Can a Fling Turn Into The Real Thing with u T men?

I am a cancer female. I met a taurus guy at a club in the begining of March. We exchanged numbers called and texted each other for about 2 weeks before we actually got together. we pretty much got busy on the first night couldn't help it sexual attraction was on HIGH. we have been seeing each other alot lately. Now I am starting to catch some feelings but am afraid to express them because I don't want to ruin what ever it is we have. I am a fool..lol in the beging I was thinking yea this is all for fun but now as I am getting to know him I am becoming more attracted to him not just on a sexual level.. what am I to do should I just be up front and tell him how I feel or just go with the flow and see where things go. ughhh this is hard...help! Some insight from Taurus men and anybody that wants to puit your 2 cents in would be nice. Be harsh if you have to... I can take it

Posted by Moodz2468
I am a cancer female. I met a taurus guy at a club in the begining of March. We exchanged numbers called and texted each other for about 2 weeks before we actually got together. we pretty much got busy on the first night couldn't help it sexual attraction was on HIGH. we have been seeing each other alot lately. Now I am starting to catch some feelings but am afraid to express them because I don't want to ruin what ever it is we have. I am a fool..lol in the beging I was thinking yea this is all for fun but now as I am getting to know him I am becoming more attracted to him not just on a sexual level.. what am I to do should I just be up front and tell him how I feel or just go with the flow and see where things go. ughhh this is hard...help! Some insight from Taurus men and anybody that wants to puit your 2 cents in would be nice. Be harsh if you have to... I can take it

Well you two are lovers. The fact that you guys are seeing each other a lot says to me it's more than a fling already. You are not a fool, you are normal. Just continue to get to know him better before you profess your undying love and start demanding a commitment.

NOT YET!!!! Let him do it first!!!!

yea I agree..wait until he shows his feelings for you first. your giving out the candy for free so of course he's gonna stick around. I am not saying that he might not have feelings for you but you just never know. These guys from what I hear and from personal experience are very slow with commitment. If I were you keep those walls up girl! Remember Guard your heart if its one thing us cancer ladies don't like is rejection. Good luck.

Updates please.

Not much to update, I have not heard from him since last Friday. Its a good thing I waited to express my feelings becuase I don't think he is taking me seriously. I guess I should have seen that coming since I gave it up so quickly. He is being distant and I have already texted him 3 times since and no response.

Posted by Moodz2468
Not much to update, I have not heard from him since last Friday. Its a good thing I waited to express my feelings becuase I don't think he is taking me seriously. I guess I should have seen that coming since I gave it up so quickly. He is being distant and I have already texted him 3 times since and no response.

Awww big crab hugs. Well that's disappointing, I'm sorry to hear this. Sounds like he is doing you a favor. Well he's another frog you have kissed on the way to meeting your prince.

Thank you
I actually got in contact with him and he said he was away for a couple of days kind of a last minute deal. Went to visit a friend down south that he hasn't seen in a couple of years. We hung out this past weekend and it was great. I still havn't confessed my true feeling yet. He was so affectionate and kept telling me that he missed me. How do I relly know if its me or the sex he misses? I really like this guy but I am begining to think he is not that into me like he says he is. I also find myself initiating when we get together. Do taurus men liked to be chased. The begining stages of dating is like the worst part ever. I hate the game.

It's physical, it's sex, one of the reason is he hasn't had time to think beyond that, he's getting what he wants and thus the emotional aspect isn't on his radar yet, what's on his radar is spending time with a beautiful woman and having fun, he hasn't thought about YOU being in his life beyond being intimate.

You can tell him how you feel if you choose to but don't expect him to reciprocate, don't expect anything and therefore you won't feel disappointed if you don't invest your happiness into this guy, don't give him that much power but sure you can tell him but if he chooses to run off and/or chooses to not reveal his true feelings then you have to be mature and accept his choices.

My suggestion would be to stop it, stop chasing him, stop worrying about if he's into you...YOU ARE GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY by being this way. Instead go out with someone else, go have fun, let the Taurus guy go on and you go on too.

Don't take the weak approach by revolving your mind--thoughts--happiness around him and what he's doing, instead wish him well and move on, he got the sex, give him time to miss you, to want to be with you but if you continue initiating communication and expecting him to hand with you well you are going to chase him off.

