Why are Scorpio men so sensitive?

I've found that my Scorpio friend gets irritated with me very easily. I love him dearly, but Jesus he takes offense to the smallest things. I am not that way. He had a book called "A man and a Can" it was one of those cookbooks for bachelors. I look through it and say "you better not be using canned meat! haha It'll give you cancer".... Like totally lighthearted just busting balls. He goes "My sister bought me that when I first moved out. I do NOT use any canned meats. Its a joke gift Crystal"... Ummmm okay. Moving forward. We have great time I leave his house and he jokes about calling out of work the next day I say "Ohhh... you better not call out, Take ya ass to work"... again totally joking. He looks at me and says "dont tell me what to do." I think hes joking, so I laugh.... he doesnt crack a smile. He does weird things like this all the time. Just SO defensive. Is there something I can do to ease this? I usually wouldnt even be offended but its pretty brash. He will bust my balls for hours, but if I even come at him any kind of way in return, he is NOT having it.

Maybe its his Aries Moon just combative?

Posted by heliumfiasco
I've found that my Scorpio friend gets irritated with me very easily. I love him dearly, but Jesus he takes offense to the smallest things. I am not that way. He had a book called "A man and a Can" it was one of those cookbooks for bachelors. I look through it and say "you better not be using canned meat! haha It'll give you cancer".... Like totally lighthearted just busting balls. He goes "My sister bought me that when I first moved out. I do NOT use any canned meats. Its a joke gift Crystal"... Ummmm okay. Moving forward. We have great time I leave his house and he jokes about calling out of work the next day I say "Ohhh... you better not call out, Take ya ass to work"... again totally joking. He looks at me and says "dont tell me what to do." I think hes joking, so I laugh.... he doesnt crack a smile. He does weird things like this all the time. Just SO defensive. Is there something I can do to ease this? I usually wouldnt even be offended but its pretty brash. He will bust my balls for hours, but if I even come at him any kind of way in return, he is NOT having it.

sounds like u both are incompatible friendship wise. it makes u both uncomfortable. not easy peasy.

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I've found that my Scorpio friend gets irritated with me very easily. I love him dearly, but Jesus he takes offense to the smallest things. I am not that way. He had a book called "A man and a Can" it was one of those cookbooks for bachelors. I look through it and say "you better not be using canned meat! haha It'll give you cancer".... Like totally lighthearted just busting balls. He goes "My sister bought me that when I first moved out. I do NOT use any canned meats. Its a joke gift Crystal"... Ummmm okay. Moving forward. We have great time I leave his house and he jokes about calling out of work the next day I say "Ohhh... you better not call out, Take ya ass to work"... again totally joking. He looks at me and says "dont tell me what to do." I think hes joking, so I laugh.... he doesnt crack a smile. He does weird things like this all the time. Just SO defensive. Is there something I can do to ease this? I usually wouldnt even be offended but its pretty brash. He will bust my balls for hours, but if I even come at him any kind of way in return, he is NOT having it.

sounds like u both are incompatible friendship wise. it makes u both uncomfortable. not easy peasy. click to expand

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We've been friends since we were 18. Its not a huge deal... I just feel like its kind of intense lately. I just dont want to be a dick.

Posted by Lala1393
Yeesh !

Even I felt awkward reading this.

Right? It was awkward!

Posted by heliumfiasco
Maybe its his Aries Moon just combative?

could be the Aries Moon thing - my friend's Scorpio Mars ruffles my feathers but apparently he does that on purpose to see what I say and then he loves my straight forward answers from my Aries Mercury mouth - like he might say out of the blue after he showers "don't you have men's shirts here that I could wear" and of course he knows I don't but it pizzes me off that he says that and I say indignantly "no, I don't other men's clothes here"

I will say he is an argumentative person. Always has been. Very stubborn. We have this one mutual friend that if he comes around, I want to go home... they'll just go back and forth over ANYTHING! But the vibe has changed and he seems defensive lately.

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I've found that my Scorpio friend gets irritated with me very easily. I love him dearly, but Jesus he takes offense to the smallest things. I am not that way. He had a book called "A man and a Can" it was one of those cookbooks for bachelors. I look through it and say "you better not be using canned meat! haha It'll give you cancer".... Like totally lighthearted just busting balls. He goes "My sister bought me that when I first moved out. I do NOT use any canned meats. Its a joke gift Crystal"... Ummmm okay. Moving forward. We have great time I leave his house and he jokes about calling out of work the next day I say "Ohhh... you better not call out, Take ya ass to work"... again totally joking. He looks at me and says "dont tell me what to do." I think hes joking, so I laugh.... he doesnt crack a smile. He does weird things like this all the time. Just SO defensive. Is there something I can do to ease this? I usually wouldnt even be offended but its pretty brash. He will bust my balls for hours, but if I even come at him any kind of way in return, he is NOT having it.

sounds like u both are incompatible friendship wise. it makes u both uncomfortable. not easy peasy. click to expand

We've been friends since we were 18. Its not a huge deal... I just feel like its kind of intense lately. I just dont want to be a dick. click to expand

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what is his mercury, mars and venus? esp. his mercury? house?

dont know ...its not enough to go off...

he could be secretly loving u and feel always uncomfortable.

or u both have other interests that keep u together.

platonic relationships with the opposite sex is difficult for the most part.

one of u guys or both will secretly desire eachother ....or have thoughts of it.

maybe due to loneliness as well.

