TrueTaur57
@TrueTaur57
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He was born on 30 Oct 1990 whereas I was born on 7 May 1990.
Yeah, the infamous taurus/scorpio but now I am tired of it, hence my question.
Posted by BlackMambaWish I could! But I don't feel like to touch anyone else. Really.
sex with someone else...maybe a cancer
How long have you been doing no contact, @TrueTaur57.
I think that's a good start, but it takes a long time of no contact and also getting involved with other thing/people and perhaps therapy or other self help methods to truly move on if you still feel attachment to someone who doesn't feel the same way about you, in my experience.
I think that's a good start, but it takes a long time of no contact and also getting involved with other thing/people and perhaps therapy or other self help methods to truly move on if you still feel attachment to someone who doesn't feel the same way about you, in my experience.
Posted by CopperDoveI did that before also from Jan till June but could not take it and talked again in June. I was in contact with him from June till November. I haven't talked to him from 1.5 months. I am doing everything possible but still every night I just want to talk to him about anything!!
How long have you been doing no contact, @TrueTaur57.
I think that's a good start, but it takes a long time of no contact and also getting involved with other thing/people and perhaps therapy or other self help methods to truly move on if you still feel attachment to someone who doesn't feel the same way about you, in my experience.
Posted by tegonyHe does not know that I deleted his contact and I am on "no contact" terms again. I just stopped talking and he also did not care to talk from past 1.5 months so I assume he is allowing "no contact".
Does a scorpio man allow "no contact"? There is not such possibility... With no contact do you intend to make him more interested or just try to get over him?
I literally don't know what my intentions are here, honestly. But I know its a dead end, and I want to come out of it now, either by geting him or to by just move on. I cannot be stuck forever like this.
In my experience, some people can eventually be friends with people they were once in love with, but not until they no longer desire a romantic relationship with that person.
Until then, contact (for the person who is in love) usually just fuels the hope that the person they are in love with will change their mind and love them as they are hoping.
Until then, contact (for the person who is in love) usually just fuels the hope that the person they are in love with will change their mind and love them as they are hoping.
Posted by TrueTaur57I can understand, because you have strong feelings for him, why that would be hard. 1.5 months isn't long, but I can imagine that it feels like it.Posted by CopperDoveI did that before also from Jan till June but could not take it and talked again in June. I was in contact with him from June till November. I haven't talked to him from 1.5 months. I am doing everything possible but still every night I just want to talk to him about anything!!
How long have you been doing no contact, @TrueTaur57.
I think that's a good start, but it takes a long time of no contact and also getting involved with other thing/people and perhaps therapy or other self help methods to truly move on if you still feel attachment to someone who doesn't feel the same way about you, in my experience.
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It can be excruciating at first, but if this is over (romantically) then you must move on. Contact, as much as you desire it, will just alleviate missing him but it will keep you holding on.
You can see my other post in this thread about the problems with contact if you are in love with someone who doesn't return the feelings.
Perhaps some part of you has trouble believing he doesn't love you as you love him. Of course, I don't know him and if there is any truth to that, but if he has told you he doesn't, and hasn't pursued a romantic relationship with you, then that's what you have to work with.
Posted by CopperDoveYes exactly that's what happened or happening. I said good bye in january 2015, but I felt maybe I am over him and maybe we could be just friends, because before all this love happened, we were really good close friends. In June I asked him if we could try and he immediately agreed but I realized that I am killing myself here as I am still in love with him and I just cannot trick him or myself by just being his friends when I know this is not my ultimate intention. I wished him bday on Oct 30 and promised myself "no contact whatsoever" and deleted his contact. I don't know if he has already realized that I have left his life again or not but he hasn't contacted me yet.
In my experience, some people can eventually be friends with people they were once in love with, but not until they no longer desire a romantic relationship with that person.
Until then, contact (for the person who is in love) usually just fuels the hope that the person they are in love with will change their mind and love them as they are hoping.
Somewhere I think I am waiting. Its not about recent 1.5 months, its about past 4 years. I am not being able to get over him romantically. Whenever we talked in past few months, I felt so much attracted to him and felt like to make out right away.