See it's not HIM that's bothered by having sex too soon, it's you, you are so bothered by it that you are completely focused on him and his behavior and that is whats going to KILL any and all potential to move forward, he doesn't OWE you a relationship so stop acting like he does or he'll run b/c it's too much pressure.

Be secure, go on with your life without thinking about this ONE guy as if you are revolving your whole life around him because behaving the way you are behaving will make any man run no matter what astrological sign he is.

Be confident in yourself, it's just sex, it's not the end of the world if he doesn't want to go beyond sex with you, it happens this way more often than you may realize, if he doesn't have time to develop an emotional bond with you the odds are A MAN WILL LEAVE but not all men leave and it seems he's on board so to KEEP things moving forward stop worrying and stop all of the negative self talk, you are talking out of a relationship by doing this, your vibe is beginning to feel needy, telling him how you feel while you feel NEEDY for him will have the opposite effect, he'll run so until you get your confidence back--don't tell him anything.

hang

you are talking yourself out of a relationship

I am bothered by the fact that I did have sex too soon, but in no way do I ever pressure him into anything. since my feelings have become stronger I been holding them in. this is an inner battle and like I said before I dont want to ruin whatever we have. I am going with the flow and yes like a typical girl I do get upset when he was distant but to be honest I think all men do that from time to time.

This past weekend was the first time he mentioned anything about his family and was asking about mine, so I guess thats a good sign. On other occasions we usually talk about things that we have in common, but never really got into convo about friends or family.

The reason I asked if he liked the chase is because I feel as if he is getting lazy and wants me to initiate what we do where do we go and so forth. I heard that some taurus men can be like that, they like a women to do all the work. His actions says alot too. He drives 40 min to see me every weekend, but that doesn't mean he's into me like I am into him.
like you say Tiki its physical. I just want to make sure i tell him at the right time and thats if I tell him at all. I am trying not to involve so much emotion into this but at the same time i am having fun and just enjoying his company.

IDK...I just want to make sure I do the right thing

"I am bothered by the fact that I did have sex too soon, but in no way do I ever pressure him into anything."

You ENERGY feels like pressure, he know you'r holding back, he sense your anxiety, men are not complete morons when it comes to our feelings. You being bothered is can be sensed, if I can sense and you can sense then he can sense it too. If you can get over the idea that somehow having sex so soon is wrong then you can RELAX and stop sending out the kind of vibes that make a man TURNED OFF, if you sense he's not into you in some way then it's not that he doesn't like you, it means you possibly are sending out the wrong energy, the kind of energy that REPELS instead of PULL HIM IN.

"since my feelings have become stronger I been holding them in. "

But aren't you dating other men? Why is so much of your energy focused on this ONE guy? You are making this man your happiness by holding it in and essentially LOSING a significant amount of power, no longer is this becoming a mutually equal connection, it's becoming all about HIM and when that happens the rules change, now he has the power to reject or accept you, now he has the power to stall on you and make you wait. It's not his fault, it's yours for not knowing how to be confidence and secure in your own decisions, you're an adult, own what you choose to do with your body.

"The reason I asked if he liked the chase is because I feel as if he is getting lazy and wants me to initiate what we do where do we go and so forth."

Yes he's getting lazy because of how you are behaving, you don't act like a prize, someone that make him wanna comb his back when you walk in the room, you give off the WRONG VIBE, the kind of vibe that tells a man he can do better without you, you are not worth putting so much of his energy into.

You may not be verbally saying anything but you're PUSHING OUT the wrong kind of energy, you feel he's the prize so you are the one worrying and feeling anxious, he can lean back and let you be the boy, let you worry about him and his feelings, let you revolve your life--happiness and energy around HIM, once you do that yes he'll get lazy and do nothing.

"He drives 40 min to see me every weekend, but that doesn't mean he's into me like I am into him."

Actually this does mean A LOT believe it or not, he wants to do the work but if you continue worrying about HIM, worrying about how soon you have sex then you are killing the energy between the 2 of you. Men drive 40 minutes for women they want.

