Devotion a turnoff to a Scorpio? (Page 3)

ann - brace yourself. it's probably going to get a lot harder before it gets any easier. but keep your wits about you if you can, and don't let your emotions dictate what you say and do. and save those tears for someone who won't make you cry.

FA .. I guess I'm just looking at this from a different angle than most other people .. as usual 🙂


I mean, if this man has said that 99% of the time, he is perfectly content and happy with the stability and love of this relationship .. then wtf is the bitch about? Who is 100% ANYTHING .. except that you'll surely go to jail if you don't pay taxes, and one day you will die.

So, he came out and said ... the relationship is dwindling because I need to have something send zings through my body to tell me I'm still alive and kicking .. I need excitment. He could have just kept her at home, sewing booties for future children and went out and got his excitment with hoes.

He told her .. up front ... honey, I need something with this relationship for me to be happy. What more does a woman want?

What does he get? An attitude of .. fuck no, it's 100% with me, no bending, no compromising, rigid as a fucking rock .. or nothing.


Toss .. if I were a man, this woman would be a tosser if she wasn't flexible in trying to adapt spontaneously as I communicated to her my needs to feel happy.

^ yeah, tom is a scorpio. seriously.

yup; born nov. 8 😛

But, I didn't read much past page 2 .. so, I really don't know what other details were mentioned with this situation.


I don't see the bad habits in this situation, nor the perpetuation of them if after 2 years, he is just now expressing his desire for the relationship to become more excitable.

A bad habit would have presented itself before now .. I cannot see how after 2 years of stability, this man having a need to spice up a relationship that is getting "set in its ways", is any indication that bad habits being formed are in the making.

If anything .. I should think it's the other way around. She's the one who is "stuck" in the habit of sameness/routine.

"A little comment here and there is not dramatic to me. In fact, I find it endearing that someone is trying so hard to get something outta me without just coming out and saying it."

This to me sounds like crappy communication & game playing but.....You sat tomato, I say tomata 🙂

"So, he came out and said ... the relationship is dwindling because I need to have something send zings through my body to tell me I'm still alive and kicking .. I need excitement. What does he get? An attitude of .. fuck no"

But in the end, he got exactly what he was looking for, he got his excitement & his thrill of the chase when she told him fuck no & refused to accept his calls 🙂 I highly doubt that Ann is done with Mr Scorp fireman, when she starts talking to him again the relationship will be rejuvenated (for the time being) & the make-up sex/ honeymoon period will again be in full swing & all is wonderfull in the world again 🙂

"....oh, boohoo...he needs a fling every now and again to feel 'happy'"


According to what she wrote in the OP, he didn't say he wanted a fling to keep him happy .. he said he needed to be challenged, and he said this to her, using an example of an ex that made him feel this way.

If he was interested in a fling, while keeping her hooked .. he would have just went out and found it, unbeknownst to her.

It's all of the women in here who have been stung by Scorpios in the past who have made the assessment that he wanted a fling with another woman ... as well as this lady herself who made this assumption.

When in reality ... if he meant to cheat, to get his jollies .. she wouldn't be privy to this information.

If by her turning him away, unyeilding to keeping him stoked in her love for him, caused him to find another woman .. then she has to have some accountibility in this.

Again, though .. I didn't read past page 2 .. so, I don't know what more she said.

"a 2 year relationship"

"he admitted to me one day that he missed that the "challenge" was gone with us"



::: shakes head at stupid people who cannot see past thier own injuries :::


Kathleen .. sorry that you were stung, and sorry that all the rest of you ladies were stung .. however, this man was in a commited relationship with this woman, and when he realized that he was no longer happy, or that happiness was waning .. he approached the woman he was in a relationship with, with his concerns.

You all seem to think this is a bad thing .. let me ask you ladies:

How often have you approached your man when you felt like you weren't happy? And don't you all desire to have a man who will come to you with his feelings, for the sake of the relationship?


Double-standard, women are .. and it's disturbing as hell.

"This to me sounds like crappy communication & game playing but.....You sat tomato, I say tomata"

Yeah "drama" is subjective that way. I guess some people might suffer over every little comment someone throws their way...but then, they must have a very tough time getting through life with such a sensitive skin, or even leaving the house, for that matter.

"well, if she ever gets a commitment from the guy, she'll have to move out for a month or two when he needs a 'thrill' again"

LOL

Or, she could just stay and bend ... just like when she is in need, he could bend.

Hey .. what a concept.

Drama & game playing especially in a relationship often go hand in hand but for you Sea we'll just say that at the beginning of your relationship ......your boyfriend would say little things here and there in the beginning to see how you would react MEANING he had crappy communication skills & played games with you MINUS the drama 🙂 The point is you said he NEVER played games with you & the reality is that's exactly what he did, maybe you recognized that they were games & maybe you found them endearing but they were games none the less....this time we can use potatoes instead of tomatos 🙂

"Sea we'll just say that at the beginning of your relationship ......your boyfriend would say little things here and there in the beginning to see how you would react MEANING he had crappy communication skills & played games with you MINUS the drama"

He was communicating...I just knew how to interpret it. But, we've always communicated about something that is bothering us, which is the issue this thread is about. Even from the beginning. I don't come here to strangers asking how to handle it, I go to him. Sometimes he's in the wrong, sometimes I am. Sometimes, it is the person who is "reacting" who is the one creating the drama.

"The point is you said he NEVER played games with you & the reality is that's exactly what he did, maybe you recognized that they were games & maybe you found them endearing but they were games"

LOL...CT if it makes you feel better to see it that way, go ahead. Again, the true meaning of what a Scorpio is saying will almost always be under the surface, especially in the beginning. That IS their version of communication.

FA

"I just realized someone was holding you in that pic....was that a friend or your bf wearing black nail polish?"

No one's holding me, I'm sitting backward on a red chair & I'd be the one with black polish on 🙂 I like MEN, the kind that don't wear nail polish 😉LOL