Finished with my Scorp (Page 2)

lol.. just correcting some typos haha 😄

Posted by DMV
@ Ms Pirate,

i know you said that your not a jealous freak...but you kinda are...a BIG one. this particular girl has gotten to you BADLY! i think your too jealous for this kind of relationship. you will always be jealous of "something" or "someone"

Lol thanks for being so blunt. OK so yeah this girl gets my goat. Hands up on that. I just hate women who act like that with someone else's man.

Anyhoo, to all the other comments thank you. Honestly, I don't see a way forward without him draining the life out of me and turning me into some jealous psycho bitch. I am not that person and while we have this great connection I'm not sure that all this stress is worth it. I have been with Scorpio's before but never with this much drama.

To the fish - I'd just like to say at this point anyone thinking that perhaps I'm not "giving" him what he wants in some sort of sexual sense can think again. He's already said I intimidate the hell out of him in that respect and for all that Scorp in his chart he's actually pretty shy. It's always me having to make the moves. He doesn't send naughty texts or talk dirty I get the feeling he doesn't know how or that he's embarrassed by it. In all things sexual it has been I who have taken the lead. And this has been from the get go it's not like he's changed in that respect. So I really can't see it being an excitement thing with this girl.

I have wonder if it's a reassurance thing. The "I miss you" and you're so awesome posts. I don't really do that. I will, but when it means something not just for the sake of it. Maybe that's what he wants. Who knows.

I feel a bit better reading what everyone wrote so thanks for taking the time. I think I just be better moving on because I don't think he'll ever understand where I was coming from and honestly I think he's too stubborn to even try.

And Kali sorry to hear what you went through.

I really don't think I am asking for much from my Scorp. And the only reason I have had issues with this other girl is because of his behaviour like lying to me about her trying it on with him, how he talks to her on FB, the fact that I'M not allowed on his FB and the list goes on.

I'll say one other thing. After the first incident with this girl he was over at mine staying. His mobile went at something like 4am and guess who it was. I said to him not being funny but if she's a friend why don't you just answer it? He didn't. I said not being funny but that does look a bit suspicious, why wouldn't you answer it? And he said something about she's probably just drunk and looking for someone to complain to about some man she's chasing.

Now that I could believe, but if it were me and that were the case I'd have made a point of answering it in front of my partner just to prove that I have nothing to hide.

Anyhoo whatever, I've slept on this and the more I think about it regardless of whether he's a Scorpio or what his relationship is with this girl I really don't think he has any respect for me.

miss pirate, whats your sign....i may have missed that

Sun - Pisces
Rising - Taurus
Moon - Gemini
Mercury - Aquarius
Venus - Aries
Mars - Aquarius

Posted by scorsagianX

Posted by bluemoon2
I think it's a wonderful opportunity to escape from him. If you have someone else that's been in mind or in the wings of things, it may be a good time to go to that other person. Bottom-line, get away from him and go enjoy people and things that make you feel good. 🙂

Good advice^

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great advice

And advice that I am taking.

To be honest I think most of what I wanted was just to vent and to know that I'm not just some crazy bitch who gave him grief for no reason.

Thanks to all who took the trouble to post. 🙂

I again don't think anybody is jealous of a scorpio or their actions, it is a more mature feeling one gets, like why would the government chose to cut what I thought was a good program for the people, kinda thing.

You are angered, confused, left without answers, and asking yourself questions about people's intentions.

If they are trying to make you jealous, and you get pissed, you aren't jealous per se, just because they want to make you jealous.

Jealousy is possible in the dynamic, but Scorpio's on this topic, LOVE TO CHIME IN TO SAY, "oh you were jealous".

Yes, EVERYONE WAKE UP, but that means EVERYONE, that means Scorpios should wake up too.

Not trying to knock Scorpios, but I see it more often than not, "oh you were just jealous, you should move on, etc".

Just a comment to a thread I am writing, I for sure don't think it will be heralded as something straight to the matter, or particularly helpful, just calling it like I see it.

Yes Pirate!

Your venting is a good healing thing to do, please don't ever bottle up emotions, find any outlet you can, DXP is a great one, and everyone wishes you the best.