Please tell me how to work towards it, I want to make peace with it, and let him go forever. He likes to keep bimbos around him and I want him to feel happy in whatever he is doing. But I know one thing, he is not in love with anyone else and he talks about me whenever he meets any new girl (he told me this)
I tried even to go out with random guys but I realized that in the end, I need him only. And I talk about him all the time to other guys. I am badly stuck.
Posted by tegonyOne sided love, We were really cool friends, used to spend all the time together, I started feeling for him but when I told him, he said to me - "you are too perfect for me" I don't love you. That's it from his side.Posted by TrueTaur57What was the reason of breaking up?Posted by tegonyHe does not know that I deleted his contact and I am on "no contact" terms again. I just stopped talking and he also did not care to talk from past 1.5 months so I assume he is allowing "no contact".
Does a scorpio man allow "no contact"? There is not such possibility... With no contact do you intend to make him more interested or just try to get over him?
I literally don't know what my intentions are here, honestly. But I know its a dead end, and I want to come out of it now, either by geting him or to by just move on. I cannot be stuck forever like this.click to expand
You're taking some good steps toward moving on already, which is great. I think you'll need a lot more time before you can date others and truly be open to getting to know them instead of thinking about and wanting the man you're trying to move on from.
There can be a lot of pain that is hard to endure during the process of moving on. Some people make it seem like moving on involved shutting off the pain. Distraction can be useful at times, but ultimately feeling the pain and working through it is often best, or it will just hit you later on, sometimes worse than if it wasn't felt fully.
I felt so bad at one point after a relationship ended that I wanted to die. I hope that you won't ever feel that bad. I'm sharing it because I know just how awful it can be. That kind of pain would make me feel hopeless, like I would never be able to move on and feel okay. That kind of pain is too strong to manage on one's own, usually. I write a bit about therapists a bit later in this post.
It's a process, so there will be ups and downs along the way. Knowing that might help you. Sometimes after a good day I'd have a bad one, and I'd feel very set back. But over time the pain didn't hit as often, or as acutely, and eventually I wasn't in pain any more.
There are probably a number of things that you can work on that will help you move the energy you've spent worrying about this relationship into, increasingly, caring for yourself so you can eventually have a relationship with someone where it isn't conflicted like what you have gone through.
Have you ever talked to a councillor about this? Not all therapists are good, of course, but a half-decent one can sometimes be helpful when there's a lot of conflict with the ending of a relationship, like you're facing. If money is a concern (if you can't afford therapy), there are sometimes inexpensive or free options available, depending on where you live.
I've called anonymous crisis lines sometimes, when it was late at night and my friends were asleep and couldn't talk to me about something hard I was going through that was overwhelming emotionally. You don't have to be suicidal to call them. Often I got a great tip from the person working that night, and you can always call again if you don't feel like the person you get on the line is helpful.
Con't in next post ...
There can be a lot of pain that is hard to endure during the process of moving on. Some people make it seem like moving on involved shutting off the pain. Distraction can be useful at times, but ultimately feeling the pain and working through it is often best, or it will just hit you later on, sometimes worse than if it wasn't felt fully.
I felt so bad at one point after a relationship ended that I wanted to die. I hope that you won't ever feel that bad. I'm sharing it because I know just how awful it can be. That kind of pain would make me feel hopeless, like I would never be able to move on and feel okay. That kind of pain is too strong to manage on one's own, usually. I write a bit about therapists a bit later in this post.
It's a process, so there will be ups and downs along the way. Knowing that might help you. Sometimes after a good day I'd have a bad one, and I'd feel very set back. But over time the pain didn't hit as often, or as acutely, and eventually I wasn't in pain any more.
There are probably a number of things that you can work on that will help you move the energy you've spent worrying about this relationship into, increasingly, caring for yourself so you can eventually have a relationship with someone where it isn't conflicted like what you have gone through.
Have you ever talked to a councillor about this? Not all therapists are good, of course, but a half-decent one can sometimes be helpful when there's a lot of conflict with the ending of a relationship, like you're facing. If money is a concern (if you can't afford therapy), there are sometimes inexpensive or free options available, depending on where you live.
