Relationships II: What makes you stay?

What keeps the relationship going?

For me, communication...

A sense of magic

Spiritual connection

Not necessarily great sex.

Good Pairing Pluto ...One would get active in the night only and other would be the first one to announce the dawn.

Good Morning to U PM ,... Cap and other ladies arnd.

No itz early morning here Cap. Howz Monday shaping up for U ?

Pluto...guess Doctor is planning for another highway romp 😛

"btw i did get that idea to work...i took him on a highway.."

And was that a smooth incident-free ride ? 😛

"goodmorning GA.Well mondays good..feels like saturday to me "

haa haa...Cap U must the only person to whom a Monday wud feel like a Saturday ! R u allowed to drink at work ?

-mutual respect/understanding
-the right to disagree
-freedom of expression
-constructive criticism when needed
-mutual acceptance of each others flaws (or at least some of them)
-i'm not asking for the best communication but some at all is a must.

187 with these criteria in mind , one might have to cross the Arctic Circle to find a mate. S/he must be living in an igloo.

"it was fun...high speed...vroooom"

Good ...am getting all the hints 😛

Which vehicle was it btw ?

"its holiday tom so feels like saturday to me today'

Ohhh....Therez so much fun bak home which am already missing 😢

yea i know. ideally that's what i'd like but I know it won't happen. it would still be cool even if a few of what i listed was recognized.

loyalty, communication, compromise and spontaneity
if those 4 are intact...then it's all good.

Morning world..

🙂

Communication
Laughter
Freedom

Morning Cap sweety how are you?

What time is it over there?

I wish we lived in the same time zone..

Ooh..I can imagine a warm Monday afternoon...how nice..

Its 9.54am here. Just sitting reading the paper and drinking my coffee...

LOL..Yes I am at work..But I am taking it easy..boss is back and he is sitting opposite me working away..I will start when I am ready!..LOL

LOL..so Cap what is new? Hows that Scorp man of yours?..I need some gossip!

LOL..Yeah it gets a bit boring doesn't it...I have a Taurus guy who always asks me the same question..I said are there any other words in your vocab apart from "I want to hold you"...I said, talk about your day, work, what your doing, jokes...I don't think he was too happy but I don't give a damn..Guys can't be soooo boring at times!..I need mental stimulation goddamn it..

I upset my Aries Lawyer friend the other day..just said something in humour and he took it the wrong way and now isn't talking to me..lol..I think its offically "MM upsets everyone" week this week..

can*

Well thats good...end of a chapter..Close that book!..LOL

I have low tolerance levels anyway..don't need boredom on top of that too!..

Sheesh..

Yes irritable..thats the word..but if they are boring you on top of that too..lol

Oh no!..why not

LOL..I just been told that I am too hard...My god..I am shocked this is how people feel about me..LOL..

so I went to the Cap (friend) for the honest opinion..He knows me really well..LOL..Heres how the conversation went:

Me: can I ask you a question hun? do you think I am a hard nosed cow as in I am not too feminine or sensitive? i need to know your honest opinion ok

Cap: hmmm i wud say those words are poorly chosen, ure a very abrupt person and ud like to say ure a no nonsense person which is fine but at times i do think u take that too far and whether u accept it or not there is a part of u that has a chip on ure shoulder

Me: damn man...i dunno how to be nice, waaaaaaaaaaah

Cap: no thats not to say ure not nice its jus that if something doesn't fit into ure expectation u are unwilling to adapt to it and expect it to be to ure expectation

Me: i know..i been told it now a few times..am getting a tad worried thats how people percieve me..well i don't actually care..but i should do

Cap:no i think u do

Me: i am just a but upset thats how people percieve me didnt' realise i was doing it. thanks anyways..

And then the Pisces tells me that she can't tell me her deep feelings and emotions cos I am not sympathetic but I am loving and caring in other ways..She said I was too hard..

So I guess thats the Scorpio woman eptiomised then..LOL..

So I guess sensitive people stay away...No wonder the virguys give me a wide berth..

Hmmm

LOL..Sounds familiar..I don't mean to do it for crying out LOUD!!!

Hmm..interesting..had a convo with virg last night which describes what you just said actually...Didnt' realise they were THAT sensitive..

Oh dear...Well I am not changing for anyone..they either like it or lump it...But I didn't realise thats how i came off...Its news to me!..

Doctor ...Dont worry. Perhaps U were born to make this world more challenging to some.
And anywayz it seems that U quite enjoy this reputation...all that talk of wonder and amazement was just an eye-wash.

G: "Doctor ...Dont worry. Perhaps U were born to make this world more challenging to some"

LOL..true..but then again I don't enjoy it if its deterring people to come close you know..didn't actually realise I was like that..truly..

EG: I don't take offence to what he said..he's always maintained I had a chip on my shoulder..I told him it wasn't a chip, it was a french fry!

"don't enjoy it if its deterring people to come close you know"

haa haa..no it will alwayz attract adventure seeking hardy short-termerz. And am sure U wud be ok with that stacking at the moment.

"no it will alwayz attract adventure seeking hardy short-termerz"

Well come on G..all or nothing remember..no in between..short termez is "in between" so I don't want them..Hmmm..maybe I need to be a bit softer..damn don't think I can really..

