Aries woman trying to understand a taurus man

Posted by jeane
you need to be patient with taurus men. a month is nothing. you need to slow down. just concentrate on getting to know him as a person first, rather than only thinking of him as a potential love interest.

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Posted by elogean
I know I should have let him chase me, I have stopped that anyway. It's just that I hate playing games, if I like you or if I don't, you will know

Maybe I should indeed calm down a little, it's just that it's hard when you don't what are the other person intentions

You say that you don't like playing games but then ignore him on purpose because you think that's what he did?Why do you need to try so hard?You're just getting to know each other,it shouldn't be about trying nothing.

I have Aries placements so i understand where you're coming from but you can't "dictate" the man to call you and text you when you want,it's disrespectful and controlling.

Honestly if someone demands me to do this or that i will ignore it too,not to spite you but because i don't need to explain myself to someone who doesn't respect my time,also if you keep on insisting you will get ignored again and i'll continue doing that because you're not listening anyway,i don't care how much i like you,your behaviour is what matters in the long run,at least for me.

I always have this problem with Gemini men,they always want answers and need reassurance when i don't even know you that well,calm the f**k down and let me breath for God's sakes,no one has time for childlish games.

Also,you asked him why are you the only one who's doing the courting?Because you choose so and because you don't give him the chance to do something. And that "dominating" thing is bs,you don't wanna get in a war of wills here,this man is more stubborn and patient than you,as you can see.

Keep doing you,if that means to lose interest for him so be it. I'm not gonna tell you to wait for him just because he's a Taurus,do what fits you best. Men say a lot of things,i wouldn't take his word when he says that "you will see". Ain't nobody got time for Copperfield tricks,if that's what you feel,stop initiating Aries.

Good luck

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Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by elogean
I know I should have let him chase me, I have stopped that anyway. It's just that I hate playing games, if I like you or if I don't, you will know

Maybe I should indeed calm down a little, it's just that it's hard when you don't what are the other person intentions

Taurus us slow. Just because we do not run on anyone's timeline but our own, does not mean we "play games"! Learn to slow down your aggressive fire energy and let him take the lead at his pace!!

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Posted by elogean
@busyeye88 I must say that he did show interest tho by often initiating texts, and he called me when I asked him to, but it just that I wanted more from him at the time.

Posted by elogean
So still no news from last thursday. I think I angered him when i suggested him to call me and then I did not pick up the phone...or it seems like a bruised ego. As you know i texted him on saturday, asking if his familly was fine (i heard in the news that there was lots of damages in his hometown due to heavy rain)...even that he ignored. I know it´s only been a month that i know him, but I would like to understand what´s wrong, if he just lost interest or if he is fed up. I was thinking about texting, probably in the middle of next week, asking him if he acting this way because of the phone incident. Maybe he wrote me off completely...he did told a story about how he stayed years without Talking to his best friend, to the point where he did not even remember why he was fed up, he just knew he was not Talking to her no more...men in general can be hard to read...it is easier to speak up when you are mad if you ask me

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Posted by elogean
So still no news from last thursday. I think I angered him when i suggested him to call me and then I did not pick up the phone...or it seems like a bruised ego. As you know i texted him on saturday, asking if his familly was fine (i heard in the news that there was lots of damages in his hometown due to heavy rain)...even that he ignored. I know it´s only been a month that i know him, but I would like to understand what´s wrong, if he just lost interest or if he is fed up. I was thinking about texting, probably in the middle of next week, asking him if he acting this way because of the phone incident. Maybe he wrote me off completely...he did told a story about how he stayed years without Talking to his best friend, to the point where he did not even remember why he was fed up, he just knew he was not Talking to her no more...men in general can be hard to read...it is easier to speak up when you are mad if you ask me

he may be just busy. you've only known each other a month. give him another week to get in contact. it's so new, you can't be this demanding with a bull so soon into knowing him. it only pushes them away and frustrates you.

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Posted by kalin
You should've texted him right back letting him know when would be a good time to call even if you couldn't talk. Anyways, I consider it as rude that you just let him make multiple attempts.