I've called anonymous crisis lines sometimes, when it was late at night and my friends were asleep and couldn't talk to me about something hard I was going through that was overwhelming emotionally. You don't have to be suicidal to call them. Often I got a great tip from the person working that night, and you can always call again if you don't feel like the person you get on the line is helpful.
Con't in next post ...
Con't:
I understand what it's like to feel like the person you're in love with is someone you need in your life. But that can go too far, and it can be a dependent kind of need, instead of a healthy one based on what they truly can offer. There are many books on this subject that you could look into, if that resonates at all. I don't know what to recommend, but some people like the book Co-Dependant No More.
Something you can think about, is if he's truly been a good friend to you. There might be some important things to look at there.
I detected some anger coming out when you mention him wanting to keep bimbos around him, a contrast to what you wrote about wanting him to be happy. Anger isn't wrong to feel, but it makes me wonder if maybe there are other things that you don't like about him/that aren't compatible with you that perhaps you're too forgiving of, or accepting about, because of your attraction to him.
I think it's healthy to work out any anger you have (constructively), that may release some of the pain and energy you have put into a relationship that was, in the end, one-sided from what you described. Maybe there are some emotions that need to be addressed that are keeping you trapped because you aren't allowing them to come forth fully.
I understand what it's like to feel like the person you're in love with is someone you need in your life. But that can go too far, and it can be a dependent kind of need, instead of a healthy one based on what they truly can offer. There are many books on this subject that you could look into, if that resonates at all. I don't know what to recommend, but some people like the book Co-Dependant No More.
Something you can think about, is if he's truly been a good friend to you. There might be some important things to look at there.
I detected some anger coming out when you mention him wanting to keep bimbos around him, a contrast to what you wrote about wanting him to be happy. Anger isn't wrong to feel, but it makes me wonder if maybe there are other things that you don't like about him/that aren't compatible with you that perhaps you're too forgiving of, or accepting about, because of your attraction to him.
I think it's healthy to work out any anger you have (constructively), that may release some of the pain and energy you have put into a relationship that was, in the end, one-sided from what you described. Maybe there are some emotions that need to be addressed that are keeping you trapped because you aren't allowing them to come forth fully.
Posted by ImpulsvYes! I have experienced something like that too. Some people don't allow themselves to fully feel things, others allow it too much, or a combination. When it becomes consuming like that it just gets in the way. I hope it continues too. 🙂Posted by exxtasyxThe rage nearly killed me lol
Think of all the shitty things they said and did to you. And how you still stuck around. That will give you enough rage to get over him.
I had to decided to get my energy back n chose me n let it go.
Wasting energy wallowing in pain ,hurt , sadness , hate then health scare n I say I chose me . I'm done.
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Posted by TrueTaur57Even if your not ready for sex with someone else it's important for you too start dating again. Put yourself out there. Meet new people.Posted by BlackMambaWish I could! But I don't feel like to touch anyone else. Really.
sex with someone else...maybe a cancerclick to expand
And tell the x that you need to not speak with him for a period of time so that you can overcome your feelings and get back to the place where you view him as a friend only.
Posted by TrueTaur57"he never loved me" alone should be enough for you to let go if you understand what love is. you need some pisces energy.
How to get over from a Scorpio? He never loved me but I do.
Posted by exxtasyxWhat if some people are incapable of feeling total rage.
Think of all the shitty things they said and did to you. And how you still stuck around. That will give you enough rage to get over him.
I read everyone's precious comments and suggestions thrice before writing this comment.
I started feeling for him in 2012 and he said No in 2013. He hasn't changed his decision since then and I feel he won't in future too. I am as powerful person as he is. Sometimes I feel he is feared that I might dominate him hence he likes to hang out with those girls who are not threat to him, his personality and those girls who would be his "yes, your highness" I am not that personality. I rebel to what he said in his decision of saying No to me, but I love him to moon and back. After my family if there is someone I would call if I am devastated, its him no doubt.