Another virgo friend of mine said "MM, I am talking to a woman aren't I..I mean you aren't a man and I am not aware of it"...I said of course I am a woman to which he replied "well can you behave like one please, even just for a day"

A chip on ones shoulder is perceived as one with attitude over here..Angry I do get but at peoples stupidity not because I am a sensitive soul and need to protect my ass from getting hurt...I don't care enough to get hurt..But your description sort of makes sense too..

"maybe I need to be a bit softer..damn don't think I can really..."

LOL...U will soften up n slow down when U have kids. Dont know if therez anything/anyone which can keep U earth-bound otherwsie.

G: "U will soften up n slow down when U have kids. Dont know if therez anything/anyone which can keep U earth-bound otherwsie"

Perish the though of kids!..eeeeeugh!

Again ....U r with the right guy EGEM 😉

"Perish the though of kids!..eeeeeugh!"

LOL...U know Ur limitations/weaknesses too well then.

LOL..I mean I do want them eventually but cannot imagine myself being a mother..my god what is wrong with me

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaah

::sobs uncontrollably::

p.s: I've just an argument with the cap..LOL

"What keeps the relationship going?"

AH, the eternal question! My boyfriend and I are in this situation right now. We have been together 7 years. We are still very much in love. Our sex life is great (though few and far between). He works hard to keep his family going. Our only problem is spending alone time together. Last night we went out to dinner and he invited his friends. I told him no I just want to spend time with him. The last time we had alone time together was on my birthday in Nov. He still asked his friends to come along. It was an ugly dinner. I was pissy and he was laughing at me. Needless to say his friends now think I'm a bitch. What's a woman to do? I told him it was like a slap in the face.

"..my god what is wrong with me"

Nothing ...therez something wrong with God Himself.

What keeps the relationship going?

an understanding heart... my BF is not perfect but hes very understanding and that keeps us going... his selflessness and consideration....

"Nothing ...therez something wrong with God Himself."

LMAO..Do you want me to slap you!!!

Sex...after you're teeth fall out what else is there to do? lol

Awwww Miss Morals...

A while back, before Gemguy, I got a similar comment about being hard to approach. I guess it's true.

But I have to say, you're going to be a terrific mom. Is it the mars influence in us that makes us live in the moment so much, not really able to anticipate what it will be like? Or perhaps it's because it's one of those life-changing Scorpio moments,,,when the cycle begins anew.

I couldn't imagine having kids either, but now that I have them...wow. It's very satisfying...a relationship that will never end. Good for me, since my own mom died when I was 9.

*cluck cluck* Okay I'm done motherin' now...

branh... u raise a good point.... if ppl cant agree to disagree.. its a nightmare

"But I have to say, you're going to be a terrific mom"

Or perhaps a terror mom...subtle difference.

Message posted by: cap on 1/28/2007 11:08:13 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.71
I wish i knew



that's very real and very funny, cap i think it might be tolerance for you then?

*pluto's muse* said:
"yeah...the prob u might have with virgs is that...u might hurt them un-intentionally...
n then they have this weird trait of keeping silent about it...they wont confont u directly...but will get back thru other ways...like not calling,detaching,n sometimes simply disappearing from the scene for some time..."

Ok, this is scary. I did exactly that. A friend of mine hurt me back in October. We just emailed each other for the first time since then. (She's a Sag).

Oooops, had more to add to the previous post... What makes me stay.

1. Love
2. Spiritual Connection
3. Understanding
4. Freedom
5. Communication
6. The desire for each other to be the best you can and support each other to that end.

That sums it up. 🙂

Now, I'll had back to the virgo board. heheh

Ok Ok 🙂

Just updated my profile. I can't believe I hardly filled it out.

I quietly come on the Scorp board... maybe its a little Scorp in me that says.... "pssst... go there" hehhe

Great sex...communication...friendship...trust...love and ultimately the ability to just be oneself with each other!

*mwah*

That's wot's kept me and my Taurus man together...and it's pure BLISS!

notso07 said:
"Talk show host, eh? I experienced that scene firsthand. How do you like it?"

Well, long story... Firstly and honestly, I love it. Sitting in the studio saying whats on your mind, sharing your consciousness with the audience. Its really awesome. To have them give that back. Its such a honor and privledge to be able to interact with people. The intellectual give and take just rocks.

I don't like those morning FM radio show type programs. I'm more like what you hear on AM radio. I'm not one of the vile and mean types. I have my passion, and try to make my points through humor and the sense of "well duh".

The sad part is since my last show ended in 05, I've been working diligently to make it to the next level. 2 years and things have not budged. I've been runner up in Phoenix, AZ. Real close to a gig here in the town I live in - then to have it yanked away at the last second. Its been tough. 2 years of blood sweat and tears - for nothing. Its kind of contributed to me being lost right now and struggling. Once you've put it all on the line for something - where do you go next? Its exactly where I'm at currently.

I was blogging which was a nice supplimental source for the job hunt, but I've not touched in months.

I love it though, mentally it makes me feel alive. (If I ever get to do it again *groan*)

What was your expierenece with it?