@Backfromtheashes
7 Years
I really just need advice. Please help me
It's possible he just needed a friend. Leos and Libras are often accused of flirting when we are just being very nice. That being said, he also just got out of a relationship. While he enjoys your company, he's probably not over his ex. If you can't be just his friend, it's best to leave him alone.
Posted by Chuckcem
It's possible he just needed a friend. Leos and Libras are often accused of flirting when we are just being very nice. That being said, he also just got out of a relationship. While he enjoys your company, he's probably not over his ex. If you can't be just his friend, it's best to leave him alone.
do you think that if I’m there for him and patient he could start getting over her and change his mind about me
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Posted by Chuckcem
It's possible he just needed a friend. Leos and Libras are often accused of flirting when we are just being very nice. That being said, he also just got out of a relationship. While he enjoys your company, he's probably not over his ex. If you can't be just his friend, it's best to leave him alone.
do you think that if I’m there for him and patient he could start getting over her and change his mind about me
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If your real-life personality is even 10% of what you are here........good luck with that.
It sucks but maybe you shocked him, he already told you that you made him nervous. Try and go back to being his friend and try and put your feelings to the side. Be firm and tell him not to send shirtless pics of he doesn’t want you swooning over them. Try and go back to just being friendly instead of overwhelmed by the hurt he just caused because he says his feelings aren’t the same.
If you guys were that close in friendship, he must’ve liked you a lot and new he could count on you. Try and start there, this is what’s hard about relationships. He’s about to lose a great friend because you developed feelings and he says that he didn’t.
Posted by saggurl88
It sucks but maybe you shocked him, he already told you that you made him nervous. Try and go back to being his friend and try and put your feelings to the side. Be firm and tell him not to send shirtless pics of he doesn’t want you swooning over them. Try and go back to just being friendly instead of overwhelmed by the hurt he just caused because he says his feelings aren’t the same.
If you guys were that close in friendship, he must’ve liked you a lot and new he could count on you. Try and start there, this is what’s hard about relationships. He’s about to lose a great friend because you developed feelings and he says that he didn’t.
This is the best advice I’ve ever got and this is all I have ever wanted. God bless you, your an angel and may the heavens above shower you endlessly with good karma.
Just be his friend. It is better to have that than nothing at all. It may grow too. He just needs abit of healing time but I'm sure he really appreciated you being around x
Posted by Sunmoonrising
Just be his friend. It is better to have that than nothing at all. It may grow too. He just needs abit of healing time but I'm sure he really appreciated you being around x
You’re right I shouldn’t have wrote him off so quick. Thank you so much. I’ll let him back in
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Posted by Chuckcem
It's possible he just needed a friend. Leos and Libras are often accused of flirting when we are just being very nice. That being said, he also just got out of a relationship. While he enjoys your company, he's probably not over his ex. If you can't be just his friend, it's best to leave him alone.
do you think that if I’m there for him and patient he could start getting over her and change his mind about me
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That sounds like a great way to become a rebound, which never ends well. Also the easiest way to get someone's attention is to remove your own. I'm not going to say that ignoring this guy will change things, but staying around won't help your cause. If you said that you can't just be friends, you need to hold to that. If you reject his friendship only then to stick around with the hope that a romance will blossom, you'll only be doing a disservice to yourself. Also the Leo will notice that your actions aren't matchng your words and will not respect you as a result. If the Leo was just using you for the attention, it doesn't make sense to continue giving him more free attention. Don't settle for less if you believe that you deserve more. Leos notice people who value themselves.
Posted by Chuckcem
Posted by Backfromtheashes
Posted by Chuckcem
It's possible he just needed a friend. Leos and Libras are often accused of flirting when we are just being very nice. That being said, he also just got out of a relationship. While he enjoys your company, he's probably not over his ex. If you can't be just his friend, it's best to leave him alone.
do you think that if I’m there for him and patient he could start getting over her and change his mind about me
That sounds like a great way to become a rebound, which never ends well. Also the easiest way to get someone's attention is to remove your own. I'm not going to say that ignoring this guy will change things, but staying around won't help your cause. If you said that you can't just be friends, you need to hold to that. If you reject his friendship only then to stick around with the hope that a romance will blossom, you'll only be doing a disservice to yourself. Also the Leo will notice that your actions aren't matchng your words and will not respect you as a result. If the Leo was just using you for the attention, it doesn't make sense to continue giving him more free attention. Don't settle for less if you believe that you deserve more. Leos notice people who value themselves.
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Really really solid and thorough advice. Thank you SO much
He led you on by texting shirtless pics the same way your leading us on with these fantastical stories by your many accounts. Cheers
Posted by LadyNeptune
He led you on by texting shirtless pics the same way your leading us on with these fantastical stories by your many accounts. Cheers
Honestly I wish I could get to know you better and take you out to dinner. You sound like you could use a friend and a hug. It gets better I promise.
Posted by Backfromtheashes
Posted by LadyNeptune
He led you on by texting shirtless pics the same way your leading us on with these fantastical stories by your many accounts. Cheers
Honestly I wish I could get to know you better and take you out to dinner. You sound like you could use a friend and a hug. It gets better I promise.
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Maybe you can send one of your split personalities to take me. I prefer an air sign please with just a sprinkle of water in their chart.
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Posted by Backfromtheashes
Posted by LadyNeptune
He led you on by texting shirtless pics the same way your leading us on with these fantastical stories by your many accounts. Cheers
Honestly I wish I could get to know you better and take you out to dinner. You sound like you could use a friend and a hug. It gets better I promise.
Maybe you can send one of your split personalities to take me. I prefer an air sign please with just a sprinkle of water in their chart.
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I’ll see what I can do (:
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Long story short, I knew him from college and we recently reconnected. He has seizures and has been in and out of the hospital and I’ve been there for him but we’ve only hung out twice this month since 8 years ago.. he would text me 24/7, call me just to hear my voice and talk to me for hours on the phone, send me shirtless pics, told me I make him nervous and we could tell each other anything. Yet he hasn’t tried to kiss me at all so finally the other night I brought it up and he said we are just friends.. and that he had no idea we were flirting..WTF!!
So I told him I can’t be “just friends” with someone I have feelings for and to go away and never talk to me again.
I think he led me on because he was lonely and had just gotten out of a breakup. I just don’t understand why he would act that way if he didn’t like me.. can anyone attempt to make sense of this