Whatever suggestions I received here, I have already tried them all. But I don't want to break "no contact whatsoever" deal which I made with myself in November. I know he will be back, the day I will move on, he will be back the same day but I won't be able to receive him. He never asked me to leave his life. Whenever I tried to go away he asked me to stop and don't go but I know I have to coz I love him and he does not. It hurts me immensely.
Whenever before I was attracted to anyone, be it crush or infatuation, it ended on its own, I never had to force it to end but here if I force it, it increases instead of getting a stop.
I am still his one of the closest friends and he knows that no one else can love him more than I do. I do talk to random guys but I always end up talking about him or I feel I need him more when I am with anyone else.
I recently learned that brain tries to remember negative events instead of positive with respect to any person but here I have forgiven him about every bad thing he did to me and ran back to him with all the good things he did to me.
Yes I do have rage in myself. Rage enough which is destroying myself. I cannot imagine me destroying him in this life, he is the person I protect every second through my prayers.
I might be exaggerating here, but he has done for me what no one else did, not even my own mom. I am only trying to find another person who could do even 1% of what he did. It feels broken to know I won't even have 1% of what I had with him.
One strange thing which happen with me, or I don't know if it happens with him too - if I even think about any other guy, it automatically starts falling apart on its own before I could even get a chance to tell about my stuck condition and that guy leaves - it happened with me 8 times in past years and those are the 8 times when I ran back to my Scorpio friend.
I am not kidding, I am really stuck here. If someone could make me come out of this mess, that would be a miracle for me, coz no one else is able to do it for me.
I started feeling for him in 2012 and he said No in 2013. He hasn't changed his decision since then and I feel he won't in future too. I am as powerful person as he is. Sometimes I feel he is feared that I might dominate him hence he likes to hang out with those girls who are not threat to him, his personality and those girls who would be his "yes, your highness" I am not that personality. I rebel to what he said in his decision of saying No to me, but I love him to moon and back. After my family if there is someone I would call if I am devastated, its him no doubt.
Whatever suggestions I received here, I have already tried them all. But I don't want to break "no contact whatsoever" deal which I made with myself in November. I know he will be back, the day I will move on, he will be back the same day but I won't be able to receive him. He never asked me to leave his life. Whenever I tried to go away he asked me to stop and don't go but I know I have to coz I love him and he does not. It hurts me immensely.
Whenever before I was attracted to anyone, be it crush or infatuation, it ended on its own, I never had to force it to end but here if I force it, it increases instead of getting a stop.
I am still his one of the closest friends and he knows that no one else can love him more than I do. I do talk to random guys but I always end up talking about him or I feel I need him more when I am with anyone else.
I recently learned that brain tries to remember negative events instead of positive with respect to any person but here I have forgiven him about every bad thing he did to me and ran back to him with all the good things he did to me.
Yes I do have rage in myself. Rage enough which is destroying myself. I cannot imagine me destroying him in this life, he is the person I protect every second through my prayers.
I might be exaggerating here, but he has done for me what no one else did, not even my own mom. I am only trying to find another person who could do even 1% of what he did. It feels broken to know I won't even have 1% of what I had with him.
One strange thing which happen with me, or I don't know if it happens with him too - if I even think about any other guy, it automatically starts falling apart on its own before I could even get a chance to tell about my stuck condition and that guy leaves - it happened with me 8 times in past years and those are the 8 times when I ran back to my Scorpio friend.
I am not kidding, I am really stuck here. If someone could make me come out of this mess, that would be a miracle for me, coz no one else is able to do it for me.
Posted by Vixen2I deleted him from every social media a year ago. 😐
amputate him like a diseased limb....
think of all the bad stuff, the hurt, anger etc...
keep up the no contact...
delete his number, email, unfriendly him on any social media...
pack up any photos, notes, memorabilia...
start going out on casual dates with new men..
Ӣdon't look back..
@TrueTaur57
It's good that you want to maintain no contact, hard as it is emotionally.
You will probably think about him for a long time. He'll run in your thoughts in the background until your life has moved along enough, with other people and things you're involved with, for that to fade. That doesn't mean that you'll forget him, or his impact on you, it just won't be acutely painful any more. It could take many months, even as long as a year or more, but if you are determined to finally move past this to find a mutual love with someone else, or just be content on your own, it can happen eventually.
