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Sublimitas
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My ex had a aqua moon I believe this mars in aqua placement uses the detachment as a protective shield specially with the ViS intensity. I remember that respecting my exs need for space and detachment had him open up and trust me fully for the first time in his life. Mars in aqua is probably so annoyingly aloof that it filters who stays or goes right away Haha. I know that passion does not work well here. It's definitely paradoxical here. In order to fall in love they must see how independent the other person is able to be regardless of their attachment. With the ex (scorp cusp / aqua moon) the least I showed my emotions the more he wanted me :-/
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Posted by Sublimitas
Yeah but for a woman that must be kinda useful in everyday life, no?



It's overkill with my Moon in Aries also.

Thanks god for the Venus in Cancer..softens me up..a bit.

Good to see you back though. I remember your old handle on here. Are they really going to move Tomorrowland across the Atlantic? I wanted to get to that festival for years and Belgium is nearby. The US..not so much.
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Sublimitas
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Posted by FrostAndBite
Don't let dazed scare you. 😛

Aqua mars isn't intimidating. The opposite really. I liked it dating, as the energy is very consistent and verbal. You have to be slightly extra psychic than with a normal Scorp.

They are skiddish over finalizing commitments too, things like cars, houses and marriage. After swearing up and down they don't want something for years they wake up one morning having done a 180, totes all in. Plus they'll surprise you, when you think you have them pegged. Which is nice.

I find it the right level of spontaneous. I'm gem mars though. I forgot peche, where's your mars?



Haha ok I have a better idea.

My mars is in stupid cancer!

We do spend hours talking and we already covered the ex files and surprisingly really are at the same place (level) now. He keeps teasing that my perfect mate is maybe in china right now & I shouldn't give up lol wtf. Also he really takes his tiiiime. I wanted to meet to tomorrow night and he said he's working night shift and can only be free from July 18 on. Wtf?! I'm a bit bothered that we might talk to much then and kill spontaneity.

Also there's a middle age party / metal gig in north France & he took time to come up with the itinerary for me. He's like you'll need someone, so you don't sleep in a tent by the graveyard alone. I thought I should take him with me... Just for that part..cuz yeah there's no point I sleep alone that night 🙂 But hell I don't even know the dude. *smh*
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Sublimitas
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Yeah. Three hour conversations this early on might turn you into the emotional crutch. Don't become the emotional release valve. Be the wity, funny, sexy, independent all around woman who has a full life.

I just say this because we see so many stories on this board where the woman has spent three hours a night talking to a dude only to become a second option down the road. The thing is--no one in real life spends three hours a day in deep discussion with someone they are getting to know. Its more like, time together--2 maybe 3 times a week--having a laugh, enjoying culture, sitting quietly by the seaside. Maybe a little chit chat about who you are and what you like. Getting to KNOW each other. MAYBE once or twice at the beginning you get in really deep, usually later on when trust is established.

I don't know--could be rambling but this came to mind.

shrug



Its true. I don't want to be an 'emotional release valve' but I think neither does he, we just talk and share and all comes in the picture including the old ex talks and shit. It might be too intense but I don't think it's really that bad. However I can always withdraw a little and see what happens. Im not going to meet him this weekend so I could always be too busy.... But yeah talking a lot can get really addictive but we both are independent folks so it does not really make one more emotional than the other. The situation is actually quite genuine for once.
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Nah you guys make my day 🙂 I hand already had my fair share of intensity and then losing my mind when the bubble phase is gone, last year. It was so damaging that there is no way I'm getting myself fooled by my intensity ever again. So I know that I have to stay balanced and we actually talked about it because he shared the tales of his Gemini ex who couldn't handle the intensity at all and I thought... This could happen to anyone who hasn't had scorp practice yet. I have, I can't deny it. Besides I'm sure a scorp male gets off on the attention he gets from the push and pulling and I'm not going provide that kind of entertainment... Many other girls around for that. I want something good and stable, so intensify must be transmuted into say hmmm art or clay or dance, anything that keeps my mind away from asking myself 'wtf is he?!?!' Lol

Everything you guys say is a treasure for this leeb. Thank you 🙂
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Sublimitas
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
BTW, I'm not trying to rain on your parade, Peche. 🙂

Its just a common problem with Scorpio in general. I've had it happen and we see it on the boards all the time. Too much intensity and *poof* one pulls back and then the other feels the lack of intensity and thinks its all gone tits up and then the spiraling out of control heavy in mind games and mirroring. And then the agitated text messages and the final BLOW up. Happens every week on these boards.