He had sex with you and he still drives 40 minutes! He's not lazy at all, but he's growing lazy because you don't know your worth and assume the worst, when men see us acting unworthy---feeling unworthy around them it tells him a story about YOU...He then proceeds to stop DOING things for a woman that feels she isn't worth it, he is not going to waste his time like that, he's not going to waste his time jumping through hoops trying to appease your worthless feelings, he's not going to allow a woman to control him with her low self esteem behavior, he's just not going to keep reassuring you that he's interested when he doesn't have to.

Just because it's primarily physical RIGHT NOW doesn't mean the energy won't change, just cool it with the desperate energy you are pushing out, BE FIERCE and CONFIDENT, tell yourself over and over again HE NEEDS ME--HE WANTS ME--I'M GOOD ENOUGH--I'M WORTH IT AND WORTHY so he can PICK UP ON THAT VIBE and GIVE you more, the more he INVEST IN GIVING you his energy you won't have to guess at if he's into you, YOU'LL KNOW HE'S INTO YOU.

You can't make US do the right thing, you can't control any of this, this isn't about what you want, you can't make him do anything and you can't behave nor think a certain way to HELP him want to invest more of his energy into you but what you can do to ensure he has enough space and time to do the right thing on his own is have fun, have so much fun that he won't want to lose you from his life and thus he'll offer you some kind of commitment/relationship.

So many typo's...

Sorry

I agree with Tiki 100%

You have to be confident in yourself and know what you want. First love is self love, allow yourself to feel what your feeling now and just get over it. If you keep it all inside and hold on for too long you'll leave no room for happines to follow. I think you should just keep having fun and make the best of your time together. just let nature take its course.

Thinking negative isn't going to bring anything positive and Tiki says it best.. men can sense that and its a huge TURN OFF for them.

Men love confidence and women who have their shi*t together so get out of that rut and strutt your stuff.
Show him who's boss

Ok first off when we are together I do not send out any negative vibes for him to pick up on. When he is with me I make sure he is comfortable and has the best time. Why do you think he keeps coming back. (Well one of the reasons) Like I keep saying I just don't know if its the right time to tell him yet. I guess you can say my big fear is losing him. So I thank you for the advice and yes I'm just going to keep having fun and when I see any sign that he wants more then I will reveal my true feelings. I like this guy a lot and if I have to sacrifice and wait it out then so be it. I just hate that he doesn't flat out say he wants to hang out. Its like he beats around the bush until I say something.

I do have to admit that sometimes I do have negative thoughts like is he seeing somebody else or like am I his back burner who knows.. But I am trying to be more confident. I guess time will only tell to see if we will be more than a booty call.

Moodz, your whole last post illustrates exactly what Tiki is saying. You are missing her point.

Sure; in action you don't let anything on. It's not about the direct actions amongst the two of you. It's the indirect, behind-the-scenes, underneath stuff that gets sensed. You can make sure he has fun, and is comfortable all you want... that doesn't mean he can't "feel" the worry and trouble you are struggling with. The very utterance of it in your posts means it is in your brain, and that means he can pick up on it. Men don't get enough credit for their emotional intelligence, because they cut it down to the plain and simple and don't pick apart and talk about every little thing. They just act on what they know. It's actually a beautiful and efficient (most of the time) talent they seem to have.

Read, re-read, re-re-read Tiki's advice. I've seen Tiki's advice in other threads, and how she has worded things in this particular thread is nothing short of magic in my opinion.

you are all right. I couldn't sleep thinking about all of this and its taking a toll on me. I am gonna fall back for a while and see what happens. Last night I texted him and I didn't get a respond back. I am not on his list of priorities so it proves that I am just a thing for him to do when bored. I should have known becuase of the way things have started out. I put myself in this situationa and now its time for me to fix it.

Don't forget that you create the way that people see you, by how you see yourself. I read something interesting somewhere, about valuing yourself. It said that even though you may have the belief that you value yourself, the question you always have to ask is "do you BEHAVE in a way that is consistent with projecting that fact." So it's not enough to just see yourself in a certain light, you also have to SHOW how you see yourself. Action consistent with belief/thought.

Practical example: it's like saying you value your body. You eat right and exercise - BUT you smoke. Some people could perceive that as a very mixed message. You must encompass in a totality what "valuing your body" means. Not pick and choose what works for you. (That is, if you want people to flat out believe you, that you value your body).