His pattern of coming back into your life isn't a healthy one. He knows how you feel about him, and if he can't/doesn't want to return those feelings, he should respect that it's too painful for you to maintain contact and let you go. That would be the most caring thing for him to do, even though it's painful to lose a friendship.
So ideally the cycle needs to be broken by both of you, but if he won't break it, then at least you can. Acceptance that this is over is what is needed, but it probably won't come quickly.
It's good that you have some fire in you (energy, I don't mean astrologically, but you might have that too) to stick to your decision. You've tried many other things so you'll need to keep trying and eventually something will work for you.
It sounds like your feelings for him sabotage other dating relationships you've tried - you probably give off signals to the new possible partners that tell them not to pursue you, so that's why you've had 8 cases of that. You may continue to do that for a while, but again if you're determined not to have that happen anymore, it can stop. Keep trying. 🙂
It's good that you want to maintain no contact, hard as it is emotionally.
You will probably think about him for a long time. He'll run in your thoughts in the background until your life has moved along enough, with other people and things you're involved with, for that to fade. That doesn't mean that you'll forget him, or his impact on you, it just won't be acutely painful any more. It could take many months, even as long as a year or more, but if you are determined to finally move past this to find a mutual love with someone else, or just be content on your own, it can happen eventually.
His pattern of coming back into your life isn't a healthy one. He knows how you feel about him, and if he can't/doesn't want to return those feelings, he should respect that it's too painful for you to maintain contact and let you go. That would be the most caring thing for him to do, even though it's painful to lose a friendship.
So ideally the cycle needs to be broken by both of you, but if he won't break it, then at least you can. Acceptance that this is over is what is needed, but it probably won't come quickly.
It's good that you have some fire in you (energy, I don't mean astrologically, but you might have that too) to stick to your decision. You've tried many other things so you'll need to keep trying and eventually something will work for you.
It sounds like your feelings for him sabotage other dating relationships you've tried - you probably give off signals to the new possible partners that tell them not to pursue you, so that's why you've had 8 cases of that. You may continue to do that for a while, but again if you're determined not to have that happen anymore, it can stop. Keep trying. 🙂
I wanted to add, the new thing that you'll be doing is maintaining the no contact, instead of contacting him again when a dating relationship doesn't work, etc. If you can stick to that, it can go a long way to helping you to finally move on.
If he ever truly does want more with you, he can let you know, but he'll have to convey that very clearly, and I agree that it seems unlikely that he ever will in a healthy way, it might only be from missing the special attention you've given him.
There was someone that I was in love with years ago. When that wasn't going to go anywhere, beyond friendship, it was very hard for me but looking back it's more clear to me why it wouldn't have worked even if they had returned my feelings. That might happen to you too, eventually, when you aren't feeling so much emotion and confusion and have had a chance to meet more potential partners than you have so far.
If he ever truly does want more with you, he can let you know, but he'll have to convey that very clearly, and I agree that it seems unlikely that he ever will in a healthy way, it might only be from missing the special attention you've given him.
There was someone that I was in love with years ago. When that wasn't going to go anywhere, beyond friendship, it was very hard for me but looking back it's more clear to me why it wouldn't have worked even if they had returned my feelings. That might happen to you too, eventually, when you aren't feeling so much emotion and confusion and have had a chance to meet more potential partners than you have so far.
Thank you dear friends for your valuable suggestion and care towards my complicated and convoluted one side love. Guess what, I am a fool. He sent me a Christmas picture at NYC in the night and I replied back to him, unconsciously ... I mustn't have done that. I feel like I just broke a promise which I did to myself. Should I tell him about what I am thinking/planning because he is trying to talk to me about random friendship stuff.
Posted by TrueTaur57Save it until tomorrow, to clear away Xmas, I'd say, and don't reply in the meantime, then make a final statement to him that you won't be in contact with him any more, it's too painful for you. Then stick with it. He might try to talk you out of it, but stay firm.
