Question about sex

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Hey Scorpios.

I have a question. I have learned from my past mistakes that it's better to wait for sex because it's something you should do with someone you love. ❤️

But what if you can't find that person? Will you abstain from sex for years? For example if I have sex with a guy just for pleasure I will just add another guy on my list of fuck buddies and it's not very attractive.

How would you handle waiting for the right man or would you just do it with a guy/girl even if you're not in love? I'm getting older and I want to feel confident in bed and I feel that if I keep waiting for "prince charming" then I won't feel as attractive anymore.
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It's not about being/seeming better.It's about what you want and what it makes you feel like.

You don't wanna add another person because it's not very attractive?! To who?

I think you should just make up your mind about what exactly you want! You can't choose one thing and then keep thinking about how the other option would have worked out. Seems like you think it'd seem unattractive to this "prince charming" or whoever comes next rather than you feeling bad about it(not saying you should).If sex to me was about pleasure, I probably wouldn't stop myself from having it with someone whether I "love" them or not.
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Posted by angie2080
Hey Scorpios.

I have a question. I have learned from my past mistakes that it's better to wait for sex because it's something you should do with someone you love. ❤️

But what if you can't find that person? Will you abstain from sex for years? For example if I have sex with a guy just for pleasure I will just add another guy on my list of fuck buddies and it's not very attractive.

How would you handle waiting for the right man or would you just do it with a guy/girl even if you're not in love? I'm getting older and I want to feel confident in bed and I feel that if I keep waiting for "prince charming" then I won't feel as attractive anymore.

Not it isn't. Sex can be had with a person for multiple reasons. Love is but one of many my dear.

If being in love is your requisite to having sex with someone, then yeah, you have to abstain until you find this person. My advice: find another reason to have sex if you want to have it.

The right person won't care/ask how many previous partner's you've had. Stop buying into the BS that a woman having had multiple partners makes her unattractive. If she's had multiple partners, then clearly she isn't that unattractive.
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It's not about being/seeming better.It's about what you want and what it makes you feel like.
You don't wanna add another person because it's not very attractive?! To who?
I think you should just make up your mind about what exactly you want! You can't choose one thing and then keep thinking about how the other option would have worked out. Seems like you think it'd seem unattractive to this "prince charming" or whoever comes next rather than you feeling bad about it(not saying you should).If sex to me was about pleasure, I probably wouldn't stop myself from having it with someone whether I "love" them or not.
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It's not about being/seeming better.It's about what you want and what it makes you feel like.

You don't wanna add another person because it's not very attractive?! To who?

I think you should just make up your mind about what exactly you want! You can't choose one thing and then keep thinking about how the other option would have worked out. Seems like you think it'd seem unattractive to this "prince charming" or whoever comes next rather than you feeling bad about it(not saying you should).If sex to me was about pleasure, I probably wouldn't stop myself from having it with someone whether I "love" them or not.



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I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
Keep thinking it’s a temple - until you will beg someone to treat it as a cum dumpster! Lmao
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I think it’s great to want to hold out for the one, or at least someone you love. However, I also think that you risk giving yourself sexual anxiety by the time that you DO meet this special person.

If you keep waiting, keep putting it off, keep denying yourself, keep making excuses about why this person isn’t the one... you’re conditioning yourself not to have sex. It can be very difficult for you to overcome that mental hurdle when you do want to perform.

I’m not saying that you should sleep around. Just be more forgiving with yourself and with others.
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Posted by LaMadrina
I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
I feel this way too

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I agree.... And being 21 and watching everyone around me chasing sex and one night stands frustrates me and makes me doubt my choices. I haven't got it yet cause I seek and wait for this bond. But the need for sex starts to become stronger lately... I will probably take some more action and socialize more to find a nice person I actually want to be with for my uni years cause starting to have sex with strangers really doesn't sound good to me.
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Also some of us are more aware and occupied with their body and others with their emotions. The balance and cooperation between the two is the best of course.

However as for me until today emotions have always been taking over my body. I even used to have a healthy diet and exercise regularly and would keep having eczema for 5 years. It's a psychosomatic skin disorder. Also I have thyroid issues. All these is emotionally related and based . Eczema for example could literally not get cured with any conventional therapy way like dermatologists and heavy creams of any type. I tried homeopathic therapy, which takes into account the emotional state of the patient too and it began to cure really quickly and permanently. Then I got psychotherapy too as I found my blind spot was emotions.

