push him away (I was friggin tiny compared to him)....whack him across the face...tipsaay and on fiyaah !!! Just about ready to take my 3 inch heels off to dent his forehead when my pisces bff decides to stop me."

i see.

why didn't your boyfriend beat up this turd himself?

There are only two possible explanations for your husband's reaction after prom night:

1. He didn't beat the guy up and feels emasculated, thereby taking it out on you.
2. He thinks there's no way a guy would do that without some type of flirtation on your part.

I'd bet on #2.

Insecure nonetheless.

Going by these boards, all signs are insecure.

Fire signs are loud and boisterous because they are insecure and putting up a front.

Earth signs are cold and critical because they are insecure and putting up a front.

Air signs are detached and unemotional because they are insecure and putting up a front.

Water signs relay on a hard outer shell because they are insecure and putting up a front.


It's the laziest explanation for a behavior possible, I think, which is why you see it so much on these boards.

if that were me, i'd be arrested. His head would be face planted into the ground.

"I sense another fight coming on...."

Beating up on twelve year b1tches get boring after awhile. Especially after they cry uncle one too many.

year-old

"He got a negative reaction he was looking for, this showed it affected her...meaning she cares."

But, she does care. A LOT. Why shouldn't she express her true feelings? Open and honest communication has to occur, or there will be no relationship. The advice here is ALWAYS to be dishonest to men and yourselves about your feelings and ignore. This a one-way ticket to O-V-E-R. How can you have a relationship with someone if all your time is spent ignoring each other? This is hysterical! Just because someone is being immature, doesn't mean you have to follow their example.

True, he may have posted those pics just to spark a jealous reaction from her. They often do that sort of thing to see how much you care. But if you don't pass these little tests, and just ignore them, it confirms to them that you don't. So they then feel free to seek comfort somewhere else. Women have always had to take the lead in communication - we're just naturally better at it when it comes to expressing emotion. That will never change.

"Now she's ignoring calls again, he's gonna chase even more. When & if she finally takes his calls he's gonna be that charming irresistible man he was at the beginning & everything will be wonderfull again until he gets bored or feels like he's not getting enough attention again. Then we're back to square one LOL How Fun!!!!!"

Which is precisely why this approach never works. I've tried it in my younger years and the response I got was "You are never there for me." Which, I gotta say, was true.

SeaSiren......WTF are you talking about? LOL You picked apart my post but did you read it?..... No where did I say what she did was right or wrong, I said UNBEKNOWST to Ann she gave her Scorp what he was looking for, Ann said it was over after she saw the pics he posted, Having been through this same exact thing myself, I know what that's all about, It's about insecurity, they do things like this to get attention, to gage your reaction, YES it's a test & if you give the right reaction....like getting pissed, confronting them, telling them your not down for that kinda behaviour.....You pass because a "negative reaction means you care as opposed to indifference & no reaction at all,(IGNORING) which means you could give a shit about them or what they do.

"Why shouldn't she express her true feelings?" I never said she shouldn't...hence her negative reaction was expressing her feelings & that's what he wanted to begin with.(ATTENTION) As I said before, You could throw yourselves at the feet of a Scorp man all day & tell him how much you worship them but because of his fright of the deep emotions he feels & his knowledge that she would could potentially hurt him BADLY... He will always be insecure & will always need constant reassurance, That could be a full time job & frankly I don't know one person who has the time or patience to deal with shit like that, So here you have these acts/tests to reaffirm to themselves that all is safe.

At the beginning of this thread Ann relates a story in which her B/F & she have a convo about how he misses the excitement he experienced with his ex because she was unattainable.....You don't think this was a strategic maneuver to stir up some shit & create some drama? LOL Of course it was, Who would have a positive reaction to their B/F telling them, the love & devotion that you give them is "Boring"? He was looking for the excitement he once had, he wanted to chase the unattainable & this is exactly what he got. He's happy as a clam now.

"Now she's ignoring calls again, he's gonna chase even more. When & if she finally takes his calls he's gonna be that charming irresistible man he was at the beginning & everything will be wonderfull again until he gets bored or feels like he's not getting enough attention again. Then we're back to square one LOL How Fun!!!!!

Which is precisely why this approach never works. I've tried it in my younger years and the response I got was "You are never there for me." Which, I gotta say, was true."

