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@Why allow yourself to be so unhappy?

Elle you know the answer to that, think back a little.

Posted by Geminize

And what happened that night...

We were on the couch and candles were lit. We were talking and snuggling but he wasn't there. Preoccupied. That's when I untangled (we were pretzled) and I sat up and asked him to be straight with me. That I noticed he'd been distant, and I was feeling it and distancing a little too. I asked if it had anything to do with my weight.

Wait, so, nothing was wrong .. you two were cozy on the couch, wrapped around each other, and he went silent ....


.. then YOU jumped up and offered up shit about being fat?


whoa .... you must really have a complex about being a fat girl .. because he was holding you, loving on you .. and you're the one who made an issue about it.


Seriously .... wtf?

@I sat up and asked him to be straight with me. I asked if it had anything to do with my weight.

Why in the f*ck would she ask him that?

Well she asked, she got an answer, I digress, not very considerate of her feelings (true or not) he gave an answer.

Posted by ellessque

Posted by tiki33
@Why allow yourself to be so unhappy?

Elle you know the answer to that, think back a little.

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thank you 🙂

I know the answer why *I* was unhappy. I can't answer that for anyone else.

His role in this doesn't really matter in the "big picture". He's a byproduct of her unhappiness. He's not the main ingredient.

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+1

I understand you Elle

Posted by ellessque
phew.....finally, cuz I need to go to bed 😛

night, tiki 🙂

lol you know us fixed signs can be hard headed

nite nite

The steam coming my ears and eyes made it impossible for me to read past the first page, so pardon me if im repeating something that has already been said. I'm going to try to type slow, but i tend to type really fast when upset...and that made my blood boil.

I have two words

FUCK him!

The problem is not yours so there is absolutely nothing you should do besides get on with your life until that fateful day comes that he calls you out of the blue to "see how you've been" (and trust me, he will). Then it will be time for you to do something...and that will be to tell him to FUCK off...with or without the four letter word (and some extra 4&5 letter words just for kicks). If you joined a gym i sincerely hope that it was because YOU wanted to be healthier and feel better about yourself and not because some insecure Pussy ass punk boy who probably got picked on in his adolescence thinks its okay to reject a woman who obviously cares about his own self more than he does because he feels like she should lose a few pounds. This is not your issue...it is his. something in him is rejecting you because he is rejecting himself. That is the only explanation for the way that he handled that. His rejection, self esteem, what the fuck ever issues should not be of your concern unless he chooses to voice them honestly to you instead of trying to make this a party of two for misery. What he said to you is a warning sign of a toxic personality and toxic personalities lead to toxic relationships. So what if you two were having the time of your life before? Obviously he made sure that the relationship was beneficial to him whether it be physical or emotional and gave you the short end of the stick.

I am in no way implying that he is not entitled to his feelings, everyone has an opinion or preference or whatever. My thing is relationships are about encouragement and support. Even if he did feel like you should lose weight a person who cares about you sincerely is going to try to figure out a way to encourage and support you to do things that may make you feel better about yourself. Partners are suppose to Uplift one another. not avoid the person or emotionally punish them. That has nothing to do with scorpio honesty or any of the bullshit. You are dealing with someone who is obviously not happy with themselves...people like this will only try to bring you down with them. I honestly don't think you should spend another second analyzing this situation.

If i were you I wouldnt even take his words personal, because i would know that they have nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. Hurt ppl hurt ppl. I swear if anyone ever told me they had to distance themselves from me because of my physical features, i would laugh my ass off in their face and me and my imperfections would walk out, with my head held HIGH. like i dont get it, I'm sure he's no Channing Tatum...BLOW ME. I would have torn his soul to shreds...he would have needed therapy after i finished with his weak ass. He prob is the type of dude that compares himself to all of his males friends, always trying to have the better car, clothes, girls, etc. and you know what these guys are as shallow as puddle. scorp or not. and they are always lonely, bitter, and sad because they never are satisfied. Be thankful you realized he was a jerk before you did something crazy like marry him, those are the guys that have multiple affair written all over them...then you would have had to pull a Lorena Bobbitt and its all downhill from there LMAO!!! See situation could have went waaaaay worse, find the silver lining and move the hell on. This guy is not worth the energy it takes to go to a gym. lol.

This...

FUCK him!

thanks, everyone for your time. i know what i have to do.

i have no clue what's going on any more 😢

gem...you threw yourself under the bus by mentioning your weight...i suspect whatever his reaction had been, your insecurities were there to misinterpret it.

if you're that eager to put your weight out there as a reason for his behaviour, it makes me wonder whether it's something that has pre-occupied you for a while now and THAT has altered YOUR behaviour but you haven't recognised it.

don't be too fooled by some of the meaner comments cos they come from people who have been in situations similar to this in some way at some point in their lives too. some people come across like they never make mistakes in relationships and that they never stand for a certain kind of behaviour but i GUARANTEE...at some point, they have.

many people on dxp live in glass houses. just keep that in mind when you feel like you're being judged by them.

I see that you hid all your posts.

Food for thought for next relationship .....


Don't both of you praise each other all the time like you described in this situation .. that is the main ingrediant for recognizing false feelings.

when a person has to build you up and make you think that you are his queen sitting on a throne, or visa versa when you make him think this way ..... is a deception. It's done to make the other "think" they are more than they are.

A relationship built on that ^^^^^^^^^ has failed before it even began.

Agreed when a thread is on topic it mostly always sucks. Just a little deviation is better then none that there was in the thread 102 book counldnt find 101.

gre gre is real, and can be done from a distance .. so in reality, there's a possibility that that was a literal threat.

lol

Posted by ellessque
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Now that was funny.