Posted by TheRabbit
Do you know his ascendant?

I can come off quite serious when I'm really not.

Sun Scorpio 14° 14' in house 12

Moon Aries 19° 21' in house 5

Mercury Scorpio 29° 57' in house 1

Venus Sagittarius 20° 55' in house 2

Mars Capricorn 23° 5' in house 3

Scorpio Ascendant

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I've found that my Scorpio friend gets irritated with me very easily. I love him dearly, but Jesus he takes offense to the smallest things. I am not that way. He had a book called "A man and a Can" it was one of those cookbooks for bachelors. I look through it and say "you better not be using canned meat! haha It'll give you cancer".... Like totally lighthearted just busting balls. He goes "My sister bought me that when I first moved out. I do NOT use any canned meats. Its a joke gift Crystal"... Ummmm okay. Moving forward. We have great time I leave his house and he jokes about calling out of work the next day I say "Ohhh... you better not call out, Take ya ass to work"... again totally joking. He looks at me and says "dont tell me what to do." I think hes joking, so I laugh.... he doesnt crack a smile. He does weird things like this all the time. Just SO defensive. Is there something I can do to ease this? I usually wouldnt even be offended but its pretty brash. He will bust my balls for hours, but if I even come at him any kind of way in return, he is NOT having it.

sounds like u both are incompatible friendship wise. it makes u both uncomfortable. not easy peasy. click to expand

We've been friends since we were 18. Its not a huge deal... I just feel like its kind of intense lately. I just dont want to be a dick. click to expand

what is his mercury, mars and venus? esp. his mercury? house?

dont know ...its not enough to go off...
he could be secretly loving u and feel always uncomfortable.
or u both have other interests that keep u together.
platonic relationships with the opposite sex is difficult for the most part.
one of u guys or both will secretly desire eachother ....or have thoughts of it.
maybe due to loneliness as well. click to expand

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Hmmm. This could be. We did briefly try to date twice in our lives. Once at like 19... once two years ago. We've always gone directly back to being platonic friends, as though nothing happened... even discussing each others dating woes. So, I never considered that could be an underlying issue.

Posted by peachy06
Aaaaaaaaand, another pointless thread here.

ANNNNNDDDD another pointless response here.

I aint mad. Its an online message board 98% of this is pointless. But im glad we took the time to point this specific one out. When we got MF's on here talking all kinds of nonsense 24/7.

I just wanted to know how to calm this Sensitive Sally down from time to time.

Cant a girl hate on a mans canned meat in peace?

I think its because the Scorpio has probably though about the same thing and ate themselves alive hundreds of times already. When the words come from you it reminds them of their inner self always beating them up and throwing them down. So like they do to the hurful person inside their minds they attack. Hence sensitivity.

For Scorpio its like a deeper more unstable form of insecurity. They aren't afraid of what the world has shown them as much as they are afraid of what their deeper mental turmoil has done to them.

This might be more for Scorpio moon actually, but Scorpio suns are still somewhat the same. They just embody it rather then think it.

Posted by Soul
I think its because the Scorpio has probably though about the same thing and ate themselves alive hundreds of times already. When the words come from you it reminds them of their inner self always beating them up and throwing them down. So like they do to the hurful person inside their minds they attack. Hence sensitivity.

For Scorpio its like a deeper more unstable form of insecurity. They aren't afraid of what the world has shown them as much as they are afraid of what their deeper mental turmoil has done to them.

This might be more for Scorpio moon actually, but Scorpio suns are still somewhat the same. They just embody it rather then think it.

Thank you for that response! I can see that. I just really think he's a great guy. I dont want to offend him, but at the same time the jokes are very simple. It's in my nature to joke... and has been his too. Im just not sure if im just noticing the sensitivity now, or if something has changed. Maybe he actually doesnt care and was just being extra dry back. However, everything I read says Scorpios are very sensitive. I'm just gonna ask him next time I see him. haha

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Posted by Soul
I think its because the Scorpio has probably though about the same thing and ate themselves alive hundreds of times already. When the words come from you it reminds them of their inner self always beating them up and throwing them down. So like they do to the hurful person inside their minds they attack. Hence sensitivity.

For Scorpio its like a deeper more unstable form of insecurity. They aren't afraid of what the world has shown them as much as they are afraid of what their deeper mental turmoil has done to them.

This might be more for Scorpio moon actually, but Scorpio suns are still somewhat the same. They just embody it rather then think it.