Thank you dear friends for your valuable suggestion and care towards my complicated and convoluted one side love. Guess what, I am a fool. He sent me a Christmas picture at NYC in the night and I replied back to him, unconsciously ... I mustn't have done that. I feel like I just broke a promise which I did to myself. Should I tell him about what I am thinking/planning because he is trying to talk to me about random friendship stuff.
And by staying firm, I mean no matter what he writes back, don't reply after you send your final statement. The point is that it's a final statement, not inviting negotiation.
Okay, I get it, I should talk to him to cut him off. To say that I am not taking you over to my 2016. Because that's the need.
Posted by TrueTaur57Yes. You might find it easier to write it to him. Whatever makes it easier for you to stick to your word and not be swayed by what he responds with. Hold firm. It will be challenging, but important, to not respond to him once you have made your final statement.
Okay, I get it, I should talk to him to cut him off. To say that I am not taking you over to my 2016. Because that's the need.
I agree with Busyeyes88 that you should leave this behind and go forth into 2016 anew.
And feel free to post about it later, if you need support. 🙂
This makes me wonder how many people are on dxp to pass the time so they won't contact the male/female they're trying to get over......
Or is dxp not helping you get over this person bc people talk about relationships and past loves so much.....
Curious...
Or is dxp not helping you get over this person bc people talk about relationships and past loves so much.....
Curious...
You know why it is difficult? Because he is my soulmate. I gravitate towards him naturally. My body wants him to let go. My mind wants him to let go. My heart wants him to let go. But what should I do about this soul? It is still keeping him closer. I want to hate my soul for not seeing the reality. I wish I fall in love again, leave him alone.
My office staff organized recently an emergenetics training and I learned two things. Firstly, your gut feeling is always right. Your gut has same neurons as what your brain has, but reacts much faster than brain. If your gut is saying something believe it. Not everyone can feel what their gut is saying but if you can feel it, listen to it. My gut feeling here says he equally suffers by seeing me in pain. My gut feeling says even if he is with any other woman he does not feel satisfied with any of them. My gut feeling says he is going to be in my life forever (which I am trying to avoid by "no contact whatsoever" pledge) I am not exaggerating but that's what my gut feeling says to me. Second thing which learned is there are 3 things which changes how your brain thinks - family, love and religion. My family wants me to move on hence I am trying. If there was no pressure from them, I was happy living in his afterglow. My family has struggled immensely to survive and I am the only daughter. I should listen to them 🙂
I am scared now. The way it is going I am really scared. I would marry someone else, I know. But would my soul ever let him go? 4 years is a very long time. I have lost my dad when I was 10 years old and he was also a Scorpio, I haven't let him go yet. Sometimes I feel I am not a good girl or maybe I don't deserve to have love in life. It is silly to see I am seeing myself getting devastated for a silly immature guy. I know he would be back but not now. He would be back the day I will move on, he will be back someday when I will be all habitual of living without him. He will be back to have me because he knows that the way I love him, no one else can. Yes he made me suffer because I somewhere also made him suffer. You know how Scorps are? But you know I am the only person he has said sorry to. He does not say sorry so easily. I feel honored to get destroyed each day by the same person who made me see so much success and love.
The rage inside me is increasing day by day and I know he is the only person I want to have sex with. I can see/feel how difficult my future is going to be. I am really scared now. Last message is sent by me and I know he won't respond back, its been 30 hours now. He is my best friend, still closest to me. By just talking to me for 5 minutes he still is able to guess what's going on with me no matter how much I hide. Its horrifying how he is compatible with me. He said he see me as an extremely successful and rich woman.