Her telling him to fuck off.......That's a natural reaction, it's not immature, it's mature. She's ignoring his calls because he acted like a douche bag, that's a natural reaction as well. She's communicating her feelings by NOT TALKING & showing him through actions that his immature behaviour is not OK with her. If she decides to give him another chance & he finds himself uttering these words...."You are never there for me." & I'm sure at some point he will, well that's exactly what he wants to be able to say, which is why they do the dumb shit they do, to push you away so that they can later have POWER & CONTROL to say remember that one time when you weren't there for me 😢 LOL Puuuhhhlleeeezzz! I'm hip to the game

"Her telling him to fuck off.......That's a natural reaction, it's not immature, it's mature"

LOL Yes, I read your post...did you read mine? We are in agreement on this point. It was the last part of your post I was responding to. Of course, if she's angry and doesn't want to deal with him right now, she should not take his calls. But, if she wants to try to salvage it (or even get closure to move on), at some point she's going to have to bring up the actual issues. Right now, he thinks it's all just silly myspace drama.

"You could throw yourselves at the feet of a Scorp man all day & tell him how much you worship them"

How does communicating with your lover = being powerless and/or being their slave?

"You're a lot more patient and nicer than I could ever be with that sulking and all that nonsense. That type of behavior just reminds me of some big baby type behavior"

That's because we are talking about babies here about 97.5% of the time. Boys need constant reassurance, men do not.

"Right now, he thinks it's all just silly myspace drama." LMAO I guarantee you he DOES NOT think this is just about silly Myspace drama! He knows EXACTLY what this is all about because HE created it, long before the MS pics.....that was just icing on the cake LOL, FYI, with the pics.....He posted them AFTER he called numerous times in which she refused to answer, He posted the pics to get a reaction & what do ya know!!!!....She answers the phone after she sees them! Anyway, He created it on purpose because he was lacking excitement & needed to spice things up a bit Hence the reason he had a convo with his G/F (Ann) about his ex & how exciting she was because she was unattainable.....His motivation is as clear as the nose on my face. 🙂

I mean DUH! lol how ironic that he would mention that he thinks chasing something he thinks he can't have would be exciting to him and in mentioning that gets exactly what he found to be exciting!

"How does communicating with your lover = being powerless and/or being their slave?"
Sea as you said yourself in your previous relationships, you've heard "You were never there for me" from your scorp guy......I'd like a show of hands.....Ladies, How many of you have heard this exact sentence uttered from a scorp guys mouth? :Raises hand: & you wonder why that is? BECAUSE it's never enough WHY? because they are insecure creatures & you can never fill someone else up, Only they have control over their insecurities. You can communicate how you feel about them until your blue in the face & it won't be enough. It's not about being a slave, they might like to think you are but if you understand why they do what they do on a deeper level then you become the opposite of POWERLESS, you become POWERFULL!

"but I don't have a problem stroking a man's ego every so often,"

I don't either. But, let's face it...ALL men need that or fish for it from time to time. The Cappie I dated was much worse than any Scorpio I've ever been with as far as needing reassurance.

"but it can't be like he needs it constantly or that his fighting style is to sulk and brood."

LOL Well, in my experience, the sulking and brooding comes AFTER the knockdown drag outs. I had some pretty horrible fights with the ex. The making-up always made up for it, though. 😛

"but at least someone who isn't afraid to talk to me about things and communicate."

Well, that's the thing. Scorpio men DO communicate, it's just a matter of understanding what it is they're *trying* to say, and I think that's where so many get hung up. How a scorpio feels about you is in the way he touches you, they WAY he speaks to you and about you to others. Verbally, no they're not straight-forward in the beginning (but then, is any man that great at the verbal?), but it changes as their trust for you grows. Still, even initially, they will *say* how they fill about you, just indirectly. lol It's kind of a code, little hints. But, yeah, this man is not for everyone. If you can't understand someone, their thought process, how they see the world...it's gonna be a tough road for both.

Elena I just might be LOL either that or it's that Bull blood we got coursing through our veins that makes us on FIIYYAAHH! 🙂 lol

"Sea as you said yourself in your previous relationships, you've heard "You were never there for me" from your scorp guy......I'd like a show of hands.....Ladies, How many of you have heard this exact sentence uttered from a scorp guys mouth? :Raises hand: & you wonder why that is?"

In my case, it was actually true. But, my Scorpio now, no he never plays these little drama games, but then I've made it very clear how I feel about him.

HAHA! I quite approve of your new location, F-A.

"Well, they may communicate, but I guess I just wouldn't appreciate HOW they communicated. I don't think I'd appreciate all the coded language and behavior regardless of what it meant."

