I want me Scorpio ex back... I won't rest (figuratively) until I get him back

So I am a Pisces Sun, Libra Moon, Aries Venus. Most people will mistake me for a Scorpio but I am far too empathetic and sensitive to others pain. I'm a real softie but a badass at the same time. At first I was resisting his advances. He asked me out three times before one day I decided to go out with him. After one week he said he loved me. I was in pain about something that happened last year he kept telling me to let it go. But I couldn't. And it would bother him and he got bored of it.

Sometimes I felt trapped by him because if I wasn't exactly what he wanted and if we got in any little fight he would threaten that our relationship wasn't sustainable and then I would go fight or flight and convince him to come back and he liked this but every fight he would threaten and I ended up taking it out subconsciously by being standoffish to his friends. He is a very impatient man when it comes to dealing with other people's feelings. None of my friends like him which is what I think heavily influenced me, but I do understand him. He likes to retreat and one time he said he couldn't really sleep after hurting me.

I broke up with him a week ago and he retaliated by saying hurtful things during the breakup. I was dumb and I kept flip-flopping a few days after first saying I was upset then saying I loved him telling him I couldn't sleep. I apologized to his friends for being standoffish they were really understanding. My feelings weren't stable. I told him "I think now I like you more than you like me now" He says he wants to be friends but doesn't think he wants a relationship and would rather see how things go. He says he doesn't want someone to need him. I took offense to this because I said I think you know I am very independent. He said I know. I said regardless of what you think I believe in myself. He said I believe in you more than you believe in yourself. While he was saying this he was calling me babe kitten and claiming he wanted to kiss me but it would be a bad idea. He then invited me out for an event I said it's best to talk to him after break. (Note this is finals time) Next semester we have no classes. He was flip-flopping as well and sent me a picture of him with a bear I gave him at 3AM.

I don't love him but I do like him and I understand he doesn't want to be hurt again. He really tried hard to pursue me but actually it was me who did push him away to an extent because I was hurt and didn't know what I wanted. However, I do want him. Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....

I need a plan. I know he was attracted to me because he thought I was kind, confident and an alpha female. I am kind and an alpha female but I am not as confident as I once was (in certain things).

We had really great times that were marred by petty arguments. I hope in time he will see the great times.

*my not me

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I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond. We only were in a relationship for a month. So if you are giving him credibility for saying "I love you" after one week than I obviously am in a scorpion nest.

I didn't know what I wanted at first because he pursued me and came on extremely strong. I was preoccupied with school work. As was he. I am very goal-oriented. He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

I know I am stable but I needed things to slow down. They moved too fast for me.

I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.

your Aries Venus is showing and well, frankly, it's embarrasing

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.

Just maintain the friendship and see how it goes, like he said...Now it seems he is where you were, and wants to take it slow...why is that an issue?

You're not stable.

Scorpio needs a stable woman.



I mentioned I have not been stable because of what happened last year. He knows this. It's not like what happened to me were easy things to deal with. Parent dying, being outcasted, having a professor sexually assault me. He entered my life at the wrong time. The fact that I am able to put on a happy face, was able to secure a job, do well in my coursework, which is more challenging (physics and engineering) than his proves myself to myself.

I need to become what I once was or who I can be before I win him back. I am not unaware of that The problem is if he thinks anything like any of you I need to run quick because my kindness is why he fell for me and I like being empathetic to others. He knows I am in pain. If people on here are immediately ready to attack me and not give me the benefit of the doubt, maybe my best match isn't a Scorpion.

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I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.

Just maintain the friendship and see how it goes, like he said...Now it seems he is where you were, and wants to take it slow...why is that an issue?

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It's not an issue. I came on here to get advice on how to romantically attract him again. But instead I am accused of being a troll and whatever else. I think I already knew the answer--and that's just to be myself.

And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...why is he insistent on being friends then? Why send me a picture of him with a teddy bear at 3AM?

lol - good luck with all that . stuff

Posted by piscesarieslibra
And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...why is he insistent on being friends then? Why send me a picture of him with a teddy bear at 3AM?

He's being slick. A pic at 3am is not "friendly" lol. You seem selfish tho. You know how he feels about you and yet you only want him as a friend. But of course if he got a gf, that would probably be unacceptable.

