IF ..........................

you could go back into the past and change just ONE thing, what would it be and why?


My father and brother became estranged in 1972, never to utter a word to each other ever since. My brother claims not to have a father, my father has no son. Mom died without experiencing the joy in her heart that father and son were re-united. In hindsight, if I was only given one wish, I would do whatever was necessary to attempt to prevent the injury, or try to fix it while it was still young and tender.


What would you do, if you could?

P-Angel,

How strange....my father and brother are in the same situation, or lack thereof. My brother is very hurt...but also very stubborn, a Virgo. He says he has no father also. And my father has just completely disowned my brother, but...still has a picture up of him and his adopted sons in his house. All for show I am sure. I have often thought of what I could do to help mend fences. But in the end, I think it wouldnt work anyway. Who knows, my brother is gay, and my father always wanted a football player for a son.

If I could change one thing? That question is sooo hard. I think I would change the fact that I didnt push more to go away to college and have that college life. But then again, in order to get that wish, my parents couldnt have divorced, and so on and so forth.....bygones.

If I could change one thing it would have to be my biological father, who walked out on us when I was 4. Him walking out was a good thing coz he was abusing alcohol and was physically and verbally abusive towards my mom... what i would change is that he would've been a different person altogether. Then maybe my mom would've been happy.

in turn it might be easier for me to find happiness also. i used to call BS whenever someone did the 'blame it on my childhood' thing but as i get older i recognize more and more that it does have an impact on my decision making and thought process.