It's not about general right/wrong way of doing things. It's about being confident about your own choices, and being able to stand behind your choices. If you DO pick and choose - that becomes your own definition of what it means to you (as opposed to the societal norm definition), to value your body - but that is where it becomes necessary to stand up for your own beliefs/definition. It doesn't matter what anyone else perceives to be valuing their body, this is how you value your body.

You obviously feel strongly (thought +) about not starting a relationship the way things started (action) with the Taurus (= inconsistent). So do what you can to act accordingly from now on - remembering the way it makes you behave after the fact if you don't stick to your belief system (in action and thought). Beating yourself up, or being negative doesn't get you anywhere. Looking at what worked, and didn't work for you in the situation and then acting upon that - is the growth process.

I wish you all the best!

My verbal diarrhoea: over!

Mood LISTEN...Stop feeling bad and try to be objective and logical for just a second.

If you chase a man HE WILL RUN PERIOD, I don't care how cute you are, how much sex you give, how much love you exude his way HE WILL RUN, this isn't about him not liking you, this is about YOU NOT LIKING YOU, any woman that beat herself up over doing something as fun as having sex is the problem NOT HIM. Sex isn't something you exchange for love, sex isn't something you do in hopes you get a chance to be in a man's life, sex isn't something you bargain with and I don't know if you recognize this or not but that's the mindset you have about having sex with your own body.

He's not calling you back because you are CHASING him by initiating contact and this isn't the first time you've initiated contact, you are self sabotaging and blaming him when in reality IT'S YOU.

You won't lean back, you won't cut yourself a break for doing something so natural and fun and exhilarating, you're constantly in a bad mood--anxious, feeling low inside and THIS IS THE CULPRIT, you are DOWN INSIDE and HE FEEL IT AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE AROUND YOU b/c those kind of emotions NATURALLY REPEL A MAN AWAY FROM YOU, that energy PUSHES ITSELF OUT in different ways that appear needy, you have this he can't see mentality but YES HE CAN--HE CAN SENSE YOU WANT MORE THAN HE'S READY TO GIVE OR WHY ELSE WOULD YOU BE CALLING HIM SO HE RUNS AWAY--HOPING THIS WILL SLOW YOU DOWN..you also have this I'M UNWORTHY--HE'S THE PRIZE NOT ME VIBE and with that there is no way he'll keep wanting you.

So just stop it, stop bringing yourself down inside, go sit down somewhere with a friend, relax, go out on a nice friendly relaxing date with a few of your friends or even a guy friend, stop revolving your LIFE around this man so he can feel pressure free to come to you freely.

Stop worrying about something you can't control and instead take the high self esteem road, which is I have a life, I'm busy, I'll talk to him when I can, stop initiating contact, stop creating drama about him not wanting you because the reality is...If you don't want you then why should he, meaning if you beat yourself up, chase him through initiating contact, if you jump through hoops to have fun and make HIM feel happy then you are saying a DISTINCT MESSAGE about yourself...You're desperate and a fake meaning you are PRETENDING TO BE HAPPY when the reality is your happiness is DEPENDENT on him being in your life, men see through this and BOLT--RUN AWAY.

He'll be back but until then GET BUSY living your life and thinking bout you and your life. Remind yourself YOU ARE THE PRIZE and then HOLD YOUR HEAD UP--BRING YOURSELF UP INSIDE so when he does come around you'll feel worthy inside and not so powerless as if he's holding your happiness in his hands.

If this is the way you behave after sex then stop having sex so soon, you clearly are not emotionally mature enough to handle the outcome, no matter what that outcome turns out to be you can't handle it.

Girl snap out of this! Why are you putting yourself down, no man is worth it. You have to love yourself first!
Just tell him already and get it off your chest. Who knows maybe you will feel better afterwards. Yea there is that chance that you will lose him and if you do that means he wasn't the one for you.

Tiki I love your advice.. You should write a book to help women.. I'm serious. I would buy it..lol

LOL...Thanks SensualCancer

No disrespect but a man that's already running will ONLY RUN MORE when she display her feelings, that's partly why he's gone so laying even more heavy pressure on him by telling him how she feels will kill his interest completely, the timing is not right, he's not showing her he's INTO HER 100% JUST YET so doing that will not work.