He's a person, not an object. Just saying.

I am not a victim. I want to be his friend but in a healthy way and if its suitable to have it progress.That's what I want. That's what we both want. I think that is fair. I just wanted advice.

Yes I do have long term goals. I have a job secured, I have my finances secured, my coursework and everything else whereas he doesn't have a job secured, his finances are not secured and he has been struggling to manage his courseload (even before I came into the picture).

So I am not going to have someone come on here and tell me that I am not fixed in any sense. It's untrue. I am one of the strongest people I know. Yes I am emotional but that doesn't detract from my strength. He consumed most seconds of my time so without him it feels as if there is a loss and I did enjoy him.

I am not a victim. Yes, I was a victim in the circumstances I was in last year but not in terms of him. No, no I am not a victim in terms of this relationship.

Posted by wiseblood
Wayy too much drama happened in only one month.. that should be a real eye opener..

Not that much drama. I still like him. But I need to change....for myself to be honest not for him.

I just wanted advice on how to win him back AFTER I give time to my thoughts and purge myself of harping on the pain of last year.

I came here for advice. That's really it. Either you are willing to give it or not. But I'm not giving up.

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...I was hurt and didn't know what I wanted...

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...However, I do want him...

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...Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready...

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...And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on...

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....who knows....

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And all of this flip flopping was all in one paragraph. Jesus...

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And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...why is he insistent on being friends then? Why send me a picture of him with a teddy bear at 3AM?

lol. No one despises you.

But you clearly like some chaos with your romance. Obviously he does too since he deals with you and sends late night dramatic texts.

When relationships are based on that, especially between two water signs, it’s almost always a shit show. The relationship basically just becomes an extension of ego, self gratification. And that’s not anything that builds a long lasting, stable relationship.

If you really like this guy, your best shot is to slow the fuck down and relinquish control. Be open with your hopes and moved at a slow pace till you both can show each other things are different.

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I am going to say it again because it obviously was skipped over. I recently am dealing with the death of my father and my physics professor sexually assaulting me. I don't care if I was a Leo or Aries...things wouldn't have gone well. The irony is when I would complain it was never about missing my dad or sexual assault it was about just little intricacies of people that bothered me. That is what I know needs to stop. I am very very stable considering these circumstances. However, I need to let these things go.

Well go get him then.

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I need a plan. I know he was attracted to me because he thought I was kind, confident and an alpha female. I am kind and an alpha female but I am not as confident as I once was (in certain things).

Words of affirmation, eh? LOL

You sound like Pisces4Scorpio

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I recently am dealing with the death of my father and my physics professor sexually assaulting me.

Then a relationship is the last fucking thing you should be focusing on.

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I recently am dealing with the death of my father and my physics professor sexually assaulting me.

Then a relationship is the last fucking thing you should be focusing on.

Typical unevolved Pisces BS.

"I was sexually assaulted!! Waaa - please pity me!" Instant turn off.

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Honestly, her sexual assault comment came off very calculated. She wasn't getting the response she wanted, and felt attacked.

If it happened, I have empathy for it. However, she goes on for 2 pages without talking about any of this, and is argumentative, then slaps this bomb down.

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond. We only were in a relationship for a month. So if you are giving him credibility for saying "I love you" after one week than I obviously am in a scorpion nest.

I didn't know what I wanted at first because he pursued me and came on extremely strong. I was preoccupied with school work. As was he. I am very goal-oriented. He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

I know I am stable but I needed things to slow down. They moved too fast for me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling the same way about someone, especially after a week...He sounds quite "off" tbh. The issue is all of this "I will not rest until I have him back...." followed by "However...Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....I need a plan" Like seriously?

1) Stop being so dramatic.

2) If you don't know what you want, then leave him alone until you do. Just be honest with yourself and give yourself the appropriate amount of time to figure it out.

Forcing an issue because you want his attention now will only result in something far worse than what you hoped for.

PS. You don't get to cherry pick who chooses to respond to your thread. I'm beginning to see a pattern here...

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I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.

Just maintain the friendship and see how it goes, like he said...Now it seems he is where you were, and wants to take it slow...why is that an issue?

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His attention meter probably went from 100 to 0.5, so she's panicking and interpreting this to mean he's no longer interested. He gave her what she wanted, she just doesn't like how he chose to go about it.