No one is able to understand how we entangle each other. Why after all this time we care for each other like day 1. My soul needs to let him
My office staff organized recently an emergenetics training and I learned two things. Firstly, your gut feeling is always right. Your gut has same neurons as what your brain has, but reacts much faster than brain. If your gut is saying something believe it. Not everyone can feel what their gut is saying but if you can feel it, listen to it. My gut feeling here says he equally suffers by seeing me in pain. My gut feeling says even if he is with any other woman he does not feel satisfied with any of them. My gut feeling says he is going to be in my life forever (which I am trying to avoid by "no contact whatsoever" pledge) I am not exaggerating but that's what my gut feeling says to me. Second thing which learned is there are 3 things which changes how your brain thinks - family, love and religion. My family wants me to move on hence I am trying. If there was no pressure from them, I was happy living in his afterglow. My family has struggled immensely to survive and I am the only daughter. I should listen to them 🙂
I am scared now. The way it is going I am really scared. I would marry someone else, I know. But would my soul ever let him go? 4 years is a very long time. I have lost my dad when I was 10 years old and he was also a Scorpio, I haven't let him go yet. Sometimes I feel I am not a good girl or maybe I don't deserve to have love in life. It is silly to see I am seeing myself getting devastated for a silly immature guy. I know he would be back but not now. He would be back the day I will move on, he will be back someday when I will be all habitual of living without him. He will be back to have me because he knows that the way I love him, no one else can. Yes he made me suffer because I somewhere also made him suffer. You know how Scorps are? But you know I am the only person he has said sorry to. He does not say sorry so easily. I feel honored to get destroyed each day by the same person who made me see so much success and love.
The rage inside me is increasing day by day and I know he is the only person I want to have sex with. I can see/feel how difficult my future is going to be. I am really scared now. Last message is sent by me and I know he won't respond back, its been 30 hours now. He is my best friend, still closest to me. By just talking to me for 5 minutes he still is able to guess what's going on with me no matter how much I hide. Its horrifying how he is compatible with me. He said he see me as an extremely successful and rich woman.
No one is able to understand how we entangle each other. Why after all this time we care for each other like day 1. My soul needs to let him
Posted by elllesqueAww Elle I will miss you. I wish you the best of luck in 2016. Hopefully we will reconnect in great spirits. You with a new love and myself closer to being Mrs. Scorpio.Posted by GreenteaThat's why I am leaving next week...lol. this place has become somewhat of a crutch for me....even an enabler of sorts in some respects.
This makes me wonder how many people are on dxp to pass the time so they won't contact the male/female they're trying to get over......
Or is dxp not helping you get over this person bc people talk about relationships and past loves so much.....
Curious...
I am going to challenge myself to ignore this place for the entirety of 2016.click to expand
🙂
Everytime I think I have healed but I haven't. But one day, I know I will. And that will be magical, because I will see light after a long long time. I won't be stuck and will definitely let him go with all my best wishes 🙂 I hope I could bring that day in my next second.
Posted by elllesqueSounds like a good plan!! 2016 will be an awesome year!!Posted by Greentealol...oh no......don't jinx me.....I'm going men-free as well. 😄 nonononononono! i'm doing me, all year long.Posted by elllesqueAww Elle I will miss you. I wish you the best of luck in 2016. Hopefully we will reconnect in great spirits. You with a new love and myself closer to being Mrs. Scorpio.Posted by GreenteaThat's why I am leaving next week...lol. this place has become somewhat of a crutch for me....even an enabler of sorts in some respects.
This makes me wonder how many people are on dxp to pass the time so they won't contact the male/female they're trying to get over......
Or is dxp not helping you get over this person bc people talk about relationships and past loves so much.....
Curious...
I am going to challenge myself to ignore this place for the entirety of 2016.
🙂
You have a great year and remember to breathe 🙂click to expand
I will try to remember, he takes my breathe away quite a bit already. 🙂
Thanks all !
Posted by TrueTaur57Yes, it will take time, and there will be probably be some challenging days as you get there (but that's natural) so you'll feel things like what you shared in your post about being scared. It's a terrible feeling to be scared, but it will pass eventually, then maybe come up again, but over time it will lessen and finally it won't grip you.
Everytime I think I have healed but I haven't. But one day, I know I will. And that will be magical, because I will see light after a long long time. I won't be stuck and will definitely let him go with all my best wishes 🙂 I hope I could bring that day in my next second.
Too bad it can't be faster, but you've started the process so you're on the road that can lead to peace about this. On your way. 🙂
5 years and you cant move on?
Wth
All this hand holding and reliving it aint helping.
No never had sex with him. Yes, 5 years and I am asking how to move on. I know he does not love me and he will never.... hence I asked this question. 😢
Posted by TrueTaur57
Everytime I think I have healed but I haven't. But one day, I know I will. And that will be magical, because I will see light after a long long time. I won't be stuck and will definitely let him go with all my best wishes 🙂 I hope I could bring that day in my next second.