Posted by crabberries
stop wasting your time please , Taurus? but if u still want to try it ur own go.. but remember that I warned you..


other useful link for u

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2007/09/experiences-with-taurian-male.html?m=1

if a guy is into you , you'll know ,you won't feel confuse , you won't look for advice --

Posted by evalani290

Posted by elogean
So still no news from last thursday. I think I angered him when i suggested him to call me and then I did not pick up the phone...or it seems like a bruised ego. As you know i texted him on saturday, asking if his familly was fine (i heard in the news that there was lots of damages in his hometown due to heavy rain)...even that he ignored. I know it´s only been a month that i know him, but I would like to understand what´s wrong, if he just lost interest or if he is fed up. I was thinking about texting, probably in the middle of next week, asking him if he acting this way because of the phone incident. Maybe he wrote me off completely...he did told a story about how he stayed years without Talking to his best friend, to the point where he did not even remember why he was fed up, he just knew he was not Talking to her no more...men in general can be hard to read...it is easier to speak up when you are mad if you ask me

I don't think men are hard to read at all,they are quite simple. Women psychology is more complex in general than men so we tend to twist things up. Not to defend Taurus men but most of the times they don't even realise how "taking things slow" appears to the opposite sex,they do things at their own time and what could seem for you or for most women playing games and desinterest for them is just common.

He's probably just busy with his own life and you are not a priority right now which is again common with Taurus people. If you take the time to read through this board you will notice a pattern,both in women and men,although Taurus women tend to be more expressive from my experience.

You already texted him,don't bomb him with multiple texts when he didn't even answered to the first one. Do you think that if something is wrong and he is ignoring you on purpose 10 texts will somehow change that?You'll only make it worse.

No one here can read his mind,we can only tell you that you need patience when dealing with a Taurus man,which is already been said. From there on is up to you how you proceed because it interfers with you as an individual.

You've been too pushy and you now know this,the issue you're dealing with still stays in your hands. As a Taurus i don't see it that much of a big deal if it's done once and it's corrected,if it doesn't persist,in this case.

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Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by elogean
Ok, So I just wanted to give a final update on the situation.

So I decided to text the taurus last friday. We started talking again, but he was still very much distant.
Most of my friends agreed with you that I should leave him alone. So I was trying to do just that.

I was still thinking about the situation a lot, I could not see how you go from calling me because I ask you to, to ignoring me or be very distant.
So yesterday I sent him a long text explaining why I was acting the way I was and I also told him that I get that he made an effort when he tried to call me (because of his job) but I was at work and I could not reply at the time.

This morning, he texted me, I was busy so I did not reply, he then called me and he have been texting me since then. He asked me when I was available for a date, where I wanted to go during said date, and we have been texting back and forth since then

So yeah he was just pouting

Thanks to everybody for their advices

Nothing has been resolved as YOU keep INTITATING!! Let's see if HE arranges the date first and NOT YOU before you can consider this case closed. When taurus is invested and initiating then you have your answer. If you are doing it all, you are basically having "friendship / relationship " with yourself...

We await your next news!

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Posted by Iamawinelover
As a woman who has been dealing with a Taurus man for almost 3 years, I will tell you this will not be the first or last time that he will become distant, not responsive or going MIA for what may seem like a long time. So it's best that if you choose to go further and potentially date this guy, you are aware of what is to come. If you can't handle such behavior after 30 days of just getting to know each other, you're in for one hell of a emotional rollercoaster. Everyone here had said nothing but the truth. In this case, you're technically not in a relationship with him so the way you feel and wanting to know where you stand after a month will push this guy away. You're asking for far too much too soon from someone that is not your boyfriend. Patience is a virtue when dealing with a Taurus man and if you don't have that and a life outside of waiting for him, you're going to drive yourself and him crazy.