Chill out, go do something fun, have a good time, read a new book, fix your hair a new way, exercise, focus on YOU not him, a large majority of men really can have sex with you and not want much more than that, it happens, chasing him and spilling out more feelings when he's MOVING AWAY AWAY FROM YOU--IGNORING YOU will only reconfirm that he's doing the right thing by being half ass with you and on top of that he'll start to believe you're desperate and crazy if you behave in a way that says he's your life.

So no don't tell him anything, be careful who you GIVE your precious heart and thoughts to, you already gave him your body SO DON'T GIVE HIM ANYMORE OF YOU until he's demonstrated HE'S INTO YOU, you can really be devastated over his lack of interest after you've told him how you feel so NO don't devastate yourself, don't hurt yourself.

If you weren't so needy I'd say sure go for it because you wouldn't be looking for a specific outcome but since you have this needy vibe, DON'T DO IT, doing that will only make your situation worse, if you don't chase him by initiating and telling him how you feel he'll most likely begin to realize you are not revolving your happiness around him, the pressure he felt will be gone and he'll wonder were your up to and come back to you.

Well I tried to fall back and live my life but that only lasted for 2 days. I am in deep. I still havn't told him my true feelings. But I did mention to him that I don't like tpo be iognored because that hurts me. His response was that he does try to get back to me when he can and that he has been way too busy with work trying to get a promotion and having a lot of meetings duriong the week. We havn't gotten togeher in almost 3 weeks but he does respond to my text messages. Ever since io told him about being ignored he has gotten better at responding. I do feel that he is seeing somebody else and I am coming to terms with this. But I am so into him! I been researching and its been known that these guys have a lot of females and never commit. This is just sad. Its strange though because when we o tlk and I bring up concerns he seems real genuine and seems like he cares for me but why waiot so lonng to actually spend time with me.. I'm all confused.. This is my update 😢

Posted by Moodz2468
Well I tried to fall back and live my life but that only lasted for 2 days. I am in deep. I still havn't told him my true feelings. But I did mention to him that I don't like tpo be iognored because that hurts me. His response was that he does try to get back to me when he can and that he has been way too busy with work trying to get a promotion and having a lot of meetings duriong the week. We havn't gotten togeher in almost 3 weeks but he does respond to my text messages. Ever since io told him about being ignored he has gotten better at responding. I do feel that he is seeing somebody else and I am coming to terms with this. But I am so into him! I been researching and its been known that these guys have a lot of females and never commit. This is just sad. Its strange though because when we o tlk and I bring up concerns he seems real genuine and seems like he cares for me but why waiot so lonng to actually spend time with me.. I'm all confused.. This is my update 😢

"I do feel that he is seeing somebody else and I am coming to terms with this."

Have you asked him? He'll definitely string you along if you allow, but that will be just as much on you for being too afraid to ask in fear of hearing the answers. It's okay to be "in deep" if you are working towards something, but don't let this all be an illusion on your end. I'm not exactly sure what you should ask him, maybe someone else can help with that lol, but it's not good to feel that he is possibly seeing someone else while your feelings are getting more involved.

I wish you luck and I love your honesty btw.

The taur man I was talking with took forever to move things along so I backed away...a week later I asked why he was hesitant to meet me...said he just wanted to be cautious,,,get to know each other better. THen he disappeared for 10 days. He called, but Id had enough...emailed him that ignoring me was hurtful...and its obvious *this* isnt meant to me.

Sweets, you have to listen to what his ACTIONS tell you, not his sweet words. I believe what people DO not say. How in the world is it acceptable for you to be number 2? Dont you think you are worth MORE?

Yes I think I'm worth so much more but my heart is with him. There is no other way to put it. We hung out yesterday and had a great time. He was very lovable and kept saying he missed me and kissing me etc.. But for some reason I just can't tell if he means it. I can't tell if all of this is coming from the heart or just doing this to play with my emotions and have me wrapped around his finger. The one thing I did notice is that while we were toopgether he was on his phone a lot and I brought it up. He told me that not to worry that its nothing. I thought it was rude and I flat out told him and he just hugged me and held me in his arms and saiod I worry too much not to think too much into it. This man is confusoing the crap out of me and I'm begioning to get so aggrivated by this.. Deep down I get this sick feeling in my stomach and that's not a good sign. I just want him to be honest and tell me what he wants from me. I hate the games!