I feel exactly the same... atleast you are not stuck pregnant with the man you are in love with... lol but I have no choice but to move myseld and the baby away from him... I truly do not have a choice... And the baby is my goal... I will do it for the baby's sake... and mine.... I wish you luck and the best of luck..... why did you two brake up?
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No never had sex with him. Yes, 5 years and I am asking how to move on. I know he does not love me and he will never.... hence I asked this question. 😢
Never had sex? Wow
I want to though ha ha! Everytime we talk I just want him to stop talking and touch me every where lol. We live in different cities now so it never happened.
Are you stuck with a Scorpio too?
Are you stuck with a Scorpio too?
Posted by ReincarnationWhy would I say no to your question? I am. And initially he was the one who was chasing me ... it took him about 8 months to make me say yes for even friendship. Then we had a mutual budding love but he left for US after 12 something months.Posted by TrueTaur57Are you physically attractive?
No never had sex with him. Yes, 5 years and I am asking how to move on. I know he does not love me and he will never.... hence I asked this question. 😢click to expand
I myself don'[t know how to proceed from here. No idea man, no idea. Everything is just happening. But thanks though for your time and concern 🙂
He texted me a fun joke 😐 What kind of behavior is this by a Scorp man? I can not understand at all !!
Posted by TrueTaur57If you made it clear to him that you don't want to communicate, then he's disrespecting that.
He texted me a fun joke 😐 What kind of behavior is this by a Scorp man? I can not understand at all !!
The key is to maintain your boundary, no matter what he tries to do. So don't respond to his text. Maintain what you told him (assuming that you told him you won't be communicating).
Doesn't matter what sign or where it comes from..breaking up and moving on from someone is always hard. I have had dealings with caps and Scorpio's..personally i prefer Scorpio's... at least they are somewhat honest and don't spend a lot of time trying to be manipulative. so if he says he does not feel it sexually i would take it to be 100% true. most Scorpio men in my opinion will not waste time on something that is not meant to be and neither do they have time to lead u on...so i would suggest you move on..don't waste your life pining for what will never be..but repeat these words like a mantra " I CAN AND I WILL" i am a Libra and a whole lot older than you...i have had one Scorpio and one cap in my life, and i let the Scorpio go..he was a good man but i was way too young...,my loss and i hooked up with the cap who was a liar and a cheat..my loss..now am alone and am okay with it...tell yourself this every day " I CAN AND I WILL" move on..and you will eventually..and does not matter what it is..atleast you will meet a man who will be there for you...till then do not fight for something that is not meant to be.. if he loves u he will be back and wont let u go..if he doesnt he doesnt..u cannot force anyone to feel something they dont..work on yourself...be strong it will pass
Posted by TrueTaur57So you kept up with him on social media and everything else up until a year ago?....were you hoping within those years he woukd contact you or something, but didn't...so you delete him thinking if he didn't know what was going on in your life at all, hope he would then contact you?Posted by Vixen2I deleted him from every social media a year ago. 😐
amputate him like a diseased limb....
think of all the bad stuff, the hurt, anger etc...
keep up the no contact...
delete his number, email, unfriendly him on any social media...
pack up any photos, notes, memorabilia...
start going out on casual dates with new men..
Ӣdon't look back..click to expand
Do you think that is why you can't let go as easily?...
because you're still stuck in the hopes of things...
Sorry if you've already been asked or answered this question, I haven't read the whole thread.
He messaged me again saying its extremely weird that we still talk. I replied back saying that if you don't feel comfortable then we must not talk.
What else should I have done? I haven't given any final statement yet!
What else should I have done? I haven't given any final statement yet!
It's extremely heart breaking, again. I have completely lost my mind here. I am behaving very stupidly. This shall too pass, dear god.
Yeah you are absolutely right. Something better will come 🙂
Yes Dear Infinite8. Each day added to 3 years. It needs to end to start again something better and fresh. So that I never go back to him at all and live happily with a sweet and nice man in my life 🙂
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