Posted by elogean

Posted by Iamawinelover
As a woman who has been dealing with a Taurus man for almost 3 years, I will tell you this will not be the first or last time that he will become distant, not responsive or going MIA for what may seem like a long time. So it's best that if you choose to go further and potentially date this guy, you are aware of what is to come. If you can't handle such behavior after 30 days of just getting to know each other, you're in for one hell of a emotional rollercoaster. Everyone here had said nothing but the truth. In this case, you're technically not in a relationship with him so the way you feel and wanting to know where you stand after a month will push this guy away. You're asking for far too much too soon from someone that is not your boyfriend. Patience is a virtue when dealing with a Taurus man and if you don't have that and a life outside of waiting for him, you're going to drive yourself and him crazy.

being distant, MIA or not responsive >> I am not sure it's something I would be able to handle too often. Even with my friends, I dont like it
If someone has a problem with me, I find is so much more easier if they just tell me, so I can explain myself and we move on. I guess we are all different.

I am very impatient, that's true, but I learned my lesson and I won't be as pushy as before.

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Posted by Iamawinelover
Well, I am going to tell you this and I won't sugar coat it. Since you just admitted that you're not sure if something you can handle, then I suggest you leave this guy alone. And you just said above that you're very impatient and being patient is a number one criteria for dealing with a Taurus man. Again, you need to think twice about going any further because you're going to set yourself up for a downfall. When those times happen, it may or may not have anything to do with you per say but you have to give him time and space to work things out in his own head. Taurus men are deep thinkers especially when their feelings and emotions are involved but neither here or there, you're at that level yet. You're at the very beginning stages of asking each other what kind of food you like and dislike and you're asking where you stand. This won't be your only lesson to learn throughout the entire time. Also, this guy has a career so he won't be available for you all of the time and you have to accept that and have a life of your own and let him comer back if he chooses to. He will not move when you want him to. He moves at his own pace. Think long and hard if this is what you want and if you are willing to be patient. If not, you need to consider moving on because by what you stated above it may not be as easy for you as you're trying to make it seem like it is.

Posted by elogean
@DMV
i don't know his venus sign. I know mine is pisces though

@jeane @champranger
I also think I can work on my patience, it is far from impossible...

@busyeye88
Who knows, maybe if it goes well, we will both compromise, and a week will become 3 days.
we will see ...

Posted by busyeyes88
Libraus!! You are an expert!! Lol lol lol

Posted by busyeyes88
Does yr bull hv a lot of earth placements? Although I have 5!
3 in taurus and 2 in Virgo!!

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Posted by elogean
@DMV
i don't know his venus sign. I know mine is pisces though

@jeane @champranger
I also think I can work on my patience, it is far from impossible...

@busyeye88
Who knows, maybe if it goes well, we will both compromise, and a week will become 3 days.
we will see ...

What's your chart like?

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Posted by Nevermore

Posted by elogean

Posted by champranger

Posted by elogean
@DMV
i don't know his venus sign. I know mine is pisces though

@jeane @champranger
I also think I can work on my patience, it is far from impossible...

@busyeye88
Who knows, maybe if it goes well, we will both compromise, and a week will become 3 days.
we will see ...

What's your chart like?

My sun is in aries
My rising sign is virgo
My moon is is aries
My mars is in taurus
My venus is in pisces
My mercury is in pisces
My jupiter is in aries
My north node is in aries

Sorry to say this, but you have no patience at all.. You have Aries stellium (if there's more Aries placement than that). And I'm guessing that's all in 8th house of your sun, moon, jupiter and Node.. right?

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Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by jeane

Posted by elogean
@DMV
i don't know his venus sign. I know mine is pisces though

@jeane @champranger
I also think I can work on my patience, it is far from impossible...