An update for anyone interested (which I doubt but I'll post anyway).

Scorp appears at mine on Friday night, despite the fact we're no longer an item. So of course he's drunk and I'm thinking yeah yeah here we go booty call time. I let him in anyway and he stays over - all the while giving me the usual speel (he's missed me, no he won't regret this in the morning, no it's not a booty call, how he can't handle being away from me blah blah) but as he's drunk I'm taking it all with a large pinch of salt.

He leaves the next day and I just think to myself ok nothing has changed for me it really was just a booty call. He texts me later on that day though and continues to do so finally asking what I'm doing that night - I say nothing having a quiet one and that's the last I hear from him.

So by the time yesterday afternoon rolls around I'm pissed off. I've had a good think about whether or not we can make things work and I re-read all the comments in here.

So I write him an e-mail. I'm calm but firm and don't make any accusations or insinuations of anything. I start by saying that I'm not sure why he came over on Friday night. I then tell him that I don't want to be a booty call or for us to just randomely meet up for sex. I tell him that if I'm going to be sleeping with someone that I want it to mean something, that I want to be a part of that person's life and them mine, and not be like some dirty secret. I tell him that this was the reason I had trouble trusting him, that after we got back together the whole being kept off facebook and it not being made public that we were back together - as in before he'd always invited me to events with friends and all of a sudden the only time I see him is when it's just the two of us, almost secretive. I tell him that perhaps that's not what he meant to do but that was how I felt, and that was mostly what led to my going nuts at him (I admitted at this point that wasn't the best way to handle the situation) and so on.

I said I want to be with someone who is proud to have me on their arm and want me in their life and that I didn't want to just feel like an "option" which is how I was feeling now.

I basically said to him you are either in or you are out and if it's the latter fair enough but I need to know because I refuse to waste any more time on someone who isn't as invested in me as I am them. I said if you don't want to be with me let me go so I can move on and find someone else.

So I gets a text last night saying something along the lines of:

"It's complicated xxx, I'm confused and don't know what I want right now. What are you doing tonight?"

So I replied saying:

"It really isn't that complicated, you either want to be with me or you don't, the rest can be worked out. You've given me my answer though. I'm not being bad but I'm not waiting around for someone who doesn't know whether they want me or not. I wish you all the best and I hope you find whatever it is you're looking for please do me a favour and delete my number as I'll do with yours now. And for the record I know we've been here many times before but end up back together after a week or so but understand that this time I am done. Take care"

He replied with 😢 and that was it.

There may be some of you who say I haven't given him a chance but to be fair this has dragged on for long enough and he's either in or he's out and for him to say he doesn't know speaks volumes. Perhaps he has other "options" and he wanted time to see how those panned out, or maybe he expects me to chase him and "prove" to him how much I care. Not going to happen, I've done enough of that over the past 7 months and honestly I can't do it anymore.

I feel that I've made the right choice and feel relieved actually. My only concern is that my gut tells me he hasn't deleted my number and that before the week is out he'll be in touch because that's exactly what has happened every time we've fell out before.

Anyhoo, thanks to everyone for the advice it was really helpful.

I feel your pain, MissPirate. Bigtime. I also gave the 'you're either in or out' speech to my Scorpio the end of December. I told him I'm not putting my life on hold anymore for a man who is indifferent about me. He was outraged. lol Yeah, thats right...outraged. Its an endless cycle of excuses as to why he can't commit, but I'm supposed to believe he loves me.

I'm certain he didn't take me seriously, but he should have. Sooner or later, when he decides to make an appearance in my life like hes doing me some kind of favor, I'll be happy to remind him.

You did the right thing, in my opinion.

All I can say MissP is 'Well done you'. Stated how you felt in a clear, concise manner with your heart in it. Sometimes it's a relief to know exactly where you stand, no matter how crap the outcome.

Posted by venusianbull
Sometimes it's a relief to know exactly where you stand, no matter how crap the outcome.

ABSOLUTELY!

Yehhhhhhhhhhhhh! 🙂

Nice one lady..you done the right thing.

Thanks guys. 🙂