Is it all just a coincedence?

I am at my wits end here. Every time I think I am over this Scorpio woman (I am an Aries) she "pops" back in my radar.

Will try to sum this up as easily as possible.

A little over two years ago, she basically hypnotized me and seduced me on a first meet/one nite stand. No joke.

She was visiting from out of town and so I figured "great great great nite, but won't see her again obviously."

But for the next few days she was still in town she continued with her seduction. Then at the end said she was coming to move here (from other side of the country) to be with me in a few months. I was by now hooked in and happy about it.

We talked on phone every day for a month then she wanted me to fly out to see her. So I did, and I "thought" everything went well when she suddenly said the "it's not you its me" crap out of nowhere in the middle of my visit.

I was a bit upset, but since I was stuck there for another 48 hours made the best of it and was hoping to still be friends. Well in the end she said she would keep in touch and she didn't like where I lived anyway so didn't want to move there.

We kept in touch for about 6 weeks but it was getting rarer and rarer during that time frame. So eventually I realized it was over totally, no friendship no nothing and moved on.

Found another woman a few months after that and forgot (well as much as an Aries can) about the Scorpio. But that relationship was bad pretty much from the get go and so that was on the last legs after almost a year.

Which is when I found out that the Scorpio now moved to my city!!!! The city she didn't like! Found this out because one day after work I was pulling out and SWORE she pulled out across the street and just ahead of me. Thought maybe I was tripping out, but found out later that yes, she had moved here. I worked in a part of town that she had no reason to be in at that time (ie no shops, bars, anything)

Now, fast forward a few months as I was still trying to salvage the relationship I was in, to no avail though. So after a few months, thru a mutual friend, the Scorpio and I ended up talkin on the phone and made an undetermend plan to get together soon.

Well, before ever seeing her or making concrete plans, I got in a bad car wreck. I was totally out of it and delirious at the hospital. Then it was my EX who came (I did not ring her, she heard of the wreck) and helped me out at the hospital and my subsequent recovery. Thus yes, I tried to work i

out with her again. Hell, no one else came and I was in a fragile state. But that quickly blew up in my face and now the ex and I are completely done.

Never heard a peep out of the Scorpio after the accident. Yet now she is suddenly posting on a "very specific type" of dating website that she is new in town and looking for like-minded friends. She used to make FUN of me for doing that when we first met and said she never would. On the website she took a roundabout way of making a dig at me.

Good god, why?

Why did she move here?
Why did she want to see me, then after car wreck disappear?
Why did she post on a website she knew I would see and dig at me?

But most importantly, HOW DO I WIN HER BACK—

Thank you.

Whats up with scorpio women and one night stands...

Hell I had no problem with it being a one nite stand! She was the one who fed my head full of shit and stretched it out only to kick me when I was down.

But even that is ok, like I said, I moved on. Yet she is now around again. Need to know if I should try once again to get over her, or is she playing with me? If she playing with me, then okay, I know where I stand (under her heels, which is fine) or, like the title says, "is it all a coinkydink?" Is this just wishful thinking on my part?

"Good god, why?"

I dunno...

"Why did she move here?"

To work you up like this

"Why did she want to see me, then after car wreck disappear?"

She's a shallow b1tch?

"Why did she post on a website she knew I would see and dig at me?"

Once again...to work you up like this

"But most importantly, HOW DO I WIN HER BACK—"

You're kidding....right?

"You're kidding....right?"

LOL. He's an aries. they .... are .... a ..... little ..... slow.

Ok

So she wanted to work me up, but for what? Does she want me to just be frustrated and do nothing? Or does she want me to go after her?

And no, not kidding. This woman is the benchmark, nothing else out there even close to it..

"This woman is the benchmark, nothing else out there even close to it.."

You've already lost the war. You just don't know it.

Don't ask me to explain, grasshopper.

Hey now, I resemble that remark!

Really, just trying to get some advice here. Is she wanting to play, or is this a coincedence.

I don't want to be a stalker and take the wrong cue from this. That is all.

She'll continue to play... if that's what you want.

You're nothing but chopped liver to her.

Alrighty

Did not know it was war per se, thought it was just fun and games, but guess she wanted to poke an eye out as her goal.

*shrugs*

There's always the delusional road that 95% of humanity takes. If interested, contact that Crabtank_Gem fellow for some instructions.