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I recently am dealing with the death of my father and my physics professor sexually assaulting me.

Then a relationship is the last fucking thing you should be focusing on.

Typical unevolved Pisces BS.

"I was sexually assaulted!! Waaa - please pity me!" Instant turn off.

Honestly, her sexual assault comment came off very calculated. She wasn't getting the response she wanted, and felt attacked.

If it happened, I have empathy for it. However, she goes on for 2 pages without talking about any of this, and is argumentative, then slaps this bomb down.

Honestly.. after being sexually assaulted, I would think a new relationship would be the furthest thing from your mind right?

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People handle it differently. Some people go through a phase where they lose all self worth, and become sexual deviants because they have lost all sense of themselves. However, I doubt this OP simply because she's overly dramatic about the whole relationship, and it came off as if she was stating it to offput some of the negative responses.

If she did have this happen to her, most go off the rails for a while, and school work suffers. She pointedly says she has "all her shit together". But it is obvious she doesn't, and she needs to focus on taking care of those emotional issues before even THINKING about being with someone else. There are a host of issues like intimacy issues, and other stuff that should be her primary focus. Not getting back someone.

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Wayy too much drama happened in only one month.. that should be a real eye opener..

Not that much drama. I still like him. But I need to change....for myself to be honest not for him.

I just wanted advice on how to win him back AFTER I give time to my thoughts and purge myself of harping on the pain of last year.

I came here for advice. That's really it. Either you are willing to give it or not. But I'm not giving up.

You got it all wrong though... If you know you need to change for yourself that should be your one and only focus right now.. It doesn't happen over night.. It takes a lot of work and effort. He should be your last concern right now.. Chances of him even being single when you are done working on yourself is unknown.. and you were only with the guy for a month. Once you start to get in touch with yourself and learn more about yourself, chances are you won't even want this guy anymore. Your perception will change a lot.. The only person you should not be giving up on right now is yourself. I am giving you advice.. It's just not what you want to hear.

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That is fair enough. There are somethings he realizes he needs to change too. There are somethings we all should change. Not just for me but for any girl he chooses to enter a relationship with. I only really care about what "I" need to change so "I" can be happy...not just experience fleeting joy. The one thing I didn't appreciate was him intentionally trying to call me needy when we talked 3 days post break-up while then calling me pet names. I am very self-reliant--to a fault but yes I seek advice of others. So he confused me wanting him with me needing him.

I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such. I am president of many clubs. I am assertive. I am studying physics and computer science. I am an advocate for females in STEM. He is studying social science so he admires my intelligence. Like I said I don't present myself like a typical Pisces. He was attracted to me and still is. There are many reasons why I became attracted to him too. But I want him...I do not 'need' him. Pisces have a tendency to swim between men. I would usually do that but I do like him. So no he is not merely an option--not in my mind.

Yes I knew him for a month but we were privy to each other beyond that and he was chasing me for 2-3 months. I don't think his feelings miraculously went away. We go to the same university I run into him most everyday. I want to take things slow and see how they go as well. I don't want him back as what we once were right now and I don't think that's flip-flopping.

I care because I have never felt the way I felt with him and vice-versa. I want it to transition from toxic to healthy. And from what I have seen in other zodiac forums Pisces is the one who has to ensure the relationship in this pairing.

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I need to become what I once was or who I can be before I win him back.

....then what is the point of this thread? You already know what you need to do to feel better and healthy again, so why are you over here bellyaching over a man?

*resisting the urge to make a comment about Leeb Moons....*

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I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond. We only were in a relationship for a month. So if you are giving him credibility for saying "I love you" after one week than I obviously am in a scorpion nest.

I didn't know what I wanted at first because he pursued me and came on extremely strong. I was preoccupied with school work. As was he. I am very goal-oriented. He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

I know I am stable but I needed things to slow down. They moved too fast for me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling the same way about someone, especially after a week...He sounds quite "off" tbh. The issue is all of this "I will not rest until I have him back...." followed by "However...Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....I need a plan" Like serious?

1) Stop being so dramatic.

2) If you don't know what you want, then leave him alone until you do. Just be honest with yourself and give yourself the appropriate amount of time to figure it out.

Forcing an issue because you want his attention now will only result in something far worse than what you hoped for.

