Why isn't scorpio trying to talk to me??

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cuppycakesxo on Sunday, October 12, 2008 and has 30 replies.

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

me and him got into a really bad argument [because i broke up with him]
i made him feel like sht, because i was angry.
but a few days later i genuily apologised to him. and he just told me hes done with my sht..
then a few days later he texts me and says "i love you"
i didnt respond, because i didnt want him to think i was willing to give him another chance.
it seems like he thought thats all he had to say to me that would fix things.

now its been like 2 weeks where we havent talked. we even had an event where he KNEW he would see me, and he didnt come. do scorpios usually try to stay away from people that hurt them?

we broke up because we never saw eachother, and we were dating. and we both didnt trust eachother.

why isnt he trying to talk to me? i told him i would never want to throw away our friendship.

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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts

me and him got into a really bad argument [because i broke up with him]
i made him feel like sht, because i was angry.
but a few days later i genuily apologised to him. and he just told me hes done with my sht..

Hmm, this is probably why he's not talking to you. You broke up with him and now you want to get back together. Care should be taken when breaking up with someone over an arguement. Usually, you shouldn't breakup when you are angry because things are said that no are regretted later. Scorpios remember everything ...

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@Mystic Dreamer
18 Years500+ PostsGemini

He's not gonna be friends with you...at least not right now.

Being friends with him will only give him hope for a reconciliation.

You broke up with him. Now leave him alone and stop wondering about stupid crap if you aren't romantically attached to him.

Grow up and find another man to play games with.

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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts

no, i dont want to get back with him
i just want to be friends with him still because i care alot about him..

Well, maybe someday you can and will be friends again. But to want friendship this soon after a breakup stretches a bit for some people. Others are fine with being friends with their exs (even right after a breakup) but, others aren't so cool about doing that. Also, it depends are the state at which things were before the breakup occured. There are many parameters and it depends on the person.

And it doesn't mean that the person is still bitter over the breakup if they do not want to be friends, it just means that they have other things in mind when it comes to the scope of their life.

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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts

Hey, easy there MD πŸ˜‰

Anyway I'll go on resord and say that I was friends with a certain Gemini/Cancer man ... mainly because I was stupid πŸ˜‰

There's a reason why certain people still want to be friends with their exs (its my opinion) -- I've stated it before on another thread but its not appropriate to state now. But it took three guys in my life to help figure this out -- all three totally different signs, but the principle was the same.

I will admit, it took me way too long to figure it out, but I'm glad I did.

However, back to cuppycake situation -- I know it may hurt you that he doesn't want to have any contact but maybe its for the best. You broke up with him for a reason, right?

Why is there a need to remain friends -- I'm just curious but he didn't break up with you, you broke things with him.

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

there is a need because we've been friend since middle school
and we started dating in high school

and theres just memories.
i dont see why we cant be friends, he was messing with other girls so i dont see why its so heartbreaking to him to be friends.

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@Roxanne
17 Years500+ Posts

scorpios avoid people who hurt them like the plague but some stalk the person who hurt them - depends how obsessive they were in the first place.

whatever. the net result is the same. you can't be friends with someone who's hurt you. end of πŸ™‚

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

what do you mean watery crap?
i dont see why im looked at being the bad person when he was the one cheating and he knew very well i was extremely loyal.

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@Yum
18 Years1,000+ Posts

That was a nice try, Crab23, and I can see tbat you're imroving a lot, but that's actually a frog.

A bitch would look more like this:

If you're having trouble with this, remember that dogs(a bitch is a female dog) go "woof!"

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@Yum
18 Years1,000+ Posts

"Crab23 always reminds me of the character Adrian Brody plays in 'The Village' ...."

I don't believe I've seen that one. Did he play a retarded, herpes ridden prostitute?

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@Yum
18 Years1,000+ Posts

"Don't you think it's time to clean that sticky keypad of yours. I never seen that many errors from someone who was attacking me. "

I was attacking you? Have years of being donkey-punched by your drunk(likely), blind(almost certainly) customers affected your thinkinh to that degree?

"And you should spray that on your herpes, since you have them all over your face."

"Them"?

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

"Is that the reason you broke up with him? And if that is the reason, why aren't you bringing it up til now? too personal? Or is it just something you're saying just to be saying it?"

no he really did, and not just once. ive given him chances before.

but you know what, you're right.
i know im a selfish and stubborn person and i think i deserve him not talking to me..
i never showed him i care when i know thats all i did. but imn just too stubborn.

i never wanted him to chase me, i just wanted him to talk to me.
no begging no asking me back out, just talking things out with me.

i just hope i can learn from this experience and try to stop myself from doing it in the future.

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@gslove
20 Years500+ Posts

Why the hell would you want to stay friends with him?? You are lying to yourself that you just want to be his friend. I hate to see an otherwise smart, classy woman being so stupid. Look at this situation from outside of yourself.

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

i think its because i forgive people too easily..
no matter what they do to me.

but i never forget.

no i am cute as a button! :] lol

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@gslove
20 Years500+ Posts

"i think its because i forgive people too easily..
no matter what they do to me."

That's a very good quality to have cuppycakes. I have that quality too, but forgive him from afar not by staying in his life and letting him continue to hurt you and chip away at your self-esteem. His actions are hurting you. If you continue to let him do these things to you and telling him that it is o.k. with your actions of forgiveness he will lose respect for you and continue to do what he is doing and it will be yourself that you will be trying to forgive later down the line when you are mad at yourself for not getting out earlier. You will find that it is not as easy to forgive yourself.

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@cappysweetie
20 Years10,000+ Posts

i think its because i forgive people too easily..
no matter what they do to me.

hmm, I use to be this way ... well, to an extent anyway πŸ™‚ Now, it depends on what they do -- I weigh things more now based on how it effected me.

This is probably why you still want to be his friend, yes? No matter how many other women he was with behind your back, the friendship that you've had since childhood matters the most .....

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@cuppycakesxo
17 Years

its so funny- cause now he talks to me telling me he "loves" me and he tells me he misses me..

but then i see how he messes with other girls; and he knows i do.
but i guess he thinks im stupid and ill go back which i never will.

i think hes playing mind games.

well when he text me telling me these things i just said "oh"
no text back πŸ™‚