Well, you're not alone there! 🙂 Obviously, from the amount of posts here, a lot of women do not appreciate it, or get it, and there's nothing wrong with that. I mean there ARE 11 other signs in the zodiac. I do get scorpio, though. Always have, and the connection, for me personally, can't be outdone. I'll never say never, of course. 😉

"For some people, they may think they've won some sort of prize by passing all those convoluted tests, but I already know my worth and value that I don't need someone to put me through a bunch of unnecessary drama and tests"

Well, FA, that "testing" process is FAR more evident and exaggerated in younger men. We're all more insecure when we're younger, and most of the men being bitched about around here ARE twenty-somethings. My boyfriend would say little things here and there in the beginning to see how I would react...but I knew exactly what he was doing, so it just wasn't that huge of a deal. I have no problem with having to earn (within REASONABLE limits) someone's trust, because I'm the same way.

"Furthermore, if a man can't see what's clearly right in front of him and he's blind to someone's obvious qualities"

Well, if you're talking about the people who post here...we kind of have to take everything with a grain of salt. We only get ONE side of the story...his side may be very different. Sometimes, in relationships, both men and women THINK they have communicated something very clearly to the other...when they haven't at all. With all the game playing going on around here, I'm really not surprised.

"I still feel that a man needs to impress me and jump through hoops for me, not the other way around."

LOL! I do, too. But I don't mind jumping through a few for him, either. Nothin' wrong with MUTUAL hoop jumping. It should NEVER be all one person, though. 😉

Awww sea I was just about to congratulate you on meeting the only man, specifically in the sign of Scorp who......"no he NEVER plays these little drama games," but then you had to go & screw it all up by saying..... "My boyfriend would say little things here and there in the beginning to see how I would react...but I knew exactly what he was doing, so it just wasn't that huge of a deal." Hmmmm Would those have been little drama games perhaps? 🙂 LOL I wouldn't attribute the fact that your boyfriend doesn't play games with you NOW only on the basis that you've made it very clear how you feel about him, as if to say that others who are having issues with theirs do not. Apart from communicating, I think time plays a bigger factor. The longer your with someone, the more the trust grows & the less games are played. I think you'd agree...."I have no problem with having to earn (within REASONABLE limits) someones trust, because I'm the same way."

I think the majority of people who post here with Scorp guy issues are in the beginning stages of relationships, when trust hasn't been established & games are more prevalent. I don't think that most of these problems are due to the women NOT giving enough. That's just ludicrous, I think that many of the women have given & then some & come here after all of that giving when they find themselves being pushed away & tested & are confused by this behaviour.

Such was the case with myself, however it only took a couple times of the infamous "tests" to realize what this was all about & how to handle the situation.....anyone can understand a Scorp & their behaviour if they care enough & are patient enough to figure it out.

"he admitted to me one day that he missed that the "challenge" was gone with us. In other words, that he knew I loved him and had his back. He said he wanted that all his life, but that some part of him yearns for the unattainable"



A little late adding my thoughts .. but, I agree that you should stay sitting on your position for the relationship to become common and ordinary.

Who really wants to spice up relationships anyway?

I mean, if my man told me he was needing things to be mixed up to keep it moving because he was becoming stagnant in the relationship .. certainly, the interest would be making sure it does get boring, rather than keeping interest/attraction hieghtened.

"Awww sea I was just about to congratulate you on meeting the only man, specifically in the sign of Scorp who......"no he NEVER plays these little drama games," but then you had to go & screw it all up by saying..."My boyfriend would say little things here and there in the beginning to see how I would react...but I knew exactly what he was doing, so it just wasn't that huge of a deal." Hmmmm Would those have been little drama games perhaps?"

A little comment here and there is not dramatic to me. In fact, I find it endearing that someone is trying so hard to get something outta me without just coming out and saying it. Because I knew the intent, having experienced it many times before, it only had a positive effect...the opposite of drama. He's never posted half naked pics of himself on MySpace (doesn't even have one), or told me he was still in love with his ex. THAT is drama. And the latter would definitely be the end of the relationship.

" I don't think that most of these problems are due to the women NOT giving enough. That's just ludicrous,"

I never said that. I think the problem lies in the fact that these women are at a stage emotionally where they want a commitment, and the man is not at that stage and may not be for some time. Their behavior states this very clearly, but women refuse to listen to it, because it's not the answer they want.

"I guess some people, like yourself, more intuitively understand this sign or are more willing to put in the effort than others like myself. Or maybe what someone else sees is different from what I do and vice-versa."

Yeah, you have to be able to FEEL and READ them, for sure, which can be difficult because most women need that verbal expression. I'm the opposite. I'm hesitant to open up emotionally myself. It takes a really long time...so it's not like the man in question doesn't have to put in effort to win my trust as well. I'm far more likely to SHOW someone I love them by doing something for them, planning a nice outing...something like that. And that's how I know they love me too. As far, as verbally expressing it, it's very uncomfortable for me. I mean, we say "I love you" but for me less is more with that declaration, and he's the same way. I don't need to hear it every five minutes...it just gives it more meaning for me the less it is said.