Sweetie...he IS telling you. You just dont want to hear it.

People speak through their actions, not words.

Ask him what he wants. Of course, you won't get a straight or honest answer, but you can atleast say to yourself you did your part.

Honestly, the gut feelings about if he's being honest, the worrying, his rudeness etc etc etc are not good signs. Since your heart is in it, I know you will try to move forward and hope for the best outcome. In this case, just enjoy what all you can and take it one day at a time. Only two things will happen. Either you will get tired of it all and move on, or he'll get tired of it and step up. I wish you luck!

moodyz ... the taurean guy is so lucky coz i myself am so attracted to cancerian girls lol

yes ...
I am a taurean and i love sex ... but i do value very much if its done with someone i am interested in
If the guy not interested in you, he wont break away from his comfort zone or workaholic life just to see u or text u

and taurus guys is prone to sweet talk alot / doing anything sensual ... which might make u girls felt insecure about us but then again ... taurean only do that to the people they really care ... coz they wont waste time n rather be lazy

Be very feminine ... not only sex, show that you're a perfect fit for homely/sweet women as well ...

we guys also tend to be insecure also ... but once we stepped into your trap ... we would go all the way deep

If i am him n really into you ... i would bring u out ... proudly intro to my friends, family, imagining the future with u

go ask him n CONFESS to him!!! LOL ... tell him all the sweet things n yr true feelings ... I am petty sure his heart will melt after hearing this

I myself unable to hook with a Cancerian that is perfect for me 😢 ... I do pray others will succeed because Cancerian & Taurean relationship is just sweet


GOOD LUCK !!!!

Well its hard for both of us to see eachother often. He lives an hour away from me and our work schedule clashes at times. The last 3 weeks I have been busy and so was he. I have to admit he does try to see me as often as he can and for him to drive an hour to see me does say a lot. The other thing that got me is that he asked about my family and asked me why ihe hasn't met anybody yet. Asked me if I was hiding him. I don't know what he meant by that, but I told him that in order for me to introduce somebody I have to be copletely sure that we are serious about our relationship. I did tell him he will meet then soon. I guess my biggest thing is that he does come off as a ladies man. I'm going to continue to see him and I decided to tell him how I really feel when I see him next. I don't want to text or say it over the phone. I will keep you posted. I am crossing my fingers and hope he feels the same. I really like him and we have so much in common even though I have these doubts it doesn't hurt to try

I'm crossing my fingers for you too! One thing I noticed about us cardinals, is that we have extremely HIGH expectations, and if all of our expectations aren't met we become a bit insecure and look at it as the guy not being interested, when that's usually not the case. Get it off your chest.

I know this can go 2 ways and I am prepared. Thank you all at least some of you are on my side...lol

Omg I'm really nervous about what I am going to say. I have the slightest idea of where to start. Should I just be straight out and say hey I'm really feeling you and I think we should take it to the next level or should I build up tell him all the positives of our relationship but also point out the bad that needs to be worked on.. I am sooo nervous!

@ naughty taurus. I hope your cancer lady friend changes her mind and things work out. I think your the only male that actually said anything about this whole subject. Thanks for your insight.

Wait a minute, we are talking about the 21st century in terms of empowerment, but it can only refer to sex? In this day and age, a woman can do some damn chasing as well. Show your confidence that he can trust you with his feelings towards you, his emotions, his insecurities. Embrace him and he will embrace you like no one ever has. That is, if he has any integrity at all....

So I couldn't wait and told him how I really felt over the phone. I told him how I was really into him and felt that we can be more. Than just hooking up. I said how it was driving me crazy that I didn't know how he really felt about me. Told him that I didn't want to pressure him into anything that I wouuld understand if he doesn't feel the same. I pretty much put all my cards on the table.

His response: I have to think about all this but text me when your home from work and I will call you.

I text and got no call.... Se he answered my question. 😢

You did the right thing, Moodz, for your own good I suppose. You put it out there...he might need time indeed...now its time for you to lean back.....let him contact you...if he doesnt, then yes, you know for sure.

Take care of you, doll!