PS. You don't get to cherry pick who chooses to respond to your thread. I'm beginning to see a pattern here...

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It was a waste of time with me answering and responding to certain individuals. I need to selectively filter. Everyone else is a pro at this. And I don't take being sexually assaulted lightly no it wasn't a "professor touched my thigh" #metoo moment it's more of a professor pushed me up against a wall.

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

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And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...

LOL are you trying to low key air out someone's dirty laundry? Who here knows you well enough to "despise" you?

If you are, I'm here for the tea.

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I am not a victim. I want to be his friend but in a healthy way and if its suitable to have it progress.That's what I want. That's what we both want. I think that is fair. I just wanted advice.

Okay, so again simply state this exactly as you've written it here and stick by that. When you feel you are ready to take it further romantically sit him down and have a conversation. Don't assume you are on the same page. If he is genuine, he will respect that and build a foundation (e.g. friendship) with you. No more late night texting pictures of teddy bears or one eyed monsters. I have to point out, if you did share all of the stuff you went through last year with him, I'm not sure why he would have pursued anything romantic with you in that state. Sounds.....well like I stated, he sounds "off" and frankly selfish.

Personally, I think you were right in your earlier statement that you need to just take space and work through some of the trauma you've experienced. That is a lot to manage.

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

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I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

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Let's not pretend that's not the main reason he likes me.

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

Username sounds familiar, but I don't remember her posts.

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Old user that deleted that went on and on about how physically attractive she was in almost every statement. Talked about men saying they loved her after a week or so. She went on rants about how top notch she was, and how she couldn't believe her guy refused to leave his gf, even though she was a fat cow, and she was a dime piece.

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

Username sounds familiar, but I don't remember her posts.

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This is my first time on here. Many Scorpio guys have liked me in the past because of my looks. I just never dated one. Usually I date Earth signs. So even in a past lifetime I wouldn't have been Pisces4Scorpio.

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Posted by wiseblood
Wayy too much drama happened in only one month.. that should be a real eye opener..

Not that much drama. I still like him. But I need to change....for myself to be honest not for him.

I just wanted advice on how to win him back AFTER I give time to my thoughts and purge myself of harping on the pain of last year.

I came here for advice. That's really it. Either you are willing to give it or not. But I'm not giving up.

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Perhaps you should just focus on what you need to take care of now.

And they say fixed signs are stubborn.....

If he's not around when you've done the work you need to do to heal (or "purge"), then so be it. He is not the only man. Definitely not the only Scorp man. You're emotional health is more important.

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Wayy too much drama happened in only one month.. that should be a real eye opener..

Not that much drama. I still like him. But I need to change....for myself to be honest not for him.

I just wanted advice on how to win him back AFTER I give time to my thoughts and purge myself of harping on the pain of last year.

I came here for advice. That's really it. Either you are willing to give it or not. But I'm not giving up.

You got it all wrong though... If you know you need to change for yourself that should be your one and only focus right now.. It doesn't happen over night.. It takes a lot of work and effort. He should be your last concern right now.. Chances of him even being single when you are done working on yourself is unknown.. and you were only with the guy for a month. Once you start to get in touch with yourself and learn more about yourself, chances are you won't even want this guy anymore. Your perception will change a lot.. The only person you should not be giving up on right now is yourself. I am giving you advice.. It's just not what you want to hear.

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*like*

I smell popcorn

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

Username sounds familiar, but I don't remember her posts.

Old user that deleted that went on and on about how physically attractive she was in almost every statement. Talked about men saying they loved her after a week or so. She went on rants about how top notch she was, and how she couldn't believe her guy refused to leave his gf, even though she was a fat cow, and she was a dime piece.

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Lol. This man did say he loved me after a week and I was completely caught off guard. I am not the most beautiful person ever and I am not considering myself a 10. I am a Pisces so inherently insecure but yes the majority of people think I am very physically attractive. I don't think that's a good thing however and I don't seek physically attractive mates. I would rather be average looking. I want someone to like me for WHO I am not WHAT I am.

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Well go get him then.

This. Why the hell are we convincing someone to take care of themselves?....



Carry on.

I mentioned I am physically attractive because I know that's what Scorpio's like and from my point of view that was his main reason for being into me.