@busyeye88
Who knows, maybe if it goes well, we will both compromise, and a week will become 3 days.
we will see ...

erm...this is problematic sentence. i think you need to prepare yourself for the struggle. for it is real.

compromise with a bull? rarely. they are going to do what they are going to do when they are going to do it. it's great when they do, you shouldn't rely on that though.

and you're already hoping your patience won't be put to the test (one week to become three days). that hope is also going to cause you grief. when dealing with taurus and timescales, treat it like a builders estimate...think of an outlandish number, double it and then add 20% on top. that's closer to your timescale. 😄 (

Libraus!! You are an expert!! Lol lol lol

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I totally agree! Elogean, I truly don't think you know what you're in for. Like Busy said, there is no compromising with a Bull. There is no going from a week to 3 days. From my experience and what I deal with now is try not speaking for weeks! Do you hear me? Weeks of silence, distance or whatever the case may be. I'm pasted it but until I get what I want, I'm busy with my own life. The more you push, the more he will dig his heels in and not move an inch while out of frustration you keep initiating contact and he will ignore your advances. Oh....did we mention the ignoring phase? Girl.....if you sincerely don't have the patience, they will drive you to drink which in my case I already do so I don't need my Bull as an excuse. 🙂 But if you have not had a conversation and agreed that you are both dating exclusively, they will test you over and over and over again. For example I have a co worker that just married her Bull this year, may I tell you how long it took for her to finally get that ring? 7 years. She privately told me she had been through hell and back dealing with him. Not saying that will happen to you but just letting you know that they don't move on our time frame, only their own. It's no joke.

Posted by elogean
So I met this taurus man on a dating app about a month ago. We texted quite a lot before our first date. As this man works in the army, he works quite extansive hours, so we had to reschedule our first date twice, but at the end, the date went fine, it lasted 3 hours, we were both talking about our lives. Before we left, he stated that he hoped that I would stand up more to him otherwise he would dominte me. Being an aries I told him that nobody dominates me...ever.
Anyway, we went our separate way and we kept texting. I started courting him, proposing second dates, which he advised he could not attend because of work.
I was in a hurry, knowing that this man would be away for the entire month of november, I just wanted to know him better in order to confirm if I should wait for his return to start something with him. However, I soon felt like I was the only one proposing stuff. He was still texting me everyday, he was iniciating contact, and I must say that he was quite reassuring through his text. For exemple, when I asked him if he wanted to see me, he reassured me that it was the case.
But now, I feel like, he is not doing much, except iniciating texts. So I got a bit fed up and I asked him why I was the only one doing the courting. This taurus man told me that it was because that was his choice. Then I asked him how would I know that he is not fooling me then, he replied that "I will see". i told him that it is too easy and that I needed him to show interest too, for exemple he could call me. After that he answered "why not" As this answer was not good enough for me I decided to simply ignore him for day (like he did to me last saturday).
Anyway, today, I texted him back, that I am getting tired of doing all the"work". He seemed to understood and advised that he will try to call me, which he did...several times, But me being at work, and him only calling me when I could not pick up the phone, we never made it. i tried to call him back several times but he did not pick up the phone either...
I then texted him that maybe we should arrange an appointment, and call each other at 11pm. I know he saw this text, but he ignored it.
I mean even if you are tired, is it that complicated to answer someone??
Now I am getting more and more fed up with this taurus man because I dont know where to stand, I am afraid iam wasting my time. I really like him, I would like to keep trying, but I can already feel that I am losing interest.
I also feel like he is playing games, and that he is not being honest with me in regards to his intentions. I dont if I shoud just to move, or keep trying.
Please be nice as english is not my first language.

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Posted by elogean
This one should be more complete!

Sun 8°24' Aries
Moon 9°48' Aries
Mercury 10°49' Pisces
Venus 1°09' Pisces
Mars 25°16' Taurus
Jupiter 6°28' Aries
Saturn 21°10' Sagittarius
Uranus 26°44' Sagittarius
Neptune 7°58' Capricorn
Pluto 9°24' –� Scorpio
Chiron 16°38' Gemini
Ceres 2°45' Capricorn
Pallas 1°07' –� Sagittarius
Juno 14°36' Aquarius
Vesta 10°37' Taurus
Node 11°30' –� Aries
Lilith 2°48' –� Leo
Fortune 9°39' Virgo
AS 8°16' Virgo
MC 2°10' Gemini

I see:

Stellium of Aries with sun, moon and jupiter.
sun, moon and jupiter square neptune.
mercury and Venus trine pluto
mars conjunct midheaven
mercury and venus opposite asc
satirn conjunct uranus

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