Posted by aurora
😢 Well never mind, you did what you wanted to, you've been honest, brave, and it is not so common these days 🙂.
I don't want to give you false hope, but they usually need time to think in situations like this. Even if he feels the same way.

taurean are laid back most of the time ... which includes me as well
so they may require time to give u an answer ...

no false hope but then you hav done yr part ... bravo girl ... if only all the girls are like you

Got a text sayin that he got a lot going on and he doesn't know where he stands that he likes what's going on between us right now but he's sure it will get better... I never text him back and don't feel like it at the moment.. That's my update

Ohhh thank you everybdy.. 🙂

so we are stll back and forth and this is becoming tiresome.

I have told him that its best for me to move on because its clear that he is not into me. He keeps saying that he is going through alot and that he promisses that things will get better. He also says that he misses me but i have not physically seen this man in like a month and his actions are saying otherwise. If he really missed me he would put in the effort regardless of what is going on in his life. I told him exactly that and he said that everybody is different. I know I am doing everything to show him that i genually care for him that I am willing to wait it out, but how much longer can I go without seeing him? how can a relationship work or even begin that way? I mean i don't know what to make of him. He text me from time to time asking how i am doing and calls every now and again.. but for what? he never once says lets get together, I want to see you its been a while. everytime I say that I want to move on he reals me back in. I just had enough of this and someone said that eventually I will get tired of it and here I am tired of the Bull giving me BULL... I have been nothing but patient with this man. People say that Taurus takes time to make sure that they find "the one" which I totally understand, but how can you tell when there really isnt enough time spent with that somebody... ugghhh this is so frustrating!

I still have feelings but I can't keep going on like this ( I told him all of this btw)
I deserve better and I know I can get better... but its him that I want. So I am going to end it for my sake because i want somebody to love me.. all of me unconditionally...blah blah blah.. thats my update sorry I was letting off some steam.

Posted by aurora
I don't know, I don't think that he is giving you bull... He is not sure that he wants the real relationship thing, and he decided to stay a away from you for a while. Imagine that you are seeing each other, having sex, but that he is keeping the same story, that he still doesn't know. Believe me, you would feel like shit. And he doesn't want that. In your case if he decides that you are not the "one" it would be much more easier for you to move on. And you would have no reason to blame him for anything.

"He is not sure that he wants the real relationship thing, and he decided to stay a away from you for a while."

But he's not really staying away. He's promising her that things will get better, which is keeping her attached yet he's not "there" in hardly any way.

Now in saying that, OP maybe since the promises are being made he has plans.

Maybe it will be best to move forward and put him on the back-burner until he gets it together. It sounds like he may want to be there, just not able to at this moment, especially not the way you want him to be. Just try to remove what you want from him and any expectations, for now. Live life, enjoy yourself, go out and meet people so you can discover more of the qualities you want in a guy possibly giving him a little competition and raising the bar, for when he does decide to step up. idk. I think you should wait, but not stop, if that makes any sense.

He has been on my back burner for a while now... Actually have somebody else who is interested in me... But like I said before my heart is with him. I am not one to lead somebody on. So yes I do live my life and do my thing. I just don't know how much longer I should wait around for him. I have problems too but I always make time. In my opinion if you like somebody wouldn't you want to be around them more than once every 1-2 months.. His actions are not backing up the promisses that he makes. So that is where my frustrations come from because I'm constantly confused. That's why I have told him already 3 times that I need to move on. He says that I'm not very understanding to his situation whatever that may be. I don't ask him what they are because I don't want to press the issue.. I give him his space weeks at a time, I don't see him for a month so its only fair that I ask him a simple question.. Do you want me yes or no. He can't even answer that. I'm thinking its best that I move on to somebody who is willing to show me he wants to be with me no matter what. I know its silly to post all of this on this forum but I truly think this is a form of therapy.. At least for me it is..lol..its always good to see what people have to say and get other opinions... Thank you

You said you feel like that he's a ladies man. Well, this new story of his that he's giving you about you two- total ladies man crap. All talk, no action. It's all talk because he knows he can get away with it too- which you've let him do this entire time.