Posted by piscesarieslibra
I care because I have never felt the way I felt with him and vice-versa. I want it to transition from toxic to healthy.

been there so many times....the most toxic relationships always have the strongest feelings for me and I get bored of stability....never could figure it out or fix it, but best of luck to you....if it lasts longer, just observe the patterns in the feelings....do you feel the strongest for him when he's pulling away, and vice versa? If that's always the case, and you're never on the same page emotionally, you may just be dealing with your own feelings around abandonment or rejection, which I think is often the case with me....didn't read all the posts in thread but from skimming, it sounds like with all you've been through lately, it would be really hard for you to even gauge your own emotions and how sincere they are during this time....

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

Username sounds familiar, but I don't remember her posts.

This is my first time on here. Many Scorpio guys have liked me in the past because of my looks. I just never dated one. Usually I date Earth signs. So even in a past lifetime I wouldn't have been Pisces4Scorpio.

"Usually I date Earth signs."

My - this woman has experience, I see.

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Can you not be callous and just offer me advice. No I am not a troll.

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I don't need him. Even though I have been down lately, I am aware that I am the most physically attractive person in our portion university. He and other guys have said such.

LOL, I can't.

To be fair, Pisces women tend to be physically attractive.

I get that, but this is TOO much like Pisces4Scorpio

Username sounds familiar, but I don't remember her posts.

Old user that deleted that went on and on about how physically attractive she was in almost every statement. Talked about men saying they loved her after a week or so. She went on rants about how top notch she was, and how she couldn't believe her guy refused to leave his gf, even though she was a fat cow, and she was a dime piece.

Lol. This man did say he loved me after a week and I was completely caught off guard. I am not the most beautiful person ever and I am not considering myself a 10. I am a Pisces so inherently insecure but yes the majority of people think I am very physically attractive. I don't think that's a good thing however and I don't seek physically attractive mates. I would rather be average looking. I want someone to like me for WHO I am not WHAT I am.

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I wasn't saying you were her, just those statements came off like her.



The only advice any of us can give you right now, is to fix your own inner demons. Most of us aren't going to hand out an answer you want, but the advice we think is right. You got a lot of issues within yourself, that you need to fix before. Right now, you do not have the skillset to maintain a healthy, long-term relationship.

That's just a fact.

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I care because I have never felt the way I felt with him and vice-versa. I want it to transition from toxic to healthy.

been there so many times....the most toxic relationships always have the strongest feelings for me and I get bored of stability....never could figure it out or fix it, but best of luck to you....if it lasts longer, just observe the patterns in the feelings....do you feel the strongest for him when he's pulling away, and vice versa? If that's always the case, and you're never on the same page emotionally, you may just be dealing with your own feelings around abandonment or rejection, which I think is often the case with me....didn't read all the posts in thread but from skimming, it sounds like with all you've been through lately, it would be really hard for you to even gauge your own emotions and how sincere they are during this time....

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Well even if we just remain friends I don't want that to be toxic either.

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And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...why is he insistent on being friends then? Why send me a picture of him with a teddy bear at 3AM?

lol. No one despises you.

But you clearly like some chaos with your romance. Obviously he does too since he deals with you and sends late night dramatic texts.

When relationships are based on that, especially between two water signs, it’s almost always a shit show. The relationship basically just becomes an extension of ego, self gratification. And that’s not anything that builds a long lasting, stable relationship.

If you really like this guy, your best shot is to slow the fuck down and relinquish control. Be open with your hopes and moved at a slow pace till you both can show each other things are different.

I am going to say it again because it obviously was skipped over. I recently am dealing with the death of my father and my physics professor sexually assaulting me. I don't care if I was a Leo or Aries...things wouldn't have gone well. The irony is when I would complain it was never about missing my dad or sexual assault it was about just little intricacies of people that bothered me. That is what I know needs to stop. I am very very stable considering these circumstances. However, I need to let these things go.

Actually it wasn’t skipped over because it wasn’t in your OP. You made a one sentence vague reference to something happening to you.

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Dat water-water sign connection doh? You didn't know what that meant without it being clearly explained?

Then again, I read it and chose to ignore it as it wasn't relevant since her only focus is winning this guy she isn't sure she wants. Therefore, it felt carefully inserted after she felt attacked by all the Scorpios that despise her.