Thank you for that response! I can see that. I just really think he's a great guy. I dont want to offend him, but at the same time the jokes are very simple. It's in my nature to joke... and has been his too. Im just not sure if im just noticing the sensitivity now, or if something has changed. Maybe he actually doesnt care and was just being extra dry back. However, everything I read says Scorpios are very sensitive. I'm just gonna ask him next time I see him. haha click to expand

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Don't completely hold yourself back, just don't get too personal. Its It's actually healthy for him to learn how to take things less serious, and understand everything in life isn't truly an attack on him.

You might just need to teach him the difference between a bit of fun and actual reality. Don't let him know any of it though, because that might upset him even more. Just be yourself and don't try too hard, but also don't change yourself for the sake of his sensitivity. Being extreamly sensitive will get you no where but a deep depression and an early death in this world.

Posted by heliumfiasco
I aint mad. Its an online message board 98% of this is pointless. But im glad we took the time to point this specific one out. When we got MF's on here talking all kinds of nonsense 24/7.

I just wanted to know how to calm this Sensitive Sally down from time to time.

Cant a girl hate on a mans canned meat in peace?

What you've describe really isn't being sensitive just defensive and someone that takes himself too seriously (or dry humour given his chart specs. I don't know, channel that moon and just tune him out when he gets like that because aside from calling him out on it*, it won't change by stepping around it and you'll just get annoyed that you have to do that over time.

Leebs just like to play nice, so I get it. In this case however I'd say just skip B through Y and go straight to Z. Curb the sarcasm Gem Moons are known for, keep the interactions limited and brief, since you will ultimately end up there anyway.



*Expect some cool passive aggressive behaviour to follow if you choose this option.

Posted by heliumfiasco
Maybe its his Aries Moon just combative?

Nah. Aries Moon loves to shoot the shit.

Have Nikki make you a meme you can send him that says “I kid cause I care”. All of life’s problems can be solved by memes.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I aint mad. Its an online message board 98% of this is pointless. But im glad we took the time to point this specific one out. When we got MF's on here talking all kinds of nonsense 24/7.

I just wanted to know how to calm this Sensitive Sally down from time to time.

Cant a girl hate on a mans canned meat in peace?

What you've describe really isn't being sensitive just defensive and someone that takes himself too seriously (or dry humour given his chart specs. I don't know, channel that moon and just tune him out when he gets like that because aside from calling him out on it*, it won't change by stepping around it and you'll just get annoyed that you have to do that over time.

Leebs just like to play nice, so I get it. In this case however I'd say just skip B through Y and go straight to Z. Curb the sarcasm Gem Moons are known for, keep the interactions limited and brief, since you will ultimately end up there anyway.


*Expect some cool passive aggressive behaviour to follow if you choose this option. click to expand

Worst advice ever.

If you care about this guy, just meet him halfway. If his 'sensitivity' is that much of a problem just don't joke with him. click to expand

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See this is where being an Air sign isn’t my friend in these situations. I can’t intuitively pick up on if he’s genuinely irritated or not. I am not bothered by his “sensitivity”.... I just can’t get a good grasp on it. We talk everyday. We’re close.... but it’s those awkward moments where I’m like “wait, are we being cool right now? Or are you really be sideways?” It always amounts to nothing, but I’m just curious if those moments are normal in typical Scorpio men? The women I love!!! Never issues! Two besties, but they are never this way. Always even keeled AF. Can take and give a joke.

It has little to do with a Scorpio Sun. Those Suns don't show their feelings. Look at the whole chart and find your answer.

Posted by Taniwha
Maybe you are annoying af.

There is always that! But then, he must enjoy that aspect because he's literally been initiating hangouts on and off for like 18 years.

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Posted by Taniwha
Maybe you are annoying af.

There is always that! But then, he must enjoy that aspect because he's literally been initiating hangouts on and off for like 18 years. click to expand

you're that special kind of annoying. click to expand

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true... like a fungus.

Posted by Gnu
Why would a guy be friends with a woman? Especially Scorpio guys. They are like walking penises. Every time I hangout with a Scorpio dude and he sees a woman reminds me of Rob Schneider doing his OOOhh guy character.

haha. That image made me laugh.

My scop..do the same shit...and most of the time he kick off the jokes first. If I do the same he his this attitude. Now he is more hidden about it..but I can see it in his demeanor that my playing got to him. Funny thing is when I first met him I was always irritated by his jokes because I believe it was his way of criticizing me by putting in it in a joking way...and i think his jokes/criticism was due to his low self-esteem.which hold some truth because when we argue the same shit he joke about was use to criticism in disbutes. So what I did was mimic the behavior.. he hate it...but most scorp's can't handle anything that fuck with there ego.

My mom scorp is similar too. She can be harsh with the shit that come out her mouth but can't take the come backs. She actually believe the things she say out her mouth is fine because it's her truth..but turn it around she on some how dare you shit with the crying/manipulating bull.

Posted by Lala1393
Yeesh !

Even I felt awkward reading this.

Do you ever? Lol