When in reality, the pulling back really may have been an instinctual realization that the intensity is not really real--its more like an illusion. Long term reality is less intense and more go with the flow. I hope that makes sense.

Good luck!



Love love love this! 😄
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Sublimitas
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
That's cool. However, you have that Scorp Moon and he's a Scorp Sun so that pretty much guarantees intensity. And we all know intensity can blow itself out. Too much of a good thing, etc. Just keep in mind that all that intensity can still exist but can also be played out over a longer period of time--stretch it out over time.

This is a life lesson I'm speaking on--intensity can create that weird obsessive and passionate energy that becomes almost addictive. However, over time this is impossible to sustain. Once that goes, the relationship can feel "less." And then the problems can start when you just want to enjoy the mundane--which is like 80% of a real relationship. Enjoying the mundane together. So Scorpio energy can actually short circuit long term by jacking up intensity and not allowing for the mundane niceties of life. The little endearing things.

My point, if you can get your intensity under control and allow it to flow with less peaks and valleys, this is when the real relationship starts. Ain't nobody got time for pure intensity 24/7. Again, this is just my thought on this.



Life lesson to be printed out and put on my fridge...

I'm learning a great life lesson here 🙂
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FixedWater
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Posted by FixedWater
Totally off topic but I really don't like the winky smiley face and don't know why I use it. Does it seem creepy to anyone else? Lol



I find these newer smileys to be a bit over expressive for my tastes. My favorite, the capital x capital d smiling face use to express mild amusement and a medium level of sarcasm. Now in this new smiley form, the context seems more like. 'I THINK EVERYTHING IS REALLY FUCKING FUNNY!'

And that's my emoticon thesis for the day.
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Emoticon Thesis for the day.... hehe funny. You are sooooo right! The wink looks sarcastic and the 😆 is definitely overkill. The basic smiley looks too blah and the colon and capitol D looks like its on a toothpaste commercial. That's It, from now on the only expression I'm giving is this one... 😏

Lol
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
That's cool. However, you have that Scorp Moon and he's a Scorp Sun so that pretty much guarantees intensity. And we all know intensity can blow itself out. Too much of a good thing, etc. Just keep in mind that all that intensity can still exist but can also be played out over a longer period of time--stretch it out over time.

This is a life lesson I'm speaking on--intensity can create that weird obsessive and passionate energy that becomes almost addictive. However, over time this is impossible to sustain. Once that goes, the relationship can feel "less." And then the problems can start when you just want to enjoy the mundane--which is like 80% of a real relationship. Enjoying the mundane together. So Scorpio energy can actually short circuit long term by jacking up intensity and not allowing for the mundane niceties of life. The little endearing things.

My point, if you can get your intensity under control and allow it to flow with less peaks and valleys, this is when the real relationship starts. Ain't nobody got time for pure intensity 24/7. Again, this is just my thought on this.



Life lesson to be printed out and put on my fridge...

I'm learning a great life lesson here 🙂
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IS, you always have such amazing insight and somehow it always seems to play right into what I need to hear at the time.

Sub, I am happy to hear you are chilling. It's a great idea to hold off and I wish you well. 😏
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Sublimitas
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Posted by GetMisted
Pech.. A couple things about the Mars in Aqua (w/ VinS):

1. If you like him.. ignore the flake. It will happen on occasion. Once the VinS attaches, good luck getting rid of him.
2. Remember the 80/20 rule; 80% /20% Sub/Dom on a good day. 80% /20% Dom/Sub on a bad day. 100% freak.
3. Intelligence is sexy.
4. Deep conversation is sexy.
5. As is light/flirty convo.
6. Can be a so called "enigma" (you're dealing with a T-square of moon/venus/mars.. Not sure how old he is but possibly a moon/mars/pluto T-square also. Do you know anyone with those placements?)
7. Libra w/Scorp moon is a good match for this individual (from personal experience): Great conversation, sensational sex, and all around good spirits.
8. Good luck. I wish the best for you 🙂

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