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I care because I have never felt the way I felt with him and vice-versa. I want it to transition from toxic to healthy.

been there so many times....the most toxic relationships always have the strongest feelings for me and I get bored of stability....never could figure it out or fix it, but best of luck to you....if it lasts longer, just observe the patterns in the feelings....do you feel the strongest for him when he's pulling away, and vice versa? If that's always the case, and you're never on the same page emotionally, you may just be dealing with your own feelings around abandonment or rejection, which I think is often the case with me....didn't read all the posts in thread but from skimming, it sounds like with all you've been through lately, it would be really hard for you to even gauge your own emotions and how sincere they are during this time....

Well even if we just remain friends I don't want that to be toxic either.

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It would take a lot of maturity and sensitivity from both of you....I feel that for me a lot of romances should've just stayed as a friendship....Its easier said than done though....When I feel that really strong chemistry, all of my ugly sides do start to surface - jealousy, possessiveness, paranoia, etc.....My friendships with ex's when those feelings have been able to transition to platonic though, are so much more healthy and mutually supportive than the romance ever was, and some of my best relationships in general.

Thank you very much Metatron. I feel like people are just having fun mocking me.

But yes I want him in my life as a friend, he wants me in his life as a friend too,

For all the Scorpios on here. Yes I am facing the death of a parent, yes I was assaulted and I am dealing with that so I was intentionally romantically un-involved. I do not need anyone to save me. I had a list of goals and if anything him being in my life interfered with them. And I think I became a bit resentful towards him.

I don't need one Scorpio or a chatroom full of Scorpios to validate me. I want him because I want him as a person. All of him. And I am willing to change because I love being a mutable Pisces. I will need to reflect more of whether this is due to merely missing him or me romantically liking him. I love self-reflecting and changing and improving.

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I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond. We only were in a relationship for a month. So if you are giving him credibility for saying "I love you" after one week than I obviously am in a scorpion nest.

I didn't know what I wanted at first because he pursued me and came on extremely strong. I was preoccupied with school work. As was he. I am very goal-oriented. He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

I know I am stable but I needed things to slow down. They moved too fast for me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling the same way about someone, especially after a week...He sounds quite "off" tbh. The issue is all of this "I will not rest until I have him back...." followed by "However...Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....I need a plan" Like serious?

1) Stop being so dramatic.

2) If you don't know what you want, then leave him alone until you do. Just be honest with yourself and give yourself the appropriate amount of time to figure it out.

Forcing an issue because you want his attention now will only result in something far worse than what you hoped for.

PS. You don't get to cherry pick who chooses to respond to your thread. I'm beginning to see a pattern here...

It was a waste of time with me answering and responding to certain individuals. I need to selectively filter. Everyone else is a pro at this. And I don't take being sexually assaulted lightly no it wasn't a "professor touched my thigh" #metoo moment it's more of a professor pushed me up against a wall.

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Yeah, you're clearly blurring someone else's comment into mine. My comment about you cherry picking who can comment was in response to your statement "I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond". It's highlighted above for you, and my comment was well before there was any discussion (or mention on your part) about being sexually assaulted. It was actually your second post. You can look back and see for yourself. I was just late to the thread, so my comment is out of sequence.

So to be clear, from the beginning you were using a selective filter to the comments that were being made. Not because you mentioned you were assaulted and others took it lightly. It was because you didn't want to hear what was being said by a few posters. If you filter and choose to select what you want to read that's fine, I do it too. Just don't front and make your selective filtering about your sexual assault or that being minimized because it wasn't.

Either you can get him back and you know how to ....in which case get him. Or you don't....in which case it will never happen.

I am not going to tell you to look after yourself etc. Whatever happens you should be doing that.

I think though asking the universe for your soulmate and saying i won't rest until i find my soumate ...is possibly going to make you happier.

You don't know this guy is your soulmate.

Op is this guy your soulmate?

Now the OP is just starting to annoy me. All the Scorpios hate her, all the Scorpios aren't giving the answer that the OP wants exactly. Because all the Scorpios point out the issues that need to be addressed, but aren't what the OP wants to hear, it is mocking.

I find the OP exasperating to deal with just in the context of her posts, so I can't imagine how much more prominent these issues are with her in her real life.