So beginning to have sex with people I don't feel emotionally good, safe and intimate with, in other words numbing my emotions so that the body gets to have pleasure, when I can actually have both with some patience and effort is pointless and silly to begin with. That's my take on it though. It differs for everyone.
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Posted by LaMadrina
I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
I feel this way too

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I agree.... And being 21 and watching everyone around me chasing sex and one night stands frustrates me and makes me doubt my choices. I haven't got it yet cause I seek and wait for this bond. But the need for sex starts to become stronger lately... I will probably take some more action and socialize more to find a nice person I actually want to be with for my uni years cause starting to have sex with strangers really doesn't sound good to me.

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I'm highly sexed and never resorted to sex with strangers....it's always seeemed to be the poor woman's choice to me

It doesn't matter what age you start as long as you remember to make good choices, so don't worry, it will happen
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Posted by Pathos
Also some of us are more aware and occupied with their body and others with their emotions. The balance and cooperation between the two is the best of course.

However as for me until today emotions have always been taking over my body. I even used to have a healthy diet and exercise regularly and would keep having eczema for 5 years. It's a psychosomatic skin disorder. Also I have thyroid issues. All these is emotionally related and based . Eczema for example could literally not get cured with any conventional therapy way like dermatologists and heavy creams of any type. I tried homeopathic therapy, which takes into account the emotional state of the patient too and it began to cure really quickly and permanently. Then I got psychotherapy too as I found my blind spot was emotions.

So beginning to have sex with people I don't feel emotionally good, safe and intimate with, in other words numbing my emotions so that the body gets to have pleasure, when I can actually have both with some patience and effort is pointless and silly to begin with. That's my take on it though. It differs for everyone.
It's about having a connection with yourself...it's healthy and a good thing

You sound very wise

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Also some of us are more aware and occupied with their body and others with their emotions. The balance and cooperation between the two is the best of course.

However as for me until today emotions have always been taking over my body. I even used to have a healthy diet and exercise regularly and would keep having eczema for 5 years. It's a psychosomatic skin disorder. Also I have thyroid issues. All these is emotionally related and based . Eczema for example could literally not get cured with any conventional therapy way like dermatologists and heavy creams of any type. I tried homeopathic therapy, which takes into account the emotional state of the patient too and it began to cure really quickly and permanently. Then I got psychotherapy too as I found my blind spot was emotions.

So beginning to have sex with people I don't feel emotionally good, safe and intimate with, in other words numbing my emotions so that the body gets to have pleasure, when I can actually have both with some patience and effort is pointless and silly to begin with. That's my take on it though. It differs for everyone.
It's about having a connection with yourself...it's healthy and a good thing

You sound very wise

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This is the connection I am trying to create. Also I have Pisces South node in 2nd house ruling the body and Neptune in 1st ruling self.... It's all emotional hahaha
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Posted by LaMadrina
I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
I feel this way too

👍
I agree.... And being 21 and watching everyone around me chasing sex and one night stands frustrates me and makes me doubt my choices. I haven't got it yet cause I seek and wait for this bond. But the need for sex starts to become stronger lately... I will probably take some more action and socialize more to find a nice person I actually want to be with for my uni years cause starting to have sex with strangers really doesn't sound good to me.


I'm highly sexed and never resorted to sex with strangers....it's always seeemed to be the poor woman's choice to me

It doesn't matter what age you start as long as you remember to make good choices, so don't worry, it will happen

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Yes I will wait some more.... Hopefully i meet someone I like and manage to get to know him 😝
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Posted by Gemitati
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I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
Keep thinking it’s a temple - until you will beg someone to treat it as a cum dumpster! Lmao
Too old to be that stupid. We are 2 different people, so you can keep your trashiness to yourself. With your totally missed the point ass. Too much mouth, not enough sense. I don't have beg anyone for anything. I'm married. Sex is sacred not low life and trashy. You on the other hand... Enjoy the various sperm from various men like you been doing. Sick.

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What is such a holly woman like you doing here? Praying and reading about how often people mastirbate and fucking and if they swallow?

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Posted by LaMadrina
I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
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Shit! You are late...we’ve been about it already...
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Posted by LaMadrina
I would wait. Sex isn't just physical. You're mixing spirits and energies creating a bond with a person. Sex without love is cheap and not worth it. I waited years to have sex because I didn't have the right person. I felt better for it. The body is a temple, not a cum dumpster.
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Shit! You are late...we’ve been about it already...
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