Have a nice day.

deivil: it is a classic aries man misconception that good sex and multiple orgasms are enough to keep a scorpio woman happy. it comes across like you're nothing more than a piece of meat and sex without love is not a long term option for a scorpio. sex isn't emotional currency.

WC: so you had a one night stand and fell inevitably for the scorpio hypnosis - you had fun, she had fun but it wasn't significant enough to her to wish to take it further. if she did, she would have found out about the wreck at some stage and would've shown at least a little concern for your wellbeing. scorpio women will overcome any obstacle to get the man they want and they are always successful in this. she didn't lift a finger. i think her move IS coincidental because if it was meaningful in any way, she would have told you about it.

it's a really difficult combination scorpio/aries because there is an almost unbearable sexual chemistry between the two signs and both, being considerably driven by sexual desires, have a tendancy to build relationships based on sex alone. it's not enough for a scorpio woman but it's more than an aries man dreams of and they are usually the ones who wind up being controlled by the scorp whereas their natural motivation is to be the controller.

the biggest flaw with this sign combination is that aries are very direct, open and honest and scorpio are the opposite. aries can't bear secrets, scorpio accumulates them unwittingly. and the biggest flaw in a scorpio woman is that she can be sincerely insincere at times and you never quite know where you stand.

Thanks for responding. I was in the beginning, fine with a one nite stand. She pursued more and promised more and then did a 180 without explaining why.

Then she is showing up back in my life. When she first called me she acted like nothing odd happened and was very friendly. Then the wreck. Then nothing.

Really, I will get over her "again" but just trying to understand people. For instance, was dating another Aries for about 2 months and on a date she went home with someone else! Now that I can wrap my head around. She wanted what she wanted and did not care who she hurt. I know Aries have that tendency but I conciously notice it in me and act the adult (well most the time.)

So just trying to understand human behavior.

Oh and to FuckinA, yes I can be dense because why someone would LIE is beyond me. The truth is much simpler and cleaner. I forget people lie, likely because I just don't understand the benefit in it.

WC: it's not so much lying as this business of not being open that is the problem. scorpio women like to be adored and they like to think that they are soooo amazing that the second they yank your chain, you're at their feet. (we grow out of it fortunately btw).

the making promises is all part of reeling you in but they are not necessarily malicious by doing this, it's more a case of being too LAME to be open and honest. the way to be sure with a scorpio woman is by what she does. if she is into you, she will be openly into you. the second games commence, you can assume that she's not into you at all and at best, you are on the back-burner.

my personal advice would be to cut her dead next time she speaks to you or looks your way or whatever. all the time she thinks you are puppy-eyed about her, she can just give the chain a yank as and when she feels like it.

ok well I did show my adoration to her and she is amazing. So what is the deal? Was I too easy? I mean hell, she picked me up with the line of "i wanna fuck you, do you wanna fuck me?" and well really now................ahemmm

How the hell can I cut her dead when she has an attitude like that! I HATE that she is in my town, I hate that she went on the website she knows I go to (not anymore as I deleted the account now cuz of her), I hate that we go to the same type of events.

I know damn well she will cut me down dead next time I see her. Crikey. She is the actress, not me. Can't pretend I don't want her and have feelings for her like she can. Makes me not even want to live in this city anymore. Sucks.

What AS said....or possibly itz a revenge for a crime which you would never know you committed.

Thatz what I like about Sag women - they are more incisive and less secretive - can detect your weaknesses in an instant ( if they really like you ) and cut you down ruthlessly so that you can stand again with more confidence in yourself. But it takes toll on their system.

yeah i LOVE sag women 🙂

course, archer's my favourite 😛

i tell you where you went wrong WC. in your response to her rather tasteless pick-up line. perhaps had you looked at her in disgust and asked her price, she may have liked you more? any woman of any sign can offer herself to someone as openly as this scorp did and they are most likely to be taken up on the offer. you have yourself a free hooker for the night but respect has already flown out of the window on both sides if you're honest with yourself. how many times have you wondered who else has been picked up in this fashion by her. it doesn't speak volumes about her integrity does it? i'm surprised that an aries is even considering pursuing such a woman unless the 'caveman instinct' has taken control of you which i suspect is the case.

guys amaze me as to what turns them on in women!!! you need to move on and find someone else who doesn't offer her body to anyone she has a passing attraction to that stands still for long enough!!!