It's not a coincidence that as soon as you laid out your cards, he backed off and no more nookie. Oh no! The nookie now comes with stipulations! You have feelings and want to know if this can be more. No more free sex without commitment. The "I'll let you know," approach (he may not have said it verbatim, but it's essentially what he meant) is universal for "I'm a total weenie that can't give it to you straight." I can't help but think that he's communicating solely for his sake. He feels guilty about not answering you, that you have these feelings that he wont reciprocate, so he's going to keep in touch occasionally so he doesn't feel like such an ass about it.

By all means, DO move on like you want to. If he truly was interested, he wouldn't be doing all this half assed like he is. All text and phone? How convenient and easy for HIM. He's stringing you along to keep you as an option. I don't care what he's going through. If a man truly wants you, he makes it happen. The end.

Hi Moodz...

The Taurus that I spent 3 months talking with was ridiculously slow in wanting to meet. We made a plan, then he backed out. I called on the phone and asked directly. He said he was just very cautious, that we should get to know each other better before making the meeting. We live 2 hrs away, dont know if that played a part. But, after that convo, he went MIA for 10 days. That was it for me...I told him via email this wasnt meant to be and he didnt reply. He texted me few weeks later, I replied, then nothing more from him.

Who knows why they do this....for me now, I dont ask why I just try to accept it. If its something that I cannot control or change myself, I gotta let it go for if I hold onto it, it will drag me down. For whatever reason, this is who and where he is...if its holding you down, let go....you may be surprised at how the power of letting go will affect you for the better!

you know what is strange I don't fel bitter about all of this. I actually feel good that I let him go. He keeps texting me like if nothing happens. I told hom to get get lost and he still comes back. He just don't get it. I pretty much told him i am not his thing to do when he is bored and that im not fr games. He either wants me or he doesn't. I told him i am finished with being nice, calm and collective that I am not going to sit and wait around for him to make his decision. that is truly unfair to me. I am not working on his time it should be a mutual thing.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You said you feel like that he's a ladies man. Well, this new story of his that he's giving you about you two- total ladies man crap. All talk, no action. It's all talk because he knows he can get away with it too- which you've let him do this entire time.

It's not a coincidence that as soon as you laid out your cards, he backed off and no more nookie. Oh no! The nookie now comes with stipulations! You have feelings and want to know if this can be more. No more free sex without commitment. The "I'll let you know," approach (he may not have said it verbatim, but it's essentially what he meant) is universal for "I'm a total weenie that can't give it to you straight." I can't help but think that he's communicating solely for his sake. He feels guilty about not answering you, that you have these feelings that he wont reciprocate, so he's going to keep in touch occasionally so he doesn't feel like such an ass about it.

By all means, DO move on like you want to. If he truly was interested, he wouldn't be doing all this half assed like he is. All text and phone? How convenient and easy for HIM. He's stringing you along to keep you as an option. I don't care what he's going through. If a man truly wants you, he makes it happen. The end.

Yasssss!

+1

Posted by Moodz2468
you know what is strange I don't fel bitter about all of this. I actually feel good that I let him go. He keeps texting me like if nothing happens. I told hom to get get lost and he still comes back. He just don't get it. I pretty much told him i am not his thing to do when he is bored and that im not fr games. He either wants me or he doesn't. I told him i am finished with being nice, calm and collective that I am not going to sit and wait around for him to make his decision. that is truly unfair to me. I am not working on his time it should be a mutual thing.

I'm confused as to why you are even responding to his texts. If it's really over for you, you wouldn't entertain his in the slightest. Give him the wall of ice. Now, I'm more interested in this new guy you have. 🙂 That seems interesting and should be where you put some of your attention, not old news. What's the new guys sign?

He is a pisces.. I think I spelled that right. We are just friends

I consider myself to be a good girl. This whole thing has been a rollercoaster ride. I'm a type of person that neeeds reassurance and stability and he wasn't giving me that. That's why I had to end it because I want to be with somebody who is sure of what they want and sure of me. I gave my all and I wasn't getting anything in return so that right there was my answer for me to move on. At the moment I am not dating anybody just gonna be by myself for a while. I also consider myself to be independent and I most certainly don't revolve my life around this person. Yes it may have seem like that in the begining but I was just confused. I don't sit around waiting for him I'm sorry but I ha e other things to do so much going on in my life. He just didn't see that he was my added bonus. Just to have a special somebody too share things with.. But no he didn't want what I had to offer.. So on to the next