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well he came round. all sexy looking and smelling so good. i found myself launching myself at him for a hug which was lovely. he asked what the hug meant...i said 'i dunno' (yeah i know that's crap) and he just said not to fuck him about. my daughter was there too and when she came downstairs he asked her AND me if we wanted to have dinner at his later. she said yes...i let her decide...and so we're meeting him in a couple of hours.
he's so nice when he's sober. it's been beneficial having a couple of days off. i still think there are things i have to sort out in my head before getting too involved with him for his sake as well as mine.
Interesting?
So much for the man ban.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s i WANT to FEEEEEEEEL something!! i seriously think it's one of my life's missions to overcome my massive emotional block.
Yeah I sense that about you, you seem to have a huge emotional chip on your shoulder when it comes to relationships. Almost like an Aqua.... or definitely an Air person of some kind. No one is good enough, and you definitely shouldn't settle for less, but let me ask you - has there ever been a guy in your life who was simply perfect for you - as much as 'perfection' is possible? It's like you're always looking for the slightest reason to dump or criticize a guy no matter how competent he is. I'm just saying, maybe relationships aren't for everyone..... 😛
(Pun intended, but seriousely, it's their loss!)
OK, I don't know about the Cancer guy... I think you are overexaggerating about his personal quirks, if you can call it that. Controlling and jealous is good in reasonable doses. Also, add insecurities and experience from past relationships and you got yourself a grown-up who falls short of perfect. But who's perfect anyway? Would you rather have an emotionally numb (read: emotionally disturbed!) man?
All things said, I don't think you should put up with is his drinking habits. It is one weakness we can all be without, relationships are hard enough without the alcohol intake!
Couldn't agree with you more enfant terrible.
Sounds like emotional BS to me again.
Cancer man who a drinking problem. Yeah. Good pick.
Good luck.
Posted by ellessque
Posted by lblibra
I honestly would wish more people would do this Instead they jump from one realtionship to the next and never exactly figure out what they want or need Or even what the hell went wrong in the last one I had a friend at work she hasnt been single for more then 3 days in the last 14 years and in that time it includes over a dozen boyfriends and she still doesn't know what she wants exactly .I hope it works out for you
this reminds me of a taurus I work with. he has a different woman every week, sometimes more than one.
we were playing around one day and I challenged him to go a week "womanless"....by friday, i swear he was breaking out in hives. he couldn't do it.
the funny thing is, every one of those women thought they were "special" and none knew about the other. however, I think they were only fulfilling the noise requirement he had so he didn't have to think his own thoughts. they were filling something.
He cannot stand to be alone with himself. Today, I told him I took myself to the movies this weekend and he practically jumped out of his skin.
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LMAO......I get this same reaction from people when I tell them I took my own self out, most people can't wrap their minds around the fact that a women can be this independant and still feel Happy with herself.....
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s i WANT to FEEEEEEEEL something!! i seriously think it's one of my life's missions to overcome my massive emotional block.
Yeah I sense that about you, you seem to have a huge emotional chip on your shoulder when it comes to relationships. Almost like an Aqua.... or definitely an Air person of some kind. No one is good enough, and you definitely shouldn't settle for less, but let me ask you - has there ever been a guy in your life who was simply perfect for you - as much as 'perfection' is possible? It's like you're always looking for the slightest reason to dump or criticize a guy no matter how competent he is. I'm just saying, maybe relationships aren't for everyone..... 😛
(Pun intended, but seriousely, it's their loss!)OK, I don't know about the Cancer guy... I think you are overexaggerating about his personal quirks, if you can call it that. Controlling and jealous is good in reasonable doses. Also, add insecurities and experience from past relationships and you got yourself a grown-up who falls short of perfect. But who's perfect anyway? Would you rather have an emotionally numb (read: emotionally disturbed!) man?
All things said, I don't think you should put up with is his drinking habits. It is one weakness we can all be without, relationships are hard enough without the alcohol intake!
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yes i did have someone who i felt was perfect for me. he was my first love and sadly he was killed. we were both in our early 20s. since then NO-ONE has come close in my estimation but i think when people die, they become almost saintlike in your memory. it's a tough thing to compete with a ghost.
Out of curiosity, what was his sign?
(Note that I didn't go all mushy on you)
He is a loser.
Rig1 needs to get rid of this bum, but like most, she will love him forever.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Out of curiosity, what was his sign?(Note that I didn't go all mushy on you)
lol.....march 21st so aries or pisces/aries if you acknowledge cusps.
he's a loser so i'll love him forever? is that how it works? that's a harsh judgement.
seraph: moon and venus in libra...a feather for every wind that blows...scourge of my existence....at least when i'm sayin' it, i mean it though.
You judge yourself based on the people you be with.
This Man Ban was a release and a quick pick me up before going back into the swamp?
Well Rig1 will have this on/off relationship with this cancer guy.
A drinking issue will not go away.
Rig1 is not in her 20's anymore and she will not change him.
Going down the road on alot of hurt.
But, some people enjoy the pain I guess.
Posted by IntriguedScorp
Posted by R24
Besides, it seems that crabcakes was getting too complacent with the situation... letting it all hang out, losing his finesse, and it was time to shake up the dynamic or end it. It was shaken. The result: He came over sober, took R1g and her daughter on a dinner date, and so now it will depend on whether he will learn from this or not. Good call R1g.That is why many scorps don't care if a man respects us or not. If he doesn't, he will be iced out unless he gets with the program.
True story.
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you're right. it's true. also he said to me that he was wrong to see me and my daughter when he knew he was on a mission to get drunk. he doesn't do it every day but did admit that after a hard week's work, that's what he wanted to do. he also said he was wrong to ambush me when i first arrived in the area. he said he obviously moved me so got to meet me early on but that he deliberately made sure i didn't get away from him before someone else got to me.
he said he would understand if i wanted to 'stand back' to see if there was anyone better, lol...but i said i wasn't actively looking anyway and we should just go with the flow.
True story.
you're right. it's true. also he said to me that he was wrong to see me and my daughter when he knew he was on a mission to get drunk. he doesn't do it every day but did admit that after a hard week's work, that's what he wanted to do. he also said he was wrong to ambush me when i first arrived in the area. he said he obviously moved me so got to meet me early on but that he deliberately made sure i didn't get away from him before someone else got to me.
he said he would understand if i wanted to 'stand back' to see if there was anyone better, lol...but i said i wasn't actively looking anyway and we should just go with the flow.
Whoa. When thid dude says he wanted to get drunk, the the statement " he doesn't do this everyday" is a nice coverup.
I would have a few drinks at the end of the week after a difficult week, but to get drunk is to drown some emotional issue.
This is going to be interesting to see takes place in a while.
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thing is....i WANT to get swept up in that tidal wave...gimme a tsunami in fact. i WANT to FEEEEEEEEL something!! i seriously think it's one of my life's missions to overcome my massive emotional block.